MizMyColi:




Perchance, are you saying if we lived in a world devoid of religion, you'd gladly engage in PMS with everyone you date? (Assuming you date more than one person before getting married)?

chigoizie7:



like seriously? why being hypocritical here? on a normal day i wouldn't want to blow my trumpet here,so pardon me to say that i am not married and i do engage in the act,

secondly, there are countless religions around the universe and u cant impose urs on others simply because u tot urs is paramount to their's.

in this part of the world, religion is synonymous with custom or tradition (my primary school teacher thought me that culture is the peoples way of life, believe u me, someone must have started that very way of life and people around emulated him thereby making it their way of life. the initiator of such way of life must have deemed it wise and important to live such life(he must have considered it the best b4 indulging in it))


so, if me and my family (extended or nuclear + friends both male and female deemed it fit and important to engage in PMS, we might have as well added that aspect of living to our way of life(culture) to our already existing different culture we must have gotten from different religions as it is diverse.

this is simply my opinion (it might be silly to some people ). ours may differ as we weren't born equal in reasoning

AbuMikey:


This is so not true.

That Pre-Marital sex can wreck a marriage!

Ha!!

Bros, read Your comment again na

Here are a few reasons why celebrating celibacy till marriage and avoiding pre-marital sex is a good idea.
°°°°°Ruins the Excitement

Even if you indulge in pre-marital sex with your future life partner, it not only kills the sanctity of the vow, but also ends the thrill that is associated with marriage. Hence, it is always better to indulge in this act after the two partners in marriage are comfortable in each other’s zone. Waiting will only enhance the beauty and excitement of the real act.


°°°°Confused Feelings
Many people, who have had sexual relations with someone else prior to tying the knot with their life partner, feel remorse post marriage. It makes them regret their act or worse still, they keep comparing the pre-marital flare and they don’t enjoy the act in their current marital relationship any longer.
Insecurity

In Indian society, the guilt associated with pre-marital sex is immense. Hence, when experienced by a person before marriage especially with someone other than your life partner, the feeling can make one insecure. Their levels of insecurity increase and they live in constant fear and pressure of being discovered. This erodes their self-confidence at times, leading to a disturbed state of mind.


°°°°Chances of divorce
In India, the issue of pre-marital sex is a big one; big enough to ruin one’s marriage. If a spouse discovers that his/her partner has had an experience in pre-marital sex with someone else, there is a real chance of the marriage being called off. This not just causes a terrible disturbance, but in addition to this the feeling of having lost his/her virtue drives one crazy. Not to mention the societal issues that crop up post discovery.


°°°°Possibility of abortion
Without proper precautions, Pre-marital sex can sometimes get out of hands and the girl may become pregnant. In this case, if the boy or the girl fails to accept their responsibility and head for abortion on time, then future prospects of marriage & pregnancy can get jeopardized. Moreover, it causes them guilt, heartache and above all loss of mental peace.


°°°°°Acquired infection
Acquiring infection or sexually transmitted diseases or HIV is often heard from unprotected sex. The possibility becomes all the more high in pre-marital sex cases. If the girl or boy acquires any such disease through pre-marital sex, then both their chances of getting married and longevity will diminish.

http://m.bollywoodshaadis.com/articles/6-reasons-to-avoid-pre-marital-sex-1474

Tymax:
Without religion, premarital sex is amoral. My premise is that there is no basis for good or bad outside religion. So this discourse should not even arise.

Talking about premarital sex in popular culture, Hollywood has glorified it so much that it's now commonplace. Anyone who takes offence publicly is promptly labelled a prude or even a fanatic. Sex before marriage is mostly seen as "premarital sex" because of religion. Outside it, sex is just sex. No bad, no good, just laws against public nudíty, rape and underage sex. Even those laws are provided no to hurt the sensitivity of religious people.

Madam, this discussion is largely dependent on religion.

Kachisbarbie:

How?
Help us analyse mbok.


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MizMyColi:


There are people out there, who don't do religion, go to church or quote "The bible Says"
These people (a few) just don't dig PMS.
Not that they don't engage in it, no.
But if they could, they'd abstain.

I want to know their reasons why.

Next thing you might say is Love as a force and vocation is largely based on religion.

The creator and religion are two separate entities.
People who have clearly made the distinction are better for it.

The emboldened looks absurd.
For even the bible as we know it affirms that there's a spirit in man, and the inspiration of the almighty (not religion) gives him understanding.

Some of us out there celebrate our gut, conscience and deep feeling over our mind, intellect and knowledge.

Morality wasn't borrowed from religion, it's the other way round.

MizMyColi:

Premarital sex can help ensure that the partners know their 'sexual compatibility'. You can imagine being married to a circumcised female, who will end up being a complete bore in the bedroom, or a male, whose joystick is shorter than the cap of a pen. All these would be tantamount to imprisonment, or infidelity which could eventually destroy marriage.

Microflux:
Sex out of wedlock. The risk of stds. And it reduces the..... Later sha. Hapi new mnth. Dymondgurl[my e-.....], faithugo64, miracy, clevvermind, chibwike. Nd u readin dis. Jan 2015 gone 2 c no more.

Tymax:

Lol.

Really? My sister, morality proceeds from religion.

Lol. You just quoted the Bible. Nice.

See, this discussion really doesn't have a clearly defined direction without religion.

You don't get the point.
I didn't quote the bible to buttress my point for or against sex.

