Marxxx:
This is for men only...... . You are not invited

sorry

dangotesmummy:
your question has been answered my dear marxwell

funny you

Marxxx:
"Why are you not married"? That was the first question my colleague asked me when he came to pay a visit at the hotel in sydney. "I checked your profile I was surprised you are still single". I thought that was all but when I resumed next day the senior partner who was the team head asked same question. I thought it was only in Nigeria marriage was a big issue but these guys ain't smiling. It was like being a senior manager and yet single was a taboo. Whenever I retire to my desk I always see series of phone digits written in scrap papers placed on my desk. The first time I called one of the lines it was a white lady spewing thrash about romance someone I didn't even know. The attitude I got from the team was not too great because of my marital status. The females from the support department didn't help either. The compliments I got from them was . When my team attended a pool party for networking I didn't get any attention at the party. Simply because everyone at the party came with his or her spouse and they did not find it convenient holding a conversation with a single black dude...I thank God the job is over and am back to my father land...

So apart from money or other financial hitches...If you are single and above 28 why are you not married. Honest/sincere opinions.

The bolded has ruled out plenty potential comments already. Bar financial hitches, personally the next reason is not having met someone I feel I can stay married to. Anybody can get married to anybody these days.

An0nimus:


The bolded has ruled out plenty potential comments already. Bar financial hitches, personally the next reason is not having met someone I feel I can stay married to. Anybody can get married to anybody these days.

ohhh...This got me pondering....So lets say you have 2m naira right now will you take the money and get married right away? or will you hesitate and think of something else? I want to know what may cause the reluctance...I like the way you reason...

Marxxx:
wow...I hear people say marriage is all about accepting/tolerating the flaws in the other person? I guess you don't really love the first guy. When you talk about "Resources and Maintenance" definitely you are talking about finance. What happened to love? Both of you should have put in resources together. It is easier for two people to paddle a canoe than one person doing the paddling while carrying two.

I appreciate your opinion but This is trend is for men only......

You got me wrong there but I will leave the thread for men alone to comment.

Marxxx:
But you know in a relationship sacrifices are being made. Let say the lady in context had to leave her job and settle with you. After some years you guys were no longer compatible how will she get her part of the fortune realised when both of you were still together. How can she get proper compensation. This can go the other way too so how will you make claims if you are not properly married....? How does she claim your property when something bad happens.......? have done all the hidden calculations?

with prenups and what not, if a man really doesnt want to leave anything to his partner, then he can... (whether married or not). any man unmarried CAN/SHOULD sign a contract with his common law spouse to make sure that all their properties are protected. this contract covers only property that they acquired before they met their partner, and doesnt bind people to stay together.

the REAL problem here is that, sadly, in Africa marriage is a do or die issue, and the REAL focus has been lost. you have:
A) parents wanting to marry their offsprings, in order to cash in on the bride price, would groom them from an early age, telling them that the ONLY aim in life is marriage. so even miserable women (who have absolutely nothing valuable to offer a man) would seek for marriage and price themselves like a gem, due to that African way of thinking. women are no more human beings, they are valuable live stocks!

B) also, there is such a big social/religious/family/peer pressure for people to get married because marriage = happiness in their mind. today, people in Nigeria dont seek for marriage because they found someone that they love and want to spend the rest of their natural life with, they seek for marriage as a STATUS.... the "i am finally happy" status, and they will gladly flaunt it, even if miserable in their false union.

sisisioge:


You got me wrong there but I will leave the thread for men alone to comment.

Alright do have a great night rest

MRBrownJ:


with prenups and what not, if a man really doesnt want to leave anything to his partner, then he can... (whether married or not). any man unmarried CAN/SHOULD sign a contract with his common law spouse to make sure that all their properties are protected. this contract covers only property that they acquired before they met their partner, and doesnt bind people to stay together.

the REAL problem here is that, sadly, in Africa marriage is a do or die issue, and the REAL focus has been lost. you have:
A) parents wanting to marry their offsprings, in order to cash in on the bride price, would groom them from an early age, telling them that the ONLY aim in life is marriage. so even miserable women (who have absolutely nothing valuable to offer a man) would seek for marriage and price themselves like a gem, due to that African way of thinking. women are no more human beings, they are valuable live stocks!

B also, there is such a big social/religious/family/peer pressure for people to get married because marriage = happiness in their mind. today, people in Nigeria dont seek for marriage because they found someone that they love and want to spend the rest of their natural life with, they seek for marriage as a STATUS.... the "i am finally happy" status, and they will gladly flaunt it, even if miserable in their false union.

well you have a point. But I want you to look inwards now...search your heart deeply; why are you not married?

