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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Allosaurus: 8:22am On May 18, 2015
If he truly loves her, he should
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by adellam16(f): 8:22am On May 18, 2015
youmour:
This should be a lesson to all these young girls ho-ing around,calling it hustle.what kind of dirty hustling is that,whatever happened to working in a salon or starting a business,bible say time go reach when women go dey seek for men,we are in it already
yea right! Men r saints! They don't sleep around or hustle too! Smh!

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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Nobody: 8:23am On May 18, 2015
Nnemuka:
We all have secrets and dark past.
No love without forgiveness.you should be happy she now wants a man in her life, some lesbians hardly change their ways.

How about discovering your guy was gay? Some other mans "chic".....Forgive nd continue?? Its easy to counsel when you arre not in the shoes...
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by passionate88: 8:24am On May 18, 2015
No believe her o, she no come tell you that day, she thought it would just be a normal date. Becareful.... Though I'd love to date a lesbian one day, but not one that lie about it
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by ayomide1titus(m): 8:26am On May 18, 2015
y not forgive her ;if she has truly change and repented ;Even God forgives our sins;or r u claiming to b also perfect..no man his perfect::accept her and neglect the past so u guys we prepare for a great future.think deeply b4 taking any step
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by moweta(m): 8:27am On May 18, 2015
Wether u forgive her or not is not my main source of Concern. My concern is dat being a lesbian is a sexual prefrence. So as a guy, are u satisfying her or will she wake up tomoro to come here put up a Post on how she married a guy wen she prefered women. And seeking our advise on how to get away from u? Just saying.
grin.

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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Nobody: 8:27am On May 18, 2015
adellam16:
yea right! Men r saints! They don't sleep around or hustle too! Smh!

Hustle nd become gay? Listen to yourself. If a man hustles its not sleepinv around..

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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by edwinkube(m): 8:28am On May 18, 2015
Well bro, i'm one of those dat believe a leopard can never change its spot.... Wht makes u fink she won't go back 2 her fellow woman when she get tired of ur d*ck?.. Think it through properly cos a broken relationship is better dan a failed marriage.....

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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Pope22(m): 8:30am On May 18, 2015
Focus on the future and not in the past, if she is willing to change, please stand by her and conquer her past with her. The worst thing you will do to that lady is to leave her now that she needs a new life, she will simply become worse than she was. Some of these lesbians aint natural, either they were cajoled by other lesbians or pushed into it due to condition of things then.






Remember....you have past too.
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by maggilove(f): 8:31am On May 18, 2015
Forgive her and get ready to bear d consequences with her and in love. Do this prayerfully, I pray God will help you I Jesus name.

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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by lionphil(m): 8:33am On May 18, 2015
pukena:
I met her in a church program in December last year. I proposed to her in January and she accepted. my life in the past 4 months with her has been a dream come true. I showed her off to family and friends at will even in facebook. We even attended a leadership training program for two weeks where we birthed a business dream we shall go into as a family. In fact there was no doubt she was in love with me. I spent on her within my capacity without feeling regret. giving to her was a delight. Everything was perfect until the phone call....

I was on a lunch date with her during a break from d office when a call came through her phone. Usually I dont pokenose into her calls or chats. she doesnt like it.

however, something was different about this particular call. I noticed she was uneasy and was kind of trying to pacify the caller with some excuses why she didnt pick his/her call ealier. I got more curios and demanded to know who called. she said it a nobody. I insisted in knowing who she was pleading with.

finally she spoke. my whole world came crashing before me. I was speechless for some time trying to understand the words I heard from a lady I have given my heart to.

she told me the call was a bolt from her past. that she has been looking for how to tell me about it. "I was into women untill three years ago. the guy who called has my pics and is threatening to publish them online to punish me. he wants to link me up to a rich woman but I told him I dont want so he is threatening to deal with me".

I was lost for words. was ds my lady? I was confused. I demanded to speak to d guy myself. she refused. I wanted to explode then she gave me d number. I called d guy and introduced myself and inquired of d guy if what my woman said was true. at ds point d guy flared up calling my woman unprintable words. he angrily told me that my woman came to him long ago and asked him to hook her up with a rich woman. that he wants to punish her for being a lesbian. blah blah blah......so many revelations I cant say her for respect to my woman.

well, the lunch date was ruined already. I coolly but sternly asked her to go home from the restaurant. I was boiling inside. she followed me back to my office. I turned to see her following and wanted to blow up when she calmly said " emmanuel, just know that all ds things happened in the past. am not proud of it but I hv moved on. I came to tell u about it today before d call came in". with that she turned and left. ofcourse d rest of the day wad spoiled for me.

for days I didnt call her. she wud call and end the call when I wouldnt talk much. I was still in shock. d best friend called and pleaded. she said my woman hadnt left her room for days. always crying non stop.

