Nomfanelo99:


hahaha I'll take you up on that

just checked ur profile and I'm impressed.ure good.

lefulefu:




Do you know that once you are a guy above 30 and you are still very single without a fiancee or you are a lady above 25 and still not engaged then there is a higher probability that you may remain that way for another couple of years?

I know you may not agree to this but the truth is that the higher you get in age from that point on the more careful you want to be and that is where the real problem sets in...."TRYING TO BE CAREFUL"

The honest truth is that at this stage,you need to free your mind and think less of making any mistake and in fact you need to rid your mind of any panic and be yourself....in other words,don't search because those who search usually make mistakes but those who just live their lives usually find that special person when and where they least expect.

So if you are a guy above 30 or a lady above 25 and single as in not engaged,let's discuss about business,romance and life in general.

Though this is not a dating or meet up thread but you are very free to make friends with anyone...

Remember that it is very difficult to come across single guys and ladies out there as these sets are usually very busy,focused and mostly indoor so let's make good use of this platform.

I know this is a faceless forum and i know some people below this age group will try to derail the thread but i will appreciate if such group will maintain a status quo and allow only single guys of 30 and above as well as single ladies above 25.

Thanks




u make marriage seem as if its a do or die affair.a man should set his priorities right and have at least a comfortable living before getting married.whats the point of rushing into marriage if u cant cater for ur family.hmm anybody wey take una so called love relationship advice on nairaland to heart go just run F9 in his relationship.in life there is no definite rule.

Ur absolutely correct. Well said

I have learnt a few things here.

But for me, if you dont discover where you are heading to as a man, you will frustrate a lot of good people- not just girls out of your life.

Get it right from within,


Many are lying, few are saying the truth.

MrEverest:
Chai, you've said it all bro. 99% of the beautiful ones I keep meeting have this mentality that the world revolves around them. They see people like Tonto Dike as role models while Yemi Alade's songs are their favorite. Honestly I'm in a fix, personally I can't marry a lady who is not physically appealing regardless of how good her character is. I'm in my 30's already, not rich but very okay with a couple of businesses. My greatest headache right now is finding Mrs right. I don't know what is wrong with me, my ex was beautiful and met all the physical attributes I needed in a woman but her character was nothing to write home about and my family resisted the Union. Right now, I'm even missing her, simply because I've not been able to find a replacement. I need to marry ASAP yet I don't even have a girlfriend talkless of fiancee! God help me.

chai, sorry oo

Sacluxpaint:


Well I work and chase other business interests and for the record. I am not a baby daddy. Many bachelors of this present generation,don't have the record I have. So yeah, I am responsible.

fair enough

follyshade:
wow,just 24,i need to start preparing o before i reach 25

Lets prepare together.

RuggedArab:


Hey Ms, take a chill pill. No one is here to cast stones or judge but for the way forward.

alright

jbaby265:


I understand.. I've come across more worst guys than you.. The good thing is that you are not condemning yourself.. My advice is that.. Don't look for love relationship now. A good friend will help out.. So friendship will do.. Good luck

So na friendzone for me ba? There is God.

freshdill:


U sef if u wan buy sumtin u no go 1st dey price am, shio.
BTW are u one of the ladies on ur dp, i'm INTERESTED.

please start losing interesting ooh cause am not.

Nomfanelo99:
I'm 25 and this post is scaring me

lol... y arr u scared

The problem here is that most NL profile pics are not real. So it dosnt help matters here.

MrEverest:
Chai, you've said it all bro. 99% of the beautiful ones I keep meeting have this mentality that the world revolves around them. They see people like Tonto Dike as role models while Yemi Alade's songs are their favorite. Honestly I'm in a fix, personally I can't marry a lady who is not physically appealing regardless of how good her character is. I'm in my 30's already, not rich but very okay with a couple of businesses. My greatest headache right now is finding Mrs right. I don't know what is wrong with me, my ex was beautiful and met all the physical attributes I needed in a woman but her character was nothing to write home about and my family resisted the Union. Right now, I'm even missing her, simply because I've not been able to find a replacement. I need to marry ASAP yet I don't even have a girlfriend talkless of fiancee! God help me.

Welcome to the club bro, so tey my mama talk Say make I enter villa, I dey reason am sha

Sparkles003:

Her character to the things of God word.
Her character to her family.
Her character to those she comes across.
applicable only to true Christians

Thank you for the insight.

