meiyol:
I just lost my relationship due to genotype issues..he is AS and I'm AS. We knew abt our genotype incompatibility frm the very first day..we were cool with it or so i thought. We were together for a year nd some months before we switched to long distance relationship cos of his job. I'm a med student, he is a doctor, so we both knew wat it meant. I was cool with it cos the signs were there that God put us together..everybody knows it, his parents, my parents..we ourselves knew it that our paths were ordained by God.. Then suddenly, from nowhere, he comes up with dangers of having sickler kids, the diseases they face, their pain and all..he suddenly stopped talking abt d fact that we may be lucky not to have any of our kids as sicklers, or medical methods we could use like IVF and all..our parents are both aware of the genotype ish, mine are very okay with it. He said he's not sure his parents are okay with it and yet they call me EVERYDAY to assure me nothing will go wrong and to cheer me up and all.. i questioned him cos it made me feel he was looking for an opportunity to leave..and he didnt give me any reply, just stopped talking to me.
Our introduction was slated for next year, he is my first love, I've been so loyal nd i pray for him.. I feel so used and heartbroken..my instincts tell me something is wrong..I'm back to square 1, where would i start from? He was my best friend, my everything..now, it's just me

Hmm, that's so hard to bear when you've dedicated everything to that person. But move on lady. All is well. Grace up

My people sorry, my comment is not about the topic. This is from ebute metta. Yes, is like fashola has agreed with Phcn to swindle light consumers. They have delibrately refused to supply prepaid meters so that they will have their own share of loot. Phcn is now distributing letters condemning active and working meters so that they will continuously give estimated bills and force to pay it even when they are not giving light. Kindly tell me the right place to go and lay this complain. Fashola, you have stolen enough, so, leave the poor masses of Nigeria alone. Thank God you don't generate the Air that we breath.

Very sorry dear. Time to move closer to God's. He is our refuge in times of trouble.

meiyol:
I just lost my relationship due to genotype issues..he is AS and I'm AS. We knew abt our genotype incompatibility frm the very first day..we were cool with it or so i thought. We were together for a year nd some months before we switched to long distance relationship cos of his job. I'm a med student, he is a doctor, so we both knew wat it meant. I was cool with it cos the signs were there that God put us together..everybody knows it, his parents, my parents..we ourselves knew it that our paths were ordained by God.. Then suddenly, from nowhere, he comes up with dangers of having sickler kids, the diseases they face, their pain and all..he suddenly stopped talking abt d fact that we may be lucky not to have any of our kids as sicklers, or medical methods we could use like IVF and all..our parents are both aware of the genotype ish, mine are very okay with it. He said he's not sure his parents are okay with it and yet they call me EVERYDAY to assure me nothing will go wrong and to cheer me up and all.. i questioned him cos it made me feel he was looking for an opportunity to leave..and he didnt give me any reply, just stopped talking to me.
Our introduction was slated for next year, he is my first love, I've been so loyal nd i pray for him.. I feel so used and heartbroken..my instincts tell me something is wrong..I'm back to square 1, where would i start from? He was my best friend, my everything..now, it's just me

U funny, life doesn't work that way. There will always be someone better who will make forget about him. Just move on, pick urself i
Up, there are a million guys out there waiting for u

meiyol:
I just lost my relationship due to genotype issues..he is AS and I'm AS. We knew abt our genotype incompatibility frm the very first day..we were cool with it or so i thought. We were together for a year nd some months before we switched to long distance relationship cos of his job. I'm a med student, he is a doctor, so we both knew wat it meant. I was cool with it cos the signs were there that God put us together..everybody knows it, his parents, my parents..we ourselves knew it that our paths were ordained by God.. Then suddenly, from nowhere, he comes up with dangers of having sickler kids, the diseases they face, their pain and all..he suddenly stopped talking abt d fact that we may be lucky not to have any of our kids as sicklers, or medical methods we could use like IVF and all..our parents are both aware of the genotype ish, mine are very okay with it. He said he's not sure his parents are okay with it and yet they call me EVERYDAY to assure me nothing will go wrong and to cheer me up and all.. i questioned him cos it made me feel he was looking for an opportunity to leave..and he didnt give me any reply, just stopped talking to me.
Our introduction was slated for next year, he is my first love, I've been so loyal nd i pray for him.. I feel so used and heartbroken..my instincts tell me something is wrong..I'm back to square 1, where would i start from? He was my best friend, my everything..now, it's just me

You do not sound like a medical student.

meiyol:
.I'm back to square 1, where would i start from?

