Wedon:

You have still refused to open your eyes and see the man for who he truly is.

Imagine separating her from her friends . . . What does he want to do with her, eat her?

Every normal man knows its liberating for women to hang out with their [good] friends from time to time. Infact, a women who doesn't have [good] friends is a red flag in my opinion.

This man doesn't even want her to associate with her fellow women . . . haba. Controlling much

Vyolet:
Funny how people wash their dirty linens in public.

What if they reconcile? What would happen to these threads?

babyosisi:


I have landed like land cruiser

Wedon:


Maybe it's because we have experienced what a good marriage should be and this is sooo not it!

coogar:


i opened my eyes & i can see the man is a victim of domestic abuse(physical, emotional, etc)



because he realised her friends are the ones influencing her idiotïc decisions. i would not want the mother of my child to keep bad company too.



fixed!



if her fellow women are noxious to the relationship, then good riddance to ebola virus.

Herzumpther:
I don't know why she is angry but if na me sha, I will be angry he brought our family ish to a public forum. when we started nobody was there then why announce it to the world if we are going our separate ways? People fall out of relationship/marriage and theirs won't be the first. Settle things peacefully and if we are separating fine. Peace can still reign but it can't like this.

Anyway maybe na because I'm not a fan of wahala sha.

babyosisi:


And what is the heediot still texting her for
Are his 5 threads on her not enough to heal his pain.
The woman has moved on mcdokwe, and ain't coming back
Leave her alone!!

mcdokwe:
Lol, I text her for the following reasons.
I have grown above hate like her and won't hesistate to advice or help her when I can.
2. She has with her, my lovely daughter whom I have all the rights to and would not stop asking after.

Which is why I maintain that he is a good person who just missed his way. (who doesn't sef)
There is a root problem which she must be bold enough to talk about.
Perhaps, someone has gotten into her head.

Nevveerrrrr.
They will be forming one yeyerish version of heifer alpha male

I will be factual here.
We all love the good life.

No girl sets out on this journey of love looking for a guy she will feed or one that will be dependent on her.
But it happens. And some of us graciously accept it.....believing that things'll get better someday.

While that may seem like an issue to her......if other things are/were equal...save the broke part....
Trust me...the babe will darn ALL consequences and go ahead.

Last I checked No condition is permanent.

Owliver:
sorry. The man didn't post pic or details of the woman so I see no reason how that should be her problem. If she didn't open this thread we wouldn't know about her so that case I proclaim "void*

Wedon:

She is an adult naw . . . not a child you would set rules and curfews for . .

All of us have made wrong decisions in choosing our friends, but it would be wrong for a man to insist we leave out friend. IT should be our decision, not his.

I detest my husband's bff with a passion. But will I 'force' him not to hang out with the guy? I can only give my opinion about him and pray he sees what I see!

If I had a friend who a guy got pregnant and refused to marry . . . and still cheats on her, I will cuss the guy out to eternity. Infact, I won't even bother to hide my feelings from him.

If looking out for a friend makes me bad for their r/ship then so be it . . .

Herzumpther:
Like I said I feel she posted with anger.

At the bolded, I'm happy you know that and that's why I will still say you should go easy on her. Couple's don't spill it all up publicly. Trust me there is more we don't know, all this didn't just start in a day so please, easy. You are right by saying she didn't present her case well o, anger causes a lot.

Again read her Hubby's post, even in the midst of all this the love is still there IMO. Even if we preach heaven and earth what op and her hubby go still settle if them want and if they don't want, they should both go start their lives again.

@miraijj, please calm down, he shouldn't have beaten you yes, if you still want him please calm down and settle things but if you don't I wish you well too.

BTW the hubby should come and defend himself na.

Herzumpther:
Hmmm OK o.

But seeing the story here can make her angry. Maybe she decided to open hers because if the bashing she was getting without them hearing her own part of the story. The op doesn't sound happy too you know.

Biko I'm not a relationship or marriage counselor, as a matter of fact I'm not even married so make I Sidon with MarvellousGod dey watch dey go.

Wedon:


This guy would have beat her up eventually . . . whether she held his shirt or not. The guy was an abuser waiting to happen!

If you had the brain to read btw the lines, you would see that he is a controlling man . . who wants everything to be the way her decrees, down to the last T!

Who art thou woman to dare question him

Imagine the joy he got from beating her up, he had to open a thread just to brag.

bestestgirl:

yes I believe that there is a lot that we don't know but cheating and beating are both deal breakers. no matter the love, I think she is better off without him

mcdokwe:
Lol, I text her for the following reasons.
I have grown above hate like her and won't hesistate to advice or help her when I can.
2. She has with her, my lovely daughter whom I have all the rights to and would not stop asking after.

iykedare:

Owhhhh yes....
I love Alpha Males.
I just learnt more about the term "Alpha Males" yesterday.....

