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Re: How Can A 37 Yrs Old Single Lady Attract Suitors? by boojwa(m): 11:15am On Mar 21, 2015
The question u should be askin is what has she bern doing since that it is at 37 she wanys to begin to find suitor? She obviously has been chasing them away with the excuse that she ain't ready yet...looking for already made man...after touring nigeria, dubai and the U.K, buying all the big gadgets preorder, buying all the brazilian, italian and Peruvian hair sotay now the people don go bald u dei fine husband? U better go sperm bank do IVF born ya pikin look after am yasef...forget man thats the only advice for you. angry

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Re: How Can A 37 Yrs Old Single Lady Attract Suitors? by Nobody: 11:16am On Mar 21, 2015
I think the problem is women want men to come after them with unconditional love but they want conditional love. Rich, intelligent, tall, educated and young men but they don't do much on their own. Men are not in a different economy...prepare to sieve the one you can build a home with. Economy is hard plus corruption and stop disturbing him with church attendance. He has seen people not having qualities of being churchous. Meanwhile, since few rich men are married... work on being the second, third etc if the men want oh.

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Re: How Can A 37 Yrs Old Single Lady Attract Suitors? by Nobody: 11:18am On Mar 21, 2015
wear good make up and be classy... dress sharp and expensive... smile at men "always"....
Re: How Can A 37 Yrs Old Single Lady Attract Suitors? by Nobody: 11:21am On Mar 21, 2015
chubbypearl:
so?even if she reject them,how you won take that one help am?no bring my brother come here oooo,i no mention anything about family for here
just link her with ur brother and tell him not to ask of her past. problem solved.

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Re: How Can A 37 Yrs Old Single Lady Attract Suitors? by kennyok(m): 11:25am On Mar 21, 2015
I think the only thing she has to do is simple, tell her ti get a carrier for herself or better say a carrier lady that will project her to her world and eligible suitors will be flowing like mad..secondly she should stop thinking on her age nd the marriage issues and focus her uttermost trust in God ..with this one year is too big to cliche her dream man...
Re: How Can A 37 Yrs Old Single Lady Attract Suitors? by Nobody: 11:37am On Mar 21, 2015
Some women get married at 50, she should be patient, her husband is on the way.

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Re: How Can A 37 Yrs Old Single Lady Attract Suitors? by Odunharry(m): 11:39am On Mar 21, 2015
RedBenson:


Smh! Always referring to a friend. Madam, if u don reach 37yrs and still never married but now desperate for marriage, be bold enough to tell us openly so we can enter market go buy one husband come give u. We no be simpletons wey u go think say u fit use our heads any how how.
lol..
Re: How Can A 37 Yrs Old Single Lady Attract Suitors? by kraftykc(m): 11:44am On Mar 21, 2015
duperola:
am creating ds thread 4 a friend who is on d verge of desperation.she sought my advice on what else 2 do 2 attract eligible serious guys 2 herself!

Life doesn't start and end with marriage. If she is determined to make a change though, drastic physical changes may up her chances.
Re: How Can A 37 Yrs Old Single Lady Attract Suitors? by free2ryhme: 11:46am On Mar 21, 2015
duperola:
am creating ds thread 4 a friend who is on d verge of desperation.she sought my advice on what else 2 do 2 attract eligible serious guys 2 herself!


Just tell us u created this thread for yourself. Don't hide behind the lie u posted or did u obtain ur friend,s comment and permission to divulge such sensitive information about her

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Re: How Can A 37 Yrs Old Single Lady Attract Suitors? by TV01(m): 11:58am On Mar 21, 2015
Onegai:
It is oh so easy to say "must she get married, let her take her time, marriage is not for everyone, don't be desperate, let her have kids outside wedlock" from the comfort and security of your home/marriage/relationship. The complaisance stinks.

I know what is like to stop attending weddings because everyone is hooked up (even those small girls), to avoid your fb page before you go crazy seeing all those updates of happy families whilst you're still in your parents' home, the random times people will just start passing comment on your life or discussing your life publicly (well-meaning but you still wanna die).

