Destinyy22:
I'm quite young but meeting a good man is not easy, that made me scared of losing him. It's good anyway

I see... You will find a good man ... If you insist on this man that his mind is somewhere else, you will only end up with more heart break

some guys cannot just keep to a girl, my boyfriend claim he loves me but has another girl wea he is currently serving, he calls just once in a day, we hardly chat these days, I think if I mean anything to him, he will treat me better than dis, guys don't appreciate loyal ladies, let him go now, by the way he has his own girlfriend, u can't force a man to luv u, he knws wea his heart is, LET HIM GO.

you have self esteem issues.

how can u be a side chick to a nigga knowing fully well that he has someone else he loves.

don't embarrass yourself anymore
pick up Wats left of ur pride and move on. try to forget about him. he is not the only man in the world

even if you are single, you won't die OK!

missiret:
some guys cannot just keep to a girl, my boyfriend claim he loves me but has another girl wea he is currently serving, he calls just once in a day, we hardly chat these days, I think if I mean anything to him, he will treat me better than dis, guys don't appreciate loyal ladies, let him go now, by the way he has his own girlfriend, u can't force a man to luv u, he knws wea his heart is, LET HIM GO.

which of the damsels in your profile pic are you?

Pierocash:
that is what every materialistic girl say,bt the fact stil remains that u want to reap whr u didnt sow.The guy has some cash in his pocket to splash and that is the main reason u want to stick with him.Go get ur own man and build ur life with him,stop looking for a ready made,go find ur own and make him

at times I wonder if guys with your mentality have their brains in their anus.
The girl is saying she has never requested for a dime and she is ambitious but you just want to keep on insisting that she is a materialistic girl. you don't know her neither do you know the so called bf before you assume she is looking for a ready made man or assuming the guy is already made.
stop it!

Pls you guys should give Ladies a break and stop insulting us unnecessarily like every lady is a gold digger

rosalieene:
you have self esteem issues.

how can u be a side chick to a nigga knowing fully well that he has someone else he loves.

don't embarrass yourself anymore
pick up Wats left of ur pride and move on. try to forget about him. he is not the only man in the world

even if you are single, you won't die OK!

It's all complicated right now. Thanks dear, I appreciate.

Halfricanadiian.....

Destinyy22:
It's all complicated right now. Thanks dear, I appreciate.

Hmmm

Destinyy22:
I met this awesome guy a month ago, we fell in love with each other and started dating. Later discovered he had a girlfriend somewhere and still loves her so much, I started nagging cos I let go of every other man in my life just to be with him and he wasn't willing to do same. Guess I nagged too much about it and now he wanna leave. I don't wanna lose him, haven't met anyone like him before. I've sent numerous messages and calls to apologise and promised to forget about the other lady but it seems he has made up his mind. Please what do I do ? Took me a long while to find him , don't want to lose him . I 'm 23 years old.

you meet a cool guy, he loves you, he has a girl friend, you let all the man in your life out,you started nagging, he started complaining, you don't want to lose him.
see the fact his this guy has a girlfriend either you like it or not and he has been with her before you so there is a probability that he just want to has his share of you and when he is through he will go back to his first love, forget the fact that he said he will change he loves you. we men know what we want.
and don't say because you been single a long time you don't want to loss him, a guy that will love you will love you, a guy that will sleep with you and dump you will always sleep with you and dump you no matter how much you love him or how long you have been single.

heykims:
If it took u a long time to meet him, then it's a lie u let go a lot of men for him.
He has a girlfriend and still fell in love with u, then u are a side chick because he loves his first girl more and has therefore refused to part with her.
The truth is u want to snatch another woman's man.
U shouldn't be the one opening the thread for advice but that first girl!!

However life isn't fair, therefore try as much to win his heart setting a short time frame. If he still insists being with the girl after d time lapses, pls quit to limit d emotional torture.. .

why this comment never get 2000 likes?

OLAJADON:

you meet a cool guy, he loves you, he has a girl friend, you let all the man in your life out,you started nagging, he started complaining, you don't want to lose him.
see the fact his this guy has a girlfriend either you like it or not and he has been with her before you so there is a probability that he just want to has his share of you and when he is through he will go back to his first love, forget the fact that he said he will change he loves you. we men know what we want.
and don't say because you been single a long time you don't want to loss him, a guy that will love you will love you, a guy that will sleep with you and dump you will always sleep with you and dump you no matter how much you love him or how long you have been single.

