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Re: Was I Wrong? by NobleG1(m): 6:22pm On Apr 16, 2015
Only weak I*diots beat women.

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Re: Was I Wrong? by smilyice(m): 6:26pm On Apr 16, 2015
What's the big deal if she came un announced Some guyz sha, but nah d babe I pity pass..... She choose to be his punching bag
Re: Was I Wrong? by cococandy(f): 6:28pm On Apr 16, 2015
This same girl will jump up in celebration if he proposes, chop abuse and all forms of maltreatment to be the Mrs.

Abuse junkie with no self esteem.
Re: Was I Wrong? by bynat(f): 6:34pm On Apr 16, 2015
Na unilag abi kinderlag u drop her?
Re: Was I Wrong? by Donpizzle(m): 6:49pm On Apr 16, 2015
jmoore:
Some women love to be abused. Do you think that's the first time he laid his hands on her?

Park well bros and help those who want to be helped. Cos, I wonder how you can install common sense into her head.

its nt as if she loves to be abused, i feel she gets smefin really gud from d guy.
Re: Was I Wrong? by enomakos(m): 6:49pm On Apr 16, 2015
my granddad was right women have cassava brain
Re: Was I Wrong? by shiki(m): 6:55pm On Apr 16, 2015
Yomieluv:
Lemme make it short.

Went to a friend's place on Tuesday to watch Real-Madrid match. After a while,I heard a knock at the door,my friend went to open,I started hearing noise,on getting to the door,I saw my friend beating his girlfriend. I had to ask,he said the girlfriend came unannounced,and want to force herself in,which resulted to fracas.

I settled them,and went drop the girl in her hostel in unilag,went I came back to my friend's place,he was shouting that why should I go drop the girl off to her hostel,that I should have left her outside,when he locked the door against her. That my loyalty should be to him.

My question is this,was I wrong to have dropped her? I went to drop her because she was crying,bruised,and her sandal was torn.it will be unfair to leave her outside.

How can I help her out of the toxic relationship,without being seen as a traitor,or back-stabber by my friend, because its obvious my friend didn't like her at all,she's the one forcing herself on him.

Imagine after the whole beating,while driving her to school,she was pleading with me to beg my friend for her,I was like WTF in my mind,but didn't say anything,that I will get back to her.

You will be right, only if at the end u don't collect ur own share from the girl wink For ur friend, is either he was with, OR expecting another girl, ....reason for de beating
Re: Was I Wrong? by Toks2008(m): 6:56pm On Apr 16, 2015
jmoore:
Some women love to be abused. Do you think that's the first time he laid his hands on her?

Park well bros and help those who want to be helped. Cos, I wonder how you can install common sense into her head.

that is the key words...help who wants to be helped.

when i was dating my ex she was told me she loves to be beaten then the guy should apologize latter in a romantic manner.

i was like wtf but i will nver lift my hands to beat a lady...NEVER.
Re: Was I Wrong? by Edusouls(m): 7:00pm On Apr 16, 2015
brother u should have first of all calm the whole issue, and ask you friend what is going on,dont quickly play the good dude here, some girls are so oddly behaved, that you cant forever restraint ur self from beating her up, they will push you to the wall whether u like it or not with endless and various irritating acts..,cos tommorow now she will cause enemity between u and ur friend,thats where this case is heading to, so stay clear or u will be branded the traitor at last.while the foolish girl goes to another dude,while u two turn into enemies....
Re: Was I Wrong? by Edusouls(m): 7:02pm On Apr 16, 2015
Texcoco:
Fishbrains....
fish get brain self, worm brains...
Re: Was I Wrong? by Edusouls(m): 7:05pm On Apr 16, 2015
NobleG1:
Only weak I*diots beat women.
u think dudes intentionally beat women, noo some girls behave like chicken,u can tolerate them forever...
Re: Was I Wrong? by iyky(m): 7:08pm On Apr 16, 2015
Its non of ur business bro,,nobody baths with fire..she should quit if she is not enjoying it..he is ur friend even if the girl leaves..
Re: Was I Wrong? by Edusouls(m): 7:09pm On Apr 16, 2015
littlemistress:
can u show her dz thread? perhaps it will give her some senses.
ur so-called bf beat u up in d presence of his friend yet u keep begging him?
so much for being a unilag babe.
plz tell her to grow some senses, it's not expensive.
mtchewwww
shut up, u girls sometimes need to be beaten to reset una very malfunctioning brain.

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Re: Was I Wrong? by grad2012(f): 7:10pm On Apr 16, 2015
Toks2008:


that is the key words...help who wants to be helped.

when i was dating my ex she was told me she loves to be beaten then the guy should apologize latter in a romantic manner.

i was like wtf but i will nver lift my hands to beat a lady...NEVER.
WAT shocked ur ex is not normal oo who says dat.
Re: Was I Wrong? by kpolli(m): 7:11pm On Apr 16, 2015
Yomieluv:
Lemme make it short.

