kaboninc:


Sometimes, you learn when others open their yanshes!

Else, you'd have to open yours...one way or another.

JoeCutie:
That's why I hate this very idea of people (Nairalanders) running to open a pathetically silly thread ONLINE over anything and everything that happens in their relationships/marriages OFFLINE.

Just this morning (or maybe yesterday), another guy opened another thread on Family Section, telling us how he needs answers to his partner's vagina with boils, smelling and ejecting some green fluid. What's that? And many other pathetic threads we keep seeing everyday. This is immaturity. This is madness!

Now, the guy (Mcd.kwe) had earlier opened a thread opening this babe's yansh (even opening his own too in the process), and now the babe has reciprocated; opening her own thread again to protest her innocence and then open the guy's yansh too. Now, what do we (Nairaland panel of Judges) see? Poo!

Chai! This is funny, but very unfortunate. Having looked into their both yanshes, all I could see is just poo. They should please, go and buy some tissue papers.

I've nothing to say about this. No comment.

Owliver:
na you be the right lady oooh. Come let's paro na. Haba your shakara is going too high oh.

mcdokwe:
This is rather interesting. You didn't say I had to buy the milk because you would abandon the baby and watch her cry because you know how hurt I feel watching her cry.
It isn't all that should be said here babe so I'd leave it at that. Life indeed has been fun without me, people like me couldn't near your feet and all that and I concur, maybe I should consider myself privileged.
For the records, I don't find any of your friends sexually attractive apart from when you made me say I did as a result of your esteem issues.
You have my daughter with you, I'd constantly send my wishes to her and off course through you until there is a possible arrangement for me to see her without going through you and hopefully that would be pretty soon.
I had my moments with you and the only regrets I have are those times like when I had to hit you. I thank God you know there where ladies who if I were to to by the eyes, beats you to the game who won't mind being with me, but I followed my heart to where you were. Whether or not you're the one feeding people negative ideas about me, I'm happy and convinced you know me better than that. No regrets whatsoever

kaboninc:
The BASHING PARTY has just arrived!

Not surprised though.

I look forward to the day babyosisi will come to Nairaland for advises. Don't call me Fayose yet.....

And that lady, cococandy....

I look forward to that day.

MarvellousGod:
Now, Can we help these two become friends again? Just on a platonic level..

We have apportioned blames, can we now help them?

cococandy:


Angel Michael.

You left you ex to be with her. No wait! You sacrificed you relationships with your ex to be with her. You must have felt you were doing her a favor by such a huge sacrifice. Only God knows how your friendship with the ex must have caused her pain and she had to endure your disrespect even at inviting her to sleep over in your place.
How would you have felt if she had an ex boyfriend giving her that kind of support with be with you.

You must think we are babies. Mtcheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew.

You beat up a man's daughter so much that a group of women couldn't separate you from dishing out the blows to her yet expect her father to be cool that you want her to come and visit again.
Really?

His mere statement of "don't try what you will regret" warranted an insult on his person and you're here forming gentleman.
He even told you to wait one year. Of course you can insult him because you're not behind bars where you belong.



I know your type. those who know how to spin words to appear more calm and collected than their victims meanwhile they are the cause of all the wahala.

bestestgirl:


hehehe, unfortunately for him, OP has called on Amadioha to reshuffle the fingers he is using to type all those things .

Let me also call on all those people who contributed seriously to that thread, make they come read the part two!
CC
dheartless
sweetcocoa
Genbuhari
owliver
greatgod2012
Kimoni
Rose2014


...and the wife batterer corrector himself
mcdokwe

you are all welcome, free popcorn for all

remsonik:


Shebi its because the father hasn't thrown him into jail for impregnating his daughter that's he has the effontery to still open his poo mouth and type trash!!!!

mcdokwe:
This is rather interesting. You didn't say I had to buy the milk because you would abandon the baby and watch her cry because you know how hurt I feel watching her cry.
It isn't all that should be said here babe so I'd leave it at that. Life indeed has been fun without me, people like me couldn't near your feet and all that and I concur, maybe I should consider myself privileged.
For the records, I don't find any of your friends sexually attractive apart from when you made me say I did as a result of your esteem issues.
You have my daughter with you, I'd constantly send my wishes to her and off course through you until there is a possible arrangement for me to see her without going through you and hopefully that would be pretty soon.
I had my moments with you and the only regrets I have are those times like when I had to hit you. I thank God you know there where ladies who if I were to to by the eyes, beats you to the game who won't mind being with me, but I followed my heart to where you were. Whether or not you're the one feeding people negative ideas about me, I'm happy and convinced you know me better than that. No regrets whatsoever

mcdokwe:

Like I always say, even though you would and continue to insult me, I'm not about to saydisparaging things about you or family here.

Thank God you are here finally and would hopefully state the truth. Even though I don't remember which friend you said I harrassed, I remember I had to sacrifice my relationship with the so-called ex to be with you, I remember how you tried your best to be friends with her and moan that I leave her, she was at an advantage but loved you and came for you, thankfully she was wise and gave me all the support to be with you instead, but remains a good friend whose impact in my life can't be overstated.

