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Re: MY BROTHER IS Cheating On His Wife by GreenCashServic: 6:43am On Jul 05, 2015
You are asleep...you need to wake up. Did u marry her for him? Have you never heard dat what God has joined, no Man should put asunder.....or perhaps you are the evil that was sent to tarnish the happiness in ur brothers matrimonial home?Well i wont be surprised bc most times, peoples enemy are often from within. No try finish school go marry your own wife..de put eye for ur broda own.....ur eye go soon burst!!! angry tongue [code][/code]

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Re: MY BROTHER IS Cheating On His Wife by Mykelpato(m): 6:50am On Jul 05, 2015
undecided wetin concern u, Id he's cheating on his wife??


U be Amebo?


Oya tell the wife na and ruin ur brother's marriage, D wife go pack go home





Advice #learn how 2 mind your business

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Re: MY BROTHER IS Cheating On His Wife by jannies: 6:50am On Jul 05, 2015
YOURMAN:
I dey fear him oo! I reaaly cnt summon dt courage to do dat


It's not a bad thing to tell his wife, but then you are so scared of your brother and you wanna tell his wife such? You must be kidding me! grin in my opinion you should summon courage and speak with your brother if you care so much about the situation on ground and advice him, telling his wife might aggravate what you didn't bargain for as you never can tell what her reaction would be.

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Re: MY BROTHER IS Cheating On His Wife by DrGroove(f): 6:51am On Jul 05, 2015
IYANGBALI:
I tire for the op o
No mind am,as if him no go follow do am when him marry

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Re: MY BROTHER IS Cheating On His Wife by emaitee(f): 6:52am On Jul 05, 2015
Act like it didn't happen, since you can't prove it. She might ask for proof when you inform her, which you don't have.
Re: MY BROTHER IS Cheating On His Wife by fabre4: 6:52am On Jul 05, 2015
Ask the wife indirect questions that will make her feel uncomfortable or start suspecting him but don't tell her plainly and remember if he lives and maybe pregnant the other gal you wont be at piece knowing that you should have told her at least for her children's sake

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Re: MY BROTHER IS Cheating On His Wife by cococandy(f): 6:52am On Jul 05, 2015
Brugo:
He said his brother's wife is cool with him. How many wives can tolerate their brother in-law staying with them? The OP has a good reason to be worried on behalf of the woman.

Those of you insulting the OP and asking him to mind his business are hypocrites. If your wife (or husband) were cheating on you, wouldn't you like to know? Do you know how many wives and husbands have been infected by unfaithful spouses? Would you like to continue in oblivion? It is obvious you lot don't mind cheating on your partners.

Someone said the OP should not break his brother's home. That home is already broken. The husband has brought a strange woman into the mix.

Yourman, summon up courage and talk to your brother. The fact that he has the guts to call his side chick in your presence means he doesn't regard your opinion in most things. However, don't let this hang over your conscience. Tell him that you are aware and that it is sad that his wife is sharing him with another woman. You must seek to help him save his marriage.

If you pretend like nothing is wrong and he continues this wickedness, soon he will become careless and the wife would find out. It will happen because no one is a perfect cheat and then problem will start.

If you think you shouldn't talk to him so that you can continue staying in his house and eating his food, then be assured that his home is not a permanent place for you. Anything can come up that would make him ask you to leave later on. The accommodation is not sure.

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Re: MY BROTHER IS Cheating On His Wife by cococandy(f): 6:53am On Jul 05, 2015
NobleG1:
Those telling you to do nothing are nothing but hypocrites!

None of them here would want you to keep quiet if they were in the same shoes with your brother's wife! Cheating is a serious danger to any marriage/relationship, which could either destroy the marriage or cause serious damage to the kids or even cause death (the side chic could kill your bro's wife to takeover).

Your brother is a cheater, he's doing something terrible and if you keep quiet about it, then you're no different from him. Sit your bro's wife down privately and tell her what you observed and she'll be glad that you did. Tell her to investigate and confirm before confronting her husband. Don't fail to let her know the name (Henry) to investigate on her husband's phone.

And advise her to not involve you. She will do everything in her power to protect you while she goes into action mode with her quest. Don't worry about causing any problem, you're doing the right thing. It will change your brother for good and strengthen their marriage when the side-chick is no more in the picture. But if it causes their divorce, don't blame yourself, your brother has himself to blame for being unfaithful, cheating and disrespecting his wife, his kids and his marriage.

Even if you don't tell her, she'll definitely find out soon because cheating can't be hidden for long. And if she also finds out you knew and kept quiet, you'll NEVER be in her good-book.