I still love her. I called d guy later and he claimed he was just playing around. dat the pictures he claimed to hv hv long been lost. dat I shud not leave my woman becos of that. that what he did dat morning was to check if my woman was still in that game. I didnt believe him.

anyway I tried to move on with my woman. though I must admit that things are not d way it used to be. I hv lost d enthusiasm.

I was watching man u match this afternoon when my phone rang. it was the same guy. I asked him why he called. he said called to know why am not talking to my woman. I got angry andtold him to stay clear of my life. I cut the call. he then sent me a message that he would like t send me a link to a website so I would get to know whovmy woman truely is.

I called my girl and warned her to ask her friend to leave me alone.

I want to break up from her. pls is ds the right thing to do?

pls I typed this with a phone to pardon some of my errors.

Don't let that woman go, you will never find someone that sincere...if she can tell you this, then she can tell you anything, trust me...
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Nnemuka(f): 8:34am On May 18, 2015
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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by omooba2019(f): 8:34am On May 18, 2015
Forgive her if you still lover her, but let her go for deliverance, the bitter truth is, she will still go back. Its just like a thief and prostitution. They don't get loose from the habit without divine intervention. Even a nursing mother still practiced it, its so difficult for them to let go of being a lesbian. Forgive her nd let her go for deliverance, I wish you the best

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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by NZEGWUAGU(m): 8:36am On May 18, 2015
Please walk away. She didn't come with the revelation willingly. She ought to have told you earlier but she didn't till events overtook her. And for the guy to call you and ask why you were not talking to your woman meant they still hold healthy conversations. Of course when you catch a woman in her games she would always claim she had been wanting to tell you but quote me if things didn't happen the way they did she would never have told you. Please run she is a dangerous woman or continue with her and regret your life.

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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by declanogadinma(m): 8:36am On May 18, 2015
[color=#990000][/color][right][/right]Bro pls she must be deleivered before you accept her back

Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Exponental(m): 8:37am On May 18, 2015
I dont compromise trust in relationship. however, follow ur heart.
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by cescky(m): 8:37am On May 18, 2015
Op its ur call

But then some one said how are sure ur not being played by her and her so called love-vendor? Love is blinding u know?..perharps they thot they cld extort u? Well I dunoo

But I know for certain that marriage. Partners are sought and found thru prayers, not by physical attraction...note to all singles.

Not saying attraction isn't necessary for when you see Gods answers to prayer for a partner u will fall in love at fisrt sight.

In all my bro pray..if u were close to. God before this ordeal,ull hear and know his voice as per what to do.

Note: most people giving you advice here are probably younger than u and perharps less experienced too.seek God

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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by anwo247: 8:37am On May 18, 2015
Ofcourse, they are better.

Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Opiosko: 8:38am On May 18, 2015
pukena:
I met her in a church program in December last year. I proposed to her in January and she accepted. my life in the past 4 months with her has been a dream come true. I showed her off to family and friends at will even in facebook. We even attended a leadership training program for two weeks where we birthed a business dream we shall go into as a family. In fact there was no doubt she was in love with me. I spent on her within my capacity without feeling regret. giving to her was a delight. Everything was perfect until the phone call....

I was on a lunch date with her during a break from d office when a call came through her phone. Usually I dont pokenose into her calls or chats. she doesnt like it.

however, something was different about this particular call. I noticed she was uneasy and was kind of trying to pacify the caller with some excuses why she didnt pick his/her call ealier. I got more curios and demanded to know who called. she said it a nobody. I insisted in knowing who she was pleading with.

finally she spoke. my whole world came crashing before me. I was speechless for some time trying to understand the words I heard from a lady I have given my heart to.

she told me the call was a bolt from her past. that she has been looking for how to tell me about it. "I was into women untill three years ago. the guy who called has my pics and is threatening to publish them online to punish me. he wants to link me up to a rich woman but I told him I dont want so he is threatening to deal with me".