OP, it is crazy out there and whatever decision she takes is going to be tough. As someone who said "I will find a man and have my kids without marriage" when that situation stared me in the face, I ran like a person being chased by BH. The reality was different from my calculations. Being a single mum is not something you discuss on NL.

It is one thing to half-heartedly want to get married, it is another to want it with every fibre (for the companionship) and be told "marriage is not for everyone, don't be desperate".

A lot of men in your 30s are going to be unserious about you and once you reach 35, all the married ones will show up to attempt to grace your bed. The beauty of age is that you are now bold enough to ask a man "please what are your intentions" immediately he kisses you. The unserious ones will tell you you're rushing them, the serious ones know your age and will straight up say their mind "I want a casual fling, are you interested? " or "I want more than a casual something, I'm genuinely here". Don't get mad, say thanks and move on (I used to tell them "thanks for being honest with me, I'm looking for more than a fling right now but If I change my mind I will inform you" and no hard feelings).

Let her go out. Let her find a hobby. Do things that take her to continually meet people. I was advised that by a single woman in her 40s. Let her not take men seriously, A MAN IS NOT REAL UNTIL HE DECLARES PUBLICLY YOU TWO ARE DATING. That means she should bone all those midnight chatting and phone calls, they mean nothing until the man declares his mind (I see ladies who dump everything and everyone else in favour of those calls, meanwhile he can wake up and decide to stop calling one day and disappear. Then you waste more time in tears and emotion). Grit your teeth and go out (even when you're not in the mood).

Be cautious of that joining some society in church. I have a lot of male friends and they always made it clear that they used church workers and church attendees as their hunting grounds, since they knew most of those women joined church to meet eligible men. So be friendly but remember, he ain't real till he publicly declares your relationship to all of mankind.

Whatever fun you want to have, go and have it starting from now. Every time you say "I'm too tired to go out to this birthday party/office dinner/whatever function", you are reducing your chances of meeting people (we are no longer in the days of Tobit, husbands don't see you praying in your window and knock your father's door down demanding your hand in marriage ). GO OUT THERE AND ENJOY YOUR LIFE.

If things don't work out, at least you won't have spent your life sitting in one spot, waiting for a bus to arrive that wasn't coming.

I speak from experience and that of my sisters and friends. All the best OP.

I do apologise for quoting the post in its entirety, but this is simply the best post on this thread. It simply smacks of authenticity. Applause - and thank you for articulating something that demonstrates you know exactly what the OPs friend is going through.

I sincerely hope that you got your fairytale ending.

Best


TVMIC

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Re: How Can A 37 Yrs Old Single Lady Attract Suitors? by danbrowndmf(m): 12:14pm On Mar 21, 2015
Eggovinma and Ajekpakororo who sayz they cnt Marry a Man who earn 50,000 naira as salary every month are needed on this thread ASAP!

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Re: How Can A 37 Yrs Old Single Lady Attract Suitors? by Nobody: 12:24pm On Mar 21, 2015
firstEVA:
Some women get married at 50, she should be patient, her husband is on the way.
see part of telemundo victim. So her husband still dey road up still now? Abeg explain to me which road her husband dey follow were he never meet her up to this day? At op,never you listen to this kind comments. Na poison be this ohh.

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Re: How Can A 37 Yrs Old Single Lady Attract Suitors? by niceguy7(m): 12:49pm On Mar 21, 2015
Attracting suitors kee? Were ws she all dis while? Probably looking for a guy that has a bentley and a mansion in lekki....now he don cast....any way na way now abi? E go tey for there. Naija ladies too like ready made men... undecided they cnt sacrifice any tin.

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Re: How Can A 37 Yrs Old Single Lady Attract Suitors? by Sunbellar: 12:56pm On Mar 21, 2015
MrPresident:
lol! tell your friend -
the bus driver she turned down is now happily married with kids
the motor mechanic she rejected now has a big workshop in town, married with kids
the bus conductor she slapped for toasting her has traveled to Europe, married to oyibo wife
the ladipo trader she rejected because he is not a graduate is now married to a banker

life is what happens when you are too busy making other plans
Ladies read

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Re: How Can A 37 Yrs Old Single Lady Attract Suitors? by Nobody: 12:57pm On Mar 21, 2015
chubbypearl:
Story for the gods!no be only market,na shoprite!