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Re: MY BROTHER IS Cheating On His Wife by Nobody: 6:53am On Jul 05, 2015
YOURMAN:
Hey people! I don't know if this is the right section for this ..but if its not maybe the mods can help move it to the right section

After my graduation from one of the nigerian universities, I have been staying with my elder brother.. He's the second born as a lady is my parents first born.. But he's the first son.. Age of about 42+.. Before I got admission in school I do stay with him and after my university education, I went back to his place, because his house is big and spacious to contain me .. After about two to three months, I have been going to work with him I noticed something..

There is this number he usually call wen we are going back home in the car.. The way he talks to the person on phone I doubt if its a guy he's talking to.. Because the number is saved with a guys name "henry" but I do hear a ladies voice at the back of the phone.. So I'm wondering..

After my final findings I do discover thats a lady..
Now the big question is my bro got 3 grown up kids.. And a wife..
What should I do? Should I just leave him to move on or tell the wife?? To me I feel that he's still a young flexing man! Maybe he should enjoy it while it last.. Or I should just tell the wife because the wife is cool to me and nice.. What should I do..

Also Note behind.. This my bro.. I do respect and fear him so much.. I can't even dare talk about a lady with him.. As his like a dad to me! So telling me to talk to my bro is out of the solution.. So my fellow people what should I do?
do d needful. .....keep your mouth shut 4 ever. you could end up destroying ur broda home. olofofo.....an amebo an informant does not earn a kobo but thanks

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Re: MY BROTHER IS Cheating On His Wife by cococandy(f): 6:53am On Jul 05, 2015
Phew

I thought everybody had gone insane.

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Re: MY BROTHER IS Cheating On His Wife by DrGroove(f): 6:54am On Jul 05, 2015
Mykelpato:
undecided wetin concern u, Id he's cheating on his wife??


U be Amebo?


Oya tell the wife na and ruin ur brother's marriage, D wife go pack go home





Advice #learn how 2 mind your business
Taaaa! She no go pack anytin.Highest she find "henry" fight am,go church go fast n pray and beg the man.If woman leaves her marriage because of adultery,there will be no marriage

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Re: MY BROTHER IS Cheating On His Wife by captianfreeman(m): 6:59am On Jul 05, 2015
Shezhawt:
"Henry"
grin
How are you?
Re: MY BROTHER IS Cheating On His Wife by hamid641(m): 6:59am On Jul 05, 2015
talk to your brother first if he dnt listen advice him to marry the girl his going wit n as well let his wife know about it
Re: MY BROTHER IS Cheating On His Wife by chigoizie7(m): 7:00am On Jul 05, 2015
Richy4:


Are you stalking her sir?

Why not make your intention known to her and we Nairaland family will give our full support.

I promise you i will buy my own suit for the occasion. And i won't eat much that day wink





Lolz, u won't understand, she de follow my moniker, so, she leads me to many topics.


Just dis morning,I ve 286 topic by people am following,nd she tops d list, that was why I asked.

Btw, when time for d suit comes,I promise,u will b 1st to know.





Hapi sunday
Re: MY BROTHER IS Cheating On His Wife by Nobody: 7:03am On Jul 05, 2015
you will only succeed in destroying your brother's family if you try that, my candid advice is for you to just keep your mouth short and pretend as if you knows nothing about it.
Re: MY BROTHER IS Cheating On His Wife by Emmahunk(m): 7:06am On Jul 05, 2015
For the period you have been with them, neither the wife nor the kids have had cause to complain. That simply means that your brother has been a GOOD HUSBAND AND FATHER!
Now, you want to destroy the joy in the home with your busy body because the wife is cool to you.
Nwoke m, it's high time you left for the village or keep your trap shut. It's not a good thing that he is cheating that is if at all he is as you did not say anything about him keeping late nights or leaving the office often but merely calling a female.

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Re: MY BROTHER IS Cheating On His Wife by unite4real: 7:10am On Jul 05, 2015
Go ahead and break your brother's home. Amebo.
Re: MY BROTHER IS Cheating On His Wife by Ifebazz(m): 7:14am On Jul 05, 2015
NobleG1:


Either you didn't understand what OP posted or you deliberately chose to ignore reality. The guy made it clear, he CAN'T discuss this with his cheating brother because of how their relationship is.

Your statement, "better marriages have survived worse infidelity crisis than mere phone call" is really an ignorant one. Nobody has to cheat and be forgiven in their marriage to 'make it better'! And no marriage needs to survive infidelity to be 'better'! Why cheat in the first place if you want a better marriage?

Cheating in a relationship can occur in various forms: Infidelity, Emotional affair and Adultery.

Infidelity is a violation of a couple’s assumed or stated contract regarding emotional and/or sexual exclusivity.

Emotional affair is an affair between two people that mimics the closeness and emotional intimacy of an affair while never being physically consummated.

Adultery is extramarital sex that is considered objectionable on social, religious, moral or legal grounds.