Marxxx:
well you have a point. But I want you to look inwards now...search your heart deeply; why are you not married?

as i stated earlier, i dont NEED to... the important question should be: why do YOU believe that this piece of paper would make any difference to what we already have.

MRBrownJ:


as i stated earlier, i dont NEED to... the important question should be: why do YOU believe that this piece of paper would make any difference to what we already have.

You know a lot of people think bcause their income is on the low side or because they do not have a good job that is why they are not married .But I believe that is entirely not true. I want people to really think about it consciously and know the main reason why they are still single

Marxxx:
ohhh...This got me pondering....So lets say you have 2m naira right now will you take the money and get married right away? or will you hesitate and think of something else? I want to know what may cause the reluctance...I like the way you reason...

I'll most likely hesitate and think of something else. 2m naira off the bat won't see me rushing into marriage in at least the following six months even if I have someone. There are first other responsibilities to see to and things to set up. Hopefully, should this 2m lead to a fairly steady (extra )income after the six months, marriage will be fast tracked. Fast tracked in the sense that I have seen her already.

An0nimus:


I'll most likely hesitate and think of something else. 2m naira off the bat won't see me rushing into marriage in at least the following six months even if I have someone. There are first other responsibilities to see to and things to set up. Hopefully, should this 2m lead to a fairly steady (extra )income after the six months, marriage will be fast tracked. Fast tracked in the sense that I have seen her already.

wow so marriage is not at the top of your priority list. You want an investment that will produce more cash before you think about marriage....so it's not like money is the main reason. The main reason is because you don't have a large investment yet...okay I get you thanks

Dyt Dyttttt Dyyyytttttttt ooooooooooo.........


our mutual friend is back.

Marxxx:
You know a lot of people think bcause their income is on the low side or because they do not have a good job that is why they are not married .But I believe that is entirely not true. I want people to really think about it consciously and know the main reason why they are still single

and these people wouldnt be wrong, would they? remember i told you that these people marry to get that deluded status of "i am finally HAPPY"... well, part of the flaunting process is to have the biggest wedding possible, and invite EVERYONE so that they can now confirm their "happiness" status, and flaunt it even more. and sadly, these wedding receptions, traditional weddings etc COST MONEY. the majority refuse to just have a quiet civil marriage, the whole world needs to hear about their weddings (and they even have printed gifts to remind everyone in their own home, after the wedding). many have NO money yet, and subsequently will indebt themselves for that charade which bring them ABSOLUTELY NOTHING, apart from the flaunting of their new status.
to those who have the money for it, so be it, but let us have a minute of silence for our fallen comrades who have been blackmailed by their spouse into borrowing the cash, thus starting married life in debts.

its a self esteem thing, and a person who is secure about his r/ship/status, does NOT need to flaunt it to the world. i dont need people to confirm that i am happy, i KNOW i am. i was already happy while single, and a common law union is just an added bonus.

have you ever asked yourself why every time Nigerian women hear about someone getting married, their first answer is "how lucky she is"?!
the gal could marrying a monster, for all they know...

Personally speaking, I think we have hammered too much on "lack of adequate finances" as the major reason why guys choose not to get married. I'm not implying that it isn't a good reason to put marriage on the break but I think finding the right partner is a bigger reason than finance. It's not easy finding a woman that you can confidently say you want to spend the rest of your life with, citing numerous cases of infidelity and divorces.
I think one has to be prepared mentally, emotionally and financially.
To your question. I'm not close to that age range so I should get married in a few years time. Say 3-4 years from now. Good topic by the way.

obiaguna:
Personally speaking, I think we have hammered too much on "lack of adequate finances" as the major reason why guys choose not to get married. I'm not implying that it isn't a good reason to put marriage on the break but I think finding the right partner is a bigger reason than finance. It's not easy finding a woman that you can confidently say you want to spend the rest of your life with, citing numerous cases of infidelity and divorces.
I think one has to be prepared mentally, emotionally and financially.
To your question. I'm not close to that age range so I should get married in a few years time. Say 3-4 years from now. Good topic by the way.

yeah I think most people don't really know why they are not married yet. Some will tell you no money. Give them 2m and they are still not married. It's basically not about the money I guess...

