talk2bells:


so u encourage cheating in a relationship? good, she's a nairalander she will see this.

she needs to breakup before moving on

there is absolutely nothing like cheating in a relationship.....



The only word that is valid is adultery. God will not punish me for cheating on you when we aren't married. He will punish me for committing the sin of fornication!



Don't u get it?




But when thunder will fire me is when after gettn married to a woman and making a vow till death do us part and I go against dat vow to cheat, only den will cheating be valid.



Look if she wants to break off she should break off.. that's the correct language.



Infact to the girl in question, cheating in a relationship is not a sin! Take to the ends of the earth.. I said so.

talk2bells:


so where does my "Rubbish Advice" come in

I told her to move on only after she'd broken up with the guy

and yes she might have been faithful

I had an aunt who was married and the husband went abroad to look for greener pastures leaving her with a kid, she waited for 10 whole years not knowing the man was married with kids there sef

conji wanted to finish her life, she kept waiting for him till they brought proof he was married

please don't call my advice useless if you can't point out my wrongs

thanks

if you had given this advice to her won't it have been better but instead you gave her a yeye advice

stephenmorris:
u contradict ur self alot

nah I don't

Cutehector:
there is absolutely nothing like cheating in a relationship.....



The only word that is valid is adultery. God will not punish me for cheating on you when we aren't married. He will punish me for committing the sin of fornication!



Don't u get it?




But when thunder will fire me is when after gettn married to a woman and making a vow till death do us part and I go against dat vow to cheat, only den will cheating be valid.



Look if she wants to break off she should break off.. that's the correct language.



Infact to the girl in question, cheating in a relationship is not a sin! Take to the ends of the earth.. I said so.

you just haven't met a girl who's not worth cheating on

cheating in any form of relationship, be it just dating or marriage is bad

stephenmorris:
if you had given this advice to her won't it have been better but instead you gave her a yeye advice

please, just point out the "Yeye Advice" if you can't please just go

talk2bells:
My boyfriend has been abroad for the past four years and I have never slept with another man, he hasn’t been home once during those four years and we speak once a week or sometimes twice in a month.


For a while now I have not been able to quell the sexual urge I feel, my intimacy gadgets aren’t working anymore, I need to be held, cuddled, kissed, I need to feel a man pounding me while sweating, but for four whole years I have not been able to.


I know my boyfriend isn’t faithful over there, sometimes when I call he’d speak to me in hushed tone and say he’s going to call me back and for the next one week I won’t hear from him but I know he loves me.


Since this beginning of this year I can’t hold the urge anymore, should I just cheat on him once? Will he know I did it? Maybe I should travel to another state and do it, this world is a small world I don’t want to do it with someone he might know in the future, what should I do?


P.S I am 28



Talk2Bella.


This is something you should talk with your man, who knows he might give you a pass. The possibility of him being faithful is 50/50 it’s either he is or isn’t and that you and I can’t know for sure.


Four years is a long time to wait for someone don’t you think? And you don’t know when or if he will be back, you need to look out for yourself not all these stories end in fairytales.


I wouldn’t advise you to cheat on someone who you still feel you’re in a relationship with, its better you take a walk than cheat.


Talk to him about these urges, ask him if there’s any hope he’s coming back soon and if not if he would like you to come over for a vacation, you would get your answers from these questions and know what decision you got to make.

http://www.talk2bella.com/2016/09/should-i-cheat-on-him-just-once.html

Hahaha. I call this baby love. I don't see the two love birds being strong together.

The chick in context should simply forget about him. Being there before, so I know how it feels like. Women love guys who don't really give them so much attention. The dude is obviously dating someone else, while the lady in Nigeria seems to be so deeply in love with him, simply because she expects something fantastic in return when he returns home. It's really kind of funny and bizarre.

DeeTus:
Hahaha. I call this baby love. I don't see the two love birds being strong together.

The chick in context should simply forget about him. Being there before, so I know how it feels like. Women love guys who don't really give them so much attention. The dude is obviously dating someone else, while the lady in Nigeria seems to be so deeply in love with him, simply because she expects something fantastic in return when he returns home. It's really kind of funny and bizarre.

waitin on someone for four years isn't baby love

If I were in her shoes, I would have cheated long time ago ..... She should be deceiving herself der

talk2bells:



you just haven't met a girl who's not worth cheating on

cheating in any form of relationship, be it just dating or marriage is bad

it's not about meeting a girl who isn't worth cheating on...


I've already learnt how to inculcate self control. I'm not doing it for anybody. If I promise Miss A dat I won't cheat on her and I don't have self control den it's worthless. If she like make she be the best girlfrnd on earth.



