Its pretty voluminous but d points raised kept me glued to my phone till d end. Nice one there Op

All I see is a misogynistic person on rampage. It's very ridiculous of you to entirely blame the inability of some men to marry on women empowerment. The Nigerian economy is clearly dominated by men; be it construction, oil and gas, manufacturing, IT, shipping and even medical where one would have thought that women would take the lead.

The MNCs you accused of dis-appropriately employing have such policies from their home countries, even at that men are still more employed than women in the United States. Take for instance Silicon Valley, the proportion of men to women in tech firms is high; and efforts are being made to ensure that females are also employed by ensuring females take joy in STEM courses, what you should be advising young Nigerian men is to study hard enough to be at least QUALIFIED for the vacancies in such firms, as these firms employ strictly on merit. It's totally illogical for you to ORDER firms who are competitively outwitting themselves in the consumer market/economy to employ unqualified people simply because they MUST employ men. It's by merit, people should learn to work hard. Tell me why should a company employ an unqualified person{ male or female} in a recruitment process that's strictly based on the principle of meritocracy. So because MEN should MUST be employed, say HITACHI shouldn't employ someone like this>>http://www.punchng.com/entertainment/campus-champion/i-once-read-for-12-hours-nonstop-oshunmakinde/.. I always advise my fellow lads alike to work hard,network, avoid unnecessary expenditure, plan your life, hope for the best and prepare for the worst and not blame your failure on another gender; which constitutes your mom, sisters, nieces, future daughters.

The benefits of women ACTIVELY participating in the economy is ginormous, we need more women in the economy to drive our economy to becoming one of the biggest in the world. Japan is actively pushing for more women in its workforce, ditto for Korea and even INDIA .
In Modi's recent trip to Silicon Valley he outlined the benefits of 50% of the population joining the economy and pledged reforms aimed at reaching that goal, here in Nigeria, wetin man dey read?

A recent survey by Mckinsey showed the way the world's economy could grow at a faster and more organic way by 28 trillion dollars
http://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2015-09-24/mckinsey-says-gender-equality-would-boost-gdp-by-28-trillion . And a grown man is against such.

Ridiculous to say the least.

Most of this is balderdash. The said jobs you allege young women have taken from young men are all clerical and administrative of which women have a comparative advantage. In Engineering ànd construction industries, the preponderance is male. Any accidental female sticks out oddly.

Its unfortunate that our young generation of males are becoming effeminate to the extent of contemplating subjecting themselves under a woman breadwinner.

Young men should go for manly careers in engineering, construction, fabrication, mineral exploration, etc where women fear to thread and you will see your only competition will be tougher males.

As for those ladies who allowed themselves to grow above marriageability, I dont advise any young man to subject himself under them. If you are manly, you will surely regret being spoonfed by a woman; except you are not. Those ladies are best served being single mothers. Society should be realistic enough and accept it.

A wife is a helper, not the other way round.

The only thing stopping young men getting married is unneccesary ambition and cowardice. As soon as you can feed yourself and can afford that one room apartment, you are set for marriage. Those 45+ managers and bosses also started from humble beginnings.

I mean life in naija was as tough as hell in the late 1980s and 1990s, compared to the seeming paradise ( 21st century oil boom) of Now.

A hungry man has time for Sèx and No time for Love.

No be who chop belleful go call babe ask "what's up"?? Even tweeting and facebooking doesn't come cheap in Nigeria.

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You're right. I only used the Bible as a point of reference on this because it is likely that people will quote from the Bible (be fruitful and multiply) as a reason to pressure themselves into marriage. From a biological perspective: in a well populated world, there is no biological reason to marry & reproduce the same way we have biological reasons to feed, for example.


Coming from a female, you nailed it!

naijacutee:


You're right. I only used the Bible as a point of reference on this because it is likely that people will quote from the Bible (be fruitful and multiply) as a reason to pressure themselves into marriage. From a biological perspective: in a well populated world, there is no biological reason to marry & reproduce the same way we have biological reasons to feed, for example.



True. But one sheep has got to break out of the fold someday.

- adventure is fine when it is not stupidity. The sheep that broke out and far away from the Shepard's watch will have herself to blame when beasts come knocking .... I hope u know what I mean?

naijacutee:
I think that nobody male or female should be pressured into a lifetime commitment because of age, peers or poverty. Marriage remains a choice, not an obligation. People are free to marry and not to marry and even the Bible supports this. These ideals put out by people are purely cultural and there should be no shame in being single out of choice, for the rest of one's life. Life is too short to make lifetime commitments to please people who will not be there during the tough times.

hmmn, quite true, but the bible says it is better to marry than to burn(sexual feeling). Please how will you justify these assertions? Thanks.

