Nonso23:


God bless you
I'm really moved by this truthful post. Such rare wisdom.

Crysallis:


Married women on dating sites? Have you seen any? I only know of divorced women on dating sites

onatisi:
this is the truth majority of young married ladies don't understand. But older married women do and that is why they are never bothered when they learn their husbands in cheating outside ,their only problem is him marrying them. Now we have married women who even pack condoms into their husband things when he is traveling. Women must know that the first thing in a man brain about the opposite sex is sex .that is the way god created us.

onatisi:
Let's not delve into the religious aspect. Wives should learn to accommodate their husband sexual appetite .

VintageCocktail:
No it is not,The post is filled with self deceits, self denials, lack of self-control and rambling of someone with low self esteem.
Philandering makes you a weak man that can't be trusted even by your peers.

If you can't keep your word sworn in front of a gathering of friends, relatives and well wishers then you are not a trustworthy person that can be held at their own words.


You don't cheat on people you love......

Stellaenefa:


I guess your married. I for like know your wife sha. She don die. LoL

Joavid:
A woman created this thread

slyfoxxjoe:
I don't have time to be paragraphing shiite on nairaland especially typing from a mobile device. The important thing is u got my points. I meant no offence from my introduction and sorry if u took any but you can't argue with my points. Yes there are quite a few divorces in western cultures but overall which would u say is better, western or African societies? Of course Western and u know why? Because they obey RULES better than we Africans. One of such rules is marriage is exclusive between one man and one woman and any interference with that is legitimate grounds for divorce! The bible you quote supports that rule and I know it states it from a masculine perspective but I strongly believe it applies to both genders. After all it was the same bible which said a man would cling to his 'wife' (not wives) and they 'two' shall become 'ONE'. Go figure.

onatisi:
many of u condemning the op have a problem understanding the op. The op is not encouraging or celebrating infidelity but trying to let ppl know what to do if it happens to them, deliberations on this thread has mainly focused on why men have sex outside marriage. U can't follow ur man everywhere he goes ,if he has sex outside and u get to know ,what will u do? Kill urself,divorce him,or forgive him ? That is what the op is saying , and the op concluded that women should understand the sexual nature and psyche of a man and that the fact that a man has sex outside marriage doesn't mean he doesn't love his wife wholeheartedly.

slyfoxxjoe:
Only a woman with extremely low self esteem would condone any form of cheating from her man.. reason being deep inside she thinks she doesn't deserve or would never find anything better.. I strongly suspect OP is one such woman.

Stillfire:
Cheating is a deal breaker for me. I am guided by certain rules and principles I have set a standard for myself to the extent I can never date, let alone marry a babypapa. I know my worth and my worth requires 100% dedication in my relationship, marriage. I do not do half, quarter love. Material wealth does not move me, I will be content in one room with a dedicated, faithful husband. Also with my capabilities, I can provide for myself. All I need from a man is his faithfulness, companionship, ardent respect for family.

What standards have you set for yourself?

Don't think women can't/wont cheat. Despite the stringent punishment society places on cheating women, women still cheat. Imagine if those rules don't exist.
It's best to stop looking at cheating as a man thing. I always say that the standards we hold women by regarding this subject, you need to hold men by it. Society needs to see cheating as anathema in men rather than condone it.

5minsmadness:


Who are you to speak for Christians?
Weren't u the one insulting the sacredness of the bible in the other thread a few moments ago?

Aren't u the foremost supporter of homosexuality on this forum?

H.y.p.o.c.r.i.t.e!

Nonso23:


Is it not the same mouth he used to sample previous babes before marriage he is using to kiss the wife.

Stillfire:


They will not see this part of the bible. I really don't know what they preach in church.

Even my ancient Igbo foremothers dealt with recalcitrant husbands. How much more women of today trying to condone a bad and evil thing. I don't get it. Some queer statistic show Nigerian women cheat more, I don't see men trying to justify or asking themselves to condone cheating and live with it.

Anyway....
Pseudo-Feminist
A person that claims to be a feminist yet ignores the main point of feminism, equality. Pseudo-Feminists will tend to blather on about how terrible men are, or assume how men do not face social issues in regards to their gender. Not only can these issues include false rape accusations (although that's EXTREMELY rare), rape of men (which is actually more common than you'd think) Selective Service in the United States, and the pressure of masculinity (which is very much like the pressures of feminization that women face and not considered as often).

Just as how pseudo-feminists will frequently call acknowledgement of men's issues misogyny, many so called "masculists" try to generalize feminists by pseudo-feminists, in order to claim that feminism is misandric in nature. Of course, these "masculists" then ignore women's issues and prove to be nothing but hypocrites. If you misuse the term, you'll look stupid to any intelligent being.

