It happened this morning oh, was bathing and prepping for work when i heard my dad at the top of his voice, before i knew it i heard mumsy crying, he had slapped her. Am in the same house( Haven't been able to move out yet) and i couldn't just bear my mum crying so i went to my dad to tell him what he did was not right. He is almost 60 and so is his wife, at that age you slap your wife i was trying to use the voice of reason as i was angry but kept my calm (Who wouldn't be angry seeing his/her mum cry?) before i could finish explaining and appealing to him i received from his left hand of righteousness a resounding slap... it got me confused as i didn't know what i did to deserve such. I didn't say anything harsh nor abusive. Am angry but didn't wanna return that slap nor say words I'll regret. I told him I'm moving out and he just lost a son, he replied that i wont be missed. I wanna do something he'll never forget, before i leave, please i need advice as it dented my personality even amongst my younger siblings and neighbors. I really am confused on what to do before moving out. Am so pissed now
pls sincere advice. thanks

Maybe your Dad was on a slapping spree. Moral Lesson.... Next time dont stand close to his left hand while talking to him.

that is good for U.Why do u rush to confront ur dad without asking ur mum why she was slapped.He gave u dat resounding slap cos he see U as taking side with ur mama.Ur mum probably say something that warrant her being slapped(I dnt support woman battered)Ur best bet now is to settle the issue/misunderstanding between them not rushing/park out.

You got him angry!!!
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First of all OP how old are you? Is this the first time your pman is slapping your mum? Did you even ask mom what happened before confronting dad?

You are even lucky it was only a slap u got.

sakafish:
You got him angry!!!
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i didn't get him angry as he was angry before i even got there. I only went to appeal to him. by the way am more angrier and wanna move out today. But need to teach him a moral lesson before leaving hence d need for this advice

Most times u dnt ve to do anyfing....if u cn move out fine, bt if u cnt, ignore him
No mara hw hard a pson is d always ve moments of reflection.....
hez ur father n cudnt possibly mean wot he said.....he'll come around

Freest:

i didn't get him angry as he was angry before i even got there. I only went to appeal to him. by the way am more angrier and wanna move out today. But need to teach him a moral lesson before leaving hence d need for this advice

You dont have to move out... am sure he would have regretted wateva he has done. Teaching him a lesson will just complicate issues.

U're just angry dats y u're asking 4 such. I'll only ask u 2 ask God 2 help u manage d situation, instead of seeking revenge. As 4 ur mum, its so painful such a thing had 2 happen 2 her, console her, but if d thing becomes a repeated actn, I'll advise u find a place 4 her 2 stay so he doesn't kill her. My mum has been in abj 4 over 10yrs nw, cos of work&I thank God 4 dat cos, she might have died 4rm battery. Even now dat she's planning her retirement, we her children are planning 2 get a place 4 her in Akure so our fada doesn't kill her 4 us. I can relate perfectly with ur situatn, just trust God, even myself I'm just begging God 2 get enof money 2 get an apartment&live on my own with my siblings till dey each get married. Staying with him is a nightmare. Urs doesn't sound like its a constant thing like mine, nywys don't take ny actn nw cos u're angry, ask God 4 peace cos ny actn u take, u might regret cos u did it in anger.

It is well!

Oh! You want to teach your father a lesson? Your anger is taking the best out of you. You should remember that anything you do to that man today, your child will replicate tomorrow. The curse wey go follow you ehn, na only him go fit remove am

Na you make mistake na...... if I were you,the moment he slapped my mum,he had lost that respect and na as e dey hot I go yarn am scores.... if e do anyhow e sef go collect anyhow... what non-sense!!....

Anyways..... if he has a car,break windscreen and tear the tire..... and tell him you did it! For every slap your mom collects, damage one personal item of his that is precious to him...e go learn quick.

Wic useless moral lesson u wanna teach him?Take thing easy biko.Ur parent are still ur parent.U got slapped cos u jumped to defend Ur mum.Do u ask ur mama why she was slapped?

Freest:

i didn't get him angry as he was angry before i even got there. I only went to appeal to him. by the way am more angrier and wanna move out today. But need to teach him a moral lesson before leaving hence d need for this advice

SuperSuave:
First of all OP how old are you? Is this the first time your pman is slapping your mum? Did you even ask mom what happened before confronting dad?

Well, am not a kid as I'm in my late 20"s. Also from their conversation i guess it was bent on just meager stuff like the usage of food which in my opinion its not enough to hit someone. That normally wouldn't warrant such but i think he was already not in a good mood all morning. Its not the first time anyway, but the the last time was a long time. i mean many years ago...

No be today your popsy don dey beat your mum. You can adopt Aki and paw-paw style of torturing wicked fathers.

Just kidding.


Let them be. Husband and wide quarrel can be funny sometimes but the slap your mum got was uncalled for. She even shared the slap with you...chai.

Just leave and they will call you that they have resolved their conflict.....maybe

Freest:

Well, am not a kid as I'm in my late 20"s. Also from their conversation i guess it was bent on just meager stuff like the usage of food which in my opinion its not enough to hit someone. That normally wouldn't warrant such but i think he was already not in a good mood all morning. Its not the first time anyway, but the the last time was a long time. i mean many years ago...

just Don't do anything silly cos you will later regret it. But I think you should move out and earn a living for yourself.