He said things weren't working out too well between them and that made him start searching again. From what I've observed, he has good intentions. Though if he wanna leave now, I can't stop him. If he's mine, he'll definitely stay. No matter how hard I offend him. Thanks for your contribution.

Destinyy22:
He said things weren't working out too well between them and that made him start searching again. From what I've observed, he has good intentions. Though if he wanna leave now, I can't stop him. If he's mine, he'll definitely stay. No matter how hard I offend him. Thanks for your contribution.

you welcome, do you know that his girl personally before concluding that he has intention of truly loving you because you can't judge using only his attitude, like I told you before we guys know what we what if want something we know how to either manipulate or act sincerely to get our heart desire.
so please don't conclude he is over his girlfriend before of what he only told you or how he behaves, make you own finding, try to know the girl personally and know the kind of man he is. the ball is in your court sis, the way you play it will determine if you will win or loss.

OLAJADON:

you welcome, do you know that his girl personally before concluding that he has intention of truly loving you because you can't judge using only his attitude, like I told you before we guys know what we what if want something we know how to either manipulate or act sincerely to get our heart desire.
so please don't conclude he is over his girlfriend before of what he only told you or how he behaves, make you own finding, try to know the girl personally and know the kind of man he is. the ball is in your court sis, the way you play it will determine if you will win or loss.

Thanks for this.

smellingmenses:
Halfricanadiian.....

Really why mention me here o no complications in my life

Halfricanadiian:

Really why mention me here o no complications in my life

Your alternate Monika...

smellingmenses:

Your alternate Monika...

lol thats not me o
I'm not having relationship issues o
I'm done with boys nd drama
All I'm chasing is my dreams nd money

I love your smile...

missiret:
some guys cannot just keep to a girl, my boyfriend claim he loves me but has another girl wea he is currently serving, he calls just once in a day, we hardly chat these days, I think if I mean anything to him, he will treat me better than dis, guys don't appreciate loyal ladies, let him go now, by the way he has his own girlfriend, u can't force a man to luv u, he knws wea his heart is, LET HIM GO.

Halfricanadiian:

lol thats not me o
I'm not having relationship issues o
I'm done with boys nd drama
All I'm chasing is my dreams nd money

Prove it dearie.

From your concluding statement, you are just concious of your age and marriage that's all.

rosalieene:
you have self esteem issues.

how can u be a side chick to a nigga knowing fully well that he has someone else he loves.

don't embarrass yourself anymore
pick up Wats left of ur pride and move on. try to forget about him. he is not the only man in the world

even if you are single, you won't die OK!

I don't think she likes being single like you for a whole year. It's hard.

greatnaija01:
I guess you are financially dependent on him, its not just that he is so fantastically NICE... abeg no one will buy that lie. YOU NEED HIS MONEY and HE NEEDS YOUR LOVE. but he does not trust you totally with HIS LOVE. so you need to understand that if you help him break another girls heart now, in future some other girl will help him break your heart. KARMA is real.... learn from tonto dickeh

you obviously do not think of the future, cos you just want to keep him when you are a tenant in his heart, the land lady owns the heart. This may be a bitter pill but it will CURE YOUR CLOUDY THOUGHTS.
Loose Him and Let Him go.
I wish you can learn to be independent... It is the most attractive quality in a lady.

that's exactly comes my mind after reading her post.

Destinyy22:
He said things weren't working out too well between them and that made him start searching again. From what I've observed, he has good intentions. Though if he wanna leave now, I can't stop him. If he's mine, he'll definitely stay. No matter how hard I offend him. Thanks for your contribution.

Smh

smellingmenses:

Prove it dearie.