There are well documented pseudo-feminists, one of which is the 'Femitheist Divine', a young woman that on her previous blogs had called for mass genocide of men. They try to claim to be feminists in order to have a sense of legitimacy.
Pseudo-Feminists are basically the gender-issue equivalent of a GSA member that hates heterosexuals. Or a Cancer Society volunteer that advocates smoking.

sunnydayasaba:
OP, your so on point, So ladies think a man marries them because of sex, but that's a big lie. Most men don't get married because of sex, its over rated, so any woman who gets married and wants to kill herself because her husband cheated on her, Can do so, its her life.

For most men, the reason they get married is for companionship. So if he finds u gud enough to be his companion, then bother not abt his cheating habit, but guide him better and talk with him if u suspect that he's cheating. Show how much of a gud companion ur to him. That's why he married U

Nonso23:

Let her knock herself out as long as I don't find out

5minsmadness:


Who are you to speak for Christians?
Weren't u the one insulting the sacredness of the bible in the other thread a few moments ago?

Aren't u the foremost supporter of homosexuality on this forum?

H.y.p.o.c.r.i.t.e!

Amya:
Coming from a pseudo-feminist, it shouldn't be all that alarming.

I was reading a thread yesterday about a young women who tried to commit suicide because she found out her supposedly perfect husband was cheating on her. If she were my kid Sis, I'd have dashed her free slap for that stupidity. This same lady was just justifying her husband's actions when after an argument he pushed her so her hard she banged her head on the edge of a glass table (in the risk of a permanent head injury). This same lady condoned and even justified her husband hating her OWN mother for the flimsy reason that she made some strong recommendations while they were planning their wedding. And suddenly she finds out her husband had a plethora of runs girls at his beck and call, and she overdosed on pills! You've got to be kidding me!

Now, I know my opinion on cheating males is going to be hugely unpopular amongst the female folks in the house (especially the married ones who for some reason think their life's happiness is tied to their spouse's fidelity). I'm also not making excuse for the male folks for cheating, I'm just trying to be realistic about this society. For some reason, men cheat. Most men infact. The sooner women realise this, the happier marriages will be. Sex is not love. To men especially (and me too) sex is just a function that can stand on it's own independent of love and even affection. It's like eating.

Don't be 100% sure that your husband is not cheating or will not cheat on you. That will be living in a fools paradise my dear. It has nothing to do with how pure or holy you were growing up. let's lower our expectations as far as marriage is concerned, and I bet you you'll have a happier and fulfilled marriage.

Or you can always choose not to get married. Divorce is also an option.

Yeah, Yeah I know about the bringing another woman into the house or infecting HIV to the poor innocent wife. Yeah let's hope your husband is sensible enough to not commit to these ladies and he's not stupid enough to not use protection.

FrancisTony:
I can only speak for Christians.

Bible said love your wife as Christ loved his Church.
Any Christian man that supports OP will definitely not eat his cake and have it.
Adultery and Pre-marital sex is evil - shun it.

Don't be a cheat and expect submissive/respectful wife.


N/B - Quote responsibly...

Rosemary216:
i asked a friend dis nd she said not having kids.

Nonso23:

Are you sure that you can read and write

FrancisTony:

Daily? Blasphemy! I only made some points on few threads about gayism and I don't care who accepts my opinion.

Who am I to judge? I'm sinner. All have sinned and fallen short of His glory.
An imperfect man should be judging another imperfect one.

Okay, I accept that I've erred but I still stand with the cliche, "Live and Let Live".

John3:16, For God so love the world that he gave his only begotten son and whoever believe in him shall not perish but have an everlasting life.

Anyway, can we forget the gay thingy?
I'm sexually flawless without blemish and it shouldn't be my concern.

Nonso23:


Okay ...in addition to inability to read and write comprehension is your problem.
Another mad Nigerian spotted!
26999995 to go!

onatisi:
To be honest with ourselves,this is a critical issue that has actually broken up a lot of marriages. When a man has sex outside and the woman finds out ,she decides to leave . If you ask the man he will tell u it was nothing that he was only playing and nothing serious. Women must understand this fact about men.men need sex all the time ,he may stray and misbehave but that doesn't change his love for u ,he still loves his wife but he just wants to have a quickie just for fun. I have seen and heard of true life stories where the wife entered the room to find her husband on top of another woman and all she told her man was just to commot his prick and stand up,the man later begged and begged . Up till today they are still happily married. women who have this kind of wisdom are usually happy because their man is happy. Don't try to cage a man sexual desire and satisfaction to u because once he breaks out he may never come back, look at him like a boy that needs to be naughty at times,but who always comes back home to his darling mommy at home .

FrancisTony:
I can only speak for Christians.

Bible said love your wife as Christ loved his Church.
Any Christian man that supports OP will definitely not eat his cake and have it.
Adultery and Pre-marital sex is evil - shun it.

Don't be a cheat and expect submissive/respectful wife.


N/B - Quote responsibly...