MRBrownJ:


and these people wouldnt be wrong, would they? remember i told you that these people marry to get that deluded status of "i am finally HAPPY"... well, part of the flaunting process is to have the biggest wedding possible, and invite EVERYONE so that they can now confirm their "happiness" status, and flaunt it even more. and sadly, these wedding receptions, traditional weddings etc COST MONEY. the majority refuse to just have a quiet civil marriage, the whole world needs to hear about their weddings (and they even have printed gifts to remind everyone in their own home, after the wedding). many have NO money yet, and subsequently will indebt themselves for that charade which bring them ABSOLUTELY NOTHING, apart from the flaunting of their new status.
to those who have the money for it, so be it, but let us have a minute of silence for our fallen comrades who have been blackmailed by their spouse into borrowing the cash, thus starting married life in debts.

its a self esteem thing, and a person who is secure about his r/ship/status, does NOT need to flaunt it to the world. i dont need people to confirm that i am happy, i KNOW i am. i was already happy while single, and a common law union is just an added bonus.

have you ever asked yourself why every time Nigerian women hear about someone getting married, their first answer is "how lucky she is"?!
the gal could marrying a monster, for all they know...

wow you really have it all figured out....

jashar:
Dyt Dyttttt Dyyyytttttttt ooooooooooo.........


our mutual friend is back.

lol...this is strictly for the guys...

jashar:
Dyt Dyttttt Dyyyytttttttt ooooooooooo.........


our mutual friend is back.

Don't mind that one jor
He don get gf na

Marxxx:
Did you read the topic? All the topic requires of you is to state a honest opinion about the question asked simple. Please modify whatever you wrote up there....

if you can't understand this joke, how would you understand my reply?

Marxxx:
Truth be told if you get a million naira tonight will you get married with the amount?

that much beside am nt looking for that amount.

Marxxx:
lol...this is strictly for the guys...

Forgerrit mehn.... I don land. even caveat emptor can't move me . I'm as immovable as a steelpost.

Dyt:


Don't mind that one jor
He don get gf na

Ehen, when did it happen? Wasn't it last month he was lamenting?

Thank God ooooo.....

jashar:



Ehen, when did it happen? Wasn't it last month he was lamenting?

Thank God ooooo.....

Marxxx
Come and answer ooo

It don't take time for men you know

MRBrownJ:


and these people wouldnt be wrong, would they? remember i told you that these people marry to get that deluded status of "i am finally HAPPY"... well, part of the flaunting process is to have the biggest wedding possible, and invite EVERYONE so that they can now confirm their "happiness" status, and flaunt it even more. and sadly, these wedding receptions, traditional weddings etc COST MONEY. the majority refuse to just have a quiet civil marriage, the whole world needs to hear about their weddings (and they even have printed gifts to remind everyone in their own home, after the wedding). many have NO money yet, and subsequently will indebt themselves for that charade which bring them ABSOLUTELY NOTHING, apart from the flaunting of their new status.
to those who have the money for it, so be it, but let us have a minute of silence for our fallen comrades who have been blackmailed by their spouse into borrowing the cash, thus starting married life in debts.

its a self esteem thing, and a person who is secure about his r/ship/status, does NOT need to flaunt it to the world. i dont need people to confirm that i am happy, i KNOW i am. i was already happy while single, and a common law union is just an added bonus.

have you ever asked yourself why every time Nigerian women hear about someone getting married, their first answer is "how lucky she is"?!
the gal could marrying a monster, for all they know...

GOD BLESS YOU MAN!!!

hi marxxxx....my friend is here

Awaiting that wedding IV o

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this post suppose the best thread of the year

Apart from money, I believe finding the right partner is the most tedious task especially when you have made up your mind to get married. Ladies will start playing/Acting nice and you get confused. Finding the right partner is the most difficult. Mr Marxxx I want to ask you something in respect to a job stuff please reply me....thanks

Marxxx:
wow you really have it all figured out....

it works for ME, now care to finally answer my question: why do YOU believe that this piece of paper would make any difference in anybody's life?

not mentally prepared to live in the same house with a wom an(my second mother, my princess, my bedmate,my soul mate)
don't want to end up being a divorce most ladies nowadays don't know what they want
my spec are as follows
100% FIDELITY
older than me plus 30-32

should not wear earnings or attachment whatsoever

UNTIL I MEET HER I WOULD ENJOY BEEN SINGLE
BLESSED BE

SSpeter:
Apart from money, I believe finding the right partner is the most tedious task especially when you have made up your mind to get married. Ladies will start playing/Acting nice and you get confused. Finding the right partner is the most difficult. Mr Marxxx I want to ask you something in respect to a job stuff please reply me....thanks

I agree with you. Sometimes searching for the right partner could be tantamount to searching for crude oil in sambisa forest....I will send you an email in respect to your career stuff