Look.. its still simple logic. Train up urself in a manner u Wana grow up and u won't depart from it.


So Bella, we tend to cage ourselves with a lot of rules it brings heartbreak. I can't promise a girl I'm in a relationship dat I won't have sex since i'm far away from her. It's between me and my God. Whatever I do here is non of her business. Whatever she does out there is non of my business as well. If she wants to abstain from sex, fine and good, it's to her own advantage, not because of me. If I want to abstain from sex, it's to my own advantage, not because i'm doing it for her.





look, it's high time we set records straight. We humans have put a lot of constraints on ourselves we just choke on it and it causes us emotional trauma which may lead to depression and then, sudden death.



Look, i'm not the one in charge of her happiness, likewise her. she wants to be happy? Let her do whatever she wants to do, it's her body, not mine, it's my body too, not hers. I've not paid her bride price, I can't dictate to her how she has to live her life.


Why get jealous because she hugged someone else other Dan me, why get furious because she told me she had sex with someone else? Is it my body? If she happens to become pregnant in the long run, den she did that to herself, not me. I won't get bothered one inch abt it.


I"d only be freaked out like I said if there is an exchange of vows in front of the altar and the congregation that she belongs to me and I belong to her, anything outside that, bia, O.Y.O is the case

Cutehector:
it's not about meeting a girl who isn't worth cheating on...


I've already learnt how to inculcate self control. I'm not doing it for anybody. If I promise Miss A dat I won't cheat on her and I don't have self control den it's worthless. If she like make she be the best girlfrnd on earth.



Look.. its still simple logic. Train up urself in a manner u Wana grow up and u won't depart from it.


So Bella, we tend to cage ourselves with a lot of rules it brings heartbreak. I can't promise a girl I'm in a relationship dat I won't have sex since i'm far away from her. It's between me and my God. Whatever I do here is non of her business. Whatever she does out there is non of my business as well. If she wants to abstain from sex, fine and good, it's to her own advantage, not because of me. If I want to abstain from sex, it's to my own advantage, not because i'm doing it for her.





look, it's high time we set records straight. We humans have put a lot of constraints on ourselves we just choke on it and it causes us emotional trauma which may lead to depression and then, sudden death.



Look, i'm not the one in charge of her happiness, likewise her. she wants to be happy? Let her do whatever she wants to do, it's her body, not mine, it's my body too, not hers. I've not paid her bride price, I can't dictate to her how she has to live her life.


Why get jealous because she hugged someone else other Dan me, why get furious because she told me she had sex with someone else? Is it my body? If she happens to become pregnant in the long run, den she did that to herself, not me. I won't get bothered one inch abt it.


I"d only be freaked out like I said if there is an exchange of vows in front of the altar and the congregation that she belongs to me and I belong to her, anything outside that, bia, O.Y.O is the case

I totally understand your point tho it sounds plausible I just feel there's more to a relationship than this, we do these things because with love comes commitment and responsibilities.

I can't change your stance on this since its already been inculcated into your whole system but the thing with habits are they are very hard to break away from

You doing it now you're definitely going to do it when you get married

ItsQuinn:
If I were in her shoes, I would have cheated long time ago ..... She should be deceiving herself der

I am just one of those few people who would wait

Waited on someone for 2 years

talk2bells:



you just haven't met a girl who's not worth cheating on

cheating in any form of relationship, be it just dating or marriage is bad

Absolutely! The drawback here is that some guys think they know it all yet; they still make a lot of funny mistakes.

My best friend lately started avoiding me, he got me thinking. I was like, have I done something wrong to this guy? Not knowing that he was seriously in a mess. He pregnanted a chick and this girl refused to do an abortion.

To cut the story short, he later came to my house and asked me to please talk to the girl. We arranged a time and meet up with the girl, within five minutes of talking to this girl, she agreed for an abortion. She said I sounded so cool and honest. But what my friend did hurt me the most. He broke up with the girl few days after this abortion.

DeeTus:
Absolutely! The drawback here is that some guys think they know it all yet; they still make a lot of funny mistakes.

My best friend lately started avoiding me, he got me thinking. I was like, have I done something wrong to this guy? Not know that he was seriously in a mess. He pregnanted a chick and this girl refused to do an abortion.

To cut the story short, he later came to my house and asked me to please talk to the girl. We arranged a time and meet up with the girl, within five minutes of talking to this girl, she agreed for an abortion. She said I sounded so cool and honest. But what my friend did hurt me the most. He broke up with the girl few days after the abortion.

