Joy1706:

The same way u escaped from yours. Frustrated goat.

creepsyme:
how thoughtful of you, a man who appreciates and understand a woman who prepares a meal will see nothing wrong in serving his meal by himself. Seeving the meal is not my challenge, but always insisting it must be done even wen u know it may not be convinient.... $@%÷teammenwithtoomuchego/$%÷

SonOfEl:


see, as a man has wife, I know my wife will not always be around to get me first class treatment as a wife, but how she let's me understand is what keeps the peace at home, because I am not perfect too. however, it does not mean we don't owe each other this treatments.

my wife works in a hospital, am a nutritionist, but I serve in the church as a minister. truth is girls nowadays don't know how to follow up and address their issues, they end up braking their homes.

that is not to say men are not sometimes childish, sometimes in nairaland i say some things childishly for the fun of it which atimes, which i often regret, but we have to get real sometimes in order to address issues. this issue was never meant to be an issue at all.

MrsChima:


You are upset and hurling insults won't change my facts. Focus on your "wife".


Stay out the kitchen too! You can't handle the heat boo boo!

MarvellousGod:
Church minister huuuh? What exactly do you teach people? You mentioned me and called me all sorts of names because I gave my view on this thread... And to think my opinion had nothing to do with you. .. Anyway, I actually ignored the mention because I don't exchange words with people here, just surprised to see you're a church minister. .

God help us.....

Joy1706:
Wow *claps* Bible scholar. Please help me out with the scripture that enjoins Husbands to LOVE their wives.

Joy1706:
And that scripture that tells Husbands and Wives to submit themselves to EACH OTHER.

MrsChima:
Don't quote scriptures that benefits you but also quote scriptures that counteracts as well.

MrsChima:
Read the verses after the wives submit to your husband verse. The chapter also focuses on CHRISTIAN families and those who are believers.

MrsChima:
It does not apply to non-Christians, non-believers, unmarried couples, and husbands who do not honor Christ and give his life for the church.

MrsChima:
deep huh?

SonOfEl:


who is a church minister? a church minister is one who dedicates time to serve God in a church. WHAT IS THE BIG DEAL?

I use my talents in the church too, and to think that you can downplay my talents because i put you in your place is your own business of delusion.

I know when I act childishly for fun, cos I don't take things too seriously here. however, I also know when am serious, especially in handling your case. there is wisdom in taking one in their own craftiness, and that's what I do to you and your type.

blessedtwins:
its what you said that is about giving an inch and bla bla bla that is selfish and brutish. And that is the chauvinism you should rid yourself of

MarvellousGod:
So you actually think you put me in my place? ... Suit yourself Oga and all the best to you and your church. ....

TV01:

Thank you - I absolutely agree that the bible enjoins husbands to love, cherish and honour their wives. No one here has disputed that. Many are disputing that a woman must submit to her husband


There is no such scripture .


No scripture counteracts what I posted


So, does that nullify the commandment to wives


I am not writing for the benefit of non-Christinas, non-believers or unmarried couples.
As for husbands "who do not honor" Christ - the commandment to wives is not predicated on what the husband does - short of sin.


At all


TV

Malawian:


in that case, i actually think the food should be dished.

although i have to say, once i went to see my tenant. his wife was cooking in the kitchen, he was beside her washing the dishes. i was baffled.

this man drives an 09 camry to put him in perpective.

dinachi:

A woman who loves and cherishes her husband will see nothing stressful or wrong in serving him the way he wants to be served!
This is definitely not an issue worth discussing. Only a woman who has no regard for the husband will make issues out of it.
Do you know that most men find absolute joy in eating their wifes meal? Why did our parents teach us that the best way to a mans heart is through his stomach?
Only a foolish woman argues about what gives her husband joy instead of doing it!

SonOfEl:


who is a church minister? a church minister is one who dedicates time to serve God in a church. WHAT IS THE BIG DEAL?

I use my talents in the church too, and to think that you can downplay my talents because i put you in your place is your own business of delusion.

I know when I act childishly for fun, cos I don't take things too seriously here. however, I also know when am serious, especially in handling your case. there is wisdom in taking one in their own craftiness, and that's what I do to you and your type.

Ngokafor:




..You have been fooling yourself for hours on this very silly topic...get a life please

bukatyne:


What should pain me... I am still not getting it ( I am been honest here)

When a man presents properly enunciates his wishes clearly.... again, I laugh.... why presenting properly?

I thought you said your wife is not your inferior and you both have equal agency? (I saw you edited your post in that polygamy thread) what agency means here is for another day. Soon, it will be equal department or equal institution

It is not my fault you keep shooting yourself in the foot when you are caught in on one side.

