Kimoni:


She will serve you but never dish the food because you have your own hands??

If I may ask oga, are those hands of yours immuned from serving yourself??

And you think you are any different from the man in question

I can serve myself. I don't mind. I never said it's a must that she must serve me. If let's say she is busy or not around, i can go serve myself. But if she is not, then she serves me or put the food in plate and give our kids to bring for me. I do cook and serve my girl when she comes around. No big deal in it.

dinachi:

Pray you dont fall into that category of women cursed with eternal foolishness. Pray tell why should a woman serving her husband have issues with it?

Pray tell why a man would insist on his food to be served/dished at all times when his wife is busy with other important matters of the home

If that is not foolish, unreasonable, daft, dumb and retarded. I don't know what else is

I thought couples are meant to eat together sef

oreos:


Pray you don't end up with a werey

And You need therapy.

Missed entirely! Just pray you dont get a divorce over a well prepared and delicious egusi soup not properly served!
Only foolish,bigoted,shortsighted and idiotic women fail to understand that serving ones husband is an act of love, care and devotion to the man you love most.

oreos:


You have quoted him out of context

I can't even believe she/he/it can't differenciate between "will" and "must".

dinachi:

Missed entirely! Just pray you dont get a divorce over a well prepared and delicious egusi soup not properly served!
Only foolish,bigoted,shortsighted and idiotic women fail to understand that serving ones husband is an act of love, care and devotion to the man you love most.

Dumbasss, most marriages are not borne out of love.

I hope you do not get your balls stifled and your eyes gouged out for selfishness and lack of respect

Only a stupi.d, retard.ed, dumb, daft, shortsighted, foolish man would think that his wife's failure to serve/dish his food was borne out of lack of love and care and devotion. A man with even the lowest IQ would understand that his wife cannot afford to wait on him at all times.

@op, I suspect the husband of the lady in your story is a yoruba man cos most Yoruba men still have this strong desire for their ancient traditional spousal domination kind of marriage requirements.

And I bet the lady(complainant) was aware of the man's desires even before she got married to him. Hence I'd advise she does only what pleases him as proof of her true love for him. Shikenan!

byvan03:



The post was direct and simple for anyone that chose to read and comprehend it for what it is. You brought your what ifs dimensions which is of no relevance to my original post. My post talks of what is, not what ifs.

Where in my post did I write what ifs...na wa oo just leave matter it's ok.

dinachi:

Missed entirely! Just pray you dont get a divorce over a well prepared and delicious egusi soup not properly served!
Only foolish,bigoted,shortsighted and idiotic women fail to understand that serving ones husband is an act of love, care and devotion to the man you love most.

the problem is not about serving men. most women serve their husbands.

the incident occurred while the woman was busy with chores. An understanding man will go ahead and serve himself or help out with the chores.

everyone has different opinions and its very immature to insult people because their views oppose yours. your comment is the most disgusting comment in this thread.

sinizia:


I can't even believe she/he/it can't differenciate between "will" and "must".

Ignore her

sinizia:


I can serve myself. I don't mind. I never said it's a must that she must serve me. If let's say[b] she is busy or not around[/b], i can go serve myself. But if she is not, then she serves me or put the food in plate and give our kids to bring for me. I do cook and serve my girl when she comes around. No big deal in it.

Gbam! The woman was busy in this situation. I don't understand the arguments in this thread are for.

dinachi:

Missed entirely! Just pray you dont get a divorce over a well prepared and delicious egusi soup not properly served!
Only foolish,bigoted,shortsighted and idiotic women fail to understand that serving ones husband is an act of love, care and devotion to the man you love most.

I am not going to get married to a man with a two digits IQ so I won't and can't have a divorce over something so flimsy.: D

raayah:


the problem is not about serving men. most women serve their husbands.

the incident occurred while the woman was busy with chores. An understanding man will go ahead and serve himself or help out with the chores.

everyone has different opinions and its very immature to insult people because their views oppose yours. your comment is the most disgusting comment in this thread.

You still missed it again. Nothing absolutely nothing should be more important than your husband. Those chores can wait until your husband is properly served. Any smart woman who loves and TRULY cherishes her husband will readily see this. Get it into your skull no chore is more important than your husband. This matter is as straightforward as they come. The woman in question completely erred. And when it is your husbands turn to do his due diligence no chore should stop him.

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oreos:


I am not going to get married to a man with a two digits IQ so I won't and can't have a divorce over something so flimsy.: D

You may not get married to any person at all with this bigoted, proud, untrained mentality showing a woman who is too full of herself to serve her husbands food. In this matter, you display a total lack of IQ. Women like you get divorced easily and roam the streets and nairaland blaming men, the world and God for their self inflicted misfortune.

dinachi:

You may not get married to any person at all with this bigoted, proud, untrained mentality showing a woman who is too full of herself to serve her husbands food. In this matter, you display a total lack of IQ. Women like you get divorced easily and roam the streets and nairaland blaming men, the world and God for their self inflicted misfortune.

