serubawon:


My sister from another mother. How are you and hows the family doing? We're doing great. Olori and the kids are keeping me on my toes on a daily basis. I'm sorry for being away for so long. My work schedule is crazy busy and every once in a while when I check the site, I'm off it pretty quickly when I don't see a comment.

Abeg, give me gist......How are you doing jare?

I remember ur story back then when I separated from hubby and I was just putting myself together and was always on nairaland to reduce thinking. Congrats sir.may ur home be filled with everlasting joy and peace.

realtalk19:


I remember ur story back then when I separated from hubby and I was just putting myself together and was always on nairaland to reduce thinking. Congrats sir.may ur home be filled with everlasting joy and peace.

Amen. Thank you so much.

serubawon:
Just trying to figure out where to start from,

@Yogun. Yes I'm grateful for all the people that have contributed in one way or the other on this thread. I learn a lot from them every time they post; especially the regular gang like Chaircover, Spoilt, Jennykadry, ikamefa, sisi_kill etc. They are like a panel of female advisers and their posts just crack me up sometimes.

Ok. I'll start with madam Spoilt. She wasn't a twenty-something young sex bomb at all. She was in her mid-thirties and I expected a level of maturity from someone like that. Maybe because she had never been married before? I don't know. However, what I saw initially was completely different from the end result.

@Ilemima. Whether I contributed to the break-up? Most likely. It takes 2 to tango and It would be unfair if I made it seem that I had no fault whatsoever in this. However, honestly, I tried to make it work. Have you ever experienced a situation where you are basically working against the odds? That was my problem. You're supposed to marry your best friend. In this case, because of the pressure (trust me, it was a lot), I overlooked most of the things that I considered to be important and chose to accept someone based on Christianity period. My mistake. Of course you wouldn't want to marry someone who is unequally yoked to you by religion, but I should have considered someone that was more my equal intellectually, emotionally and spiritually. I'm not perfect and I make mistakes. However, I'm thankful this was an accident I could walk away from intact. Never again.

Back to madam Spoilt. Come December 24th this year, it'll be 7 years since my late wife passed on. It's a lot easier for me to speak about what happened. I've had people tell me that it's taking too long for me to re-marry (the pressure I mentioned earlier). She was the best thing that happened to me (apart from my kids of course). We were best friends for over a year before it even occurred to me that I wanted to move to the next level. I have posted about how we meet on another thread: https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=720.msg574065#msg574065

Talking about a soul mate, she was the one. I've been extremely wayward in the past (and I mean extremely), but when I met her, it all stopped. It was like crashing into a brick wall of reality and for the 6 years we were married, I never cheated (not once). I didn't even think of cheating 'cause I was a very happy man. When she died, I had a nervous breakdown for a whole year before God in His infinite mercy delivered me. 7 years down the road with 2 kids to support and I'm still standing, it's nothing short of a miracle. I guess it takes someone in my shoes to understand that.

Finally, how did she pass on? This is where it gets tricky. One day she complained of a headache and for the next one year the headache gradually grew into a nightmare. We went to every specialist available in Nigeria. We couldn't get an american visa because my family had filed for immigration status for me and you can't be granted a visiting visa when you are under processing. The doctors just couldn't understand what was wrong. The tests were negative for everything. She had just finished a 10 month Montessori course that had been hell for her. Even with all the pain, she still came out with the 2nd best result in the whole of West Africa. She was again admitted into the hospital Christmas week and she passed away on Christmas eve. I've never really enjoyed christmas since then, but I'm thankful to God for everything, especially my kids.

People may think that I'm an extremely over-protective father, but it's like the one thing I owe to their mother is to make sure that by God's grace, our children succeed in life and that is exactly what I'll do even if it's the last thing I do.

I don't ask for pity. I am just eternally grateful to God for His mercies over my household and that's why i know that things will be well IJN.

I can relate

Wow! Read 41pages within hours... This is the best thread I have seen on nairaland.

Happy New Year everyone. Hope your dreams and expectations come to pass this new year. Haven't been here in a while and didn't know people were still contributing. I hope this thread is helpful to whoever can relate.

serubawon:
Happy New Year everyone. Hope your dreams and expectations come to pass this new year. Haven't been here in a while and didn't know people were still contributing. I hope this thread is helpful to whoever can relate.

Happy new year to you too.
Though I'm not a widow, but your thread gave me hope when I was at the lowest cos of my divorce issue..
I used to feel ashamed, dirty and sad but now I don't feel an iota of those anymore...all I remember is just memories and just been grateful I'm here

I just had to say something, OP, you are a miracle! God be with you and your children.

Jesus dis thread is frm 2006, oga go don marry na

Erums:
Jesus dis thread is frm 2006, oga go don marry na

Yes, I'm married now. Actually, I've been married to this wonderful Amazon called "Olori", for over 2 years now and I've been truly blessed.

Amopeekun:
I just had to say something, OP, you are a miracle! God be with you and your children.

Amen and thank you very much.

Amopeekun:
I just had to say something, OP, you are a miracle! God be with you and your children.