Omo, the post long, but I read am...
Nice write-up man..

[b]@OP, wow! kudos on your biased opinion. However i observed you mentioned most multinational companies employing women, you didn't take the time to actually verify your opinion, you only used one scenerio and one state #Lagos, how reasonable are your conclusions since you used unverified stats. That said, i don't see more women working in oil and gas or other technical fields, i don't see as many females as males in IT departments, as airline pilots, in shipping, in military, in paramilitary, in politics, in farming and other notable professions.

The issue is, you need to broaden your scope. I want to assume females are more in fields that suit our capacities e.g Marketing, Customer service, Teaching, why not focus on other areas if you are having difficulties getting employed in these fields. As a lady, i know i will not be given preference over a man if i choose a career as a Merchant Sailor, we still haven't reached that level of equality yet and i am not bothered by it, if i really want to be a Merchant sailor, i'll have to take my chances knowing what is on ground. Please redirect your frustrations somewhere else as i really don't think single ladies are responsible for your issues.[/b]

More girls are rude recently than before. They hardly give you attention if you're not driving a car

humilitypays:
It is a simple fact that the number of guys refusing to marry is directly proportional to the number of ladies that are single and searching, reason being that it is these single guys that have refused to marry that ought to marry the single ladies that are searching and praying for husband.


Now, the question is: why do we have an abnormal increase in the number of single unmarried ladies that are searching for marriage partner today in Nigeria?


Sit back and read the preceding paragraphs and you will find out why and how women (married and single) can help curb this cankerworm eating deep into our modern Nigeria.


Before we forge ahead, you will agree with me that 10 to 20 years ago, men dominated the Nigerian workforce, with fewer number of women occupying top positions, but today, the table has turned as more women now secure better paying jobs than their male counterparts.


My personal study into this recent development showed that most Nigerian organisation boss who are mostly men above 45years, prefer to hirer pretty single ladies for non-engineering positions, which put guys in the non-engineering sectors at high risk of not securing good jobs when competing with ladies for same job position.


I also discovered that most multinational firms have a policy that encourages female gender empowerment, which make their HR team give preferential treatment to ladies seeking for same position with a male job applicant during recruitment exercise.


You can hardly discover this secret organisation policy until you are among the top management.


If you doubt this, try and go to Victoria Island in Lagos during close of work; 5 - 6pm (Monday - Friday), and you will notice higher number of young pretty females leaving their office premises in good cars, with few young guys leaving their workplaces in a car.


If you are observant enough, you will also discover that most of the male workers driving home from work are usually within the age range of: 38 - 60yrs, whereas more ladies within the age range of; 25 - 35yrs drive home from work, showing that more young ladies now have better jobs than guys.


This is also applicable to Abuja: same study was carried out within Central Business District of Abuja, CBD.


To many Nigerians, especially the ladies, it is a good trend; at least to them, it shows that ladies are becoming independent from guys, and to the old working class male directors and managers, it means nothing because they are at the receiving end (sleeping with these young pretty ladies for jobs, promotion, contracts, etc), but not until their own daughter(s) graduate from Harvard University or London School of Economics and returns back home to take up an executive position in her dad's big firm, but only to go to bed every night weeping and soaking her pillows with tears simply because there is no responsible young man in her life ready to walk her to the altar and they live happily ever after like she reads from foreign novels and watch on Telemundo series.


No wonder many rich parents are now arranging marriage for their daughters; yet this doesn't solve the imminent problem of abnormal increase in single young people in Nigeria of today.


Now, what am I blabbing about? The major reason we have increasing rate of single ladies in Nigeria today is not because witches in the villages have increased in number and now pursuing single ladies and stopping them from finding suitable husbands just as many modern pastors make these single ladies to believe in order to extort money from them & to grow their congregation, it is not even because single ladies of today lack good character or manner, neither is it because single ladies now dress indecently....nope, the major reason is harsh economy that is no longer favouring young single guys!


How do we expect a guy who graduated from higher institution and served his fatherland after 3 years and still unable to rent a decent apartment for himself, unable to cater for his own daily needs to think about getting married in this time and age?


How do we expect a young guy who after 4 to 5 years of passing out from NYSC is yet to secure a job that pays him up to a hundred thousand naira, and give him the opportunity of saving at least fifty thousand naira every month to wish to marry and give birth to children?


The earlier we Nigerians realise the dangers of having more young guys without good job, the better for us as a nation that wish to grow and have a happy, crime-free society.