So when you have an emotional affair with someone outside you relationship, on phone or internet or via letters, even without physical contact, you're cheating!

Nigerian cheating definition is only when sex occurs, which is incorrect and unintelligent.
Either you didn't read the text or you're a relative of West Germany. I believe he said a call my brother made... So if you are that righteous to end your marriage based on 'oyibo man's' assertion of cheating, go ahead and be my guest. Probably, after your 11th marriage you may get it right.
Re: MY BROTHER IS Cheating On His Wife by dwayni: 7:22am On Jul 05, 2015
You're a college graduate? You should focus more in improving your writing and these grammatical errors than worrying about your brother marital issues.
Re: MY BROTHER IS Cheating On His Wife by Btruth: 7:23am On Jul 05, 2015
YOURMAN:
I dey fear him oo! I reaaly cnt summon dt courage to do dat
If you are so much afraid of your brother in this manner, then he's not your brother. And if you can't talk to your brother about it, then forget it. Because if you DARE talk to his wife about this, no one in your family (not only your brother) will forgive you. And it will be in history that you are the one that destroy your brother's home and you can never be trusted with anything confidential, even your personal friends will hide things away from you too.

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Re: MY BROTHER IS Cheating On His Wife by vickylala239: 7:25am On Jul 05, 2015
YOURMAN:
Hey people! I don't know if this is the right section for this ..but if its not maybe the mods can help move it to the right section

After my graduation from one of the nigerian universities, I have been staying with my elder brother.. He's the second born as a lady is my parents first born.. But he's the first son.. Age of about 42+.. Before I got admission in school I do stay with him and after my university education, I went back to his place, because his house is big and spacious to contain me .. After about two to three months, I have been going to work with him I noticed something..

There is this number he usually call wen we are going back home in the car.. The way he talks to the person on phone I doubt if its a guy he's talking to.. Because the number is saved with a guys name "henry" but I do hear a ladies voice at the back of the phone.. So I'm wondering..

After my final findings I do discover thats a lady..
Now the big question is my bro got 3 grown up kids.. And a wife..
What should I do? Should I just leave him to move on or tell the wife?? To me I feel that he's still a young flexing man! Maybe he should enjoy it while it last.. Or I should just tell the wife because the wife is cool to me and nice.. What should I do..

Also Note behind.. This my bro.. I do respect and fear him so much.. I can't even dare talk about a lady with him.. As his like a dad to me! So telling me to talk to my bro is out of the solution.. So my fellow people what should I do?

D wife After dropping 3 does she still look attractive?

or is ha tummy competing wit ha boobi?(fat tummy I Mean).

if she is Nt attractive, tell d wife to up ha game.

U also Hv to knw Dat,Dats sumones marriage ohh.

U Mayb surprise to knw Dat d wife knew already,n she Jst let it b,Cuz I Hv seen such Bfr.

Stay out of sumones marriage, advice the wife to b prayerful n dress better.Rada Dan wrapper.

Also knw Dat ur brodas let u b in Dat Huz,if he didn't u wuldnt Hv seen all Dat.

Sorry if I may ask,Dnt u cheat on ur gf? Or swear Dat u Hv Nt cheated before?

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Re: MY BROTHER IS Cheating On His Wife by otiigba1(m): 7:30am On Jul 05, 2015
Ewuro4:
I can bet my life savings that 99% of comments here will tell OP to 'mind his business' ... so what good will my contrary advice do?

Naija, Naija, NAIJA!!! Na so so front we dey face when June 12 election was canceled and MKO mysteriously died in Aso rock. I don face front oh
o boy! Na wa o! , for una in that country, every advice on here is saying mind your own biz, its bogles the mind how nigerians ignore the truth, and to think nigerians believe they are very Religious, aĺl of them will go to church or even in church today, some may even be commenting while inside church...well make me too face front like every one else lipsrsealed

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Re: MY BROTHER IS Cheating On His Wife by FRANCSCRIB: 7:32am On Jul 05, 2015
Bros e no concern u oh...If u try am na ur head dem go tk pound yam to settle....

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Re: MY BROTHER IS Cheating On His Wife by donkross1(m): 7:32am On Jul 05, 2015
Abi eleyi ti ya wayray ni. You wan kast your own brother
Re: MY BROTHER IS Cheating On His Wife by otiigba1(m): 7:40am On Jul 05, 2015
Wow! Unbelievable! Nigeria a nation full of hypocrites, were every one ignores the truth and applauds infidelity, a nation full of santimonious christians, undecided but wait o! Perhaps i should just join the queue lipsrsealed
Re: MY BROTHER IS Cheating On His Wife by Nobody: 7:47am On Jul 05, 2015
And who told you he's cheating on his wife? Because he makes a call? Because he talks cool, maybe romantic to "henry"? Are you kidding me? I thought I was gonna read something like "I went with my bro to a club and he took this lady to a hotel and when he came out to meet me at the bar, he was like 'mehn! that babe is da bomb!'"
Face your front oo! Last warning.