This is not okay......
Reading the statements behind the partially quoted text above shows that......you felt like you were doing her a favour, by choosing to be with her, over someone who was supposedly better.
This in turn might have made you into some unwitting manipulator/controller.
You thought of yourself as the best that's ever happened to her, you assumed a god status in her life.
What do you expect ultimately......from a free bird?
This is why we (ladies and guys) must guard against giving up our lives post meeting that magic someone. It always backfires.

What kind of support did she give?
I am not saying there aren't good ladies out there o.
But most of us wearing this garb of goodness and unselfishness are raw manipulators.

You haven't said anything about the smooching part while she was half asleep.
Perchance....is it the same person whose impact in your life can't be overstated?

The post you refer to wasn't a pity party or a plea for you to come back(I've done that, don't regret it and like I said to you, I'm proud my ego didn't stop me) it was rather an advice to people out there not to create reasons for others to hit them, I only tried using my story to pass a message.

It was actually. While you may have convinced yourself you had no selfish motive.....at the base, it was actually a selfish motive that first prompted you to write, then along the line, you developed other reasons.
Your post is clearly an example of the many shades of self justification.....and that's not a bad thing.
Let him without guilt cast the first stone

I remember saying I said some words but never could match you in words, saying I used you to explore sex was one of them but the least I could say as sex was explorable and we both explored each other.

It has been making the rounds that I insulted your dad to his face, lol. I won't say I didn't because I talked proud when I should be ashamed I got his daughter pregnant. But for those that would discern, I got a shocking call from your so called pastor, and then your dad that I shouldn't do anything I might regret, both sounding as though I had plans to harm anyone when the only thing I asked was for you to come so I could see you and my child and go back to base, I didn't understand but having wished to get across to your dad without success, I figured that could be my chance to sort out things with him and then offered to travel to meet him so we could sort things out, but your dad said I shouldn't bother coming but should rather wait till more than a year to try again. In that fit of anger (admittedly stu.pid) I asked [b]if he expected me to abandon my own child like he abandoned you over a year and that was the insult[/b].

mcdokwe:
This is rather interesting. You didn't say I had to buy the milk because you would abandon the baby and watch her cry because you know how hurt I feel watching her cry.
It isn't all that should be said here babe so I'd leave it at that. Life indeed has been fun without me, people like me couldn't near your feet and all that and I concur, maybe I should consider myself privileged.
For the records, I don't find any of your friends sexually attractive apart from when you made me say I did as a result of your esteem issues.
You have my daughter with you, I'd constantly send my wishes to her and off course through you until there is a possible arrangement for me to see her without going through you and hopefully that would be pretty soon.
I had my moments with you and the only regrets I have are those times like when I had to hit you. I thank God you know there where ladies who if I were to to by the eyes, beats you to the game who won't mind being with me, but I followed my heart to where you were. Whether or not you're the one feeding people negative ideas about me, I'm happy and convinced you know me better than that. No regrets whatsoever

cococandy:
i have a mother. A mother-in-law. Three sisters. Eleven direct aunts. Countless indirect aunts. And a few nairalanders both male and female who I trust offline if it comes to involving neutral people who aren't family or friends.

I'm good thank you. You will wait a looooooong time.

bestestgirl:

*falls from udara tree*

JoeCutie:
That's why I hate this very idea of people (Nairalanders) running to open a pathetically silly thread ONLINE over anything and everything that happens in their relationships/marriages OFFLINE.

Just this morning (or maybe yesterday), another guy opened another thread on Family Section, telling us how he needs answers to his partner's vagina with boils, smelling and ejecting some green fluid. What's that? And many other pathetic threads we keep seeing everyday. This is immaturity. This is madness!

Now, the guy (Mcd.kwe) had earlier opened a thread opening this babe's yansh (even opening his own too in the process), and now the babe has reciprocated; opening her own thread again to protest her innocence and then open the guy's yansh too. Now, what do we (Nairaland panel of Judges) see? Poo!

Chai! This is funny, but very unfortunate. Having looked into their both yanshes, all I could see is just poo. They should please, go and buy some tissue papers.

I've nothing to say about this. No comment.

Chei!!

Joe...
Igbuom o o o

Miraijj:
Can you remember one heediot's thread where he was like, "I hit her, I regret it, She deserved it? Na me be the 'she'.

You see that beautiful woman, babyosisi, I don't know her from Adam neither did I run into her back in my days at Eden, God really imbued her with rare insight to see beyond the surface.

And those who think I need deliverance,I really do. Why don't I,when I allowed that sickled demented fellow into my beautiful life.

Ask him, he'ld tell you that a hundred cloned persons that are his exact lookalike no fit reach my feet!

That guy has got talent. He writes well, but Mba! No! He no go gree use am well. Na to dey flood NL with rubbish, dey look for who im go invite im pity party.