You may not get married to any one at all with this your dumb_, stupid_, retarde.d way of thinking. Men like you get divorced easily and lead miserable life. Men like you who are so full of themselves and who also think marriage defines a woman end up living a miserable life. You may not get a divorced but your children who definitely not give a fvck about whether you are dead or alive.

Oh! If you are searching about women who can't do without blaming men, look in the mirror darling. That is your speciality.

learn

Joy1706:

I tell u. By God's grace, I'll never raise men like this.

I mean it's not as if these male terrorists have amounted to being world powers with their excesses
Instead they have created a backward and depressing society for their women and children.
When it comes to woman, dem get power

gokuu:
[b]I can't even believe we are still discussing this in the 21st century. [/b]He should even be grateful that you woke early to make something in the first place. The thing is, while I am a 21st century liberal, most Nigerian men are extreme conservatives with obnoxious ideas of a woman's role. I think some women also encourage such behavior. You need to stand up for your dignity, If he is truly hungry he will eat.
As for those saying it is grounds for "eating outside," a man that will cheat will cheat.
xoxo.

most women encourage the behavior.
most nigerian male cannot love until the woman is in her most vulnerable, subservient state, stripped of dignity and honor.
Demonic love

raayah:


lol.. my baby crying or food burning or using the bathroom is less important than serving your husband.

i will serve my husband but if i cannot do it, i expect him to understand. What if i were ill, wont he eat.

i pity your wife.

Pity your own miserable life full of bitterness before you think of the Angel that so readily complements my life.
Enjoy your divorce occasioned by your foolish pride and unrestrained bitterness.
Only a foolish women considers chores more important than their husbands. And I hope you wont mind when he has important chores with his secretary while ignoring you. Hope you wont mind when he ignores your requests and focuses on the important chore of watching his favorite football matches. Hope you wont mind when he ignores your request for money and focuses on the very important chore of driving to work. My dear prioritize your life. YOUR HUSBAND COMES FIRST AFTER GOD. So when it comes to serve him food unburden yourself from every chore and do the needful

oreos:


You may not get married to any one at all with this your dumb_, stupid_, retarde.d way of thinking. Men like you get divorced easily and lead miserable life. Men like you who are so full of themselves and who also think marriage defines a woman end up living a miserable life. You may not get a divorced but your children who definitely not give a fvck about whether you are dead or alive.

Oh! If you are searching about women who can't do without blaming men, look in the mirror darling. That is your speciality.

Sorry that bus has moved with beautiful kids. But you are free to continue in your foolish pride and die at shiloh calling for Gods intervention when you clock fifty years.Or you can open your dark heart now and learn. The choice is yours. A foolish woman pulls down her house with her hands while a wise woman builds her own house. The choice is yours between foolery and wisdom.
And this matter is between married peeps, if marriage is not a priority for you may God grant your request and may you die single.

sinizia:

Sir, I'm not "wife-wrapper" or a "woman pleaser". I'm not here to please any woman on earth or NL. I've a moral conduct/compass, a conscience and a common sense that would never allow me to treat a fellow human like a slave much more my own wife/mother of my kids. My main grouse is not that the wife dishes his food, but the fact that even when the wife is extremely busy the arrogant man insisted she must dish his food ALREADY served to him.


I started visiting my grand parents from 7-years-old and have never seen my grandmom dish the food she had already served my granddad. Does that make my granddad a "wife-wrapper" too? Does that make my dad a "wife-wrapper" too? Even if it makes them one would you prefer them to be "wife-wrapper" to another lady but their own wives? So if your wife was busy tending to your baby that's just defecated while trying to bath and prepare for work, you'll call her from your sitting room from wherever she is ONLY for her to come and DISH you a meal she's ALREADY served you? Dafuq?!! What kind of wickedness is this?!!


OMG!! My pity goes out to various women in bondage all in the name of being tagged a "Mrs." I pray my sisters, cousins, nieces and future daughters NEVER meet or settle down with your kind, Amen!!

My future wife will serve my food but will NEVER dish it out for me for i have my hands and that's how i was raised, and if that makes me a "wife-wrapper" to my OWN WIFE, then on this day, let it be known that i, Sinizia, claim the title unabashed, and i'll die a "wife-wrapper" to the mother of unborn kids. To hell with the ego and tradition!!

I will not even mind at all serving this kind of person.
God will give you a great wife that will love to do anything for you by her own self-will, not because you are demanding it or she feels threatened you will cheat.

dinachi:

Sorry that bus has moved with beautiful kids. But you are free to continue in your foolish pride and die at shiloh calling for Gods intervention when you clock fifty years.Or you can open your dark heart now and learn. The choice is yours. A foolish woman pulls down her house with her hands while a wise woman builds her own house. The choice is yours between foolery and wisdom.
And this matter is between married peeps, if marriage is not a priority for you may God grant your request and may you die single.

I came alone so why should it be a problem to die alone

The beautiful kids will soon pluck out your eyes and rip out your heart with their indifference towards you. It is only a matter of time. Wait for it.

A stupid_, retarded_, arrogant man pull down his home when he decides to put himself first instead of his home. They can choose to compromise for the home or have regrets in future. It is their choice to make.

oreos:


The beautiful kids will soon pluck out your eyes and rip out your heart with their indifference towards you. It is only a matter of time. Wait for it.

