mysticgal:
This post coming from a guy proves that desperation to get married is experienced by male and female....
Op I wish you all the best in your search for the person.
Good luck

any man that knows wat he is doing and care to raise his kids to a reasonable stage before heavenly call come knocking will certainly become desperate at certain age. even though I had planned to settle down at age btw 27-30, I didn't know how I got to be single at 35 and d desperation became something else but glory be to God my wedding comes up in less than a month from now.

cindybaby22:
Surprised this is coming from a guy
thought it apply to we ladies alone
my elder bro is going to be 41 this month & he doesn't feel the need to get married at all.
him matter tire me

Abeg jst leav dat ur bro to jaye wella and tak his time to choose. I hav an elder bro who got married at the age of 50 and another at the age of 24. Wit d way tins are now; I envy d former to d later...For it is berra to be single and alone than to live under the same roof wit a contentious... u complete it. no b my mouth u go hear am say na Buhari be Nija President.

proddey:


It's a continuation from where I stopped in that post.

You are 38 years old now according to the story, you copied someone's thread just to make FP.

The hustle for frontpage is real

My brother na d same level me n u day oo, I tot I was d only one passing tru dis kind of situation, though a girl broke my heart long time ago, dis was a girl I date 4 six years den I was in school. Well am praying 2 GOD 2 bring my missing rip. Me I day desperate now.

chronique:
Easier said than done. Those days,I used to say latest by 27,I'd be married but 27 came,and marriage didn't happen. 30 and more has come and gone,et no show. Thirty something plus is counting and we don't even know what tomorrow holds. Just pray you never get to experience it.

amen brother.. I can't afford to be unmarried wen i'm 31. I'm pretty much tryn so hard to combine business and making new female friends.

oglalasioux:
Marriage is only a ploy by men of olden days to perpetually subdue women. It's overhyped and a major reason a lot of wrong is in the society.

That one institution that blows fire with water in it's mouth called religion has used the marriage institution to over load world population while it doesn't have a clue on how to curtail the pathology and hunger that accompany it.

It's time marriage is de-emphasized so that our energies will be put into the right things which chief among them is to end poverty, diseases and wars.

Satan is speaking...

It's been a long long time people responded with mature and insightful comments. So much to learn from all contributions given. We all are growing.

VikingsOO7:
I've read this exact same story before.

https://www.nairaland.com/2815882/travails-marrying-late

The op copied everything from that thread. It was on FP and the mods pushed this to FP again.

My brother just chill and read ur bible. For it is better to marry late than to marry the wrong woman early. But just make sur u don't exceed 45yrs.

ammyluv2002:
Maybe, he's been careful not to make mistakes, probably he's loaded/was once heartbroken. There are a lot of things that can make a guy who's doing well for himself not to get married as expected;

1. His married friends. How are thier marriages? A single man with so many married friends may be scared of marriage just because of what his friends are passing through. They talk about how it has been so difficult as a married man, how they wished they never got married, but if his married friends are enjoying their union, he becomes desperate to get married. He would want to settle down asap so he can also enjoy his wife.

2. Not seeking godly counsel especially if he's loaded. You know, its so difficult for a rich guy to find a woman who will truly love him, and a wise guy wouldn't want to make some funny mistakes. He would prefer to take his time till he finds the right person.

3. Heartbreak! Guys don't easily get over heartbreaks. He finds it very difficult to fall in love again.


4. Fear of commitment! Some of them are so scared of commitment. They don't want to be "caged" by a woman. They want to be free without having to answer to anyone.

BAR MAN!!!! THREE BOTTLES OF WHICHEVER LIQUOR THIS MY GUY TAKES.

cindybaby22:
Surprised this is coming from a guy
thought it apply to we ladies alone
my elder bro is going to be 41 this month & he doesn't feel the need to get married at all.
him matter tire me

Am sure your brother is a 'Nwanna'.Your brother could just be putting up a facade as ,deep down, he might be troubled that most friends are already married, except him.
The reasons why he might be behaving that way could be:
1. financial constraint ( no money for traditional wedding, white church wedding, no money to pay expensive rent, might still be living with mom and Dad, no good Job or business).
2. Social circle: his contact with females might be limited to family members at home and at the office, especially if he drives to work, has a desk bound job, lives in an exclusive estate and does not belong to any singles fellowship or group in church. He might also not belong to any secular club or organisation.
3. Hardluck. Lack of luck with women through serial disappointments
The financial aspects can be overcome if we keep it short and simple (kiss). There might be no need for expensive church wedding and reception as that money can be used to get a good apartment to live after a court wedding, coupled with church blessing. From personal experience, I and my wife, later on, rued the fact that we spent so much money on white wedding as that money could have been more judiciously spent.
The social aspect can be solved by reaching out and joining single groups, clubs and match-making introduction to good ladies.
Concerning hardluck, serious prayers, coupled with spiritual guidance and counselling could help.

jnrbayano:


Hahahahahahaha.

