shapeey:
where can i start from.

okay.

i just know i belong here.

Am a VERY shy person and an EXTREME introvert. my parents are introverts but not shy though. I think that's where my nature came from coupled with upbringing we weren't allowed by my parents to mingle. Always indoors. This really affected me greatly. Also introversion runs in my family as all my sibling are introverts too.

Funny enough any where i go am always given leadership positions,don't know why? i guess its because of my cool nature, but usually i reject some of the positions because am shy to perform.

At home or with few people am familiar(i dont have close friends) they see me as out spoken and fun to be with.

But the major challenge i have as an introvert is i cant face crowd. In church i cant come out to testify, or join any group etc. When i was in school, i couldnt ask questions in class or make presentations etc. it was just so bad mehn. Now am in my late 20s but still shy.

Well, i can say shyness as robbed me of a lot of things in life . i really do wish i wasn't shy. i have tried to change but it hasn't been successful may be because its naturally my god-given nature. i don't know ?

Forgive my long and boring post.

Olarewajub:



Hey Happy Sunday!!

Did something similar to day in church and one thing have come to realize is that it keeps getting better everyday.
Be desirous to have this kind of opportunity soon and remember to be always grateful.

whitecloth:

Hi Olarewajub.


Kudos to the job well done on this thread, you once shares the link to Susan Cain books on the power of being quiet or something like that, pls can you share it again, and if you know other books also, kindly share as much as possible.


Thanks.

Welcome bro

Link => http://tinyurl .com/hg24crt

Just remove the space between url and the rest of the link and search.

drippingink3:
Want to punish an introvert, take him out of his comfort zone.

drippingink3:
Want to punish an introvert, take him out of his comfort zone.

drippingink3:
I am afraid of the day someone would make me angry.

GloryIsaac:

Welcome bro
Link => http:///hg24crt
Just remove the space between url and the rest of the link and search.

whitecloth:
Thanks a lot

Your Welcome

Krasid:
Introverts rarely get angry unless they are pushed to the wall.If I may ask, what would happen if someone did get you angry?

drippingink3:
I'm afraid one day i won't be able to control myself since i don't have enough practice.

GloryIsaac:

Your Welcome

you too
let me register my presence

GloryIsaac:

Your Welcome

you too
let me register my presence

drippingink3:


I use to wonder if am alright or if am a going to be a serial killer. Things use to happen to me and I would be indifferent about it. It is other people that would be showing concern.

Am bothered about the fact that i get angry, I feel like a bomb that would explode at anytime.

Lsofdk:
you too
let me register my presence

Haha ... Welcome to the lounge brother

Sard:

You need to manage your anger as poor anger management could lead you to a land of no return. Getting angry is normal; however, being unable to control it is abnormal. I would suggest you learn to walk away when you're angry as this will allow you get over your anger without misbehaving.
You can also get and read some of the books written on anger management. You need to help yourself before things get out of hands.

SirWere:
.... It's a common thing Bro. I'm guessing you don't like controversy. So you go around minding your business......until some slowpoke decides to be personally aggravating


I get that anger too sometimes, especially when the person is right in your face and is doing stupid stuff.

The "reasonable" advice will be to avoid them, always stay cool and calm, avoid situations like that and errr..... all that stuff.


Instead I'll advice you to actually let out your feelings. yes. Shout, level accusations, behave irrationally and err....... you get the gist

The break in character will actually shock and convince the person that you're serious and will probably make the person stop being annoying


And if that fails, you can always get guys to capture the person and BEAT him and TORTURE him and err.......

Actually don't do that ooo......

Just....avoid him/her