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Should We Shut Every Other Person Out While In A Relationship? by Laveda(f): 4:34pm On Oct 31, 2017
So I came across this and thought I should get y'all opinions here as well.

Do you think it's right to still give out your number to new "toasters" when in a relationship?
Some woman say it's 'not putting all your eggs in one basket'. And guys say 'incase the present girl misbehaves'

What's your thought on this? Should we just stick to one and shut everyone out? Or just open new doors for other guys/girl. wink

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Re: Should We Shut Every Other Person Out While In A Relationship? by greatnaija01: 4:38pm On Oct 31, 2017
its SUBTLE SOFT cheating..... cos Love has no ALTERNATIVE.

That is all that needs to be said. LOVE with ALTERNATIVE is simply a contract affair.

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Re: Should We Shut Every Other Person Out While In A Relationship? by Laveda(f): 4:43pm On Oct 31, 2017
greatnaija01:
its SUBTLE SOFT cheating..... cos Love has no ALTERNATIVE.

That is all that needs to be said. LOVE with ALTERNATIVE is simply a contract affair.

What if in the long run you meet someone better than your partner?
Re: Should We Shut Every Other Person Out While In A Relationship? by makydebbie(f): 4:47pm On Oct 31, 2017
It depends on the kind of "shutting out" tho.
Re: Should We Shut Every Other Person Out While In A Relationship? by QueenSekxy(f): 4:48pm On Oct 31, 2017
undecided
Re: Should We Shut Every Other Person Out While In A Relationship? by daveP(m): 4:50pm On Oct 31, 2017
Im tryna pitch ma tent ere, but it keeps falling apart...
Re: Should We Shut Every Other Person Out While In A Relationship? by yomi007k(m): 4:52pm On Oct 31, 2017
Laveda:


What if in the long rum you meet someone better than your partner?


Wat if ur partner in the long run meets someone better... wud u suggest dey make dt move?

If ur answer is Yes- u have no business in a relationship.
If ur answer is No- then rest.


Do onto others as u wud have done to u.


Truth is there will always be someone better than u or ur partner. Relationship na choice.

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Re: Should We Shut Every Other Person Out While In A Relationship? by Martin0(m): 4:54pm On Oct 31, 2017
Wada fucck did u jus say Oh jeezz mehn I don't think so..
Re: Should We Shut Every Other Person Out While In A Relationship? by Laveda(f): 4:54pm On Oct 31, 2017
makydebbie:
Herh, I'm coming. grin

Where you going? undecided
Re: Should We Shut Every Other Person Out While In A Relationship? by Laveda(f): 4:54pm On Oct 31, 2017
daveP:
Im tryna pitch ma tent ere, but it keeps falling apart...

Lol. Keep trying
Re: Should We Shut Every Other Person Out While In A Relationship? by Laveda(f): 4:55pm On Oct 31, 2017
Martin0:


Wada fucck did u jus say
Oh jeezz mehn I don't think so..

You won't do it?
Re: Should We Shut Every Other Person Out While In A Relationship? by makydebbie(f): 4:55pm On Oct 31, 2017
Laveda:


Where you going? undecided
To close jare. sad
Re: Should We Shut Every Other Person Out While In A Relationship? by darkmarky(m): 4:56pm On Oct 31, 2017
I don't think its cheating.. I used to have that mentality that if I have a girlfriend then I don't need to have any other female friends but I was wrong.

Its ok to give out numbers but not forgetting the fact that you are in a functional relationship and also make it clear to those who try to encroach that let's just stay as friends.

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Re: Should We Shut Every Other Person Out While In A Relationship? by Papiikush: 5:00pm On Oct 31, 2017
Dating a guy and still hanging out with other guys?! That's step one in building up an open relationship

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Re: Should We Shut Every Other Person Out While In A Relationship? by daveP(m): 5:01pm On Oct 31, 2017
Based on ego, if a lady gives out her num, there's a high chance it might lead somewhere. But i dont think its any big deal. i buy sim to have only fam members on my phonebook ni? If only... (tent fall again). phew!
Re: Should We Shut Every Other Person Out While In A Relationship? by darkmarky(m): 5:02pm On Oct 31, 2017
But the reason why people shut others out is not because they just wana shut them out, most of the time, its because they have an insecure partner who isn't understanding enough to realise that people can actually be friends with each other without any strings attached.

The more reason why one should try to know the kind of partner he or she is saying yes to so that you won't be caged emotionally

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Re: Should We Shut Every Other Person Out While In A Relationship? by Martin0(m): 5:03pm On Oct 31, 2017
Laveda:

You won't do it?
I will never I forbid it
Re: Should We Shut Every Other Person Out While In A Relationship? by Laveda(f): 5:03pm On Oct 31, 2017
darkmarky:
But the reason why people shut others out is not because they just wana shut them out, most of the time, its because they have an insecure partner who isn't understanding enough to realise that people can actually be friends with each other without any strings attached.

