No.. He is very confident.... U dnt need to worry..

Are you harsh towards him?

Is your voice loud and hard?

Does he go to a boarding school?

Let's start from there.

Ur son is a smart one. Let him live his life the way he likes it

Looks like he is scared of you. You might need to readjust how you treat him at home. You'll figure out what works.

Cutehector:
No.. He is very confident.... U dnt need to worry..

This man is right, and besides teachers are always different from mothers you get his attention by being his friend and loose his confidence by acting like his teacher which means don't shout or cane him to read or write at home

obviously the problem is at home, not with your son.

libertyfather:


This man is right, and besides teachers are always different from mothers you get his attention by being his friend and loose his confidence by acting like his teacher which means don't shout or cane him to read or write at home

I had such an experience wen I was teachin in a primary school.. Dr used to be dis kid, naturally, he is very quiet alone buh wen he is wit his frnds, he lis lively and performs well... If u keep him alone in d class and teach him, he won't even understand a bit u r sayn and will look very sober.. I noticed this and told d headteacher to put him in another class wit his frnds.. He started pickn up..

Cutehector:
I had such an experience wen I was teachin in a primary school.. Dr used to be dis kid, naturally, he is very quiet alone buh wen he is wit his frnds, he lis lively and performs well... If u keep him alone in d class and teach him, he won't even understand a bit u r sayn and will look very sober.. I noticed this and told d headteacher to put him in another class wit his frnds.. He started pickn up..

That's one hell of a problem we are having in most schools teachers are in the best position to put the parents through with the kids learning situation, but when u get to them and complain they will show u the what he or she has been doing in class to cover up their ass not knowing the best performance of a child should be both in school and home, all schools suppose to have daily performance book for parent to check mate their children when they get home.....anyway my own problem is my 3years old girl always don't want to go to sch not that she do cry on her way to sch but says that when she get up from bed, I don't know if that's an issue anyway

Teempakguy:
Are you harsh towards him?

Is your voice loud and hard?

Does he go to a boarding school?

Let's start from there.

sometimes my voice could be high, but draw him closer when am calm. he doesn't go to a boarding school. Are there boarding schools for a 4yrs old

thelish:
sometimes my voice could be high, but draw him closer when am calm. he doesn't go to a boarding school. Are there boarding schools for a 4yrs old

right. You know, I think your son is highly intelligent and as such, he keeps to himself in the absense of academics.

As he grows older, his behavior will change.

libertyfather:


That's one hell of a problem we are having in most schools teachers are in the best position to put the parents through with the kids learning situation, but when u get to them and complain they will show u the what he or she has been doing in class to cover up their ass not knowing the best performance of a child should be both in school and home, all schools suppose to have daily performance book for parent to check mate their children when they get home.....anyway my own problem is my 3years old girl always don't want to go to sch not that she do cry on her way to sch but says that when she get up from bed, I don't know if that's an issue anyway

lol u are very true... Ah mean, teachers are paid to figure out the child's problems right? Buh the schooling system is so so bad.. Kids are taught the same things u and I were taught during our days.. D same ba ba black sheep, hav u any wool, yes sir yes sir three black wool loool over and ova again.. D same old roger is dead and gone to the grave, the same method of countin numbers...


Little wonder parents send thr kids to all these expensiv private schools, its because the teachers must under go psycology training for children so they can be able to understand behavioral patterns in children and how best they can help d child to know his or her strengths..


Sir, trust me, I won't lie to u, most primary school teachers don't knw hw to teach kids... Take it from me as someone who has been in d school system.. I used to work as d principal's secretary and I tell u, some of these teachers aren't helpin matters..

Maybe I"d blame it on their low salary.

deniyor:
Looks like he

is scared of you. You might need to readjust how you treat him at home. You'll figure out what works.

He can bear pains as well. There was a day, the dad mistakenly jam the door against his hand, every other would scream or shout to alert his dad, but my son kept quiet there bearing the pain while his hand was still strapped to d door. It was so annoying that I had to spank him for keeping quiet.

thelish:

He can bear pains as well. There was a day, the dad mistakenly jam the door against his hand, every other would scream or shout to alert his dad, but my son kept quiet there bearing the pain while his hand was still strapped to d door. It was so annoying that I had to spank him for keeping quiet.

STOP SPANKING HIM!



I'm not so fond of telling people what to do but I can tell you the consequences of child abuse.

First off.
He's already withdrawn and afraid to share or voice out his feelings either pain or joy. He trusts his peers more than you cuz they can only do little to hurt him unlike you who always spank him at every opportunity.

Excuse me if I say this but you are only a beast who takes out her frustration on the poor kid.

So you need to STOP SPANKING HIM!

Kids thrive in a conducive environment that is enveloped in love and care and that is what your role as a parent entails. Naturally as a mother, you are supposed to bond with your kids better than the farther whose is supposed to be out there as the bread winner. Instead you have become a cruel police woman.

I'll tell you another reason you need to STOP SPANKING HIM, he might grow up detached from you or even dislike you. He might even start rebelling against you as soon as he's big enough. So you now see why you need to start bonding and become more friendly. Caution him with words and except he's done really done something really bad STOP SPANKING HIM!

he can keep quiet for a 2yrs old boy to bite his forehead. anybody, be it junior, agemate, senior can oppress him n take his thing, he will not talk but will be pained inside of him. The whole thing looks like hereditary to me. But how can I help him speak up when he needs to

thelish:
please, how can I help my 4yrs old son overcome fear?. He seems to be very free outside, but keep to himself at home. Before his holiday, I went to his school to confront them, because he couldn't answer a question from his book, but my son fall my hand right there. he was reading all what he refused to read at home. pls I need help. he seems to lack self confidence. I tried to reduce my shouting at him in order to draw him close to myself, but there is still no improvement yet.
Thanks

You terrorize the poor chap. Now he's scared of you.

Try not to shut him up whenever he tries talk to you. Always try to ask for his opinion on things that you're sure he likes. And encourage his friends to come and play with him at homen

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Young children are still discovering the
world that they live in. Their imagination is
developing and hence whatever they see/
hear in real life can result in formation of
scary mental images.


There's nothing wrong with being a little
reserved. But if feeling shy keeps a child
from enjoying new experiences and doing
the things he truly wants to do, it can be a
problem.

I think Talking to your child will definitely
make him feel more comfortable. Let your
child share his fear with you. Ask him to
explain what is it that he is scared of and
why? Let him explain how he felt. Show him
your concern while he discusses his fear
with you. Tell him how you were also scared
of several things as a child. This empathy will
definitely strengthen your bond with your
child as he starts believing that you care and
are concerned about his feelings.

Maybe there is something or someone in your home that he is scared off. try and talk to him and assure him that you won't beat him if he confides in you.

Maybe u are very harsh.....or he sees u shout often at odas

Whah abt his father??
Are you divorced?
Buh truss meh, he's a great kiddo, you might wanna check yourself.

With love and care!

1) Stop shouting on him
2) Stop too much of beating
3) Talk to him as a mother and a friend
4) Make him understand that fear is man's greatest enemy and fear kills faster than anything in the world.
5) Google out for ways on how to overcome fear and teach him.



My 2 cents.

be more friendly wit him