Ehen! Back to the matter on ground, I used to physically abuse you ehn? Anu! Do I have anything to tell you? Never! What do you even expect me to do with an expired entity? Bullshit am big time!
So you didn't tell the world that you took a two months plus baby to a neighbour's house about nine poles away and hurried to the market to buy milk and baby carrier because you didn't want her to suckle my 'stupid' breast. Okwa ya?

Why didn't you tell the world you were sexually harassing my friend in my presence when you thought I was deep asleep and it happened that she slept over?
Why didn't you? Why?

So you told a girl I was an ex while we were together because you were trying to chat her up on whatsapp?
My friends hate you to the end of the world! Yes! They couldn't imagine their friend (me of course) doomed for life all in the name of marriage nzuzu. I was too blind in foolish love to see what they were seeing.

And you thought you had totally gotten me especially with my having a child for you? Oh boy you lied big time!

Everyone calls me wicked! That I left this fellow because he is moneyless! That's their damning business! Do I owe them an explanation? Never! All those times I was hungry while heavily pregnant because of misplaced and ill-timed love, I was just being a fool,I was!

You know one thing about this type of fellows? They have a sweet deceptive tongue! So what do I do to protect myself from them? I use my brain, make more than enough money and learn to act like a mermaid.

Chai! I felt like poo poo... This guy would tell me to my face, "thanks, you taught me to explore sex". He would even call me an irresponsible girl whose parents abandoned because of her irresponsibility!

So you could call a girl you once dated to come sleep over and you had the effrontery to tell me?

He would tell me how I was vulnerable, and how he was the only person who could love me. You don love me finish na? I believed him. I believed I was responsible for all the problems we had.

Why would you talk to me anyhow in the presence of others in the name of being 'frank'?

I became a nervous wreck. Jesus! I was totally losing my self worth. A terrible part of me I never knew was there surfaced.

And to even think that this dude told me to write down everything about him I would love to have changed... In my mind I was like, "why would I when I would just waste my time, merely baring my mind for him to see, just as he had been using everything I call secret against me."

So as you can see, I no longer have any secret. I am as open as a newspaper, so you just seat tight, read and yes, enjoy, if there is anything enjoyable!

Then he insulted my father to his face! Chai! That was the last straw!

FINAL WARNING: If you send any other bastard sms to me again, Amadioha go reshuffle your fingers!

Life's more fulfilling and more promising without you! Oshi!

coogar:


[size=18pt] when a woman tells me yes - she has given me the rights to lead her. it's as simple as that.[/size] i have zero tolerance for bad friends.

kaboninc:
MizMyColi....

I just like you

Please do the same to Miraijj as you've done to Mcdokwe.

Thankchu.

I have.
It's actually on the first page.

and thanks

sweetcocoa:
Is this thread for real or what?

MizMyColi:



Chei!!

Joe...
Igbuom o o o

bestestgirl:

it is for real, the guy is even around, check around pages 8 and 9

kaboninc:
The BASHING PARTY has just arrived!

Not surprised though.

I look forward to the day babyosisi will come to Nairaland for advises. Don't call me Fayose yet.....

And that lady, cococandy....

I look forward to that day.

JoeCutie:
*rushes to pick her up. Cleans her up and administers a first aid treatment on her*

Hey. Are you hurt?

kaboninc:


Sometimes, you learn when others open their yanshes!

Else, you'd have to open yours...one way or another.

JoeCutie:
Bros you fit open your own make we see small abeg? I go wear shade sha. I no wan vomit my intestine.

pickabeau1:


They will use another moniker

kaboninc:


I pray they don't.

MizMyColi:


Having read both accounts.......


I think you two could use a really good stretch of time apart.

OP @Mirraijj
You're ambiverted.
A naturally easygoing, self sacrificing person.
A lover.
Loyal....almost to a fault.
When you are emotionally at a healthy level.....you are best described as the sweetest thing alive.

I think Mcdoks started abusing you emotionally (with or without knowing it) or someone very close to you.
Toxicness and negative energy became the order of your day.....
You had identity crisis and became overly emotional.
You prolly felt directionless and that kinda ate more and more into you.

Except this post doesn't resonate with you......
You prolly know the direction I'm headed.

This is a case of gross misunderstanding.
Mcdockwe is a good person too who operates at an average emotional health level. If he were top level emotionally healthy.....he would have known that the best thing to do is to leave you be.

I think you love each other deeply.....and even deeper due to the psychomorphological attachment you've shared.
But THE NEED for time apart cannot be over stated.

You need to detoxify yourself.
Be at peace with self again.
Become self-possessed and aware....connecting to your true self.
Stop living derivatively through him or anyone else for that matter (not even your sweet baby).

If possible, let your baby be the only thing that reminds you of Him.
Get your A-game back.

This has become an epistle already....
I wish you all the best Ma'am, more so because I can totally relate to your story.

kaboninc:


My dear, these same folks you so much insult and bash could also have a long list of friends, family members who could also help them in one way or another. Yet them came to the open, to seek for advice (even when they started by fighting).

You are already taking sides. This is true that you are new in the community of the weds!

I don't wish you bad oh, never. But I look forward to the day you will come to the Nairaland Community.