repogirl:
Sighs....... this cheating thing be as e get sha

Different strokes for different folks..... Protect your man from cheating because whether you like it or not,there are plenty karashikas out there looking to prey on your man and he can fall o.

In the case you marry the type that chases everything, you are going to have your work cut out. It will get to a point where you need to decide whether the marriage is worth it. Like I said different strokes..... people are different, marriages are different.

Op, what you are asking is hard, for a woman to be indifferent (Some with hard minds can be though), it's not really in our nature to be indifferent. Personally I think indifference can give the husband free reign to do as he likes since the wife doesn't care and she even advised him to use protection.

Instead of indifference , try communication , he should know that it is wrong and it is affecting you and the marriage. Also, get to the root cause of his cheating.... most times it is a lack of discipline on the man's part and not what the wife did or did not do.

If my husband is the type that philanders(the unrepentant type) and I know, na to lock up shop throway key o. So that he will not give me one disease I will be treating for the rest of my life abeg.

Finally OP,instead of this kind thread advicing women to expect cheating, you should focus more on advising guys like you on the dangers of cheating and why its wrong. If you keep hammering on it, you could help men realise that they can rise above the urge to cheat. Thereby breeding a new generation of men with core values and respect for their women.

nice one, repogirl always on point in mature manner, kudos.

Are you related to chaircover?

cindyrocks:
You are encouraging men to cheat on their wives. There are still some faithful men out there.

yeah, the broke and ugly ones.

Gaborone:
Some men are so rotten that they think every other man is like them.

Seems Tok2008 has taken an oath that he will never make sense. Perhaps he's just trying to get people to comment by coming across as controversial, forgetting that that role should be left for only bright individuals.

Rubbish.

Rotten indeed, have you meet a faithful man yet?

LynnPetra:



Read the title of the thread again ad ask yourself this question, "Will a woman/Man who is being cheated on be happy in his/her marriage? "

We all understand no one would love/appreciate such situation but since some cant control the cheating habit in them, we should be prepared our mind for the possible unforeseen contigency... if i had a tip of this, i guess i wont be heartbroken when i caught my fiance cheating right under my nose, who we courted for 4yrs, already acquainted with each other family... My dear, the truth is a cheater would always be a cheater...some of our parents can attest to that, just that wisdom was applied that why you still see them together...

99foxxy:
Who wants to be cheated on? in as much as men cheat and it's in their nature, they should get their answers when their women cheats... Only then they will know how it's hurts and feels to be cheated on,,, all things been equal.

if a woman cheats, the man will only send her packing which is not a big deal and also not a death sentence. So?

sarahade:
I read post like this and go crazy. do you think that men are so wonderful that their wives don't think of cheating on them. let me tell you an average Nigerian woman will cheat on her husband with anyone gateman sef you know why because african men don't know how to love a woman but want submission and peace of mind. be the Man your wife wants and see if she won't have 3some with you.

as the so called African women will value the love and will not take it for granted.

Toks2008:
I have seen many marriages break up and it seems there is a common ground for disintegration.Today I will be as real as usual and it will be in the best interest of any married lady or intending wife to take this piece seriously.

If you are a married lady reading this I want you to understand that these 3 facts are essential for you to experience a happy union.

1. Expect your hubby to cheat on you: I have heard many times that not all men cheat and I sincerely believe but nevertheless, to be on the safer side, expect that man to cheat on you.

By having this expectation, you will not be caught unaware and you would have developed a psychological shock absorber in the advent that he does but if he remains faithful to you then good for you. It is totally foolish for a lady to hinge her marital happiness on her husband's fidelity.

And the moment you start seeing those cheating signs in him,rather that start threatening fire and brimstone which may worsen the situation, i will advice that you simply warn him to do it as far can from you because what you don't know can't hurt you and warn him to use a protection to avoid bringing home STDs.

Once you tell him this, just switch to indifferent mode as regards his sexual faithfulness to you and choose to be happy regardless. Hard I know but this is just how the cookie crumbles and this is one secret to having marital bliss even with a hopeless philanderer.