Yes naw. Abi dem no dey sell husband for market?

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Re: How Can A 37 Yrs Old Single Lady Attract Suitors? by spyg1(m): 1:07pm On Mar 21, 2015
Justyce:
Op if that your friend is interested in a man who can takia of her, regardless of her age... Let her call dis number 08106065084...
i smell lichuarist. U want to use her womb for...?

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Re: How Can A 37 Yrs Old Single Lady Attract Suitors? by Gboliwe: 1:20pm On Mar 21, 2015
Justyce:
Op if that your friend is interested in a man who can takia of her, regardless of her age... Let her call dis number 08106065084...

The only criteria you want in a woman is for her to be "interested in a man who can takia of her..." Wow! You are strange and I should warn any young woman to be wary of you.

@topic, let her be herself. Men smell desperation 10miles away. While she is being herself, let her seek to improve her life and the quality of it. Not every woman will marry just like not all men will marry. #fact. There is no need wearing a frustrated and miserable look. Enjoy your singlehood as long as it lasts, many desire it but can't have it.

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Re: How Can A 37 Yrs Old Single Lady Attract Suitors? by chubbypearl(f): 1:28pm On Mar 21, 2015
ferdimako:

just link her with ur brother and tell him not to ask of her past. problem solved.
Am not a matchmaker and am sure my brother is capable of choosing his wife by himself so save your solution for yourself ...Goodluck with the interrogation.
Re: How Can A 37 Yrs Old Single Lady Attract Suitors? by dyabman(m): 1:30pm On Mar 21, 2015
The only way !! grin grin grin

Re: How Can A 37 Yrs Old Single Lady Attract Suitors? by tomzman: 1:32pm On Mar 21, 2015
This should serve as a lesson to other young girls. I have said it on a similar thread and I can say it anywhere that unless a girl is extremely ugly (pardon me if that sounds too harsh grin) or lacking in assets wink there is no way guys wouldn't chase after such a girl. It is now left for the girl to prayerfully select the best (I didn't say the richest or most perfect) of them. By the way the Nigerian society is, she is most likely to enjoy that privilege of being chased up to the age of 25. Anything after that, the number of suitors starts reducing drastically as guys would begin to consider her as old or unserious. So op, ask your friend what she was doing in her younger years.

The only solution now is for her to be more prayerful and outgoing. Let her attend dinners, parties, seminars, church, singles programmes etc and mingle. Let her also spend time developing herself. Let her go out and learn something feminine like cooking, baking, decoration, bead making etc. Who knows she might just be lucky and I even pray she is so her story would serve as a lesson to her daughter(s).

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Re: How Can A 37 Yrs Old Single Lady Attract Suitors? by shadrach77: 1:33pm On Mar 21, 2015
@poster, the truth is your "friend" aka you, brought this on herself. Obviously she would have had suitors in her younger days but chose to be selective thinking she still had time but forgetting that nobody has time, time belongs to no one but God. Now the season has passed...the tide has changed. Well, at 37, she still has hope. First of all, she should become very prayerful. Then if she is the saucy type, that won't help. She should work on her character and be nicer. She can register on dating sites and attend single events. A little bit of desperation is not bad but she should avoid being "over-desperate" lest she fall into the wrong hands. Ire o! wink wink wink

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Re: How Can A 37 Yrs Old Single Lady Attract Suitors? by DSB(m): 1:40pm On Mar 21, 2015
searching4love:
undecided

AFTER DOING YANGA IN HER 20'S FOR SERIOUS MINDED MEN NOW YOU ARE DESPERATELY IN NEED OF ANY MAN THAT COMES YOUR WAY undecided

THIS IS THE FATE THAT AWAITS ALL YOU NIGERIAN GIRLS WHO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF MEN WHO MEAN WELL


MANY OF YOU WILL REACH MENOPAUSE WITHOUT ATTRACTING ANY SUITORS

NO SANE MAN WILL MARRY A HARLOT WHO HAS SLEPT WITH UNCOUNTABLE MEN IN HER YOUNGER YEARS

BUNCH OF HOPELESS HOES undecided

#team foreign girls

Why is it that people always blame the the lady for being choosy? What if she is a victim of one of those long time relationship where the guy bailed out at the last hour.

