tearoses:


Me too oooooo
Even Ewuro and Dami are beginning to sound strange
Must be something in the water on this thread

BTW whats an alpha widow please?

A female who preys on men in every way
Brings him down then sends him to the grave

tearoses:
You people make marriage sound as if one is going to war
Too theoretical
When does one enjoy the marriage when one is so serious about the whole thing
Do this do that, dont do this and dont do that
We are all human
Human nature and theory dont always go hand in hand

But this is not solely about marriage as in "being in it", but the run up to it. It's like competing in sports. In boxing we have a saying, "train hard, box easy". You will have amuch better experience with optimal preparedness. Talking of war, the bible counsels "first counting the cost".

Most of the female advice has been "just go with your heart". Or along the lines of "whoever their brother chooses". First truth is that if said brother comes home with a single-mum divorcee, who is older than him and living on benefits, I'm sure he will hear it .

Secondly people don't just fall in love. At a conscious or subconscious level we have preferences and are desires are not random, being at least partially informed. Women in particualr can be quite strategic about who they fall in love with.

tearoses:
Leave TV01 with his grammer, We are used to him. I read his posts in segments. I read One segment, grab dico, digest, then rest for 5 minutes, then read another segment. - I would love to be a fly on the wall when he is telling his kids off and see the blank expression on their faces

You'd be amazed. Little man is barely 3, yet tells me off daily. I'm always hearing "that's not correct daddy", or don't be silly daddy ! I'm doing lots of "Ah! Ah's" in my head - although loving his sharpness when he points things out .


TV

tearoses:
BTW whats an alpha widow please?

Simply put, it's a woman who has, or is used to dating big boys, but who ultimately can't get one to commit to her long-term (marriage). She has to settle for someone of lower status, but as is to be expected she typically feels disgruntled with her lot.

This can mean a hard time for the man in the marriage, suffering everything from a lack of real respect, "dragging", nagging, her not willing to fully please him sexually etc. At worst, it can mean he gets cuckolded or she "wexits". Happens a lot in the West now, as she will keep his provisioning, but be able to ditch him. Usual watery excuses or contrived claims to rationalise it.

Men typically have looser criteria for a casual relationship. So women may date "higher", but be forced to marry lower. Women like this have a tendency to leave if someone of higher status comes along - often citing things like the current one "lacks ambition" as an excuse.


TV

naijababe:
It's either I am incredibly naive or I am an alien...........many posits on this thread are just so strange to me

Different people different experience different outlook

Good, TV's description of alpha widow does justice to the term; the woman who couldn't lock down Plan A and so had to settle for Plan B.

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The topics under discussion here, at least the most recent ones I've seen, are directed specifically to men but because this is an open forum there is a tendency that many will refute it as it goes against the popular modern day conditioning that most of us are steeped in... but it's a beautiful thing to see that men (albeit a few) are beginning to awake.

Theories up and down...

Long speeches everywhere...


What happened to LOVE?

Love no longer exist?


This thread is depressing...

keppyy:
Theories up and down...

Long speeches everywhere...

What happened to LOVE?

Love no longer exist?

This thread is depressing...

Follow your heart my dear...marriage is not a game of chess; if it were, only mathematicians would have happy marriages.

TV01:



Secondly people don't just fall in love. At a conscious or subconscious level we have preferences and are desires are not random, being at least partially informed. Women in particualr can be quite strategic about who they fall in love with.

Kasa! TV is on fire. You jus dey drop bombs left, right and centre.

Kimoni:


Follow your heart my dear...marriage is not a game of chess; if it were, only mathematicians would have happy marriages.

I'll definitely do that...

keppyy:
Theories up and down...

Long speeches everywhere...


What happened to LOVE?

Love no longer exist?


This thread is depressing...

Toodles....

pickabeau1:


Toodles....

I'm interested in you.

Your "thought" process...

May I ask some questions?

keppyy:



I'm interested in you.

Your "thought" process...

May I ask some questions?

You may ask ma'am
Its however optional to answer some or all of the questions..