[b]This is one big secret i want every married lady reading this to know; Yes cheating must be discouraged and guys involved must understand that it is a sure way to hell but no matter how long you preach against it,men who want to cheat will still cheat on their wives but here is the secret...98% of men who cheat on their wives still love their wives so dearly but only want to take advantage of ladies who have willingly offered their-selves as side dishes...NEVER EVER GIVE UP YOUR MARRIAGE FOR A SIDE DISH TO TAKE OVER because that is what she wants you to do and even if you leave your marriage, there is no guaranty that your next man won't do worse. Believe it or not, most men always come back to their wives no matter how many side dishes they take advantage of and many men suffer from mid-life delusion crises where they believe it is their right to be with as any ladies as possible but relax, that euphoria and delusion will soon wear off and you will have your man 100% to yourself...This is one big secret i just revealed to you.[/b]

2. Make your own money: Do you know that if you are really busy with your life and very financially independent, you will care less about who your husband sees, where he goes and what he does outside the home or even what he has in his will? Do you know that men respect financially independent ladies?

What I want many married ladies to know is that once they are married and start having children, the most important thing in their life at that point is self development and that of the child(ren). When you spend time developing yourself, even your hubby will give you great respect. Please don't ever settle to be a full housewife..at worst get a shop around where you stay and do something.

3.Perform your marital duties: Men do not joke with bedroom and kitchen matters. Do you know how to cook your husband's favourite meals? do you know how to make him go crazy in the room?

Most men who cheat are lured by either good food or bed-magics of another lady. While you refuse to go down on him and give him those crazy moves, one lady out there is ready to do stuffs that will make him have an attention at work just by thinking about her.

Many married ladies keep nagging about their husband's infidelity while neglecting those virtues that will endear their husbands more to them..most times when a man is drawn away by another lady, there is usually something that lady is doing that you are lacking so focus first on becoming a great wife before you complain of your husband's infidelity.

And for the man, be communicative and let your wife knows what you want so that she can do her best to make the union a better one.
And if you are so hell bent on cheating on your wife please do it as far away as you can because one of the biggest ridicule and disrespect you can bring on your marriage is to cheat on her to her face.

I believe that if married ladies understand these three points, they will always remain happy in their marriages and infact grow old with their partners till death do them apart. You just understand that no one holds the key to your marital happiness except you.


I hope this makes sense

You a sick man. Yet you wonder why married women are cheating right left and centre these days making men like you raise kids that ain't yours.

HaneefahRN:
This man and his moronic threads *sighs*

truth hurts

sosa993:
sincerely if my husband cheats on me I won't even fight him or stress myself at all, I'll tell him I know he's cheating. I'll perform my wifely duties, but sex won't be part of the duties I'll ever perform. who wants to die. in fact I'll kill him with affection, but I'll stop having sex with him because of diseases.

na today

You can have a happy marriage, but you will have to get muddy and grimey to achieve the happy place with God centered of it all!

Youngpo413:
if a woman cheats, the man will only send her packing which is not a big deal and also not a death sentence. So?

And life goes on...

bisiswag:

You a sick man. Yet you wonder why married women are cheating right left and centre these days making men like you raise kids that ain't yours.

they started sampling different dicks when they were single, jumping from one dick to another all in the name of relationship, why should such ladies be faithful, one of the reasons every sane man should marry a Virgin instead of those hoes with their overused pusys.

My first question to OP is if he is married? Here is the major reason why marriages of today suffer. People going into marriages with the wrong thought and ideas. So of what use is getting married if you know your husband is going to cheat? Why not just have sex and get pregnant and then both parents care for the child why they both go about sleep with other people?

The major problem with this generation is that most people are suffering from what I call broken home syndrome where they saw their parents cheating. If not that why on earth will anybody have this mentality about marriage and still expect it to be the path to a blissful marriages?

Why would one say couples can cheat so then what happens to the children? What kind of society do you think would come out from such homes? We already have a major problem in by just looking at children of today, how most of them lack basic home training because both parents are so engaged in other things like that will satisfy them instead of focus on their childern.

Not to cheat have nothing to do with religion instead a simple moral value. People with sure mindset as stated in the op should stay single and not get married. A lot of people getting into marriage are so insecure today because of this mindset and as result a man can't even have a female as a friend without the wife thinking otherwise and the same goes to the male.

For me o, you must be mentally purged of people, friends and ideas with and as stated on the op to enjoy a blissful marriage. The emotional headache, pain and headaches is not worth it. If a man or a woman portray or even shows signs of cheating before marriage dump that person he or she is not worth you.