Went to a friend's place on Tuesday to watch Real-Madrid match. After a while,I heard a knock at the door,my friend went to open,I started hearing noise,on getting to the door,I saw my friend beating his girlfriend. I had to ask,he said the girlfriend came unannounced,and want to force herself in,which resulted to fracas.

I settled them,and went drop the girl in her hostel in unilag,went I came back to my friend's place,he was shouting that why should I go drop the girl off to her hostel,that I should have left her outside,when he locked the door against her. That my loyalty should be to him.

My question is this,was I wrong to have dropped her? I went to drop her because she was crying,bruised,and her sandal was torn.it will be unfair to leave her outside.

How can I help her out of the toxic relationship,without being seen as a traitor,or back-stabber by my friend, because its obvious my friend didn't like her at all,she's the one forcing herself on him.

Imagine after the whole beating,while driving her to school,she was pleading with me to beg my friend for her,I was like WTF in my mind,but didn't say anything,that I will get back to her.

Bros, you don't know the terms and agreement of their relationship nor do you know the daily happenings.... So let them be, before they get married and claim you're the devil that tried to stop their star

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Re: Was I Wrong? by Edusouls(m): 7:11pm On Apr 16, 2015
darlenese:
Op please mind your business, it's obvious the girl is not helping herself. I'm sure she's one of those greedy girls who will take all the shit on earth just be with a big boy, I feel no pity for her at all because every sane girl knows what is good for her!
yes well said brother..
Re: Was I Wrong? by Edusouls(m): 7:15pm On Apr 16, 2015
prettythicksme:
what da Bleep!!i hate guys who lay their hands on women,it sounds so crazy to me.Anyway op go beg d guy for her cos some babes like suffering undecided
Re: Was I Wrong? by vega84(m): 7:17pm On Apr 16, 2015
Ur friend is a punk, kai if to say na my sis him beat by nw gun wounds go don full his body rubbish.u did the right men #vegatalks
Re: Was I Wrong? by Nobody: 7:18pm On Apr 16, 2015
Yomieluv:
I thought as much,I was only trying to help her,because she was bruised,and crying seriously.

Morever,her sandal was torn,and nothing to wear back.

Stand your ground, your friend is wrong to beat up a woman, simple.... Let him understand that if he is still pissed, but promise you won't get involved in his rltp with the girl anymore (obviously she doesn't mind getting beat up , masochistic maybe)..... Friends should be able to tell each other the truth.....


But on a real its annoying when a girl you ain't in love with comes unannounced.... But beating her or locking her out is just extreme.
Re: Was I Wrong? by grad2012(f): 7:18pm On Apr 16, 2015
Edusouls:
brother u should have first of all calm the whole issue, and ask you friend what is going on,dont quickly play the good dude here, some girls are so oddly behaved, that you cant forever restraint ur self from beating her up, they will push you to the wall whether u like it or not with endless and various irritating acts..,cos tommorow now she will cause enemity between u and ur friend,thats where this case is heading to, so stay clear or u will be branded the traitor at last.while the foolish girl goes to another dude,while u two turn into enemies....
wow am surprised dat u are ok wit hitting a woman. So yes some women can be irritating but der are so many mature ways u can ignore a woman u feel disgusts u.
Re: Was I Wrong? by littlemistress: 7:20pm On Apr 16, 2015
[quote]shut up, u girls sometimes need to be beaten to reset una very malfunctioning brain.[quote].


by their posts, u shall know them. asking me to shut up because a lady refused to clothe herself wt dignity?
itz obvious u ain't different from d op's friend in question.
I pity ur gf, guess that's how u beat her like a slave..
swerve!!
Re: Was I Wrong? by harrysterol(m): 7:21pm On Apr 16, 2015
stinggy:


Harry stop mentioning my name in vain, uhmmm lipsrsealed lipsrsealed undecided
Re: Was I Wrong? by freecocoa(f): 7:22pm On Apr 16, 2015
Loyalty has nothing to do with it, you should always be on the side of truth and fairness.

You should talk to your friend about his abusive behavior instead of worrying about what he will think, tell him he's doing the wrong thing.

I don't even know what to say about the lady, I'm yet to understand how someone can have no value for herself.

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Re: Was I Wrong? by Edusouls(m): 7:23pm On Apr 16, 2015
prettythicksme:
what da Bleep!!i hate guys who lay their hands on women,it sounds so crazy to me.Anyway op go beg d guy for her cos some babes like suffering undecided
and why do guys beat babes, thats what u should ask yourself? a guy will bring out his time,hard earned money,energy,emotion,and commitment topursue a girl he likes,tommorow u see him beating up the girl..of course u should know that you girls emit various types of irritating and repulsive acts that is endless, and must eventually push a man to the wall,cos no man can keep tolerating endless irritating acts from a girls, so beating is the last resort,as many girls cant just change and cant be corrected,it sometimes resets the very faulty and malfunctioning brain of women..
Re: Was I Wrong? by freecocoa(f): 7:29pm On Apr 16, 2015
enomakos:
my granddad was right women have cassava brain
Calling your grandma,mum,aunties, etc, cassava brained, says a lot about you and your grandpa.