Who has seen sabotage

Bellong u will love it

pickabeau1:


You may ask ma'am
Its however optional to answer some or all of the questions..

Who has seen sabotage

Bellong u will love it

I've seen sabotage...#MovieAddict


I'm a girl...

Are you married or in a relationship?

If No, Do you hate women?

If Yes, Why?

Keppyy

I don't hate women
I am a lover, not a fighter...

Haba...why do u think I will be a hater

Sabotage... Damn....somehow I hated Arnold at the end

Hallelujah!!!

But Keppy, are you trying to beat the master at his own game?? Because I am so used to Pick asking all the questions during a debate.

Amma watch this from the sidelines

pickabeau1:
Keppyy

I don't hate women
I am a lover, not a fighter...

Haba...why do u think I will be a hater

Sabotage... Damn....somehow I hated Arnold at the end

Okay...You sound more like a fighter...

You need to relax a little bit...Your posts about women are almost 99% negative.



Yes, sabotage had a weak end.

keppyy:



Okay...You sound more like a fighter...

You need to relax a little bit...Your posts about women are almost 99% negative.

Yes, sabotage had a weak end.

Lol.....sounds ...maybe not the real thing

Just like okada using molue horn.... Lol

Where are the negativity about women in my posts....moreso do u mean this thread or the section or forum at large?

Now I am piqued



Sabotage was a good film..
But what spoilt it for me was the fact he stole the Money

pickabeau1:


Lol.....sounds ...maybe not the real thing

Just like okada using molue horn.... Lol

Where are the negativity about women in my posts....moreso do u mean this thread or the section or forum at large?

Now I am piqued



Sabotage was a good film..
But what spoilt it for me was the fact he stole the Money

Not just this thread but your comments in this forum.

If you are not what you portray then that's fake.

Because our words here make or break people and it's unfair to put up an act.

Kimoni:
Hallelujah!!!

But Keppy, are you trying to beat the master at his own game?? Because I am so used to Pick asking all the questions during a debate.

Amma watch this from the sidelines

No game at all.

keppyy:
Theories up and down...

Long speeches everywhere...


What happened to LOVE?

Love no longer exist?


This thread is depressing...

I feel you!

keppyy:



Not just this thread but your comments in this forum.

If you are not what you portray then that's fake.

Because our words here make or break people and it's unfair to put up an act.

Shuo.....see me see accusation

I am surprised hearing that my comments are being interpreted as hateful to women

Please can you give illustrations of such
Let me see if I may have not communicated clearly

And no my posts are not fake...You must have misread my previous post

I said maybe the posts may sound harsh but they are not if you have an open mind not that they are fake.

pickabeau1:



Shuo.....see me see accusation

I am surprised hearing that my comments are being interpreted as hateful to women

Please can you give illustrations of such
Let me see if I may have not communicated clearly

And no my posts are not fake...You must have misread my previous post

I said maybe the posts may sound harsh but they are not if you have an open mind not that they are fake.

I'm sorry, I misread your other posts...

keppyy:



I'm sorry, I misread your other posts...

Haba nau.....i said maybe you misread however I may have unwittingly written some hateful stuff which is why I said I would like some illustrations of such

I no accept sorry..

pickabeau1:


Haba nau.....i said maybe you misread however I may have unwittingly written some hateful stuff which is why I said I would like some illustrations of such

I no accept sorry..

I know we have different opinions about issues but your opinions are always against women...

In cases where you don't give your opinion, you endorse your 'type' of remark written by someone else...

It's just my observation...I can't start going through past posts but I'll sure point out future ones to you...

innervoice:


I feel you!

It will be nice to see you post more often....

Honestly a lot of things said here are just depressing
. . .Or am I just being naive

I am being made to beleive that women generally speaking are scheming bitchess who wake up in the morning and get their pen and pad out and scheme how they are going to make a mans life as difficult as possible.
Boy if we were that "clever", we will be ruling the world by now

I know that bad news sells fast and we all know at least one man who has been chewed and spat out by a woman, but for every bitten man there are thousands of happy men out there.