I was lost for words. was ds my lady? I was confused. I demanded to speak to d guy myself. she refused. I wanted to explode then she gave me d number. I called d guy and introduced myself and inquired of d guy if what my woman said was true. at ds point d guy flared up calling my woman unprintable words. he angrily told me that my woman came to him long ago and asked him to hook her up with a rich woman. that he wants to punish her for being a lesbian. blah blah blah......so many revelations I cant say her for respect to my woman.

well, the lunch date was ruined already. I coolly but sternly asked her to go home from the restaurant. I was boiling inside. she followed me back to my office. I turned to see her following and wanted to blow up when she calmly said " emmanuel, just know that all ds things happened in the past. am not proud of it but I hv moved on. I came to tell u about it today before d call came in". with that she turned and left. ofcourse d rest of the day wad spoiled for me.

for days I didnt call her. she wud call and end the call when I wouldnt talk much. I was still in shock. d best friend called and pleaded. she said my woman hadnt left her room for days. always crying non stop.

I still love her. I called d guy later and he claimed he was just playing around. dat the pictures he claimed to hv hv long been lost. dat I shud not leave my woman becos of that. that what he did dat morning was to check if my woman was still in that game. I didnt believe him.

anyway I tried to move on with my woman. though I must admit that things are not d way it used to be. I hv lost d enthusiasm.

I was watching man u match this afternoon when my phone rang. it was the same guy. I asked him why he called. he said called to know why am not talking to my woman. I got angry andtold him to stay clear of my life. I cut the call. he then sent me a message that he would like t send me a link to a website so I would get to know whovmy woman truely is.

I called my girl and warned her to ask her friend to leave me alone.

I want to break up from her. pls is ds the right thing to do?

pls I typed this with a phone to pardon some of my errors.
Kids like u should not be talking about marriage. It's normal to be shocked, but the way u are handling it is immatured.

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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Nobody: 8:40am On May 18, 2015
I don't think anyone or any advice can help u...
Decide for urself
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Takim107(f): 8:41am On May 18, 2015
There is a WAS in that write up.
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by braine(m): 8:42am On May 18, 2015
No problem.
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by LasoulMacuby(m): 8:43am On May 18, 2015
U better marry that girl. With all u have said about her, am too opened not to acknowledge she is one great lady
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by GoldCircle: 8:43am On May 18, 2015
my advice: Run for your life. The last thing you want as a newly married man is to be snooping on her and trust me there's nothing worse than having an unsettled mind any time she isn't by your side. Old habits die hard. I'll advice you take the harder option which is to hit the highway. Trust me, you'll be fine after a while.

Right now, trust level is 0! when trust is gone, everything is gone! Trust and companionship remains even when love begins to fade.

My personal opinion please.

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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Adiwana: 8:44am On May 18, 2015
First of all,You said you met her in december then proposed in January..when i read this,i was like wtf!sure no say na jazzz
For my own,you made a big mistake by proposing so early..wat happened to 'GOT2KNOWHERBETTER'..if you luv her as you claim and you can go on with the Relationship,as som1 suggested,go for deliverance..the spirit of Homosexualism&lust is a very strong spirit which doesnt just go like that esp homosexualism.it can resurface in the future..but if you cant live with her past,still take her to the deliverance cos thats the best gift you can give to her,then drop the relationship
*modified* oh! And i most forgot..call the guy&tell him to send that link..this will make you know whether to go on or not..its very important

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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Lordave: 8:45am On May 18, 2015
XBLadez:
Lesbian or bisexual? Please note the difference. A lesbian will never marry a man, forget all the rubbish these homosexuals say to cover their rotten self, only a bisexual can marry from any gender.
If she's bisexual, u can marry her if you love her cos she might bring home some girlfriends and y'all will have an o.rgy.
Thank me later!
I strongly recommend this advice

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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by xier: 8:46am On May 18, 2015
pukena:
I met her in a church program in December last year. I proposed to her in January and she accepted. my life in the past 4 months with her has been a dream come true. I showed her off to family and friends at will even in facebook. We even attended a leadership training program for two weeks where we birthed a business dream we shall go into as a family. In fact there was no doubt she was in love with me. I spent on her within my capacity without feeling regret. giving to her was a delight. Everything was perfect until the phone call....