Amen to that. My kids are grown up now. My daughter is 18 and finishing her 2nd year at the university. My son is now 16. He starts university this summer. My step-daughter is 13 and doing really great. Her recovery has astounded doctors. I've been truly blessed.

serubawon:


Yes, I'm married now. Actually, I've been married to this wonderful Amazon called "Olori", for over 2 years now and I've been truly blessed.

Congrats sir.. More bliss

serubawon:
Happy New Year everyone. Hope your dreams and expectations come to pass this new year. Haven't been here in a while and didn't know people were still contributing. I hope this thread is helpful to whoever can relate.

Happy New year sir. I will always continue to wish the very best for you in all your endeavors.

serubawon:


Amen to that. My kids are grown up now. My daughter is 18 and finishing her 2nd year at the university. My son is now 16. He starts university this summer. My step-daughter is 13 and doing really great. Her recovery has astounded doctors. I've been truly blessed.

We give Him all the glory

It is you I appreciate Love to the family

serubawon:


Amen and thank you very much.

Wow, interesting.

I came across this thread 2 days ago, I cried like a baby when I started reading it, had to continue reading again yesterday night. Congratulations uncle Serubawon and a happy new year to and your family.. Am going to share the link of this thread to a colleague of mine that lost her husband on the 2nd of this year, I know it is only God that can comfort her

Priceyk:
I came across this thread 2 days ago, I cried like a baby when I started reading it, had to continue reading again yesterday night. Congratulations uncle Serubawon and a happy new year to and your family.. Am going to share the link of this thread to a colleague of mine that lost her husband on the 2nd of this year, I know it is only God that can comfort her

Happy New Year to you too. Like you said, only God understands how we hurt and only He can comfort us. Please tell her that I know it hurts and the pain feels like its never going to leave...... In time it will. I'm a living testimony of that. My prayers are with her.

I can't believe I spent two days reading through this thread, I laughed cried and laughed again. I can honestly say this is the best thread I've ever read on this platform. Amazing story

9jamuslimaah:
I can't believe I spent two days reading through this thread, I laughed cried and laughed again. I can honestly say this is the best thread I've ever read on this platform. Amazing story

Thank you very much. It has been contributors like you, who have made this thread what it is today.

serubawon:


Amen to that. My kids are grown up now. My daughter is 18 and finishing her 2nd year at the university. My son is now 16. He starts university this summer. My step-daughter is 13 and doing really great. Her recovery has astounded doctors. I've been truly blessed.

God is faithful

Wow! This thread has been on since 2006?
Wonderful!

Uncle Serubawon, may God bless u and ur family.
What an inspiring thread.

egojeny1:
Wow! This thread has been on since 2006?
Wonderful!

Uncle Serubawon, may God bless u and ur family.
What an inspiring thread.

13 years and this thread is still on. God is truly good.

serubawon:


13 years and this thread is still on. God is truly good.

Wow!
Finally read it through
...
-Threads like this should "forever" be on FrontPage of both Family section and the Forum itself-
...
Every page is an inspiration.
Thank you so much for this awesome read.

PaulAris:

Wow!
Finally read it through
...
-Threads like this should "forever" be on FrontPage of both Family section and the Forum itself-
...
Every page is an inspiration.
Thank you so much for this awesome read.

Serubawon ooooooooooooooo. Haba, where are you naa? We have not heard from you for a while ke? Updates o........Please.

This is one of the first threads I ever read on nairaland. It really did a number on me then.

Happy you're married now Serubawon. God bless your family.

I'm doing great ooo! It's summer and the family is getting ready to go on summer vacation. I can't go because I have to work, but at least Olori and the kids will have fun in the sun on a beach resort. My son is taller than I am and it baffles me where these growth spurts are coming from. He goes to the University this fall. My daughter is in her 3rd year pre-med and already thinking of how much she will make as a doctor. Our little one turns 14 this summer and can't seem to make up her mind what fashion statement she wants to make.

Life is good and I am truly grateful.

serubawon:
I'm doing great ooo! It's summer and the family is getting ready to go on summer vacation. I can't go because I have to work, but at least Olori and the kids will have fun in the sun on a beach resort. My son is taller than I am and it baffles me where these growth spurts are coming from. He goes to the University this fall. My daughter is in her 3rd year pre-med and already thinking of how much she will make as a doctor. Our little one turns 14 this summer and can't seem to make up her mind what fashion statement she wants to make.

Life is good and I am truly grateful.

Awwww...you truly deserve to be happy. May God continue to show you and yours love. Greetings to them all.

sisisioge:



Awwww...you truly deserve to be happy. May God continue to show you and yours love. Greetings to them all.

Thank you my sister. Blessings to you and yours.

Jacinthe:
This is one of the first threads I ever read on nairaland. It really did a number on me then.

Happy you're married now Serubawon. God bless your family.

Thank you very much. Amen.

Oga Serubawon, e don reach make you post picture of yourself na. Am sure everyone want to know who the mysterious Serubawon is. Abeg, please na. After 13 years of this thread, allow us to see your face. Doesn't everyone agree?