Talk2Bella:


I am just one of those few people who would wait

Waited on someone for 2 years

I just can't do it, anything more than 6 months is a no no for me. Especially when your a female for crying out loud, with all those hormones rushing at once. I'm human, I have needs, and when those needs aren't met on time, sorry I gats to find it else where

Talk2Bella:

What's wrong?

Talk2Bella:


I totally understand your point tho it sounds plausible I just feel there's more to a relationship than this, we do these things because with love comes commitment and responsibilities.

I can't change your stance on this since its already been inculcated into your whole system but the thing with habits are they are very hard to break away from

You doing it now you're definitely going to do it when you get married

I don't have a habit. I've got standards. When it comes to a certain phase, any habit dat doesn't suit that phase ceases to exist.



Damn it's like u don't understand my theory. I need u to study Genesis chapter 12 vs 10 - 20

Den u will understand that adultery is a no no for me

Cutehector:
I don't have a habit. I've got standards. When it comes to a certain phase, any habit dat doesn't suit that phase ceases to exist.



Damn it's like u don't understand my theory. I need u to study Genesis chapter 12 vs 10 - 20

Den u will understand that adultery is a no no for me

I actually laughed out loud for real after reading this

Cool

DeeTus:
What's wrong?

Nothing

talk2bells:



waitin on someone for four years isn't baby love

It's purely baby love. The least a girl could wait for a guy is one year or at best 10 months.

Talk2Bella:


I actually laughed out loud for real after reading this

Cool

I just don't like seeing people get heartbroken unnecessarily. I knw u"ve been heartbroken a couple of times even though u"ll Wana deny it. It's understandable.




But becoming heartbroken is a choice, Not a circumstance.


Phew. Don't mind me oooooo... . I can be very very jealous.

Communicate with him...communication mks relationship work out

DeeTus:
It's purely baby love. The least a girl could wait for a guy is one year or at best 10 months.

And you came to this conclusion how?

mzhorlah:
Communicate with him...communication mks relationship work out

That's if one of the partner isn't already far gone

Talk2Bella:

Nothing

K

Cutehector:



I just don't like seeing people get heartbroken unnecessarily. I knw u"ve been heartbroken a couple of times even though u"ll Wana deny it. It's understandable.




But becoming heartbroken is a choice, Not a circumstance.


Phew. Don't mind me oooooo... . I can be very very jealous.

It's more like the other way round
When things get heated I take a walk
I waited on someone for 2 years, sex just ain't my thing so it was really very easy to wait and pursue other things like school and stuffs.

When I realised it wasn't leading anywhere i took a walk so I won't be used to make an example

ItsQuinn:
I just can't do it, anything more than 6 months is a no no for me. Especially when your a female for crying out loud, with all those hormones rushing at once. I'm human, I have needs, and when those needs aren't met on time, sorry I gats to find it else where

I think women have the "we sabi hold body syndrome" more than men

Talk2Bella:


And you came to this conclusion how?

You see, love is purely heart-to-heart thing and of course, meeting or seeing each other. Bella, how would you feel if you haven't seen your husband for couple of months? Tell me, would you gonna be happy?

Talk2Bella:


It's more like the other way round
When things get heated I take a walk
I waited on someone for 2 years, sex just ain't my thing so it was really very easy to wait and pursue other things like school and stuffs.

When I realised it wasn't leading anywhere i took a walk so I won't be used to make an example

sex wasn't ur thing then... don't say sex isn't ur thing like on a forever and ever basis...



There will be a time when sex will be your thing, and so God help u, u have the will to contain it



Besides, are u still single?

Cutehector:
sex wasn't ur thing then... don't say sex isn't ur thing like on a forever and ever basis...



There will be a time when sex will be your thing, and so God help u, u have the will to contain it



Besides, are u still single?

Still isn't

That's why I enjoy long distance relationship

As for the other Q wouldn't be wise to answer that here

DeeTus:
You see, love is purely heart-to-heart thing and of course, meeting or seeing each other. Bella, how would you feel if you haven't seen your husband for couple of months? Tell me, would you gonna be happy?

Hahahahahahaha you're funny
My husband you said and it's not like he's missing or in jail

I'd definitely know where he is, that's a whole different issue

Talk2Bella:


Still isn't

That's why I enjoy long distance relationship

As for the other Q wouldn't be wise to answer that here

why wouldn't sex ever be ur thing? Were u a victim of female genital mutilation?

Talk2Bella:


Hahahahahahaha you're funny
My husband you said and it's not like he's missing or in jail

I'd definitely know where he is, that's a whole different issue

You've failed a simple test here.

Next time, when I ask you a question, please just answer it honestly and whole-heartedly, and not being tricky.