kneehighbootz:



Congratulations, good man. And Olori is very beautiful.

I agree with you, she is. Thank you

Aaaaah. Serubawon

Congrats our story comes to a beautiful beginning.

Write that memoir.
Glad to be part of it.
One of the best things to come out of NL.

Lovely pics

salsera:
Aaaaah. Serubawon

Congrats our story comes to a beautiful beginning.

Write that memoir.
Glad to be part of it.
One of the best things to come out of NL.

Lovely pics

Salseraaaaaaaaaaaaa.......... My sista from anoda moda. Long time no hear. How is life? Nice to hear from you again. Yes o, "our story comes to a beautiful beginning". Thanks my sister

Hello dear brother and my new sister! What a blessed new beginning God has wrought! I thought of you and decided to check the thread and am blessed to see this good news! My God continue to bless you both abundantly!

Oh! My hubby and I are still quite well! We now have a new daughter in law and 3 more grandchildren.

prittigrrr:
Oh! My hubby and I are still quite well! We now have a new daughter in law and 3 more grandchildren.

Praise God!!! Nice to hear from you after a long while. Great news. My prayer is that all the other contributors to this thread that have gone through hardship or trials in whatever form or way, will start to give testimonies of the goodness of God in their lives. That's what this thread is all about.

serubawon:
It's kind of funny how you plan to do something and something else entirely different happens that dovetails into your plans perfectly. I think imconfused was peeping into my thoughts. As mentioned earlier, I have some questions for the women and I believe their answers will really help me in my project. However, I'm trying to figure out whether I should get into imconfused's topic first. I guess imconfused wins.

Speaking for myself (and maybe for a lot of other guys too), I think I can understand why we (men) think women 'nag', when the women see it as being[b] 'vocally supportive'.[/b] I happen to be one of those men who is a terrible housekeeper, but a whiz in the office. My room looks like the permanent abode of hurricane Katrina, but I can't stand dirty clothes. Washing dishes is like torture to me, but I can spend hours washing my car. It's weird how forgetful I am about the simplest everyday chores in the house, but I can almost remember (word for word), a term paper i wrote over 20 years ago. Maybe it's the way we are wired (I honestly don't know), but we men are slobs, plain and simple.

As always, I'll use myself as an example (because I can vouch for no one but myself ). As opposed to my late wife being aggressive, very outgoing, socially adept and just an ever ready battery all the time; I'm quiet, patient, kind of a procrastinator (maybe more), nerdy (as in I read a lot), and a homebody, it wasn't as if the balance we had just materialized from nowhere. We had to work for it. The earlier it gets done, the better.

The key to getting that balance lies in 'COMMUNICATION', which unfortunately is lacking in a lot of marriages. I believe the men are the biggest perpetrators here. My late wife would go on for hours and I found out that the only way to stay out trouble was to listen and more importantly (keep track of the conversation). After she had had her say, all I had to do was to give her my thoughts of the situation and leave her to decide. Telling her what to do in a commanding tone was inviting war. As the years went by, she gradually took my advice more and more until it got to a time where she wouldn't do anything without my input.

On the other hand, I had to learn to use her strengths to my advantage. I used to be an IT training consultant for banks and other financial institutions. I was not, am not and maybe never will be a hustler or aggressive go-getter. I was great at what I did, but woeful in going after the clients for projects and that really affected me negatively. However, I decided to bring her into the marketing side of my business and it was like magic. She went after the jobs, I executed them. We agreed on a sharing ratio and it worked like a dream. She was an artist when it came to getting a client. I was only needed for the operational aspects and assuring the client that we were competent enough to get the job done.

Where am I going with this? We used this same concept at home and in the bedroom and it worked. However, the main ingredient for the success was effective communication between us. Spoilt said something important and it happens to be very true and unfortunate. We men find it very difficult to say "I'm Sorry". If there are any guys reading this, take it from me as the gospel truth, it works when you apologize. When I found out how much the 'sorry' word could repair damage I had done, I learned to say it in my sleep and mean it too. To us men, saying the word sorry is like demeaning yourself (which is wrong big time). You'll be surprised how much love and warmth you'll receive from your wife when you show that you were wrong and apologize for it.

Woaw!

This is just great.

Congrats on your wedding to Olori.

All the best and speedy recovery of your daughter.

wow what a beautiful thread, congrats sir Serubawon wishing you more blessings, I pray God continues to show us all mercy, love and guard us all. one love everyone.

@ Serubawon,I've followed this thread from the beginning n felt your pained,shared in the happiness when you met olori n the climax is the marriage.
Never made a comment was too emotional but you don't know the joy I felt when the announced the wedding.
God bless your Union Amen n bless you both in abundance in health,wealth,long life,prosperity,happiness.Amen
Plenty of kisses to you n yours.
God bless you both.

WOW

bukatyne:


Woaw!

This is just great.

Congrats on your wedding to Olori.

All the best and speedy recovery of your daughter.

Thank you!

bim2:
@ Serubawon,I've followed this thread from the beginning n felt your pained,shared in the happiness when you met olori n the climax is the marriage.
Never made a comment was too emotional but you don't know the joy I felt when the announced the wedding.
God bless your Union Amen n bless you both in abundance in health,wealth,long life,prosperity,happiness.Amen
Plenty of kisses to you n yours.
God bless you both.

Thank you very much

bukatyne:


Woaw!

This is just great.

Congrats on your wedding to Olori.

