logicab:
Where did you get the stats from?

namuguibe:
I hope the OP has included her father among the 95% of Nigerian men that she claims are cheaters

2dugged:
I didn't exempt my father or brothers either, so don't even go there

2dugged:
there are alot but let's reverse the question, how many guys can swear?

logicab:
Where did you get the stats from?

2dugged:
then count your self among the 2%

2dugged:
so since we will all die, it's justifiable to infect one's wife with disease abi?

2dugged:
I have tried so hard to convince myself that maybe it's just my environment, maybe there are faithful married men in other parts of the country. 95 % of married Nigerian men cheat on their wives atleast once, while from the 5%, 3% have not cheated because the opportunity has not presented itself yet, and only 2% are actually faithful to their wives. I often hear statements like "men are naturally polygamous", a nairalander once said "if you can't bear your husband cheating on you,then don't get married", but I ask myself just how much do you have to bear?, a distant relative lost her life because her husband infected her with hiv, she knew he was philandering, but what could she do?,now both her and her husband are dead, it's been years, sometimes I see the kids and i just feel awful, if a man cheats, women have always have that big heart to forgive and move on,but when a man gives his wife disease, it means that man not only lacks self control but is STUPID as well

namuguibe:
Do you know for a fact that your dad and male siblings are unfaithful to their spouses or is it a guess?

fellis:
Why are people acting as if 2dugged is talking nonsense? Are they foreigners or they don't have experience with Nigerian marriages?
Why she said is plain truth and what obtains in Nigeria unfortunately. I know a woman personally, my aunts husband whose husband was cheating on her with the female students in the universities he lectures. He even had the audacity to receive phone calls from the girls in the presence of the woman. What didn't she do to change him?
She complained to his sister who was the relative he was closest to in the house, told her to talk to the man. She became superwoman with two jobs taking care of finance and housework to prick the man's conscience, she became sullen at home, gave him silent treatment, tried sexy dressing (anytime we went to her house we would meet her wearing small shorts and handless tops and this was an old woman with five children o) she ended up being frustrated and constantly complained at home for him to stop cheating, would even bring herself down to the level of calling the girls to warn them off but the man just continued sleeping around like a shameless dog without caring about the woman's feelings.

When she finally called family meetings to report the man and say she wants to end the marriage he started feigning remorse and they told her the same thing they tell all women, that please forgive him, he will change henceforth. Go home and be a good wife to him don't let Satan ruin your home.

After the meeting they went home and the man went right back to cheating on her. She gave up and asked for a divorce and he refused saying if she wants to leave she will have to go without the kids because he didn't want to end the marriage she was the only one that wants separation. Today they are living apart and the kids are living with the man but occasionally visit her.
All the members of his family are blaming her for the separation saying she is a heartless mother and she could have stayed for her kids. She. She's the heartless one. Not the useless dog of a husband that was exposing his wife to STDs. No. She is the heartless one.
During her kids last birthday which was held at the man's house everybody shunned her because they see her as a bad woman that used her own hands to destroy her marriage and abandoned her kids afterwards.

This is just one case I talked about here. There are others that I won't write. Leaving a cheating husband in Nigeria will most likely spell humiliation and loss of respect and even children in some cases that's why many women stay in marriage with cheating husbands not because they are not educated or independent.

And this trend isn't going to change anytime soon because Nigerian men don't respect women enough to be faithful to them and because many women have refused to fight for themselves and stick together. They would rather fight each other than face the men that cause them difficulties.

Mindfulness:


Don't wait for the society to change, be the change yourself. Get an education before even thinking of marriage so that you are independent and tell prospective suitors that adultery is an absolute deal breaker to you. Say what you mean and mean what you say. I am tired of women complaining all the time. If they want changes, they have to make them but instead of getting involved or at least interested in politics (where laws are made and passed), they will rather watch Telemundo.