I know some people will say: marriage is not everyone, while others will argue that must everybody marry? And the answer is yes, anybody who desires to marry ought to marry, but is that the case today? No!

Many young men want to marry, but the truth is that their pocket isn't encouraging to take that bold step that marriage requires.

Some will also argue that must you wait till you have millions before you marry? And some will argue that marriage is not about money, but tell me: how do you sustain the kids that will follow after the wedding? How do you plan to pay for house rent, children increasing school fees, etc?

Do you want to plan the future of your kids on one rich relation or friend? That's unfair to the unborn innocent children you want to bring to life, please don't do it!

I know that not every guy or lady will be rich, but being comfortable to provide most of your needs should be compulsory at least!

I still remember the story of Adam and Eve which I read from “The Book of My Bible Stories” while I was a kid, it told us how God created man, Adam and gave him everything he needed and Adam will go to his garden in the morning to return at night lonely, such that God pitied him and said: it is not good for him to be alone, I will make him a help mate, and so God made Adam to fall deep asleep and then God came and removed one of Adam's ribs and made Eve for him.

Adam woke up and saw Eve and was excited and said: this is the bone of my bone, flesh of my flesh (dunno if I quoted those words correctly).

What am I trying to say? God gave Adam his basic needs before sending him a woman!

A man deserves to have his basic needs met before thinking of getting married.


But it is so shameful that old married men in Nigeria occupying top positions in various organisations and firms gave and still giving jobs to single unmarried ladies who most times contribute nothing to the organisation's growth, thereby causing more unemployment and underemployment of young single Nigerian guys, with a resultant effect of late marriage amongst these young single guys.


Shameful enough, many organisations today hire ladies by their physical attraction; once a member of the HR team admires the female applicant, whether she merits the job or not, he must ensure that she gets hired to the disadvantage of her male counterparts who most times have better skills to offer to the organisation.



THE SOLUTION

First, we must tell ourselves the truth: in Nigerian culture and norm, men are believed and expected to be the breadwinner of the family; the woman is only expected to assist and contribute if she has and can.


Bearing this in mind, majority if not all Nigerian single ladies searching for a life partner want and desire to marry a guy earning higher income than them.


All things being equal, no Nigerian single lady prays to marry a guy she's earning more than; very uncommon in Nigeria.


But then, we have few single guys in Nigeria who earn that kind of income most Nigerian single ladies desire from their preferred partner. And as it stands presently in Nigeria, more single ladies between the age range of 25yrs - 35yrs have better paying jobs than single guys of the same age range, which means many single ladies in Nigeria will never find husband to marry except they lower their taste and marry a guy earning below them or they become second wife to older men.


All these anomalies were caused by older Nigerian men who set the wrong legacy for this nation in terms of bad leadership, sex-for-job in favour of single ladies, and more...and for this status quo to change, every Nigerian citizen must play a role to bring the much desired change we dream of in Nigeria, how?



1. As a young single lady working in a company, say no to the maltreatment of young single guys in your organisation because the more these guys are penalised and made not to grow, the more chances of you, your single sister, niece, friend or even aunt not finding a deserving husband to marry.


2. All HR personnel must ensure equity and fairness when hiring applicants for any job position. Stop the female gender empowerment; enough is enough, its not helping Nigeria, neither is it helping the world in general.


Women are happier when their husband or man is in charge financially than when they are in charge...even in Europe!


3. As a single lady, lower your financial expectation from guys- the table is turning, fewer guys now have good means of income compared to ladies; you ladies asked for gender equality, you now have it, please make use of it, don't wait for a richer guy...if you are driving and you see a guy trekking whom you fancy, lift him and don't be shy to startup a focused-relationship with him...waiting for the richer guys driving bigger cars than yours may keep you waiting for eternity and may bring you more heartbreak because such guys now know that they are king to women and so they treat ladies with little/no respect.


4. Encourage your single brothers to work hard, acquire skill, learn trade and explore business opportunities even if they are working. Help them with business startup capital...doing so will help create a deserving husband for a fellow single lady out there.


5. Stop squandering that single guy's money!

Advice him to invest his income wisely! Encourage him to startup a side business to assist his salary because no salary is enough!



6. As a single guy, learn to be financially wise!

Quit those useless habits that drains your income! Quit smoking! Quit drinking! Quit gambling! Quit womanising; its a costly hobby! Quit clubbing around town! Quit squandering money on any girl who isn't your wife! Learn to invest, learn to nurture a business aside your job and learn to spend lesser than you earn! Don't use your last savings to buy a car just to feel among or just to attract irrelevant ladies! Car is more of a necessity until you become rich! For now, buying car should be to aid your financial growth and not for fun or pleasure!