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Re: How Can A 37 Yrs Old Single Lady Attract Suitors? by Nobody: 1:44pm On Mar 21, 2015
Viciyus:
see part of telemundo victim. So her husband still dey road up still now? Abeg explain to me which road her husband dey follow were he never meet her up to this day? At op,never you listen to this kind comments. Na poison be this ohh.
what's your advice for her?
Re: How Can A 37 Yrs Old Single Lady Attract Suitors? by Neplusultra(f): 1:55pm On Mar 21, 2015
xreal:
She should change her bad attitude(s)/behavior(s).

That's all.

Haba! Uv concluded alrdy on bad attitude!!!
Re: How Can A 37 Yrs Old Single Lady Attract Suitors? by uchman140: 2:00pm On Mar 21, 2015
EfemenaXY:


Advice her to stop being desperate.

Even if it takes her another 10-20 years to find the RIGHT person, then so be it. The importance of one's happiness and emotional well being cannot be over emphasized. That should come first, even before kids.

And even if she never finds the "right one", so what? It isn't the crime of the century to be single. As for having kids, she can either have her biological kids outside of marriage, or she can adopt. Heavens knows there are thousands of vulnerable, needy orphans in desperate need of a loving home.


am in support of what u said.she should stop being desperate. secondly, i believe she has been in succesful relationships before wich she couldnt conver to marriage. so she should try and reflect on her past life trying to remember the reason for which she broke up with the guys in herpast. she should check if allof them was because of her or not. then from there, she can make amends.

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Re: How Can A 37 Yrs Old Single Lady Attract Suitors? by Nobody: 2:01pm On Mar 21, 2015
Sex na beans?



josite:
. and if she wants marriage cos she badly want regular sex.she should trust Jesus to come and sex her regularly. this woman is not you.that's the only thing you forget.
Re: How Can A 37 Yrs Old Single Lady Attract Suitors? by Nobody: 2:05pm On Mar 21, 2015
firstEVA:
what's your advice for her?
change of location or environment. Sometimes your environment determine the rate of your success(husband potential)

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Re: How Can A 37 Yrs Old Single Lady Attract Suitors? by iykedare(m): 2:08pm On Mar 21, 2015
chubbypearl:
oh pls!does it matter how many she turned down?and how does that help her present situation?even if she had a terrible past,how does it help to mend the present.smh

This is the kind of mentality that kept her where she is .

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Re: How Can A 37 Yrs Old Single Lady Attract Suitors? by iykedare(m): 2:10pm On Mar 21, 2015
Where are the end time girls. grin grin grin

There are lots of women in their late thirties who aren't married. It is not the end of the world for them. In this our era, not every woman will get married.
Re: How Can A 37 Yrs Old Single Lady Attract Suitors? by KanwuliaJara: 2:12pm On Mar 21, 2015
What is a 37 yr-old MALE or FEMALE looking for suitors for? undecided
Time done pass abeg!
NAnSenZe! angry

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Re: How Can A 37 Yrs Old Single Lady Attract Suitors? by toprealman: 2:16pm On Mar 21, 2015
duperola:
am creating ds thread 4 a friend who is on d verge of desperation.she sought my advice on what else 2 do 2 attract eligible serious guys 2 herself!
BE AS REAL AND DOWN TO EARTH AS POSSIBLE. TO START WITH, AGREE THAT YOU ARE THE PERSON INVOLVED AND YOUR STORY WILL CHANGE FOR GOOD.

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Re: How Can A 37 Yrs Old Single Lady Attract Suitors? by toprealman: 2:19pm On Mar 21, 2015
emrain:
wear good make up and be classy... dress sharp and expensive... smile at men "always"....
SEE YOUR LIFE?

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