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Re: Was I Wrong? by Nobody: 7:46pm On Apr 16, 2015
harrysterol:
n dt was how u allow stinggy snatch u away from me angry n dt was how u allow stinggy snatch u away from me
Nna, are you related to this Comedian; Senator sad Stinggy, help me confirm this grin

Don't reduce a grow-ass woman to a snatchable entity, mbok grin sad
Re: Was I Wrong? by sevule(m): 7:48pm On Apr 16, 2015
Edusouls:
and why do guys beat babes, thats what u should ask yourself? a guy will bring out his time,hard earned money,energy,emotion,and commitment topursue a girl he likes,tommorow u see him beating up the girl..of course u should know that you girls emit various types of irritating and repulsive acts that is endless, and must eventually push a man to the wall,cos no man can keep tolerating endless irritating acts from a girls, so beating is the last resort,as many girls cant just change and cant be corrected,it sometimes resets the very faulty and malfunctioning brain of women..

Sorry to say this but If I say you have a fish brain, I would be insulting fish all over the world.
LIKE SERIOUSLY!!!!!

Do you mean that people ACTUALLY think like this? Since in your warped opinion men have the right to beat women when they irritate us what should women do to men when we irritate them?? Beat us as well

And for heavens sake what is it with men chasing women with money? Na she force you make you spend your money like mugu??

Dude this is the 21st century not the 10th century!

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Re: Was I Wrong? by stinggy(m): 7:53pm On Apr 16, 2015
chimkaire:
Nna, are you related to this Comedian; Senator sad Stinggy, help me confirm this grin

Don't reduce a grow-ass woman to a snatchable entity, mbok grin sad
He's Senator's cousin na cheesy
Grow-ass or grow-nail, none is un-snatchable dakun undecided undecided
Re: Was I Wrong? by Ugooluwa(m): 8:00pm On Apr 16, 2015
Truth be said, Gals dnt like nice guys. They will rather go for the hot heads dat will possess dem n treat dem like trash. Loverboys ain't their type until they are heartbroken.
Re: Was I Wrong? by Nobody: 8:02pm On Apr 16, 2015
stinggy:

He's Senator's cousin na cheesy
Grow-ass or grow-nail, none is un-snatchable dakun undecided undecided
the resemblance though lipsrsealed embarassed
Beht why? Is this "snatch" some kinda Rant 101 undecided

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Re: Was I Wrong? by pak: 8:07pm On Apr 16, 2015
freecocoa:
Loyalty has nothing to do with it, you should always be on the side of truth and fairness.

You should talk to your friend about his abusive behavior instead of worrying about what he will think, tell him he's doing the wrong thing.

I don't even know what to say about the lady, I'm yet to understand how someone can have no value for herself.


Just decided to quote you but my response is actually directed to 75% of the respondents on this thread

I think a short course in psychology should be made available to all students in our schools.

Yes, on the surface, blame the girl but truth is, what's happening to her is called 'trauma bonding' and it is realer than we think.

If a man beats a woman (or God help us,vice versa) and she doesn't leave the first time, reality is that she will never leave again.
At least not by herself, unless an external force comes into play or maybe it becomes critical and she breaks her bone or something of that nature but if it's regular beatings, it will continue forever and she will never be able to stop it on her own. The psychology at play are numerous and simple
1. We desire more to find closure on an issue via the source of the hurt in the first place. If someone hurts you, nothing takes away the pain like an 'heart felt' apology from that person. Hence, love from the abuser becomes some sort of prize for the abused, odd but true

2. One thing abusers instinctively realize is that beating a woman is less of a physical assault and more of an emotional wound. It's her self esteem you are tearing at. Few things make a woman feel more worthless than being beaten by the man she loves.
That is why, if she doesn't leave the first time, her self esteem will only get progressively weaker until her subconscious begins to justify the beatings

I don't blame the girl, I pity her. She's more of a victim than a fool.

People who grow up in abusive homes are very susceptible to either become abusers or abused in relationship. These guys don't know 'normal'. The pattern of abuse is their default position.

And folks need to grow up. Her case has little or nothing to do with money. Most guys that beat their women are actually poor broke arse. The average successful guy does not have a confidence crisis nor needs to prove his superiority, his confidence speaks for him.


@Yomieluv - You actually did the right thing in that scenario but my problem with you is the kind of friends you keep, is it by force ?
How do you have friends who are so psychotic to the extent of beating a girl until her sandals get torn just because she came to visit him unannounced ?? That is absolutely crazy - I advise you recommend a shrink for the animal you call your friend.
I just hope your friendship with him does not say a thing or two about you or is he doing anything of benefit to you cos I wonder why you choose to maintain such friendship in the first place and you can't tell him pointedly to his face that he was a fool for treating the girl that way (I woud have done that) - I ask is friendship by force ??

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