7. As a single lady, pray for your single brothers, boyfriend, lover, or male friends and colleagues. Advice and encourage them whenever you can.


It is no longer easy for single young guys in Nigeria even though most of them won't confess this to you due to male ego!


Let's all wake up to the reality and pray that President Buhari and his team bring about the positive change in Nigeria's economy to help curb this societal pressure.


Wish you all a blissful day ahead.

Just imagine! So women should lower their standards because you couldn't get a job? How about creating jobs for everyone? So those women couldn't have gotten the jobs on merit? Only men get jobs on merit, and people are shouting kudos? such misogyny.

Smh.

honestly u made my day.

coming.

freecocoa:
Just imagine! So women should lower their standards because you couldn't get a job? How about creating jobs for everyone? So those women couldn't have gotten the jobs on merit? Only men get jobs on merit, and people are shouting kudos such misogyny.
Smh.

I was looking for the words, I just couldn't find them. Like what do I tell this "wailing wailer"? I guess he goes home with the CEOs to watch them sleep with the female staff. Well, I won't be surprised if he washes the sheets too...

I think it'll be better if we just stayed home and forget school or work, I think that will make them(Nigerian men) happy! But wait!!! They also want independent women, not liabilities

Confused lot...

As for those ladies who allowed themselves to grow above marriageability, I dont advise any young man to subject himself under them. If you are manly, you will surely regret being spoonfed by a woman; except you are not. Those ladies are best served being single mothers. Society should be realistic enough and accept it.

Uhhm.... how shallow can a human get?

This write up shud be on facebook too

gud Writup. Wish They Can See Dis

Adaeze003:


Uhhm.... how shallow can a human get?

If its shallow then...
what would you advice the ladies do - before menopause arrives?

Feel free to think outside the box.

Genotype follow dey there o. I have lost two good girls because of AS genotype. AA ladies can PM me abeg!

Adaeze003:


I was looking for the words, I just couldn't find them. Like what do I tell this "wailing wailer"? I guess he goes home with the CEOs to watch them sleep with the female staff. Well, I won't be surprised if he washes the sheets too...

I think it'll be better if we just stayed home and forget school or work, I think that will make them(Nigerian men) happy! But wait!!! They also want independent women, not liabilities

Confused lot...



Uhhm.... how shallow can a human get?

Just see the nonsense he is spewing, I find out that men like him are very insecure, lazy and broke, just see how a person thinks in this century.

They want a woman that's hardworking but sees them as a god and literally worships them, that way they can cage the woman to do whatever they want, very selfish, inconsiderate and ugly people, the thing dey annoy me sef.

What rubbish, some women struggle hard to get a job and this mofo is here saying they had to sleep their way in.

I don't even know what to say about the women, singing his praises.

holocron:


If its shallow then...
what would you advice the ladies do - before menopause arrives?

Feel free to think outside the box.

Trust me, I had more than that to say to you but tried to be as respectful as possible given the situation.

So, on that note, I think you should tell all the girls you are related to to stay idle and not go after their goals just so that they can get married(again, how shallow can a human get?!). Also extend my sympathy to those that will listen.

You lot are just too sad.

[size=13pt]Why can't those CEOs marry those ladies as second or third wives?

Many of them are responsible for these ladies' pregnancies which they are made to abort to protect the guys' marriage.

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freecocoa:
Just see the nonsense he is spewing, I find out that men like him are very insecure, lazy and broke, just see how a person thinks in this century.

They want a woman that's hardworking but sees them as a god and literally worships them, that way they can cage the woman to do whatever they want, very selfish, inconsiderate and ugly people, the thing dey annoy me sef.

What rubbish, some women struggle hard to get a job and this mofo is here saying they had to sleep their way in.

I don't even know what to say about the women, singing his praises.

Ugly humans indeed!!! Like WTH?

These guys have not talked about what's disturbing them! They're still searching for control like their brains have not evolved to the 21st century.

Shallow, tiny minded people. Mtcheew... lemme leave here abeg.

naijacutee:
I think that nobody male or female should be pressured into a lifetime commitment because of age, peers or poverty. Marriage remains a choice, not an obligation. People are free to marry and not to marry and even the Bible supports this. These ideals put out by people are purely cultural and there should be no shame in being single out of choice, for the rest of one's life. Life is too short to make lifetime commitments to please people who will not be there during the tough times.