I told you no leaders? hahahahahahahhahahahahahahahahaha!

Brother TV, don't resort to lies... our posts are still on that thread (that is if you don't quickly edit them again)

You that have 'sole authority' in your 'unequal' household don't use it... (Yet your wife is not your inferior)

How does it feel that you have something and cannot/will not use it?

Like I said before, when you start commanding, we will know.. till then, sit back, relax and go and make madam happy.

Ngokafor:





....You were baffled? ...how lame!

...you must be from the nineteenth century then

TV01:


Why does it pain you ?

- Head of my household - tick
- Final arbiter possessing veto power in family decisions - tick

- My wife is not inferior
- She has freewill/agency
- She is a loving & submissive wife

I wield authority in my home as and when I see fit - and my wife graciously submits. If I ask my wife to serve me end-to-end at every meal, I don't need to repeat that instruction every time I sit down to eat - geddit now!!

A submissive wife does not need to be hounded - she learns her husbands desires and preferences and consciously or unconsciously makes the requisite adjustments.

That there is no head in your home and you have "equal rights", fine - carry go - nobody is forcing you to live the "Christian model" .

As for your sly insinuation that I "edited" my posts and lied, in over 10 years on NL nobody has ever charged me with those or any of the other similar type offences. You are desperate. I never edit for more than quotation, grammar or punctuation.

Why are you pained that my wife allows me to be a man in my own home? Or someone so enlightened and privileged eschews feminism . And in truth, you can't know if I command or not - but we all know your husband doesn't don't we? - you proudly told us !

Keep on opening masturbatory threads so you can discuss biblical submission with non-believers, atheists and blasphemers - Evangelist Bukatyne



TV

SonOfEl:


fooling? is that suppose to massage your guts? why are you here in the first place? when we say some people are first class sadistic losers, they we are being too harsh.

oya, tell the op to fight and divorce her husband so you can be pleased.

you mentioned foolishness right? take a look at the mirror.

Malawian:


in that case, i actually think the food should be dished.

although i have to say, once i went to see my tenant. his wife was cooking in the kitchen, he was beside her washing the dishes. i was baffled.

this man drives an 09 camry to put him in perpective.

cococandy:
I must say the more I go through nairaland, the more I appreciate what I have.

Lord have mercy on some kinds of mindset people have.

MrsChima:
I hate when my husband want to sample the food before it is done! Oh my gosh, he will wait until I depart the kitchen and steal a piece of meat!

Meat thief!

"Add a little salt"
"Can I have a piece?"
"Can I lick the spoon?"
"Can I sip the soup?"
"Add more pepper"
"Add more maggi"

Argggggghhhhhhhh!!!!

Why??!!!

SonOfEl:


excuse me, submitting yourselves to each other has to do with intimacy, NOT headship.

the bible never said man should submit his headship to you, stop misrepresenting the scripture. your husband is your head. Reverence him.

loving you does not stop him from being YOUR HEAD.... GOT IT?

Stillfire:


As soon as a man says that he has lost the argument in my books.
You must give me cogent reasons why you cannot use your own hand to dish out your food already served on the table.
If not that he is looking for self aggrandizement.
The bible says all ego tripping, self-seeking entities are candidates of hell fire.
How will you make heaven with that kind of attitude?

cococandy:
I must say the more I go through nairaland, the more I appreciate what I have.

Lord have mercy on some kinds of mindset people have.

SonOfEl:


its unfortunate that some married people come here and give wrong advice. its a shame. you know nothing about marriage.

Malawian:


Ephesians 5:22-33 - Wives, submit yourselves to your own ...

Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church.....
CASE CLOSEDDDDDD !!!!!

Stillfire:


A grown ass man throwing a tantrum over dished food, lmao.
The part of the brain African men are supposed to use to device techniques to bring their people out of poverty, they have used it to be throwing petty tantrums about food.

Give her an inch, she will take a mile
Meanwhile give African man an inch, he will run a marathon.

Stillfire:


A grown ass man throwing a tantrum over dished food, lmao.
The part of the brain African men are supposed to use to device techniques to bring their people out of poverty, they have used it to be throwing petty tantrums about food.

Give her an inch, she will take a mile
Meanwhile give African man an inch, he will run a marathon.

Stillfire:
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Please go and learn how to love your wives the christian way
Save yourself from hell fire.
Because many women are willing to look away and condone your excesses does not mean you have the right to act like a self-serving brute.

Joy1706:

That verse was not in reference to intimacy. It means you are answerable to your wife and vice versa. Your wife submitting to you does not stop her from despising you