Evina:


Upon receiving our pre marital medical reports, my fiance told me God changed his genotype, from AS to AA. I laughed it off, not because I don't believe in miracles; having personally experienced several, but because he could be very mischievous.

He insisted and asked me to ask his mum. So I asked, "mummy, what is your son's genotype?" She said, " AS". I asked again, for certainty, she said, "AS of course, what's the matter?".

So yes, God changed his genotype! Several tests confirmed it!

To those doubting the efficacy of fasting and praying, SMH. You are on a looooooong tin.

muzeze77:
I am in the same shoes I am AS , was shocked to know that my wife was also AS during the pregnancy despite her telling me that she is AA,I thought of Abortion but for some reason I decided to pray that the child should be okay, in my family we have had a lot of SS who died, my Grandmother is the only surviving child out of 7 children. I have been angry and it has affected our relationship. truth be told i don't value her that much any more. Our son is AA. I thought of leaving her after our Son was born, but now I just don't want my Son to live in a broken home. I live in the US so healthcare is better for Sickle Cell Children, but nevertheless I am praying and hoping for just one more and thats it for me

Evina:


Hallelujah!!!

You can only speak for yourself.
And what do you mean by "not the one you can clearly see?" Is God incapable of performing miracles because you can "clearly see" the problem?

muzeze77:
I am in the same shoes I am AS , was shocked to know that my wife was also AS during the pregnancy despite her telling me that she is AA,I thought of Abortion but for some reason I decided to pray that the child should be okay, in my family we have had a lot of SS who died, my Grandmother is the only surviving child out of 7 children. I have been angry and it has affected our relationship. truth be told i don't value her that much any more. Our son is AA. I thought of leaving her after our Son was born, but now I just don't want my Son to live in a broken home. I live in the US so healthcare is better for Sickle Cell Children, but nevertheless I am praying and hoping for just one more and thats it for me

Fawklicant:


How so? Please enlighten me.

UdohOby:
I seriously don't believe some people are still this backward . Do u know how it feels as a mother for your child to have ordinary malaria? SS is a terminal disease that a person could live with for the rest of his/her life, that is if he/she doesn't die. That lady did the best thing, and I respect her for it. They could end up having at least 2 SS children, that is not good at all considering the financial implications. Please, if you are not in her shoes, don't judge her.

rabbaba:
Some wifes r fool. My own divorce for d reason dat I chose to serve God in d church for a time. Just as a vine yeard worker for just three years. And she divorced by parking our load to her fathers house. As I type she has not married. Very soon I will b done with d three years service and I will go back to my biz. She will hear my story

eagleeye2:

Many Warriors will find this statement very offensive and insensitive. Do you think that you and yours are better than all warriors out there?
Please Google T.boz of TLC, she is a warrior and she is living her dreams.
And also read about the guy you are quoting, Abali1 maybe you will begin to change your perspective about people living with SS.

Evina:


None taken.

Did you read this aspect of my post? Especially the highlighted?



It seems to me that your total disbelief in miracles made you skip that part.

CounsellorWise:


Beautiful phrase. I wish you the best as you take the heat wherever you are. Happy heat time off Nairaland.

I wish you the same.

ijustdey:
there are more to this






just because of genotype she divorce her hubby
agreed he lied but I don't believe that's enough reasons to divorce him

bushdoc9919:


You could do IVF for the next child....which could get you a kid with the right genotype.

Even having an SS child is not the end....there are SS kids with factor F (type of hemoglobin)....who live better than those without.

cococandy:
What is wrong with people?
it is like some of you don't know how serious the genotype thing is.
If you knew you won't be saying this.

He shouldn't have lied about his genotype.

The one asking her to stay married and pray the next child doesn't turn out to be SS. SMH

And if it does nko? Will prayers cure the child?
Isn't it better to separate than bring kids into this world to suffer needlessly?.
I'm so happy for this first one that turned out alright.

*********
4k for monthly feeding of the child?
This magistrate na wa.
Does the child each only crackers and water?

neoapocalypse:


It's actually a 25% chance of having an SS child for every birth

DuchessLily:


God bless u for ur insults

Its my opinion, which I have a right to ...its none of ur business . get off my mention

Anaskie:
First of all, I didn't know customary courts had the jurisdiction to dissolve a marriage.

Assuming they did though, I believe that the grounds for dissolution were not proper at all. What if the guy actually believed he was AA?


The comments I've seen here justifying divorce really makes me wonder. Marriage isn't something that should be rushed in and out. Those vows actually mean a lot.

I believe the couple should have worked it out. They could either stop making any more babies, or even adopt one.

Besides, chances are that the second and third children might even both be AS.

You guys make it sound as if Sicklers aren't human beings.