I dont think that its as hard as we are painting it here. Coach TV I say I am lucky becasue neither oga or I did half of the security checks/CIA incestigation/DNA genetic checks to the 6th generation that some of you are proposing. I just saw the guy and liked him
Something that helped clinch the deal for me. was something a simple as him picking up an item of clothing from the floor. That made me realise that he genuingly cared for my items and therefore me. Its sounds really stupid but I knew in my bones that he was the one.
In todays CSI checks is that not very silly of me and im just very lucky?

. . . . .or in actual fact one just knows Miss/Mr Right deep down in them and all this theory doesnt always work?

My concern is that with all this theory, a man/woman might see someone who may be right for them but loose out becasue they are looking for a specific specie.

I am not the exact same person my husband married all those years ago and I continue to improve. . . . I think

@tearoses i don't blame you dear and i honelstly don't blame the guys.

The only issue i had was the "age" factor because if you have a look at the romance section,you will feel nothing but pity for these men.Most of them are in their late 20s early 30s here and the girls they are planning on marrying are in their early 20s.

See what they are all about right now....written by their brothers in romance section.

It's really annoying that a lot of Ladies these days place too much emphasis on their physical attributes, which might includes their body shape, facial appeal, breast size, and buttocks size....etc.
And they tend to invest all their energy and time, developing those areas of themselves and they pay less cognizance to other aspects of themselves that need development.

Most of them see their looks as their essential charm for attracting men. They have this false perception of it as the only thing men want, and they forget that physical appearance isn't a prerequisite for obtaining the love and complete respect of a man.

So when they go into a relationship with a guy, the guy will notice a gross level of deficiency in other areas of self so he would unconsciously develop the mindset that sex is all there is to gain from having a relationship with her.

In addition to this, most ladies make the mistake of victimizing themselves.
When they meet a guy for the first time all they focus on is to make the guy notice how sexy they are and that's the only thing they sell about themselves.

In such situations, after the guy has had sex with them and tasted their bodily pleasures, they won't see any other reason to take them seriously, since, obviously there is no other important use they can be of.

Even as humans, we tend to be attracted to people who have something we can gain from, despite the gender of the person.
We tend to want to be associated with people who have something to offer, people who can be of help to us in areas we fall short in, people who would enrich our lives in different ways.

With the rise of feminists,(equal rights,abolition of headship,the abhorrence of the word "housewife",etc......) I wish them nothing but LUCK...

The young shall grow and they are not smiling.....

keppyy:


I know we have different opinions about issues but your opinions are always against women...

In cases where you don't give your opinion, you endorse your 'type' of remark written by someone else...

It's just my observation...I can't start going through past posts but I'll sure point out future ones to you...

Ok...this is news to me....

I hope this is not linked to you cooking or not cooking for your hubby

@ Keppyy, you do realise the concept of love is a fantasy, right? It doesn't exist.

@ Tearoses, welcome to the awakening. And, yes, women do scheme.

To the womynz: For those who had/have faith in potential. What happens when the potential doesn't come good?

Edwife, the housewife is going to become a thing in the west in the near future. Many western women are wising up to the negativity of feminism and the only reason you don't hear of anti-feminist women is because the MSM won't give them airtime. If both sides were given a fair platform, feminism would die a natural death.

For those having epiphanies and saying depression
I wonder why...

This is only but a logical conclusion of what is going on

When a kid says he does not want to marry because a woman will take all his money

When kids see how some women use the law to maltreat men

When a guy sees the girl he loves going out with aristos because he is not loaded at the moment....u expect him not to do same

If the truth is so depressing to you...sorry but one has to realistic

Timbuktou:
Edwife, the housewife is going to become a thing in the west in the near future. Many western women are wising up to the negativity of feminism and the only reason you don't hear of anti-feminist women is because the MSM won't give them airtime. If both sides were given a fair platform, feminism would die a natural death.

It's a thing in the west already,just that many don't talk about it.It is not because they want to but the cost of living here.Staying at home is a good bargain than working considering the cost of childcare.

As for our Nigerians sisters,it is not the case.Did you read the last thread created about housewives?and it was created by a man for that matter.