I was on a lunch date with her during a break from d office when a call came through her phone. Usually I dont pokenose into her calls or chats. she doesnt like it.

however, something was different about this particular call. I noticed she was uneasy and was kind of trying to pacify the caller with some excuses why she didnt pick his/her call ealier. I got more curios and demanded to know who called. she said it a nobody. I insisted in knowing who she was pleading with.

finally she spoke. my whole world came crashing before me. I was speechless for some time trying to understand the words I heard from a lady I have given my heart to.

she told me the call was a bolt from her past. that she has been looking for how to tell me about it. "I was into women untill three years ago. the guy who called has my pics and is threatening to publish them online to punish me. he wants to link me up to a rich woman but I told him I dont want so he is threatening to deal with me".

I was lost for words. was ds my lady? I was confused. I demanded to speak to d guy myself. she refused. I wanted to explode then she gave me d number. I called d guy and introduced myself and inquired of d guy if what my woman said was true. at ds point d guy flared up calling my woman unprintable words. he angrily told me that my woman came to him long ago and asked him to hook her up with a rich woman. that he wants to punish her for being a lesbian. blah blah blah......so many revelations I cant say her for respect to my woman.

well, the lunch date was ruined already. I coolly but sternly asked her to go home from the restaurant. I was boiling inside. she followed me back to my office. I turned to see her following and wanted to blow up when she calmly said " emmanuel, just know that all ds things happened in the past. am not proud of it but I hv moved on. I came to tell u about it today before d call came in". with that she turned and left. ofcourse d rest of the day wad spoiled for me.

for days I didnt call her. she wud call and end the call when I wouldnt talk much. I was still in shock. d best friend called and pleaded. she said my woman hadnt left her room for days. always crying non stop.

I still love her. I called d guy later and he claimed he was just playing around. dat the pictures he claimed to hv hv long been lost. dat I shud not leave my woman becos of that. that what he did dat morning was to check if my woman was still in that game. I didnt believe him.

anyway I tried to move on with my woman. though I must admit that things are not d way it used to be. I hv lost d enthusiasm.

I was watching man u match this afternoon when my phone rang. it was the same guy. I asked him why he called. he said called to know why am not talking to my woman. I got angry andtold him to stay clear of my life. I cut the call. he then sent me a message that he would like t send me a link to a website so I would get to know whovmy woman truely is.

I called my girl and warned her to ask her friend to leave me alone.

I want to break up from her. pls is ds the right thing to do?

pls I typed this with a phone to pardon some of my errors.

My sincere advice? DO NOT LEAVE HER. You can only know the whole truth about her past if and only if you make her feel safe to talk to you. Something must have pushed her just as something made her get tired. Show her you are angry but you are willing to stick with her no matter what. Imagine all we have done yet God forgives and encourages us to be like Him. Even if you guys do not end up together, your act will make her value you ever or not. BE WISE BRO...
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Joel3(m): 8:46am On May 18, 2015
those of you talking about the past. that thing will always follow this guy for eternity. he will never forget. what if there is still more secret he doesn't know about.

once you found a girl with one secret then run. because they are more of it.

marred is bride and pride. if the woman you marry doesn't worth a bride or pride then how do you cope?

if this guy becomes a governor, blackmail and other things will surface about his wife been lesbian. and you all will be first to crucify.

when people who already knows your wise as lesbian and prostitute. and what about your children? likely one of them will be lesbian. it flows in the gene.

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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by omograndma(m): 8:46am On May 18, 2015
'' My girl got a girlfriend it really is not a problem cuz I'ma make it do what it do. Cuz havin two chicks is better than no chicks I'd rather just join in, keep my girl and keep the other one too " I'm kidding grin

When you opened the link what did you see?

You said she said it was in the past. If you love her and you promise not to EVER make reference too her past then marry her bro. Otherwise dont.
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by 190: 8:48am On May 18, 2015
u never marry am yet all these drama
lol beta run for ur life

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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by queridasally(f): 8:48am On May 18, 2015
I'm not a relationship expert but let me point out the first thing that set off the alarm in my head.....you met her in december and proposed by january,I don't think that's enough time to know someone you intend to spend a lifetime with, this experience you've had finding out about her past should turn u somewhat into a detective, if its truly love and not infatuation, find out everything you can about her,be sure of who she is, so that you don't rush and get hitched and then other mysteries start to unfold. Love with your heart, think with your head....most people do it the other way round.oh my, my response is almost as long as your story.lol

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