am creating ds thread 4 a friend who is on d verge of desperation.she sought my advice on what else 2 do 2 attract eligible serious guys 2 herself!

What's her personality like? What past has she had? What present is she living? As terrible as we men are, we are always scared of a woman's past. If so 'many waters have passed under her bridge' well... but so many things have to be addressed before talking about attraction...Nothing wrong with the age.








All things being normal, if she's a Christian or a church goer...lol... can't she join a 'marriage miracle' group called USHERING unit? Many single ladies I know never spent a year in that unit without getting married...in a big church anyway.

Attracting a man isn't the problem, keeping him is.

It is a lie If you tell me that she hasn't attracted a man since her teens but she turned them down because her eyes were set on the Impossible.

Sha, she still has a chance, thou it may not last but at least her name go enter book.

Take her to this man(see pic)

She should change her bad attitude(s)/behavior(s).

That's all.

Change her life style nwanne......characters matters alotDn't dress secxy rather dresss well nd always put smile on pipos face.

lol! tell your friend -
the bus driver she turned down is now happily married with kids
the motor mechanic she rejected now has a big workshop in town, married with kids
the bus conductor she slapped for toasting her has traveled to Europe, married to oyibo wife
the ladipo trader she rejected because he is not a graduate is now married to a banker

life is what happens when you are too busy making other plans

print posters abd hand bills with her picture on it written boldy
Husband needed Urgently
Dont mind me..
Let her work on getting more money inthe process she would meet her dream man.. We love determined girls

How was her lifestyle 15 years ago, that is what I need to know to sort it out for her

My brother you dey vex ooo.

MrPresident:
lol! tell your friend -
the bus driver she turned down is now married with kids
the motor mechanic she rejected now has a big workshop in town, married with kids
the bus conductor she slapped for toasting her has traveled to Europe, married to oyibo wife
the ladipo trader she rejected because he is not a graduate is now married to a banker

She shld look 4 an older single man I ask for his hand in marriage NO TIME ( if muhammed can't go to the mounting let the mounting go to muhammed)

duperola:
am creating ds thread 4 a friend who is on d verge of desperation.she sought my advice on what else 2 do 2 attract eligible serious guys 2 herself!

Advice her to stop being desperate.

Even if it takes her another 10-20 years to find the RIGHT person, then so be it. The importance of one's happiness and emotional well being cannot be over emphasized. That should come first, even before kids.

And even if she never finds the "right one", so what? It isn't the crime of the century to be single. As for having kids, she can either have her biological kids outside of marriage, or she can adopt. Heavens knows there are thousands of vulnerable, needy orphans in desperate need of a loving home.

Op.

Follow the tips here

https://www.nairaland.com/2179580/7-tips-beautiful-ladies-above

Here is an excerpt. Check the link for the full description.

1. Prepare to marry a man you earn more than:
2. Prepare to marry a man you are older than:
3. Divorced men and widowers can make great
husbands:
4. Be ready to be a step-mother and share your home:
5.Spot out men with potentials and mentor them to
success:
6. Stop shopping for men and start investing in one:


(c) woged2005

EfemenaXY:

Advice her to stop being desperate.
Even if it takes her another 10-20 years to find the RIGHT person, then so be it.

you gat to be kiddin right? 37 + 20 = 57yrs, you must be one hell of a joker comedian no offense

EfemenaXY:

The importance of one's happiness and emotional well being cannot be over emphasized. That should come first, even before kids.

same mentality that created the problem she's having today

EfemenaXY:

And even if she never finds the "right one", so what? It isn't the crime of the century to be single. As for having kids, she can either have her biological kids outside of marriage, or she can adopt. Heavens knows there are thousands of vulnerable, needy orphans in desperate need of a loving home.

Bro, this oyibo ideology doesn't work here ok, embrace reality, this is Africa.

Social media, churches and owambe parties.

Tell her to forget about marriage. I mean let her stop thinking about marriage and move on with her life.

I tell you suitors will soon locate her.

But if she still dey carry marriage issues for head as if na only her remain for this world wey neva marry, she will never be happy and her gloomy face will scare serious guys away from her.

MrPresident:


you gat to be kiddin right? 37 + 20 = 57yrs, you must be one hell of a joker comedian no offense

No, I'm not joking. I know where the joke section is if I need it.

Unlike you, I don't attest to marriage bring a do-or-die affair. You need to understand that it's never about how soon one gets married but how well the couple stay married.

same mentality that created the problem she's having today

What problem?

You think being single is a problem that needs to be "solved"? Problem for whom? If you don't mind my asking?

You realise the real problem starts if she rushes into marriage out of blind desperation, all in the vain bid to satisfy societal values and perception of her, whatever those may be? And when that happens, would you/society be there in that marriage with her? Or will she be dished out the usual "grin and bear" Nollywood advice?

Bro, this oyibo ideology doesn't work here ok, embrace reality, this is Africa.

Really.

And you wonder why there are so many failing marriages? It doesn't take a genius to figure out that the root cause of this is because the foundation was faulty.

Marrying out of desperation can never be a good thing, nor will it ever yield positive results. A desperate woman such as this one would overlook so many red flags, so many flaws and warning signs in a potential spouse she would normally not have even considered, but now will, simply out of desperation.

Stop pressurizing people to get married. Stop the trend of ostracizing and being unnecessarily judgemental of singletons. Marriage isn't for everyone. The world won't come crashing if a person chooses to remain single.

Op if that your friend is interested in a man who can takia of her, regardless of her age... Let her call dis number 08106065084...

EfemenaXY:


Unlike you, I don't attest to marriage bring a do-or-die affair.

wrong assumption dear, trust me, i understand marriage more than you assume i do.

EfemenaXY:

You think being single is a problem that needs to be "solved"? Problem for whom? If you don't mind my asking?

find the answer below

duperola:
am creating ds thread 4 a friend who is on d verge of desperation.she sought my advice on what else 2 do 2 attract eligible serious guys 2 herself!

EfemenaXY:

Stop pressurizing people to get married. Stop the trend of ostracizing and being unnecessarily judgemental of singletons. Marriage isn't for everyone. The world won't come crashing if a person chooses to remain single.

i guess you re talking to the op's friend here,
we dey nairaland dem carry dia desperation come seeking 4 advice, we begin put mouth for matter na.

cheers!!

Justyce:
Op if that your friend is interested in a man who can takia of her, regardless of her age... Let her call dis number 08106065084...

you mustnt expose ur body to attract suitors. jst be nice to pple

She needs to "lower" her search/eligibility criteria including deciding if she needs a child MORE than a husband and proceed accordingly in a COLD, unemotional rationally efficient manner to achieve her objective!

oplwrgiu:
By wearing G-stings and thongs

Seconded

Wasted years? I know that 37 is a lot of years for a woman cos it translates to wrinkles hidden by layers of make-up,sleepless nights, suicidal thoughts, praying and fasting etc.
Even @ 37, all hope is not lost: let her be herself, be cheerful always, be prayerful and keep believing that everything is possible.
Also she can seek spiritual help cos there are some families that are tied and no matter how hard they try, the females cannot get married.
She should also keep all options open: single,divorced or widowers. Poligamy is also allowed cos this is Africa.


Tenk u

The lady should just be herself. The right suitor will come along. In addition, she should check her excesses and maintain her basic humanity. Men of these days are social Robots.

hmmmmm

online dating will help

i na underdand ooo

Marriage is not a must for every lady, I'd rather advise her to get pregnant for a random person and take care of her baby. Sometimes being unmarried has its advantages and with time she will get over this her *I must marry* ish

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