To the aspect of the woman making her own money and cooking. I agree to a certain point. My reasons are that a woman need to keep herself busy to stay away from useless friends and idolness but not to allow the husband cheat. Staying busy to remove ones mind from a cheating husband can only be achieved if the woman don't love her husband. How do you expect anyone to focus when he or she is not emotionally stable. You can love a man and still be comfortable knowing that the man is with another woman while you are at work except you never loved that man in the first place or you too as the woman is cheat which take us again to my very first point.

As for the cooking aspect, hello we are Africans not oyinbo. The funny part is that even the oyinbo women must of them are good cooks and still successful career women and beautiful to crown it all. I have a lot of friend with oyinbo women that can cook, take good care of their homes and still manage a very good career positions. The reason most women can't cook is because the mother spend so much time thinking about money and the next boyfriend instead of training their daughters which take us back to having the wrong mentality prior to getting married. As a woman don't even talk of marriage if you can't cook seriously. But guess what that doesn't mean a man should not know how to cook too or help around the house. A woman should not be left to do everything around the house if you too as a man want a blissfully marriage.

Anyway I rest here and please before you disagree which you are allowed to do because it is a free world please do think about this and then look at our society today and then ask yourself again if it is time to look inward for correct. All the same bless you all and have a happy Sunday and please don't forget to invite me for Sunday rice. Thanks

99foxxy:
And life goes on...

yeah, life goes on, life of shame rather...

Youngpo413:
The truth is always bitter.

what truth? That men are not trustworthy? Look at the rubbish you people are gladly identifying yourselves with. Are your p3nises more important than being seen as normal human beings who are considerate of others and can be trusted with huge things like life investments such as marriage?

This is more like a he-goat typing. "I don't care what you think of me or who I hurt as long as I get my dose of pucci". Shudders. Disgusting.

Youngpo413:
they started sampling different dicks when they were single, jumping from one dick to another all in the name of relationship, why should such ladies be faithful, one of the reasons every sane man should marry a Virgin instead of those hoes with their overused pusys.

so you marry a virgin and she should still expect to be cheated on. BTW are you a virgin? If no why should a woman stay faithful to you? Classic narcissistic dumbo.

Youngpo413:
if a woman cheats, the man will only send her packing which is not a big deal and also not a death sentence. So?

not if she sends you packing first. Except you are living and glorifying in the jungle where your women don't have rights. That's the only explanation why you think you can cheat and still have the upper hand.

cococandy:
what truth? That men are not trustworthy? Look at the rubbish you people are gladly identifying yourselves with. Are your p3nises more important than being seen as normal human beings who are considerate of others and can be trusted with huge things like life investments such as marriage?

This is more like a he-goat typing. "I don't care what you think of me or who I hurt as long as I get my dose of pucci". Shudders. Disgusting.

if any lady needs a faithful man, she should get married to a broke and ugly one, I don't think that's a big deal.

Youngpo413:
you can vex from now till tomorrow, men will continue to cheat, don't blame the men though, blame the cheap pusys littering every where.

You're trying too hard. Sigh

cococandy:
not if she sends you packing first. Except you are living and glorifying in the jungle where your women don't have rights. That's the only explanation why you think you can cheat and still have the upper hand.

in who's house? In this naija? Keep dreaming.

cococandy:


You're trying too hard. Sigh

yeah trying too hard to be faithful in this Era of cheap pusys. I'm happy you can feel my pains.

Youngpo413:
if any lady needs a faithful man, she should get married to a broke and ugly one, I don't think that's a big deal.

Well everyone isn't a randy he-goat like you. Even the good looking and comfortable/wealthy ones.

Besides one shouldn't be surprised. You can't give more than what you have. Raised to have no integrity and respect for commitment, you can't even see the wrong in what you're supporting. It's one thing to do wrong and admit that it's wrong. It's another to only see glory in such wrong doing. Speaks of deep lack of moral compass that can only be caused by an erosion of humanity that started from childhood. If you weren't raised to be that way, you wouldn't see it as bad. It's not your fault.