But....
You know there are pros and cons.

I actually read up on Alpha Females.

So my conclusion is this.......
Be the alpha....but be discerning enough to know when to go beta

Forget o.
Givers never lack.
It is a general principle.

As for airing their issue.....

I have a feeling she might regret taking this step in the near future, but for now, let it serve its purpose.

I wish I had the boldness to tackle people sha.
Sometimes, when I remember how ungood my mouth can be......and how it might affect others, and how miserable I will become ultimately....
I prefer applying self control and just ignoring.

Well, different strokes. Different folks.
To each his own path.

bestestgirl:

yes I believe that there is a lot that we don't know but cheating and beating are both deal breakers. no matter the love, I think she is better off without him

Owliver:
choi* oya letz marry na. Make we run our paroz codedly. All this one wey I dey shout here na mouth I dey make oooooooo no go think say me fit beat someone. I no even get body. Howfa?

coogar:


a man's responsibility is to lead his partner. part of that includes rules & curfews. i see nothing wrong with a man putting a wedge between his partner & bad friends.

if her friends are awful, then he's within his right to cut them off.

it depends on the reason for detesting him. if you detest his arrogance or good looks, it's not a valid reason. if you detest because he poisons your husband against you then it's a valid reason. the latter is the case with the OP.

why did she get pregnant for a guy that hasn't discussed any marriage plans with her? could it not also be argued she trapped him with the pregnancy or what are you saying?

looking out for a friend that bore a child out of wedlock. where was your advice when she was spreading her legs to enjoy unprotected sex?

Wedon:
That is how my husband's Aunt married a failure of a Man . . .

He would beat her senseless over a flimsy excuse. My MIL (the woman's elder sister) tried to intervene and they used her to settle. See the woman accusing my MIL of trying to break-up her marriage. All because she advised her to leave an abusive man . . .

Ngwa nu fast forward to 36 years later . . . The woman had to pack her property and run after finding concrete evidence that her husband wanted to kill her. . . she suffered and toiled and took all the abuse for 36 YEARS!!!

The useless man nko? Carrying Uni girls up and down and sleeping with new girls every night in their marriage bed . . glad that he is finally free of a a 36YO marriage!

A useless man is a useless man . . there is nothing you can do to change that!

Herzumpther:
Marry make u beat me too?

No vex I don marry.

Vikky014:
hmmmm. i am regreting sending her dt birthday txt .Gush do u hv human sympathy @all cant u see u r wronghw can u tell ur babymama dt u used her to explore d world of sexu even tried sleepn wt her friend.SMH

Owliver:
ask rose2014 she will vouch for me. I don't beat ladies. Meanwhile, why all of una dey marry marry na. Choi* nawa ooo lekwe nu le oooooo

Owliver:
pls read the guy's post. The lady abused him physically several times and he managed the situation till that moment she locked him up. Before you conclude

Herzumpther:
Wow I didn't even see that. Smh really.

Wedon:

LEAD . . . not RULE!

Cut them off . . . maybe . . . not try to bang them!

Errrm. . . The OP is not married to this man. He is a baby daddy who is drinking the milk without paying for the cow. Any good friend would be right to condemn him!

True . . . she already made the mistake . . so did he!

So she is not good enough to be his wife and he wants the right to choose her friends? That's just not how it works!

Rose2014:


The mistake ladies make is staying with an abusive man because u don't want him to bring another woman, nansense, or hoping he'll change. Nah, he'll just kill u n remarry anyway so it's better u leave him and let him remarry when u're still young n alive

Once A wife beater, always a wife beater cos just like in every marriage,there'll always be times u get him upset

cococandy:
Herzumpther I can't believe you didn't alert me on time to this thread.

MarvellousGod:
Oga, that guy is one hell of an abuser, he even had sex with her that same night. Who knows if he even forced the girl because no woman in her right senses will think of sex after being beaten up/disgraced in the public. .
Seems to me the girl was vulnerable while with him..

I may be right to also say that the girl started being aggressive after the ugly experience with him..

Even his words while describing how he beat up the girl, he said "she never got enough"... who knows how mercilessly she was beaten. ...

I say it again, for a baby mama to walk away in this society where single moms are seen as bad examples, the situation must have been so bad and uncontrollable. .

btw, are you mcdokwe? because the way you go about quoting people and defending the guy is so suspicious