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Re: MY BROTHER IS Cheating On His Wife by pek(m): 7:51am On Jul 05, 2015
what will you gain telling his wife that you won't gain more telling your brother? But if you can't tell your brother, then move on.
Re: MY BROTHER IS Cheating On His Wife by ollapaul(m): 8:06am On Jul 05, 2015
If your life is okay gal, why residing with your brother. Na crime to assist you? Face front bussybodi lipsrsealed Go to OTA for deliverance
Re: MY BROTHER IS Cheating On His Wife by osakajapan: 8:09am On Jul 05, 2015
YOURMAN:
Hey people! I don't know if this is the right section for this ..but if its not maybe the mods can help move it to the right section

After my graduation from one of the nigerian universities, I have been staying with my elder brother.. He's the second born as a lady is my parents first born.. But he's the first son.. Age of about 42+.. Before I got admission in school I do stay with him and after my university education, I went back to his place, because his house is big and spacious to contain me .. After about two to three months, I have been going to work with him I noticed something..

There is this number he usually call wen we are going back home in the car.. The way he talks to the person on phone I doubt if its a guy he's talking to.. Because the number is saved with a guys name "henry" but I do hear a ladies voice at the back of the phone.. So I'm wondering..

After my final findings I do discover thats a lady..
Now the big question is my bro got 3 grown up kids.. And a wife..
What should I do? Should I just leave him to move on or tell the wife?? To me I feel that he's still a young flexing man! Maybe he should enjoy it while it last.. Or I should just tell the wife because the wife is cool to me and nice.. What should I do..

Also Note behind.. This my bro.. I do respect and fear him so much.. I can't even dare talk about a lady with him.. As his like a dad to me! So telling me to talk to my bro is out of the solution.. So my fellow people what should I do?





you should think about your own life ...can you handle your tuition fees , living expenses and where will you go during your holidays?....never think of creating family problems because it will always remain forever....what ever God join together no man shall put asunder...zip your mouth ..
Re: MY BROTHER IS Cheating On His Wife by 2rivers: 8:11am On Jul 05, 2015
I think the fact that your brother is trying to keep this a secret shows he cares about hurting his wife and others feeling and trust.
Some men commit adultery but deep down they wish wish they can stop. Some men are weak, keep a wrong company and any gold-digging daughter of Eve out there could easily play them like a fiddle.
Some are however downright wicked, uncaring and habitually adulterous. Which one is your bro?
Anyway, its fine you want to help and shows you are not a selfish person. A selfish person will only be worried about how this will affect him only and not care about others.
My own Dad had a child out of wedlock and it really got is mad with him and the scar still lingers till today. He got so careless or bold to the extent that while staying with him during holidays (he worked away from home then), he would bring in ladies to sleep over occasionally. Maybe he thought we were too young to figure it out but we did and reported him to our very close Aunt (mum's sister) who took it up from there.
Like some people said, if your bro persists, a lot of evil can be down the road and he is a danger to himself, the wife or the children. Some women are so wicked and would do anything to get the man completely including murdering the wife, children and even the man if he continues to stick with his family. I know of a case where a woman got herself intentionally and then called the man's pastor and wife when he refused to accept it, blackmailing him everywhere and destroying his reputation.
Do you wish the same for your brother? Maybe you know what you know and is there for such a time like this.
Remember Esther in the bible? She had to intervene even at the risk of her own life. God told her if she doesn't help, deliverance will come from somewhere else, but she and her family will not be spared.
I will not advise telling the wife directly. Talk to your bro. Why fear a man than God? Warn him you will take other steps if he doesn't change and be ready to even move out of his place if necessary.
Pray for wisdom and be sure you are not imagining things.

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Re: MY BROTHER IS Cheating On His Wife by kkboy(m): 8:14am On Jul 05, 2015
I guess you have no job that's why are medlling in issues that are above you.
Re: MY BROTHER IS Cheating On His Wife by Remsilla(m): 8:15am On Jul 05, 2015
Dont be too sure, as ur curious mind may lead u to trouble...
I know of a girl, her name is Henrietta, she use to be my closest female friend back then. Instead of going with her full name, Henrietta she chose Henrie for short. Since we've been callin Henrie from secondary school, i personally decided to save her name as Henry (same pronounciation). U dnt expect our convo on phone to be like when am speakin wid a guy... Wheneva she calls, my course mates will always putit like dis... "ur gay mate is calling"...
OP, u might need to rethink oh.. Its jst an advice, so u dnt get things messed up.

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