Meanwhile HIV is real too. Men like you only get sense after they've infected their wives and unborn children (if they even do). I've seen you many times in many forms. And I've seen your wife and kids suffer many times in many forms from different walks of life. Any lady with half a brain should stay away from your immature entitled ass.

cococandy:
so you marry a virgin and she should still expect to be cheated on. BTW are you a virgin? If no why should a woman stay faithful to you? Classic narcissistic dumbo.

suit your self madam, but don't start WETIN you no go fit finish.

Youngpo413:
in who's house? In this naija? Keep dreaming.

maybe if you marry them dependent ass ladies. You sound 16. And You're prbabaly 13 and I'm wasting my morning on you.

Itzurboi:
We all understand no one would love/appreciate such situation but since some cant control the cheating habit in them, we should be prepared our mind for the possible unforeseen contigency... if i had a tip of this, i guess i wont be heartbroken when i caught my fiance cheating right under my nose, who we courted for 4yrs, already acquainted with each other family... My dear, the truth is a cheater would always be a cheater...some of our parents can attest to that, just that wisdom was applied that why you still see them together...

Seems you don't get my point. The headline is fallacious. There is a clear difference between enduring in marriage and happy in marriage. Overlooking a cheating spouse doesn't make a woman a happy wife but an enduring one. Our mothers were able to keep their marriages because they endured, majorly because they give in to subjugation from unfavourable cultures. Women today are becoming more civilised and out spoken. Enduring infidelity is not the same as keeping a marriage happy. A happy marriage is the one that follows due process of the constitutional laws and religion practised. If the laws says wife should submit, then she must. If the laws says husband should submit to only his wife, then he must. That's what makes a happy marriage. That's a marriage that's not pretentious. Every role is played accordingly, nobody is short-changed.If I must endure infidelity to be able to stay in a happy marriage, since we are talking about happiness, then I should as well get satisfaction elsewhere to enable me feel secured and care even less.

There are those who keep their marriages because they get satisfaction elsewhere to keep their insecurities in check. If i can tell my husband to use condoms if he must play, he will be the most stupid man to brag that I'm a good wife. There are several cases where condoms break during intercourse, I'm sure he won't let me know but will come home to do it without protection with the wife.
Let's all be careful.

Youngpo413:
suit your self madam, but don't start WETIN you no go fit finish.

No go fit finish? Like what? Just pray that in your he-goatism you don't meet someone that I know or is related to me. You will regret your pathetic life. You think all ladies sit down and take poo like the females you've probably known all your life? You will see something so different your p3nis will shrink everything you think about sex.

cococandy:

Well everyone isn't a randy he-goat like you. Even the good looking and comfortable/wealthy ones.

Besides one shouldn't be surprised. You can't give more than what you have. Raised to have no integrity and respect for commitment, you can't even see the wrong in what you're supporting. It's one thing to do wrong and admit that it's wrong. It's another to only see glory in such wrong doing. Speaks of deep lack of moral compass that can only be caused by an erosion of humanity that started from childhood. If you weren't raised to be that way, you wouldn't see it as bad. It's not your fault.

Meanwhile HIV is real too. Men like you only get sense after they've infected their wives and unborn children (if they even do). I've seen you many times in many forms. And I've seen your wife and kids suffer many times in many forms from different walks of life. Any lady with half a brain should stay away from your immature entitled ass.

ladies with brain, I laugh in Spanish who dash banana, as if you hoes are better interms of cheating, you better wake up and face reality, fish brain.

Youngpo413:
yeah, life goes on, life of shame rather...

Bros, i was only laying an emphasis, why carry the matter on your head na? do unto others what they will do unto you, that's all...

MrPresident1:


The notion of a cheating man is a modern day fad. As long as a man is not sleeping with another man's wife, a man cannot be said to be cheating. Cheating on who?

A woman on the other hand is entitled to only one man because more than one deek in a woman's life will mess up her DNA.

Ile aiye ti change sha.

Here they come, masking ignorance as knowledge. Who told you women absorb DNA from their partners?

cococandy:

No go fit finish? Like what? Just pray that in your he-goatism you don't meet someone that I know or is related to me. You will regret your pathetic life. You think all ladies sit down and take poo like the females you've probably known all your life? You will see something so different your p3nis will shrink everything you think about sex.

I heard this a million times, I know your type always ranting, that's the only you are good at.

ucsparks:



[scolor=#990000] i stand to be corrected. [b]Females were never created to be wise , and you naturally proved that flaw from your write up [/color][/size][/b]

Is your mother foolish?