An2elect2:
Yea! but at the end of the day i am not settling for a man "with Focus, Goals and Ambition, Responsibility" in the world's sense. That's superficial for me. Hardworking and responsible men, i appreciate but what is foremost is that he must know The Lord that i know.

I appreciate your effort and time to put this out here for us. It only shows how concerned and well meaning you are.

I will also want to say that Christian ladies should in all our doings, not keep the focus of attraction on us but on Christ. Yes and very, important we should be neat, have good carriage, be principled, be good looking, have good dress sense,etc but if we affirm and teach in all honesty that we are only God's vessels then we should remain just that.

I am overjoyed when a guy sees Christ in me more than he sees me. LOL If all he cares for is me me me, i wouldn't want to have much dealings with him. Strange? yes to worldly women but not to Christians.

We cant get people saved by "pricing" ourselves but by pointing them to Christ if we say we are Christians and care for men's souls else, we are nothing but worldlings who are only seeking praises and glory for ourselves from men through rare means.

Just seyin

MsBliss:
Op Thank you very much. your article just helped me in a way you won't understand. God bless you for me.

misreal:
this is the best thread I have seen on nairaland so far. I really wish I could push this thread to front page.op,nowadays its ladies that are even interested in sex not guys.I am a no no no kissing guy tLkess of sex guy.that's why the girl I wanted to marry left me because she coudnt cope in a no sex relationship.

Truckpusher:
Who says it makes them not to be loose ,bro?

They could be fuccking their gateman while preaching no sex to iidiots like you.

In my world , no sex and we got no relationship.

One iidiot just tried it with me and right now I'm yanshing her friend seriously and all she does is to cry about it .

She will now have no choice than to give it another brother ,courtesy of my die hard policy.

Don't let these psychos deceive you at all, they are treacherous in nature

whillyamz98:
No to sex just gets me pissed off! But still like them that are not loose.

rman:
The problem is not the no sex policy from the young ladies but they also place financial and emotional burden on these young men and they are willing to dump him if the alpha male of their dreams shows up no matter what the innocent young man have put in the relationship.

Guys see sex as a reward from ladies that brings absolutely nothing into the relationship and believe me majority of our young girls fall into this category. They only know how to take!

An2elect2:


Okay. I knew this already even before posting. The truth is that the biblical view will always supersede socio, educative or any other kind of views. That's the hard fact, sirr. Being a Christian, all my approach is scriptural based whether any body likes it or not. And of course people wouldn't like it that way but that's the only way they can be saved and i remain true to my God having clear conscience.

Thanks for the reply.

It's quite difficult to find nigerians who would rather scripture than being politically correct... sola scriptura!!! nice one!!! I was really impressed...

biuti:
Pls shed more light on the bolded.

MsBliss:
Op Thank you very much. your article just helped me in a way you won't understand. God bless you for me.

stephenqueen:

Foooooooool

sirr:


Bro/Sis, make good research, many still enjoy their marriages, and ofcos, real life experience, you first ask yourself, who and why did she marry that man who gives them a better experience in marriage, many ladies only end up marrying the so-wrong-man with many wrong reasons, money, handsomeness, etc and they end up complaining.

delishpot:
Saying no may make a guy spend more time getting to know you but it doesnt mean saying no will get you a deserving man.
As for guys who get dumped by babes cos they saidNO, its a normal thing in our society these days. Girls are told that a guy that says no is impotent and cant perform thus the ladies want to confirm the guy is fuckablewhenable and not an okobo. Now, I am not justifying their prematiral sex lifestyle o. But you guys should stop making it sound like only guys have problems when they say no to sex. Women suffer heart breaks too. Many men if not 90% will not stay with a babe that says NO to sex too.

My advice for women, date when you are mature enough and ready to marry
Date guys who you know are mature enough and ready to marry
Make sure both of you have the same moral principle(That a man says ok to NO sex doesnt mean he is a moral man, he may be neck deep in hoes and flings behind your back)
Saying NO isnt what majes a woman special, it may even be what makes a guy think you are too proud and he may be pissed at you for your stance but pretend to like you just to try see if he can get into your pants.
So saying NO may make the guy more dedicated to getting you. But it doesnt mean that he appreciates you any more than the other girls he has banged.
I will say, a lot of factors come into play where a commited relationship is concerned.
The NO 1 rule is, date when you are mature and ready to settle down that is when your NO to sex will be appreciated by your partner.
Of what importance is a NO sex relationship when you are 16 and not thinking if marriage till you are lets say 24(ladies) and 28(for guys) ? Why get in a relationship when you are not ready for a future soon with that person? Why not just be friends and when the time comes to be commited and settle down then start a relationshio?

Zeze06:
Wat is he saying??

Zohan:

bros you don chop?

delishpot:
Saying no may make a guy spend more time getting to know you but it doesnt mean saying no will get you a deserving man.
As for guys who get dumped by babes cos they saidNO, its a normal thing in our society these days. Girls are told that a guy that says no is impotent and cant perform thus the ladies want to confirm the guy is fuckablewhenable and not an okobo. Now, I am not justifying their prematiral sex lifestyle o. But you guys should stop making it sound like only guys have problems when they say no to sex. Women suffer heart breaks too. Many men if not 90% will not stay with a babe that says NO to sex too.

My advice for women, date when you are mature enough and ready to marry
Date guys who you know are mature enough and ready to marry
Make sure both of you have the same moral principle(That a man says ok to NO sex doesnt mean he is a moral man, he may be neck deep in hoes and flings behind your back)
Saying NO isnt what majes a woman special, it may even be what makes a guy think you are too proud and he may be pissed at you for your stance but pretend to like you just to try see if he can get into your pants.
So saying NO may make the guy more dedicated to getting you. But it doesnt mean that he appreciates you any more than the other girls he has banged.
I will say, a lot of factors come into play where a commited relationship is concerned.
The NO 1 rule is, date when you are mature and ready to settle down that is when your NO to sex will be appreciated by your partner.
Of what importance is a NO sex relationship when you are 16 and not thinking if marriage till you are lets say 24(ladies) and 28(for guys) ? Why get in a relationship when you are not ready for a future soon with that person? Why not just be friends and when the time comes to be commited and settle down then start a relatio

sirr:

My brov, its almost everywhere, I've lost 3 r-ships all because of same reason, but I know soon, we'll find our best companion. Thanks bro, and One love

Assslayer:


Nature can't be tamed, embrace it......

Nairalandinfo:
I know of a girl in those days in school, until she got married, (to a reverend father) no man ever approached her for se.x. Talk about se.x & the way she go take look U hen, u go flee like the devil. Some times, she go preach to U more like trying to convince U to do away with bad life/attitude. We never loved that BUT in our mindz....this is a wife material, we alwayz say


We guyz alwayz respected her stand BUT the other girlz we deal with, we regarded them as foolish & irresponsible. They cu.m to our crib or we go to their crib & kpansh them as usual but there waz no regardz in our mindz for them. Give it to me I give it to U waz our game...No wife material in them no matter how gentle they are



Note: All women are free to do what they want with their bodiez after all no be me born them. They want money, we want the in-between so it'z a win-win situation. What works for Nkechi is different from what may work for Chichi

Life is funny in that I have seen a "so-called" girl (a prostitute with a child) get married to a guy who just came back from the UK & she is presently living large (in Ikoyi) WHILE all her elder sisters about 4-5 (bornagain) have not gotten married till date with time running out on them.....so life indeed is funny