All the best and speedy recovery of your daughter.

Thank you!

@seubawon
congrats and wish you a blissful life with your beautiful wife and kids

pickabeau1:
@seubawon
congrats and wish you a blissful life with your beautiful wife and kids

Thank you.

@serubawon, I followed this thread years ago silently, and came to check on updates once in a while. Your story is an example of God's faithfuness. May joy never cease in your home.

chioma134:
@serubawon, I followed this thread years ago silently, and came to check on updates once in a while. Your story is an example of God's faithfuness. May joy never cease in your home.

Amen. Thank you.

Just to let people know how much the Lord has blessed me

serubawon:
Just to let people know how much the Lord has blessed me

she is beautiful. Congrats

Stumbled on this thread about a month ago through a search for what I can't remember now and refused to jump to the last page after the first as I usually do; I just finished reading everything now . Although I had never been closely bereaved except a neighbour-friend who died about 3 months ago, I must say I am deeply touched and comforted. It's also dramatic ...

Congratulations @Serubawon (o tun ja won laya ) God indeed is faithful. The sweet and happy ending for @prittigrrr and you is a testament that @RTFM, @opeolukoya, @oluchikeh, @SubomiOluwa and hosts of others will indeed scale through and overcome with God.

God is ever faithful ...

Congratulations Sir. I wondered what happened eventually, thanks for updating us.

Your Experience has reinforce my convictions that if We trust Implicitly in God, He will turn our Mournings to Joyfully outcry.

Thanks for sharing Your Life, Pain, Healing and finally Joy with Us.

May God Bless Your Home. And May you see and enjoy life with Your Awesome Wife.

Please tell Her She married a King. Fly High Always Sir.
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serubawon:
Sorry all for the silence. A lot was going on. However, I'm pleased to inform everyone that Olori and I got married today August 11 2016. It's been a very long journey for both of us and also since this thread began. Just like all good stories, they finally come to an end and this is the end of one story and the beginning of another.

Heartfelt appreciation to those that made this thread so wonderful. It was a special project that still endures. From Olori and I.............. God bless you all!!!!!!

Wow!!!!Wow!!!Wow!!..can't keep my expression, OMG am extremely happy...Congratulations Sir, may God bless your home

Madam is so beautiful. (how is your daughter doing (madam's daughter),am sure she is great now.

anytime am down, I come here to read your words of encouragement..You such a great man.

May God continue to bless you and Olori.

Lalaity:
Congratulations Sir. I wondered what happened eventually, thanks for updating us.

Your Experience has reinforce my convictions that if We trust Implicitly in God, He will turn our Mournings to Joyfully outcry.

Thanks for sharing Your Life, Pain, Healing and finally Joy with Us.

May Gid Bless Your Home. And May you see and enjoy life with Your Awesome Wife.

Please tell Her She married a King. Fly High Always Sir.

Wow! Thank you so much. I sincerely appreciate that.

mumsgirl27:


Wow!!!!Wow!!!Wow!!..can't keep my expression, OMG am extremely happy...Congratulations Sir, may God bless your home

Madam is so beautiful. (how is your daughter doing (madam's daughter),am sure she is great now.

anytime am down, I come here to read your words of encouragement..You such a great man.

May God continue to bless you and Olori.

Amen and thank you. Our daughter is doing better and better everyday and the joy of our Lord is our strength.

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Jeez! I thank God for where you are today Uncle serubawon. I stumbled upon the thread last month at the exact time you posted yourself and olori's pic. I read a few pages and jumped to the end in time to catch a glimpse of you guys. Came back today to read it all and I must say that you are indeed a man. Your blessed reward awaits you in the future of your children and this everlasting marriage you have entered into.

I have really learnt a lot from here.

Shoutout to all the contributors, and peepers, that have been on the thread with him from the start.

May God grant your daughter total recovery.

serubawon:
Just to let people know how much the Lord has blessed me

The kweeeeeeeeeeen slayyyying!!!!! Uncle Seru! Congratulations! May God bless your new home! I'm so happy right now, may we keep seeing things like such on the thread
Congrats!

Jumaii:
Uncle Serubawon. I say a big congratulations to you. i stumbled upon your thread last week Thursday when i was in one of my low moments and i can say to you and every other person that has contributed to this thread that i feel so blessed.

Tough times truly never last, only tough people do and you are just one of a kind worthy of emulation. I pray that God who has granted you so much happiness despite all the travails wipes away my tears pretty soon.

God bless you Sir.

Thanks for the prayers. I appreciate them. You mentioned "my tears*. Would you care to elaborate?

mamadsquare:
Jeez! I thank God for where you are today Uncle serubawon. I stumbled upon the thread last month at the exact time you posted yourself and olori's pic. I read a few pages and jumped to the end in time to catch a glimpse of you guys. Came back today to read it all and I must say that you are indeed a man. Your blessed reward awaits you in the future of your children and this everlasting marriage you have entered into.

I have really learnt a lot from here.

Shoutout to all the contributors, and peepers, that have been on the thread with him from the start.

May God grant your daughter total recovery.

Amen and thank you so much.

joyAA:


The kweeeeeeeeeeen slayyyying!!!!! Uncle Seru! Congratulations! May God bless your new home! I'm so happy right now, may we keep seeing things like such on the thread
Congrats!

Thank you.

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serubawon:
Just to let people know how much the Lord has blessed me

This babe fine gannnnnn
Serubobo you are blessed
BTW Its CC