JeffreyJamez:
Na you make mistake na...... if I were you,the moment he slapped my mum,he had lost that respect and na as e dey hot I go yarn am scores.... if e do anyhow e sef go collect anyhow... what non-sense!!....

Anyways..... if he has a car,break windscreen and tear the tire..... and tell him you did it! First every slap your mom collects, damage one personal item of his that is precious to him...e go learn quick.

this one tough o. Good idea tho.

next time instead of you confronting your dad...you should console your mum...confront your dad when he is calm...

good for you...Mr Superman

U are in ur late 20's, then ur Dad FUCKD UP. He doesnt have respect for U yet. try and earn ur respect not by fighting him. Give him a good dose of silent treatment, move out frm his cmfort zone. Bet me, in just 2 months, he will start complaining to every dick and harry to call U and ask why? He wouldnt want to come out open and beg U. Guy am talking from experience.

dahmie2013:
U're just angry dats y u're asking 4 such. I'll only ask u 2 ask God 2 help u manage d situation, instead of seeking revenge. As 4 ur mum, its so painful such a thing had 2 happen 2 her, console her, but if d thing becomes a repeated actn, I'll advise u find a place 4 her 2 stay so he doesn't kill her. My mum has been in abj 4 over 10yrs nw, cos of work&I thank God 4 dat cos, she might have died 4rm battery. Even now dat she's planning her retirement, we her children are planning 2 get a place 4 her in Akure so our fada doesn't kill her 4 us. I can relate perfectly with ur situatn, just trust God, even myself I'm just begging God 2 get enof money 2 get an apartment&live on my own with my siblings till dey each get married. Staying with him is a nightmare. Urs doesn't sound like its not a constant thing like mine, nywys don't take ny actn nw cos u're angry, ask God 4 peace cos ny actn u take, u might regret cos u did it in anger.

It is well!

Thanks Boss. Its good to hear from someone that has same experience. Maybe I'll just keep my calm. but staying, i don't think i can bear anymore. will just hv to move

Melahou:
next time instead of you confronting your dad...you should console your mum...confront your dad when he is calm...

good for you...Mr Superman

Hmmmmm.... confront my dad when calm? that dude never agrees he is wrong whether calm or not.

SuperSuave:
Oh! You want to teach your father a lesson? Your anger is taking the best out of you. You should remember that anything you do to that man today, your child will replicate tomorrow. The curse wey go follow you ehn, na only him go fit remove am

There is a part of the Bible were parents are not supposed to provoke their children to anger. This isn't the first time popsi is slapping me. He has done it some years back. That one was even in public in our street. Everyone even ladies alike were watching. Then i insisted on moving and going to crash with a friend for a while before i can stand properly, but mum knelt down and appealed that I stay until i can move properly and not under this circumstances. Now this again...

This is the most sensible post I have read so far. The only way to make a violent person stop his violence is by destroying the properties he loves e.g tearing of important documents, setting his clothes on fire etc. That is the only way to quell violence. Ignoring it will just be giving him more courage to continue. If he's aware that for every act of violence perpetrated by any member of the family there's a repercussion.he will think twice. And I wonder why marriages even old ones have turned to war zones



so much for marital security indeed. Shioorr

JeffreyJamez:
Na you make mistake na...... if I were you,the moment he slapped my mum,he had lost that respect and na as e dey hot I go yarn am scores.... if e do anyhow e sef go collect anyhow... what non-sense!!....

Anyways..... if he has a car,break windscreen and tear the tire..... and tell him you did it! For every slap your mom collects, damage one personal item of his that is precious to him...e go learn quick.

You shd have endeavored to slap him back. By doing that, he will never forget you. Your foolishness knows no bounds.

Freest:

There is a part of the Bible were parents are not supposed to provoke their children to anger. This isn't the first time popsi is slapping me. He has done it some years back. That one was even in public in our street. Everyone even ladies alike were watching. Then i insisted on moving and going to crash with a friend for a while before i can stand properly, but mum knelt down and appealed that I stay until i can move properly and not under this circumstances. Now this again...

no the pages in that part of their own Bible is torn or missing. The only pages in their own Bible is wives honour your husbands abi how una dey quote am sef.

Hmmm,This is Super Story.
Op, My advice to you is to calm down. I know it can be frustrating but NEVER and I repeat NEVER try to hurt or disrespect your Dad. He Know's you Mom before you came along and it's not the first time such is gonna happen between them and in all the previous occasions they've manage to sort it out within themselves.
Console your Mom, try to move into your own space[Not in anger though], and after a while try to speak to your Dad in a more matured way, letting him realize your displeasure with the way he treats your mom.

Lol

Before nko?

You did the right thing for speaking out...he had no right whatsoever to beat your mum. Moving out? So childish. Wait for the tension to calm down, call your mum separately and hear from her. Then call your dad too, hear from him. Make your informed decision, don't blame anyone yet. Have two of them together and talk to each other, then lay blame where necessary. Assume that leadership, they are both old.

any man,weda young or old,weda op's fada or not,as far as he slaps a lady,he is a dog

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To come and give your father general slaping section?