Lordshola:

Lets prepare together.

dt will b beta

funmisticqueen:
broke nigga spotted. E pain you. Soup wey sweet na money dey cook am

"Runs girl" spotted!! so you are now soup?........

jbaby265:


Of course it will good luck

Thanks, as the gentleman that i am

bora1:


Right about time

am telling u,dnt want to enta dt category before settling down

rane06:
I like this thread. Anyway I'm in my late 20s, this love matter just tire me sef. Just focusing on my career for now pending whenever the Mr arrives

That overused 'focusing on my career' phrase.So when you're married you'd stop focusing on your career? maybe you should socialize more. and instead of waiting for mr right you can make the first move.

am 27yrs old, about to enrol for service this coming batch...i am a web developer and web designer...and also, a (G-boy), just been truthful incase..financially boyant, just normal like an average guy...but very responsible...will like to meet a responsible girl too but i am always not on the street, due to the nature of my job...always on laptop, no girlfriend...hock me up pls if your interested...this is what this thread is meant...i live in phc....07063912506

funmisticqueen:
alright

Can I know you Queen?

ikp120:

Hehehehehe . I'm barely 23. . I've still got at more than 7 years. Hehehehehe

I swear I can't help but laugh

In Nigeria, people between 25- 30 years, guys especially are still trying to find their feet.

About 90% within this age category are still living with family, family members or squatting with someone somewhere.

The past generations married earlier because things were better, go check the cost of diapers.

At 30, You Are Supposed To Be Talking Of Rounding Off Child Bearing. That's why you hear the Bible say THE CHILDREN OF YOUR YOUTH, THE WIFE OF YOUR YOUTH.

For ladies, belly fat and disfigured shapes after child bearing is because you are starting child bearing at 32!

If you see my mother, you will think she is my sister, but she had 10 of Us, 5 boys 5 girls ( not saying you should do same) but her body is something else because she started early.

It is well, if you are almost 30 like me, continue hustling, God will see you through, its not our fault, we will get there.

JUST MAKE SURE YOUR FUTURE IS BETTER.

follyshade:
dt will b beta

can i send u a pm?

mazizitonene:
lol....see as thread dey run.....see viewers......chai....so many overdue bachelors and spinsters in the land...

I tell you.. Lol

Kudos to the OP of this thread. I carefully read the comments (if its anything to go by) of 'eligible bachelor' and 'dude' then virtuous ladies and babes. A call for a healthy "ship" (friend, relate or court) that could metamorphous to marriage is a serious one. You are rightly on point about "being selective" because I'm right there, early thirty and still being careful .

My observation without reservation is that even with the comments here so far, most of us, don't really know what we want.. We get too calculated, and play God in our own affairs.
My resolve is to be active in godly things and career/work things....or isn't love a butterfly anymore....?

I ain't open to just any relationship so you know. But I'm committed with the one I'll have.

soberdrunk:
The truth is in this era of 'slay queens' and 'instagram celebs', it is very hard to find a 'single', 'beautiful', 'intelligent', 'mature' lady that is worth settling down with, 'almost' every fine girl now has the 'runs girl' mentality and even our musicians like Yemi Alade are not helping matters, what type of song is "If you love me you go buy me ferrari, if you love me, you go pay me salary"! Gone are the days when ladies used to pick their partners based on 'prospects', now its based on 'wallet', the annoying part is that even the 'working class' ladies too have also developed this 'runs girl' mentality that my man must reward me financially, as if relationship is now 'employment'

You are very correct. This generation of ladies preferred settling for the big shut.

Well..i clocked 25 dis month and I'm single.
But I believe marriage is not d next thing for me..like hav got plans,things to achieve bfr thinking of settling down... besides marriage scares d hell outta me..
We all have different perspective about things like dis tho..
There r other things to life dan being in a relationship or being married.
So I dnt think i'll b getting married anytym soon...
Maybe because I havnt met d ryt person sha..

alexialin:




30s.

I was once like what u said. Until I realised , I will end up single till 70 and above if I didn't change my mindset.
So I had to change my guarded mindset and be free minded in new relationships coming my way.
And am in a happy place Nw.

Wen u say guarded mindset and free mindedness, my understanding is that you reduced or removed certain relationship" standards" or " principles" u previously had. Am I correct?

Tonnero23:
This discussions after reading all through. I just want to make my little contribution.

Many a times we truly do not even know what we want in marriage. A guy claims he is almost 30 or 30+ and he is worried about marriage. First thing I believe he should be worried about is "where am I going?" Once this question is answered correctly then he is ready to marry.

Becos if as a husband you Dont know where you are going then how would be woman be a help-meet truly? Becos she is supposed to follow you and when you Dont know where you are going then where would you be taking her to?


To the ladies, a man of purpose makes marriage very sweet, and you too have to have almost same vision with him becos you are supposed to be his helper.


Lest, I forget everybody is clamoring for pics in dps, seems it is a very wrong approach to me becos many that are asking for that Dont even know where they are going first, they are still after curves and shapes and we all know curves and shapes don't make a happy spouse.

Thank you for readin

Sound mind u got there...

Nice thread, really really, a true woman there? "holla at your man"

Sacluxpaint:


I am not greedy when it comes to curves. Make I see shape then I am ok.

Shape