2dugged:
do you even understand what feminism means?, a woman says she can bear being cheated on but can't bear being infected by her careless husband, and you say it's feminism, Abeg go back a get enlightened, stop being chauvinistic

2dugged:
and let me guess PhD holders, masters holders thay get cheated on are not self sufficient and have low self-esteem abi? your assumptions are flawed

2dugged:
I should actually direct that question to you, there is a saying that a guy saying he just wants to be friends with a lady is like saying you have a chicken you don't intend to eat, this is about married men,and besides how many guys can swear that they have never cheated on their girlfriend at least once?

PunterTim:
Do you know what chauvinism means? A guy says you are being one sided about the topic and you say it's chauvinism.
Abeg go back and get enlightened,stop being feministic!

2dugged:
and Mr man did I tell you I don't have an education?, even PhD holders still get cheated on, it's a Nigerian factor that has got nothing to do with education, after all one can imagine that with all the education in this country, in some regions child bride is still common while in some regions the girl child doesnt have an inheritance, so what education are you talking about?, stick to the topic and stop delving into what you know little about

freeman95:


stop being one sided

can any woman be fvcking only her husband?? only if na deeper life, mtcheew wetin i dey talk sef, deeper life sef dey fvck

everyone is a flirt.... women infect men with HIV too remember

ALISMILE:
So if ur sister tells u her hhussy cheated u ll advice her to move out? Move out to where? To be alone or marry another? And wht if she did marries another and he cheats as well?
U ll ask her to move out again?

2dugged:
why don't you debunk it by giving me a proper statistics? since you seem to have it

NigeriaKitchen:
Point of correction, its not just Nigerian men alone that cheat on their wives, but all men...in fact, whitemen cheat more....the only reason it seems like whitemen (let me say American/European men) don't cheat on their wives is because American/European laws and policies favour a woman whose husband was caught cheating....the man may lose all he earned for life....so they cheat discretely, but once they get an opportunity to leave their country to another country like African countries, then you will see them whitemen unleash their full cheating potential without fear...you see them carrying 3 women at the same time....

If you work with white guys, you will then know that Nigerian men are learners when it comes to cheating. Na oyimbo men de cheat pass o!

I think its nature's curse on men to be polygamous and always exploring till they die....unless that man doesn't have money!


If you want your man to be faithful to a good level, help draw him very close to God, that's the only sure remedy!

2dugged:
so you believe a woman can't be fvcking only her husband?, will you say the same for your own mother, because I made my statement and didn't exempt my father

nnamdibig:

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[s]My statistics from here shows that faithful men are way more than 2%. They are about 80% - 90%. So stop this your assumptions. Or may be give us the statistics of cheating wives[/s].

Mindfulness:


[s]Don't wait for the society to change, be the change yourself. Get an education before even thinking of marriage so that you are independent and tell prospective suitors that adultery is an absolute deal breaker to you. Say what you mean and mean what you say. I am tired of women complaining all the time. If they want changes, they have to make them but instead of getting involved or at least interested in politics (where laws are made and passed), they will rather watch Telemundo[/s].

2dugged:
do you also know that in some tribes, women are not allowed to return back to their fathers house after marriage?, do you also know that society tends to shame a woman who leaves her husband for what ever reason?,it's not about being independent, down here, most women are the bread winners of their family, but end up putting up with nasty husbands because cult/religion has made it seem like husband is the crown of a woman, another reason why you see people quick to shame unmarried ladies as if it's a medal, and when one decides to speak against it,she is tagged a feminist

HARDDON:



who are the men cheating with by the way.? ghosts?


so after your type have enjoyed another woman's husby, possibly broken their home, you want yours to be faithful huh?

2dugged:
but I doubt he will agree that a ni man will over look denying him sex,even if he knows it's his fault he will still call family meeting on your head, and accuse you of denying him of what he paid bride price for, at the end of the day don't be surprised if both your family and his family blame you for his philandering, that's the Nigerian factor I am talking about, I don't know how it plays out in other countries in Africa but down here,it can be twisted to even favor him in the end, especially the condom part, he can even say it's an opportunity for you to use condoms for other men

freeman95:



lol see our naija mentality sha

cos someone is your mother and brought you into this world doesnt make her a 'saint' they are humans too.....