My prospective fiancee took it upon herself to tell me she was a virgin (I didn't ask her). Now I just ran into an old schoolmate of hers who told me he caught their teacher bleeping her after hours in a school bathroom.

I don't know what to believe. Is she lying. Or is she a virgin? How can I be sure?

londongal03:

Meaning what? Is she a virgin?

The way you guys turn Nairaland to Ifa, Amadioha and our ancestors sha

Confront her now. Abi

Op you can lie ooo

UnknownT:
The way you guys turn Nairaland to Ifa, Amadioha and our ancestors sha

Actually Nairaland is better than all those.

HOW ON EARTH ARE WE SUPPOSED TO KNOW THE ANSWER TO THIS QUESTION?

dulux07:
Confront her now. Abi

Exactly what I'm thinking of doing. Infact I'll do just that. Let the chips fall where they may.

She told you when you did not ask her. Hmmm, it's a two way thing. There is only one way to find out, confront her. But if you can, bury the past....my advice

IamLEGEND1:
HOW ON EARTH ARE WE SUPPOSED TO KNOW THE ANSWER TO THIS QUESTION?

U R supposed to make suggestions. Two heads are better than one.

Obinovictor:
She told you when you did not ask her. Hmmm, it's a two way thing. There is only one way to find out, confront her. But if you can, bury the past....my advice

I can't. I can't even sleep thinking about it. And she can sense something is wrong. What do I tell her is wrong? I must confront her.

architez:

U R supposed to make suggestions. Two heads are better than one.

So why does it matter if she is a virgin or not?

There's only one way to find out

I'm not quite sure how to go about confronting her. How do I frame the question? Do I take her to a restaurant?
Do I do it in an accusing manner?

It is driving me nuts.

architez:


I can't. I can't even sleep thinking about it. And she can sense something is wrong. What do I tell her is wrong? I must confront her.

You have to be careful and wise about it. It is very possible that her friend told you a lie. Be a man, give it time, delay proposing to her if you've not. The truth will come out soon. Do not destroy your relationship because someone told you something. Wisdom!!!

IamLEGEND1:

So why does it matter if she is a virgin or not?

guy i wonder o,mayb hin wan chop am
#TeamSittingOnTheFence

ivyT:


guy i wonder o,mayb hin wan chop am

#TeamSittingOnTheFence

If he wan enter "Chop&Run mode" then na him problem be dat, but i no understand why some guys dey para for girl's virginity.

She had a life before you came along, and if it just so happens that she has slept with a guy or two, so what?

Who knows how many flings the guy has had?

#NoOneEverQuestionsOurVirginity

dulux07:
Confront her now. Abi

she may lie.


There is only one way 2 find out, pop her cherry

architez:
My prospective fiancee took it upon herself to tell me she was a virgin (I didn't a ask her). Now I just ran into an old schoolmate of hers who told me he caught their teacher bleeping her after hours in a school bathroom.

I don't know what to believe. Is she lying. Or is she a virgin? How can I be sure?

why did the old schoolmate tell you that? is he quarelling with her

or did it just come up out of coincidence

Google no dey ur fone?

architez:


I can't. I can't even sleep thinking about it. And she can sense something is wrong. What do I tell her is wrong? I must confront her.

Some guys eh!!!!!

you are having sleepless nights because their is a possibility that your fianceè may not be a virgin?
You, are a virgin?

If it turns out that she lied, it's probably because of ur judgemental attitude.

And because of ur pessimism, you were quick to believe her classmate from 80yrs ago who related a tale that may or may not have happened.

Do u know how many of those stories about girls circulated around during my sec. schl days?
99.9% turned out to be lies.

#AreYouALearner?

I'm laffing tears because...if you're honest about ur post then how the hell are strangers gonna decide what you should do to your FIANCEE to find out?!

And if you're lying...

u no fit ask ha ni abi u dey fear ha ni

IamLEGEND1:


Some guys eh!!!!!

you are having sleepless nights because their is a possibility that your fianceè may not be a virgin?
You, are a virgin?

If it turns out that she lied, it's probably because of ur judgemental attitude.

And because of ur pessimism, you were quick to believe her classmate from 80yrs ago who related a tale that may or may not have happened.

Do u know how many of those stories about girls circulated around during my sec. schl days?
99.9% turned out to be lies.

#AreYouALearner?

No, I'm not judgmental at all. I don't mind her not being a virgin, if so. I MIND HER TELLING LIES.
I don't want to believe her schoolmate, but he has absolutely no reason to lie.

Gurgle:


why did the old schoolmate tell you that? is he quarelling with her

or did it just come up out of coincidence

That's the whole point. He had nothing to lie about. He thought I knew the story. He was simply happy that she got beyond all that mess. I hid my shock. I pretended I already knew about it. I didn't ask for details. I actually think he said "closet" not "bathroom".

Things we see on nairaland shaa. And he said she is his prospective "fiancee".





Nkan nbe

Obinovictor:


You have to be careful and wise about it. It is very possible that her friend told you a lie. Be a man, give it time, delay proposing to her if you've not. The truth will come out soon. Do not destroy your relationship because someone told you something. Wisdom!!!

Thanks bro. But I can't. I can't give it time. I have made up my mind to confront her tomorrow. I just have to work out how to do it.

IamLEGEND1:


So why does it matter if she is a virgin or not?

It doesn't matter much to me, to tell u the truth. IT MATTERS TO ME SHE COULD BE A LIAR. I just don't want someone who would lie so easily without being prompted, for no reason at all.

architez:


It doesn't matter much to me, to tell u the truth. IT MATTERS TO ME SHE COULD BE A LIAR. I just don't want someone who would lie so easily without being prompted, for no reason at all.

i'm glad you used

She "COULD" be.

Personally, even with the possibility of her not being a virgin and lieing to me.....

i'll just let it slide.

Bcoz i know say i no holy pass.

and neither are you.

but if you choose to confront her, datz ur choice.

U simply gave yourself d stress of asking her old school mate about it or how else would d guy have told u that without u asking .....D decision is therefore urs to make at dis point.