quality determine durability. trying to be what you are not in courtship is risky. what you cannot put up with in marriage don't bear it in courtship because marriage change no one.

It's simple.
Marriage is reality and seriousness. It's no longer fairytale and day dreaming.
Above all real men and women are rated better when the going gets tough not when it's all smooth.
Marriage brings alot of testing platform where Ur so-called "I love you" comes to test.

because change is constantly it can be of good or bad but them most be change! #final_answers

missdashin:
no more pretending and formings, reality sets In

i understand. Imagine seeing that fine girl messing and pupuing. Why won't things change.

Well as for me, no more lie , conceal in marriage. All activities of both husband and wife most be transparent. Time to know your cooking prowess, respectful, endurance, tenacity, religious, laziness, strong/weak , no room for social media like before, coming home late every night is over, mostly cleanness.
Poverty is not welcome too
Good sex too.
And if you put all in one basket , marriage is moment of truth no more lie.

It's funny how people here are too focused on behaviourial&spiritual aspects without looking at FAMILY. Family can Change a spouse behaviour esp.when factors like childlessness/inability to give birth to a male rises up.And Remember when this factors starts coming up,hmmm....let me reserve me comment

That's why its advisable to live with each other couple of months before marriage to avoid divorce head ache

My own problem now is that I don't even love any dude genuinely..... So I've been on my own for two years. And the thought of "u have to get married some day makes me look like,

Financial burden and restriction to an individual

Marriage wahala

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Simply put:
Both parties or one of them stopped giving a 100% to the relationship they have. Courtship makes you give 100% just to prove your love and show it. Many stop giving ALL immediately marriage is consummated.

YourImaginaryBF:
I have seen couples who courted for 10years only to get married and break up months later. There are alot of responsibilities that come with getting married that most new couples will have a hard time facing

Bros re u from uromi in edo state

Marriage sucks.. one of the main reason is societal expectations. misery loves company..

most people go into marriage with wrong reasons leaving the vital ones aside.

YourImaginaryBF:
there's got to be a reason to why she does not want your family, what if your family's attitude towards her is not pleasing but you both love each other? Would you leave her?

Dats y dey say luv isn't enough for marriage.... dis is Africa were u marry a family n not only d guy or d lady

Kentura:
lol.. after marriage, you'll realise you've just been scammed..

Hahahaha........
Indeed

tosyne2much:
Egbon, I finish work abi?

On point but remember the best counselors don't always have the best marriages.

Sacluxpaint:


On point but remember the best counselors don't always have the best marriages.

Me I no be counselor egbon

Marriage is reality. com

I think the greatest reason is complacency. The guy stops being romantic and the lady stops being attractive.
But do you still study for the interview after getting the job?
Living together with someone tends to expose their flaws more.

Marriage only crash when the both parties refused to make it work.
Things can always be worked on either by yourself or by engaging a third party.
Forgiveness is very important too. Always forgive.
Above all allow the spirit of God to fire and sustain the marriage.

ReneeNuttall:
A lot of things contributes to the reasons why people have disputes during early stage of marriage, and if not properly handled can lead to divorce, Let me use my next flat neighbor as an example.
While they were courting, the guy was resident in Benin,while the lady was in Lagos,so it was a once in a while visiting thingy and mostly a social media relationship, then finally they agreed to settle down which they did.
few months after cohabiting ,they starting quarrelling, from quarrelling to ,constant fights ,the lady has made several attempts to pack out of the house and even d guy said he's fed up too.
This is due to d fact that, during courtship, they thought they understood themselves,which they never did,now she has found out that her hubby smokes,likes hanging out with single guys,a die hard football freak,always stuck to his phone and womanizes according to her.Meanwhile the guy says she's too Nagy and loud,she can't cook,she's lazy, always policing him etc,These are stuffs they never divulged, during courtship.

No point made

interesting,will read all the contributions later.

Amarabae:
lol. Kudos. #quote

I dont think its lack of friendship.

my grandfather married my mum for my dad, you might say its those days though but all my life i have never seen a better couple. we are 5 children at one point we where all in school and that was the point my dad lost his job and my mum carried the load for 4 years selling all kinds of things including yam. but in all these years the respect and support my mum showed my father was prime, till date, our last child is doing nysc they still laugh and fall on each others body.


i just think its Gods grace to find a good woman, and disciple to be a good man.

HAPPY MOTHERS SUNDAY TO THE BEST MUM WORLD WIDE.

MY MUM.

Galacious1:
exactly. It's always good for intending couple to live 2geda for awhile before getting married. Just saying.

Would you marry a girl who had lived with three consecutive guys
No 1 guy: 2 years
No 2 guy: 3 years
No 4 guy: 2 years

Is that not 7 years of active prostitution?

Why does a marriage of more than 15 years sometimes breakup? Is it because they didn't live well together?

Follow the rules of Good Marriage and you will most likely have one. God, made those rules.

Earth2Metahuman:
That's why its advisable to live with each other couple of months before marriage to avoid divorce head ache

frankwyte:
No matter how you look at it, i speak as married man with kids but there are ingredients that makes marriages work.
These are Love for each other, i.e letting go even when it's inconvenient.
Communication as often as possible i.e engaging in discussion that shows respect and care
Praying together, house that prays together stays together.
Sincerity! i.e openness
Under your limit in all dispute.

God bless us

Nice one bro... Thanks from speaking from experience bro

Marriage is one scary stuff men.. The good thing is that it's not for everybody.

Hitechzone:
No point made

oh! really? perhaps u should share some points,since u know too well.

No one wants to tame the shrew, or teach the inexperience or make an honest person out of the dishonest, so when marriage is desired people, especially ladies, package themselves in pseudo, already made, easy to use packages after marriage what you see is what you get