Oya comman start from this point.

meiyol:
I just lost my relationship due to genotype issues..he is AS and I'm AS. We knew abt our genotype incompatibility frm the very first day..we were cool with it or so i thought. We were together for a year nd some months before we switched to long distance relationship cos of his job. I'm a med student, he is a doctor, so we both knew wat it meant. I was cool with it cos the signs were there that God put us together..everybody knows it, his parents, my parents..we ourselves knew it that our paths were ordained by God.. Then suddenly, from nowhere, he comes up with dangers of having sickler kids, the diseases they face, their pain and all..he suddenly stopped talking abt d fact that we may be lucky not to have any of our kids as sicklers, or medical methods we could use like IVF and all..our parents are both aware of the genotype ish, mine are very okay with it. He said he's not sure his parents are okay with it and yet they call me EVERYDAY to assure me nothing will go wrong and to cheer me up and all.. i questioned him cos it made me feel he was looking for an opportunity to leave..and he didnt give me any reply, just stopped talking to me.
Our introduction was slated for next year, he is my first love, I've been so loyal nd i pray for him.. I feel so used and heartbroken..my instincts tell me something is wrong..I'm back to square 1, where would i start from? He was my best friend, my everything..now, it's just me

Take it easy.
By the way was he not meant to USE YOU.
You used each other , ok
NOW u feel used...
What if he had used another Lady in your presence, you would still call him a CHEAT....

what do you LADIES want sef....??

My Dear Dont Cry. I Am Going Through The Same thing. My Fiance Is AS and i am AS too. i know i cant marry her. i love her to the bone but we cant get married. she has even changed since she went 4 nysc. she hardly calls,develop cold feet, not happy when i call.but i ve to move ON. THATS LIFE

My dear, reasoning over emotions.

Giving birth to a child that you know will be suffering all the days of his earthly life is wickedness.

MMMscam:
Very touching OP, may God help you. My AA son told me his girlfriend is AS. I told him to find another girlfriend. Foolish boy, don't come and sabotage our illustrious superlative family genes. There is plenty AA fish in the sea. I can be very blunt.

But that's fair on them nah. If AA can't marry AS who will..

Am surprise that medical personnel can even think of taking such risk

meiyol:
I just lost my relationship due to genotype issues..he is AS and I'm AS. We knew abt our genotype incompatibility frm the very first day..we were cool with it or so i thought. We were together for a year nd some months before we switched to long distance relationship cos of his job. I'm a med student, he is a doctor, so we both knew wat it meant. I was cool with it cos the signs were there that God put us together..everybody knows it, his parents, my parents..we ourselves knew it that our paths were ordained by God.. Then suddenly, from nowhere, he comes up with dangers of having sickler kids, the diseases they face, their pain and all..he suddenly stopped talking abt d fact that we may be lucky not to have any of our kids as sicklers, or medical methods we could use like IVF and all..our parents are both aware of the genotype ish, mine are very okay with it. He said he's not sure his parents are okay with it and yet they call me EVERYDAY to assure me nothing will go wrong and to cheer me up and all.. i questioned him cos it made me feel he was looking for an opportunity to leave..and he didnt give me any reply, just stopped talking to me.
Our introduction was slated for next year, he is my first love, I've been so loyal nd i pray for him.. I feel so used and heartbroken..my instincts tell me something is wrong..I'm back to square 1, where would i start from? He was my best friend, my everything..now, it's just me

Calm down ...His decision is the best . You will get over it with time . The pain of having to manage SCD children is something u won't want to live with . Forget all that probability stuff on Paper ..and I don't think selective fetocide is way to go

It Is Well..... Never Give Up If God is Truly InCharge Of your Relationship.... Believe Me 'Iyanu Will Sele'

It Is Well..... Never Give Up If God is Truly In Charge Of your Relationship.... Believe Me 'Iyanu Will Sele'

tobaseye:
I think he took a very wise decision to quit before both of you get yourself into problem and also put innocent child(ren) into avoidable pains.

Please pack yourself together and move on.
We over hype this thing called love many times. Knowing fully well the consequences of being together as AS & AS and you still want to go ahead with it.

I know a couple that got separated when their first child was SS. Maybe they were counting on hope just as you are doing now. But when the reality struck their locked brain opened I guess.
10 years down the line the guy has moved on with children while the lady is still single.
Maybe she would have be better off not having a child and wait patiently for someone with AA.
Please thanks the guy for taking the bold step.

I no someone in this same shoes, he didn't marry her. Just one night stand kinda thing. Stupid woman wanted to trap him and gave birth to a boy. The thing didn't show until his 1st birthday before they knew he was ss, now the guy is stock wiv a baby mama who has refused to let go cus of age and a child that gets sick every time he has small money. That's when the crisis will come. He doesn't have time for another relationship not to talk of himself. Only few of them live up to 40. It's just important for people to check this things.

When things don't work out the way we planned, try to be reasonable too while looking ahead for a better outcome.

That is life and shit happens even times when we seem so sure of certain things, they turn around not to be again....Stay strong & Hold on

meiyol:
..we ourselves knew it that our paths were ordained by God..

which God? You are a medical student yet you sound naive. Why do we knowingly invoke God's name when we know what we are trying to do is not right? Like many before me have said, just thank your star he left because you are being selfish. Have you thought about the kids? The pains, the fight and the stress they will go thru? My dear I know love is a funny thing because it leads the heart to places it shouldn't be sometimes but take the heartache now to enjoy a healthy family later and please leave God and what he ordained out of it. because unless God told you directly that he ordained it then don't fool yourself with your belief or faith or like I'll call or stupidity. Boss is truly God ordained it, then you won't be here telling us about him.

phabulous88:

My dear, reasoning over emotions.