Babe are you from usa As far as you a nigerian starting a family is necessary. If you not married as a man OR woman at a certain age it goes along way to show you irresponsible

tensazangetsu:
MARRIAGE MARRIAGE MARRIAGE. WE NO GO HEAR WORD AGAIN. YOU PEOPLE MAKE IT SEEM AS IF MARRIAGE IS A GOOD THING. IT'S ONE OF THE WORSE THINGS THAT CAN HAPPEN TO A MAN. LIVE YOUR LIFE, TRAVEL EXPERIENCE THE WORLD MEET PEOPLE LEARN ABOUT DIFFERENT CULTURES. IN THE END YOU ONLY HAVE ONE LIFE AND HOW YOU LIVE IT DEPENDS ON YOU

Guy, I don dash you one like,I come still quote you.wait for this,I come happy with this your comment sotay I come go follow you.Thank you for this post, anytime wey I see or hear all these marriage noise,na this kind of your post I dey always reason.

Pidggin:
[b]@OP, wow! kudos on your biased opinion. However i observed you mentioned most multinational companies employing women, you didn't take the time to actually verify your opinion, you only used one scenerio and one state #Lagos, how reasonable are your conclusions since you used unverified stats. That said, i don't see more women working in oil and gas or other technical fields, i don't see as many females as males in IT departments, as airline pilots, in shipping, in military, in paramilitary, in politics, in farming and other notable professions.

The issue is, you need to broaden your scope. I want to assume females are more in fields that suit our capacities e.g Marketing, Customer service, Teaching, why not focus on other areas if you are having difficulties getting employed in these fields. As a lady, i know i will not be given preference over a man if i choose a career as a Merchant Sailor, we still haven't reached that level of equality yet and i am not bothered by it, if i really want to be a Merchant sailor, i'll have to take my chances knowing what is on ground. Please redirect your frustrations somewhere else as i really don't think single ladies are responsible for your issues.[/b]

[size=13pt]He actually said jobs outside engineering.

Plus, you'll notice he narrowed it down to graduate employments within the 'marriage ages' of 25 - 35 years.

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humilitypays:
Thanks @adahxris, successmart, mayorschwags and macville2, good morning guys

It seems your eyes are just opening. Thank God they are now opened and I hope more eyes will open.
I was already aware of what you posted some years back. I brought up this issue on Nairaland years ago but I was attacked for hating women.
I recommend that women in Nigeria SHOULD NOT be given juicy employments until further notice when the mindset of Nigerians have changed to understand that men and women should both have an obligation to pull each other out of poverty. Every juicy employments for now should be reserved for males so they can get the money to TAKE CARE of women since ladies want a man who can take care of them. When ladies are given lofty positions they have too much money in their hands and wouldn't bother to help a struggling guy. In this situation wealth is not distributed to those who have little. But when a man occupies such high paying positions, he can easily marry a poor girl and taking her out of poverty which helps to distribute wealth and minimize poverty in the society.

Adaeze003:


Trust me, I had more than that to say to you but tried to be as respectful as possible given the situation.

So, on that note, I think you should tell all the girls you are related to to stay idle and not go after their goals just so that they can get married(again, how shallow can a human get?!). Also extend my sympathy to those that will listen.

You lot are just too sad.

Far from it. I am pro feminism. Just responding to rapidly changing social realities.

What goal is more grand (for a human being) than the replication of yourself. Every goal ought to be subordinated to that religious and biological injunction. The ultimate goal of all life forms on the planet is to reproduce themselves before their inevitable personal demise. Think about it.

The most brilliant, strongest, creative individual on earth has ultimately failed (evolutionarily speaking) if they fail to deposit offspring that inherits and manifests their wonderful talents.

initialize:
What about increasing single men?


I'm a single man and I don't think I'm the only one.


Looking for where the Plural men are to go and join them.


::::I didn't read before posting sha cos I dey busy and the write up loooooonnnnng!!

I don do invitation card,I never see woman wey I go put her name there..I don taya,

see yes you made some good great points which is true..but the problem is much more complex than this, the african woman is not a loving woman they are too greedy,too materialistic,love personalities in a person more, too bossy,nags a lot, dishonest, and very myopic they want action quick but never think of the future,these traits complicates their problems the more..so u dont blame the top men,they know what these girls want,money,and they cant just resist it, so they take their advantage so easily...10years from now women would be begging to be 5th wives,because being 2nd wife would even be so scarce to get., so brace urself's the worst is yet to come...

It cud'nt have been well said than dis... Big thumb up..!

Interesting facts Op..... but one lazy blogger is gonna copy this and will be credited for what he stole