I actually tried to buttress the fact that our understanding of good or bad today, while it might have been influenced a lot by religion is predisposedly innate

Gut, Conscience, Deep Feeling, Mind, Intellect, Knowledge.

^^^These six things aren't necessarily tied to religion.

It's the other way round @morality.

No need for arguments.
If you understand that you have a creator, who when he made you desired to have a one on one r/ship with you without the dictates of religion, then we'd be on the
same page, maybe.

^^^ owh, I just spoke loosely from the bible.
That's because I consider it an inspirational book like many other books out there.
Not like a mini god of sorts which I'm supposed to live my life strictly by --- as it is written.

Morality's just inherent in us all.
Religion either sharpens or dullens.

I should quip at this point that there's no absolute morality.

I consider spirituality as very different from religion, though one can be used to attain or descend to the other.

Kachisbarbie:
Ohhhh.
This babe be reading my mind per second.

Little thing, they start quoting bible -that thing dey make me mad.

Where are the anti premarital sex crew.

Here!

MizMyColi:


You don't get the point.
I didn't quote the bible to buttress my point for or against sex.

I actually tried to buttress the fact that our understanding of good or bad today, while it might have been influenced a lot by religion is predisposedly innate

Gut, Conscience, Deep Feeling, Mind, Intellect, Knowledge.

^^^These six things aren't necessarily tied to religion.

It's the other way round @morality.

No need for arguments.
If you understand that you have a creator, who when he made you desired to have a one on one r/ship with you without the dictates of religion, then we'd be on the
same page, maybe.

^^^ owh, I just spoke loosely from the bible.
That's because I consider it an inspirational book like many other books out there.
Not like a mini god of sorts which I'm supposed to live my life strictly by --- as it is written.

Morality's just inherent in us all.
Religion either sharpens or dullens.

I should quip at this point that there's no absolute morality.

I consider spirituality as very different from religion, though one can be used to attain or descend to the other.

Kachisbarbie:

Do you really think people avoid murder because of religious reasons?
Hmmm.
That's not my reason though.

clevvermind:
Many people stay out of sex before marriage due to religious reasons.
Christians forbids pre marital sex and i don't think it's part of our culture. They also avoid it cos of sexually transmitted disease. Hiv is real. To me, avoiding it is better if you can. It is for your own good.

Truckpusher:
Brother taste before you pay and drive else you'll end up buying a tokunbo and paying the price of a tear rubber.

Tallesty1 post=/:

Do you not know that premarital sex contributes greatly to the divorce stories that you and I read every day?

MizMyColi:
I don't get some posters on this thread.

Are they saying religion's the reason our world hasn't gone into chaos?

Like seriously?
So if the bible didn't say thou shalt not kill, they'd gladly raise arms against a fellow human?

joseph1832:
Those who say such obviously don't know the history of their religion. Religion as it is has been the bane of human existence! Take Nigeria for example, every President, is either christian or moslem, you would expect they live up to their religious beliefs, but reverse is the case!. When Karl Marx said "religion is the opiate of the masses" he definitely knew what he was talking about!.

I should add that those saying religion is what is keeping we humans from tearing eachother apart are so wrong!. If they want to know, the things keeping we humans from tearing eachother apart is 'The Law', not these yeye religious law but the law made by man! It is against the law to kill a fellow man, you do that and you go to jail, it is also against the law to take what doesn't belong to you, you do that you go to jail!.

Religious law has only provided ground for many to perpetuate acts of unspeakable margin! Especially in a country as religious as Nigeria.

To your post! there is absolutely nothing wrong with two consenting adults having sex! Everybody you see or hear criticizing it do so because their 'religion' say so. It is not even stipulated in the constitution that we shouldn't have sex!.

So anybody saying sex is bad is just saying his/her own version! For me, it is awesome and I'll have it as many times as I like!. Plain and simple. Whoever has a problem with it should go and chew a cucumber!.

Lol
On my way to night market.

I must eat cucumber this night ni

clevvermind:
If you con go taste Hiv nko?

Aprime:
I geeeet you.
So yeah. I stripped ‘the bible says’ part.
Religion-oriented points totally exclusive.
Here is why pre-marital sex should be a big NO.

1. STD.

2. Unpremeditated pregnancy.

3. The embarrassment and guilt.

4. Promotes promiscuity.

5. It destroys relationships.*

I don't want to bore you with an epistle.
I know you're smart enough to understand much OP.

MizMyColi:


Lol
On my way to night market.

I must eat cucumber this night ni

MizMyColi:


You don't get the point.
I didn't quote the bible to buttress my point for or against sex.

I actually tried to buttress the fact that our understanding of good or bad today, while it might have been influenced a lot by religion is predisposedly innate

Gut, Conscience, Deep Feeling, Mind, Intellect, Knowledge.

^^^These six things aren't necessarily tied to religion.

It's the other way round @morality.

No need for arguments.
If you understand that you have a creator, who when he made you desired to have a one on one r/ship with you without the dictates of religion, then we'd be on the
same page, maybe.

^^^ owh, I just spoke loosely from the bible.
That's because I consider it an inspirational book like many other books out there.
Not like a mini god of sorts which I'm supposed to live my life strictly by --- as it is written.

Morality's just inherent in us all.
Religion either sharpens or dullens.

I should quip at this point that there's no absolute morality.

I consider spirituality as very different from religion, though one can be used to attain or descend to the other.