Giving birth to a child that you know will be suffering all the days of his earthly life is wickedness.

Absolutely! What the hell does she really want? The guy is very smart.

You are just been selfish and self centered... My friend Bleep love and wise up

Malawian:
I thank God for my genotype. i am surprised by the litany of woes supposed SS people go through. My bros is one but we did not go through all these stuff some are posting. i guess we found a way to manage his stuff so early in his life. in fact, the guy is even fatter and more muscular than me sef, and if you are not told he is SS, you will never know.

Can you please help the OP by telling her the secret to tour brother's health? That's better than telling her there's hope and not showing her the way. She might relay same to her bf and change his mind. Thanks in advance. God bless you as you do

NwaObinkita:
Can I take his place

I am AA

Hahaha...... I love this dude.

Calm down!....though painful, sometimes, disappointment are blessings in disguise!
#smile n move on.

Setaje:


I no someone in this same shoes, he didn't marry her. Just one night stand kinda thing. Stupid woman wanted to trap him and gave birth to a boy. The thing didn't show until his 1st birthday before they knew he was ss, now the guy is stock wiv a baby mama who has refused to let go cus of age and a child that gets sick every time he has small money. That's when the crisis will come. He doesn't have time for another relationship not to talk of himself. Only few of them live up to 40. It's just important for people to check this things.

i thought if they're up to 20years, they'll be ok?

meiyol:
I just lost my relationship due to genotype issues..he is AS and I'm AS. We knew abt our genotype incompatibility frm the very first day..we were cool with it or so i thought. We were together for a year nd some months before we switched to long distance relationship cos of his job. I'm a med student, he is a doctor, so we both knew wat it meant. I was cool with it cos the signs were there that God put us together..everybody knows it, his parents, my parents..we ourselves knew it that our paths were ordained by God.. Then suddenly, from nowhere, he comes up with dangers of having sickler kids, the diseases they face, their pain and all..he suddenly stopped talking abt d fact that we may be lucky not to have any of our kids as sicklers, or medical methods we could use like IVF and all..our parents are both aware of the genotype ish, mine are very okay with it. He said he's not sure his parents are okay with it and yet they call me EVERYDAY to assure me nothing will go wrong and to cheer me up and all.. i questioned him cos it made me feel he was looking for an opportunity to leave..and he didnt give me any reply, just stopped talking to me.
Our introduction was slated for next year, he is my first love, I've been so loyal nd i pray for him.. I feel so used and heartbroken..my instincts tell me something is wrong..I'm back to square 1, where would i start from? He was my best friend, my everything..now, it's just me

What can God not do, especially when we put total faith and complete trust in Him?

God still hears prayer.

Put your mind at rest and trust God.

@op, pls put yourself together and move on. the only reason we were taught anything abiku/kokumo(yoruba) back in the days was due to lack of knowledge of our fathers and mothers, one of the function of the spirit of God is to enlighten us, open our minds to know the past, present and future. Dont let any pastor deceive you, if anyone tells you God wont give you ss, tell the person to pray for a change in genotype, miracle isnt tied to time.
pls be grateful he finally reasoned and opened your eyes.

NB; pls house, what's the effect of AS and AC. A sister of mine needs help. Thanks

@meiyol, you fiance took the right step to avoid future palaver. letting you go shows that he truly loves you (I hope that u understand what I meant).
Dust yourself & start afresh.
I had my first love at the age of 25, we dated for good 4yrs but she dumped me for no reason. it was a painful experience back then but I man up & be myself of which in turn makes me a better man.
With your write up, you are still young & need to put your head straight.
Wishing you the best

Happened to me too. It's an awful experience. May God give you a better man someday. AMen

Sometimes I think this issue of genotype is over-flogged ,or probably I just received an uncommon favour, I'm AS, my wife is AS, we have two daughters, NONE is SS, we are cool, we are happy, it's our decision from time to have just to kids , and now we are done, I've also seen families like this

delugadou:



If it is ordained by God, the devil will try to oppose the union. Prayer will fix it since both families are in support. The Lord is your strength.

Do u realize what it means when Jesus said do not put the Lord your God to the test?

daben1:
i thought if they're up to 20years, they'll be ok?

That's not true jawe my brother.. I used to believe it too not until I witnessed those above that age died

4evavic:
I understood perfectly well what u're going tru and a lady for that matter. Pls i beg U,TRY to condition urself in this and work with it n is simply.. Have U ever seen or heard the cry of SS patient when going tru dialysis? As a human flesh,for how many will u endure IVF whatever cus i knw tearing of flesh is involve,all d pains are landing on Ur flesh body which with time begin to have effects on u and d male guy can easily flex.. Is hard buh with these 2 point i mentioned 2 U, u can see with me that u ve to put urself 2geda n muv on. Faith works wen 2 agrees with 1 mind but crashes wen ur parftner in not working along in d same faith

I thought dialysis is for kidney problem. Do sickle cell patients undergo dialysis too ?

I'm doubt you're a med student.
You want to coman go and die because of love abi?
Thank your stars you just dodged a bullet.


PS: You should send him a thank you bottle of his best wine.