CoColav, wats ur take on dis?

jaybee3:

That makes 2 warriors out of how many?

Why should they bring SS children into the world and hope they turn medical Warriors?

I hope you know there are other issues aside from medical that SS children will experience through the course of their lives.

There is the psychological and the consistent/constant fear of unknown derived from the uncertainties that comes along with having such

Fawklicant:


She can't gamble with a human life. Fact is she can only have one AA child, 2 AS children and 1 SS child in every four children. The order in which they come is random. So would you rather have her gamble and sire a child that might just know only pain and anguish in its lifetime? I know not all sicklers die, but a lot do and the problem is not even in the dying, it is in the living in misery and anguish. They can't do sports, smoke and do a lot of things that we take for granted. Not forgetting the self esteem issues resulting from years of all the pity-party from people.

With all the technological advancements, there is still no cure for it. This is a sickness that affects only black people, so who is gonna find the cure? Some sicklers eventually live successfully with it, but hey! What is the likelyhood?

kevoh:

Now this is just unnecessarily rude.

Back to the thread, apart from the fact that SS is just 25% chance happening, there's an alternative to deal with the Sickle Cell (SS) wahala for AS couples only snag is it dwells on what the couple might consider as morally right/wrong and might even be a bit pricey to carry out such procedure.

thorpido:
^^^
The two posters above me..............the situation this woman found herself is a very serious situation.The man lied to her but it's not just the lie but the consequences of two people with the AS genotype in a marriage.
As it stand now they have a high probability of having a child with the SS genotype.Dealing with that in a family is no child's play.

Smartestelvis:
.......*bottom line** immagine a country as hard as naija,even d strong ones find it hard 2 make ends meet,den one is dere talkin of bringin in a weak offspring,suicide would be d least of her options...

Smartestelvis:
hmm,hope u r not speakin of a bone marrow transplant coz dat would be unwise of u tinkin such procedure wen u could ve easily prevented it...

Smartestelvis:
look dere is no option @ all what soever dat shld make an as go into a marriage with its kind ,tink of d unborn wot dey are gonna suffer...

Dyt:


Love?
Pray?

kevoh:

Trust me, no one finds it easy anywhere even in developped countries.


Nope it's not bone marrow transplant.



It's wrong to make such assertive statement, stop seeing it as genotypical mathematics equation AS+AS = SS( when there's still possibility of AA and AS).

What you fail to understand is AS couples are humans and would do what humans always do which is act based on their emotions, it took a lot for them to come together as one and there's no way they will throw it away i.e decide not to marry because Smartestelvis said AS+AS =SS. Those are the people this option is for.
It's called Prenatal Diagnosis, where more than 100 different genetic abnormalities (not just SS genotype) can be diagnosed at early conception stage and the pregnancy terminated if the parents wish,meaning even AA couples are at risks of birthing babies with other genetic disorders unrelated to SS genotype. That is why I said it depends on what they think is morally right or wrong.

A prenatal diagnosis could be carried out to determine if the foetus is AA, AS or SS(determination of other genetic disorders is necessary too) and the parents are left to decide.

We need to get people informed about their options. Cheers

kevoh:

Trust me, no one finds it easy anywhere even in developped countries.


Nope it's not bone marrow transplant.



It's wrong to make such assertive statement, stop seeing it as genotypical mathematics equation AS+AS = SS( when there's still possibility of AA and AS).

What you fail to understand is AS couples are humans and would do what humans always do which is act based on their emotions, it took a lot for them to come together as one and there's no way they will throw it away i.e decide not to marry because Smartestelvis said AS+AS =SS. Those are the people this option is for.
It's called Prenatal Diagnosis, where more than 100 different genetic abnormalities (not just SS genotype) can be diagnosed at early conception stage and the pregnancy terminated if the parents wish,meaning even AA couples are at risks of birthing babies with other genetic disorders unrelated to SS genotype. That is why I said it depends on what they think is morally right or wrong.

A prenatal diagnosis could be carried out to determine if the foetus is AA, AS or SS(determination of other genetic disorders is necessary too) and the parents are left to decide.

We need to get people informed about their options. Cheers

neoapocalypse:


It's actually a 25% chance of having an SS child for every birth

thorpido:
Do you know what that 25% means?It doesn't necessarily mean it will be one out of 4.It means it can actually be that 25% for every birth i.e that child could be that 25% for each birth.

favoured234:


Prenatal diagnosis is not an option in this family case. For the court to make the man pay 4000 for the child's upkeep tells you he does not earn well.
That diagnosis cost about 250,000 in Nigeria, I doubt if he will be able to afford that, again when it shows SS so what happens, they abort the fetus? The wahala too much.. The best option is to avoid AS+AS combination.