The more reason why one should try to know the kind of partner he or she is saying yes to so that you won't be caged emotionally

Well said. smiley smiley
Re: Should We Shut Every Other Person Out While In A Relationship? by Laveda(f): 5:04pm On Oct 31, 2017
Martin0:


I will never
I forbid it

grin grin
Re: Should We Shut Every Other Person Out While In A Relationship? by Laveda(f): 5:07pm On Oct 31, 2017
yomi007k:


Wat if ur partner in the long run meets someone better... wud u suggest dey make dt move?

If ur answer is Yes- u have no business in a relationship.
If ur answer is No- then rest.


Do onto others as u wud have done to u.


Truth is there will always be someone better than u or ur partner. Relationship na choice.

So you're saying we should shut every other person out then?
Re: Should We Shut Every Other Person Out While In A Relationship? by Laveda(f): 5:07pm On Oct 31, 2017
makydebbie:
To close jare. sad

Lol. Okay ma'am
Re: Should We Shut Every Other Person Out While In A Relationship? by Thiannah(f): 5:09pm On Oct 31, 2017
darkmarky:
I don't think its cheating.. I used to have that mentality that if I have a girlfriend then I don't need to have any other female friends but I was wrong.

Its ok to give out numbers but not forgetting the fact that you are in a functional relationship and also make it clear to those who try to encroach that let's just stay as friends.
My thoughts too.
Re: Should We Shut Every Other Person Out While In A Relationship? by Laveda(f): 5:09pm On Oct 31, 2017
daveP:
Based on ego, if a lady gives out her num, there's a high chance it might lead somewhere. But I dont think its any big deal. i buy sim to have only fam members on my phonebook ni? If only... (tent fall again). phew!

Funny you. grin
Re: Should We Shut Every Other Person Out While In A Relationship? by Martin0(m): 5:09pm On Oct 31, 2017
Laveda:

grin grin
U dey shine teeth abigrin
Re: Should We Shut Every Other Person Out While In A Relationship? by Nobody: 5:10pm On Oct 31, 2017
Laveda I no understand this your question o. If you ever cheat on me ehhn..
Re: Should We Shut Every Other Person Out While In A Relationship? by teresafaith: 5:12pm On Oct 31, 2017
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Re: Should We Shut Every Other Person Out While In A Relationship? by Mutuwa(m): 5:12pm On Oct 31, 2017
Laveda:
So I came across this and thought I should get y'all opinions here as well.

Do you think it's right to still give out your number to new "toasters" when in a relationship?
Some woman say it's 'not putting all your eggs in one basket'. And guys say 'incase the present girl misbehaves'

What's your thought on this? Should we just stick to one and shut everyone out? Or just open new doors for other guys/girl. wink

Lalasticlala
Dominique. What do you think?

Visit http://orjisblog.com.ng/ for more.


Can you keep putting on one shirt for a long time?
Of course not.It is an attitude in most creation to sample and keep an extra for rainy days.Though not all persons do keep to multiple dating,but in modern time unlike before,the value in companionship had been long buried.
So the fear of the unknown saturates almost every mind of a couple,and that loud voice that keeps telling one to sample other guys/girls just to satisfy an innate urge of "yes I can get whosoever I want"
Re: Should We Shut Every Other Person Out While In A Relationship? by Laveda(f): 5:13pm On Oct 31, 2017
Mutuwa:


Can you keep putting on one shirt for a long time?

No, But here we aren't talking about clothes. smiley
Re: Should We Shut Every Other Person Out While In A Relationship? by Laveda(f): 5:15pm On Oct 31, 2017
Papiikush:
Dating a guy and still hanging out with other guys?! That's step on in building up an open relationship

What if she has no intention of doing anything with him? Mind you, it swings both ways. Like if you don't want her getting new contacts, you too shouldn't.

So, deal?
Re: Should We Shut Every Other Person Out While In A Relationship? by daveP(m): 5:18pm On Oct 31, 2017
Laveda:


Funny you. grin
Ehen. im not of the camp that every other one must be shut out. But i discovered also that many dont keep strong boundaries that makes the shutout idea to be perfect. Dont blame we guys for knowing when to stepdown. John Cena taught us the code.
Re: Should We Shut Every Other Person Out While In A Relationship? by Papiikush: 5:19pm On Oct 31, 2017
Laveda:


What if she has no intention of doing anything with him? Mind you, it swings both ways. Like if you don't want her getting new contacts, you too shouldn't.

So, deal?

Men have control over their emotions. Women don't...

Trust me love, you don't wanna have this conversation tongue
Re: Should We Shut Every Other Person Out While In A Relationship? by Mutuwa(m): 5:20pm On Oct 31, 2017
Laveda:


No, But here we aren't talking about clothes. smiley

Obviously not..I just edited the post.kindly Re read please. wink

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