Cos I'm not interested in loving a guy with a girlfriend or a single guy I'm done creating threads on nl I read nd comment alone that's enough proof

Halfricanadiian:

Cos I'm not interested in loving a guy with a girlfriend or a single guy I'm done creating threads on nl I read nd comment alone that's enough proof

You passed the first test.

missiret:
some guys cannot just keep to a girl, my boyfriend claim he loves me but has another girl wea he is currently serving, he calls just once in a day, we hardly chat these days, I think if I mean anything to him, he will treat me better than dis, guys don't appreciate loyal ladies, let him go now, by the way he has his own girlfriend, u can't force a man to luv u, he knws wea his heart is, LET HIM GO.

Awww dear. Sorry to know that. Just take it easy and be happy, k ? Thanks for your advice too.

phabulous88:


He said things weren't working too well between him and the other lady and that made him to start searching. The way I see it, things were working well but not working too well.

He's a confused man!

Why didn't he fix the issues he had with the lady then? Instead he started something with you only for him to go back to the other lady. He's the type that wants everything to be perfect; am I right?

For you to dump the baggage in your life so as to start a relationship with him shows you're a good girl and good intentions.

Forget all the seriousness in his face. It's okay to still think about him once in a while but stop calling or texting him. Make him miss you. He's confused and he should deal with his confusion, alone! I see him coming back to you if things go south with the other lady. Don't accept him when he comes back. He's a confused man who wants everything and everyone to be perfect.

It's a weekend, Go hang out with your girlfriends, you can never have this weekend again

Thanks dear. I feel better now.

Well, I have carefully read through this thread and some of the contributors know what they are saying and others? Not so much.

Let me give this piece of advice, people of our IQ level most times(if not always) have low EQ levels(Google EQ and take an EQ test, you will understand better what I'm talking about). We find it difficult sometimes to process all the emotions that comes from the feelings people call "love". That's why, we sometimes find it hard to start a relationship, and anyone that comes our way we hold on to it tightly because we have already calculated the end point before we even start, so we put off every other associations with the opposite sex and concentrate on other things. So when our plans start to disintegrate before our eyes we become hysterical, because of the work involved in investing in a new relationship, which frankly we truly don't need, we have a reliable partnership with our brains. You know I'm saying the truth, think it through, is he really worth the effort?
Girl, focus on your lecturing career, emotions are not really our strong points. Whenever a good relationship comes up again, grab it, but don't invest yourself in it.


Speaking from experience.

Destinyy22:
I met this awesome guy a month ago, we fell in love with each other and started dating. Later discovered he had a girlfriend somewhere and still loves her so much, I started nagging cos I let go of every other man in my life just to be with him and he wasn't willing to do same. Guess I nagged too much about it and now he wanna leave. I don't wanna lose him, haven't met anyone like him before. I've sent numerous messages and calls to apologise and promised to forget about the other lady but it seems he has made up his mind. Please what do I do ? Took me a long while to find him , don't want to lose him . I 'm 23 years old.

You can't force any man into your life....Let him go,you still 23yrs & a lot awaits you in the future.

smellingmenses:

You passed the first test.

Lol ok o

smellingmenses:

You passed the first test.

Lol ok o.

Pierocash:
that is what every materialistic girl say,bt the fact stil remains that u want to reap whr u didnt sow.The guy has some cash in his pocket to splash and that is the main reason u want to stick with him.Go get ur own man and build ur life with him,stop looking for a ready made,go find ur own and make him

Busted.

CzarChris:
Well, I have carefully read through this thread and some of the contributors know what they are saying and others? Not so much.

Let me give this piece of advice, people of our IQ level most times(if not always) have low EQ levels(Google EQ and take an EQ test, you will understand better what I'm talking about). We find it difficult sometimes to process all the emotions that comes from the feelings people call "love". That's why, we sometimes find it hard to start a relationship, and anyone that comes our way we hold on to it tightly because we have already calculated the end point before we even start, so we put off every other associations with the opposite sex and concentrate on other things. So when our plans start to disintegrate before our eyes we become hysterical, because of the work involved in investing in a new relationship, which frankly we truly don't need, we have a reliable partnership with our brains. You know I'm saying the truth, think it through, is he really worth the effort?
Girl, focus on your lecturing career, emotions are not really our strong points. Whenever a good relationship comes up again, grab it, but don't invest yourself in it.


Speaking from experience.

Thanks so much senior colleague. I really have to work on my emotions. I appreciate everything Sir.