It's not about deadlines. Believe me.

You may disagree, but its okay.

lol my brother chronique just made me realise that.


Buh hey, it's not applicable to everyone

Take heart heart bruh, ur post is directly for me.

alizma:

any man that knows wat he is doing and care to raise his kids to a reasonable stage before heavenly call come knocking will certainly become desperate at certain age. even though I had planned to settle down at age btw 27-30, I didn't know how I got to be single at 35 and d desperation became something else but glory be to God my wedding comes up in less than a month from now.

Aww, congrats dear... Wish you all the best life and marriage can offer

I pray u find your soul mate soon

proddey:



1. You're really not meeting people is the main reason.
2. Your job takes about 80% of your time.
3. You must want someone that wants you
etc

I meet quite a good number of hot girls on 2go AND I send random messages to Nairaland hotties. Why not be like me ?

Cutehector:
lol my brother chronique just made me realise that.


Buh hey, it's not applicable to everyone

True.

but marriage isn't just a task that needs a deadline. Hey, what do I even know sef?

DoctorAlien:


Satan is speaking...

The dude is
So on point.

jnrbayano:


True.

but marriage isn't just a task that needs a deadline Hey, what do I even know sef?

lol I totally agree with words of wisdom.

Cutehector:
lol I totally agree with words of wisdom.

Glad Hector does.

Cheers

Bro the solution is simple, look the only time you should get married is when you actually can do without it, desperation was, is and will always result in poor decisions, and honestly am finding it had to believe that a guy can't find a girl, i mean without being materialistic here, what is in your bank account, is your bank alart kpekem or should we ask p square? how comfortable are you? because women like men that can take care of their needs #Life, if you got that covered then the math is simple you should have at least two ladies wanting you to put a ring on it, you can ask Beyonce she should know, but then again you might be ugly without the right words or worst broke.

Cutehector:
You are still unmarried because you kept on chasing what wasn't important.



I"ve given myself a marriage deadline. By age 30 I MUST be married. Whether I have money or not!

how old are you now. so I can help you calculate dates

How difficult can it be to recover form an heart break oh..! It took me two years to recover from mine..this is karma here people u break someone's heart someone break yours

Melsan:
Uncle gidjah,oto oro le so yi oooo

Thanks sister,bawo nio?eku ojo meta ati abo,we ise nlo dede ?

WinningSun:

how old are you now. so I can help you calculate dates

at a point I felt it's only immature people that would correlate comments with one's age.

stinkmainer:
Bro the solution is simple, look the only time you should get married is when you actually can do without it, desperation was, is and will always result in poor decisions, and honestly am finding it had to believe that a guy can't find a girl, i mean without being materialistic here, what is in your bank account, is your bank alart kpekem or should we ask p square? how comfortable are you? because women like men that can take care of their needs #Life, if you got that covered then the math is simple you should have at least two ladies wanting you to put a ring on it, you can ask Beyonce she should know, but then again you might be ugly without the right words or worst broke.

chronique is this applicable in ur situation?

For me I have a big problem I am dating 2 ladies and I love both of them but the one that I love most is just too harsh and she is dark in complexion and I love ebony ladies . The Other lady is very fair in complexion, very rich and she has her own house and she wants me to get married to her by November by all means and start having kids but inside me ,the one I want to get married to is the other dark lady but she nags too much and we quarrel almost every week but I love her so much. Am so confused

shaybebaby:

Just spread your oyinbo under hot sun, e go brown sharply.
Apart from the butt though, that one no dey see sun.

Rotflmao

proddey:

Most of the girls you meet online are mostly runs girls.

haba op. runs girls?... assumption is very bad..change ur mindset swthrt

Ask, seek and knock and it shall be given to thee so says the Holy book. and @ the divine encounter in Abuja by Daddy G.O, he says all of us who are lonely and ripe for marriage the right partner will locate us this year. if you believe type Amen

whitebeard:
How difficult can it be to recover form an heart break oh..! It took me two years to recover from mine..this is karma here people u break someone's heart someone break yours

Hello..hw can it take u two good yrs to recover frm a broken relationship hmmmmm u need Jesus abegi..

Wow! This is serious, I tot i was alone in this condition, am jus 31 but still in a diverstating desperation for marriage even though I have just one month to drive the screw I still feel like its not gonna come soon. lolz.