Exactly the way you rips out the hearts and plucks out the eyes of your parents. This here is a clear pointer that you came out from a hate filled and bitter family. No wonder you do not see any man worthy of being properly served his food by his wife. Father issues!

oreos:

I came alone so why should it be a problem to die alone.

Perfect, as you wish yourself single may God grant your request.

oreos:

A stupid_, retarded_, arrogant man pull down his home when he decides to put himself first instead of his home. They can choose to compromise for the home or have regrets in future. It is their choice to make.

Another bigoted rant from a bitter,twisted woman who plucks out the eyes and rips out the hearts of her parents.
Kpele oh!
Who only sees arrogance in men who are well taken care of by their lovely wives!
A joy oreos will never know as she moves about in nairaland blaming men and God for her self inflicted misfortunes.

babygirlfl:
Did I read it right? Are we talking about Oga dishing food that is in front of him?

It seems the wife is a housewife. I don't see the man asking the wife to dish food that is already served if she too was getting ready for work at the same time. It does not make Oga right but at least he will have an excuse.

From the fb replies, it is clear most women don't pamper their husband because they love and adore him but because they are scared another woman will take their place. Yet the said men still jump from one woman to another claiming men are polygamous. Just how these women live their life like that beats me. So sad.

I agree with you 100%. Some women treat their husbands nicely not out of love but just because they don't want another woman to take their place.

You are now seeking advice from an external source huh? Pray your marriage don't crash when all these feminist and woman empowerment ish people brainwashes you. Go and take care of ur home.

cococandy:

As in.

Nwoke madu food dey your front. carry am put for your plate like a normal person, he refused.

Ngwanu madam dish it for him to avoid wahala, she's on Facebook making a fuss.

I think it's unnecessary bringing such a trivial matter to the social media. For me she didn't try but I'm surprised some people don't think there's something wrong with the man's behavior.

Even rejecting food because it was in front of you and not put on your plate? That's abnormal.
Why can't we just call a spade a spade.
His behavior isn't normal.

if you no need your husband others do

oreos:


Pray tell why a man would insist on his food to be served/dished at all times when his wife is busy with other important matters of the home

If that is not foolish, unreasonable, daft, dumb and retarded. I don't know what else is

I think women should be in charge of minor issues like this while men focus on the bigger issues. I'm a married man, and I'm so consumed with bigger issues. First is providing for everyone in my home.
The issues I worry about are macro compared to what happens in the kitchen. I'm busy thinking about the best solutions to the war in Syria. I'm thinking about why the price of limestone dropped in the stock market and what that means to various economies in the world, why Mexico's tomato production declined Q2 2015 compared to analysts' expectations. Should I be the same person worried about spoons and kitchen affairs?

i was not suprised when i came in...I know its the thread you will find those 35 year old divorced feminist with a bitter life trying to find cute young girls to derail and go down the path they went with their unhappy feminist life that left them lonely and un happy...

I fit even out TV insid kitchen for u make u deh sleep there.lol

dont come here asking if you should dish him...if you like dont cook for him na...

PS...even their oga is still on the thread after commenting hours ago...no be me say make ur life no deh happy oo.to deh try convince young girls about being feminist just show say u nor happy wit ur own life self.

seanjy4konji:
i was not suprised when i came in...I know its the thread you will find those 35 year old divorced feminist with a bitter life trying to find cute young girls to derail and go down the path they went with their unhappy feminist life that left them lonely and un happy...

dont come here asking if you should dish him...if you like dont cook for him na...

PS...even their oga is still on the thread after commenting hours ago...no be me say make ur life no deh happy oo.to deh try convince young girls about being feminist just show say u nor happy wit ur own life self.

Don't mind them. Misery needs company.

Yes boss...we met it on earth..person going down the drain always wanna pull someone along.

SmartMugu:

Don't mind them. Misery needs company.

I am against child marriages for obvious reasons.

SmartMugu:


I think women should be in charge of minor issues like this while men focus on the bigger issues. I'm a married man, and I'm so consumed with bigger issues. First is providing for everyone in my home.
The issues I worry about are macro compared to what happens in the kitchen. I'm busy thinking about the best solutions to the war in Syria. I'm thinking about why the price of limestone dropped in the stock market and what that means to various economies in the world, why Mexico's tomato production declined Q2 2015 compared to analysts' expectations. Should I be the same person worried about spoons and kitchen affairs?

Wow! You are not smart.

What does Mexico have to do with your home? What does those stupid things have to do with your personal activities? In fact, you should stop bathing sef or going yo work. Just wake up and start thinking about it. And to think you consider them macro, you are indeed not smart.

You must be so daft to think all women do not worry about those issues or do you intend to marry a dummy?



Whatever you do for the sake of your home is not macro nor micro. You are doing in it for the sake of your home same as your wife. Your wife resolve to cook and take care of the home do not make her role in the house micro infact you should be grateful to her because she is the one holding the family together. Where family is concerned. All hands should be on deck it does not matter whether or not she or you are the one doing it. It is your home


Please always try to think smart. If you continue to think like this. You will never make it in life.