Pynkylypz:
I really don't get the write up.. Can you pls explain better?

It explains the reason behind intros not getting enough sleep at night which in turn affects our input during the day. It argues that this is so because of the 'nightmares' intros face every night. Pertaining to me, i spend almost an extra 30 to 45mins awake before i actually sleep even after going to bed earlier (without a device), this is not done deliberately though, it's simply because i spend that time thinking about everything that relates to me (past, present and future) and sometimes tech stuff. It could be annoying though because there are times you can't just stop thinking and chances are quite high that you'll end up dreaming about it.

GloryIsaac:


It explains the reason behind intros not getting enough sleep at night which in turn affects our input during the day. It argues that this is so because of the 'nightmares' intros face every night. Pertaining to me, i spend almost an extra 30 to 45mins awake before i actually sleep even after going to bed earlier (without a device), this is not done deliberately though, it's simply because i spend that time thinking about everything that relates to me (past, present and future) and sometimes tech stuff. It could be annoying though because there are times you can't just stop thinking and chances are quite high that you'll end up dreaming about it.

Alright thanks...

I'm an anxious introvert

Present. Do anyone/like mind care to help spicing tins up? Am waiting. Tnx.

I finally accept I have an antisocial disorder. I'm no longer fighting.

The introvert label is unfairly judged as creepy, most of us here are geniuses at whatever we do be it writing, music, marketing, anything.
I try mixing with people but I never reason in alignment with them, never. My point of reasoning is at a polarity with theirs.
It's now left to me to petition Raphael for my soul mate to fit me like a jigsaw puzzle. If I have that, then the world may burn to ashes.

Am I mad? In a way, yes.
Life should be for a man to achieve his perfect self and develop outstanding genius and not ponder over trivial things like race, religion, money.

Welcome here bro,could you pls ask your question again?

mekyno777:
Present. Do anyone/like mind care to help spicing tins up? Am waiting.
Tnx.

Help me out guys am gradually losing my friends, they always complain that I dnt call or chat them up on whatsapp and they end up tagging me a proud girl, I dnt really know what to do because I don't just knw how to start or maintain a conversation, I prefer returning a missed call in order to start a conversation with ' hey I missed your call' I started making friends recently because I was advised to loosen up a bit but it's not working out. Am shy to the core to the point that I don't maintain eye contact with friends, I don't have much friends and I dnt want to keep losing the few I have. ....at work I just talk to few persons in the office and that's it for the day. I used to love and enjoy being alone but I don't anymore..Please no insult I need your advice. Thanks

Olarewajub:
This place is just too dull, looks like we don't have much introvert here on Nairaland.

You're wrong man Cuz am one of' em

GlorianaCO:
Help me out guys am gradually losing my friends, they always complain that I dnt call or chat them up on whatsapp and they end up tagging me a proud girl, I dnt really know what to do because I don't just knw how to start or maintain a conversation, I prefer returning a missed call in order to start a conversation with ' hey I missed your call' I started making friends recently because I was advised to loosen up a bit but it's not working out. Am shy to the core to the point that I don't maintain eye contact with friends, I don't have much friends and I dnt want to keep losing the few I have. ....at work I just talk to few persons in the office and that's it for the day. I used to love and enjoy being alone but I don't anymore..Please no insult I need your advice. Thanks

Truth of the matter is, your case is common with introverts who are also shy and we can sometimes hardly help it. Firstly, everyone cannot be your friend, introversion or not. So I often tell people, if someone finds it hard to be friends with you because of your personality, you're better off not being their friend.

Secondly, you must work on your shyness. Introversion and shyness are two different things. Both involves people who don't like to talk in social gatherings but they do it for different reasons. So work on your shyness by forcing yourself to do the uncomfortable - look into people's eyes when talking to them (start with a few seconds and work your way up), join a conversation at work even if it will be brief, pick up that call and be a little spontaneous with your reply. You need to know that shyness is often the result of fear (introversion has nothing to do with fear) so kill that fear by confronting it.

You may want to invest in books that will help you relate better with people - google them up and read blogs/articles too. If you practice the tips one after the other, you'll find yourself overcoming shyness in no time, and you'll communicate better with your friends too so no more losing friends.

I'm an introvert and I'm comfortable in my skin, I used to think something was wrong with me when I was younger but all that changed when I came across Tim Lahaye book, spirit controlled temperaments , and many other write ups on temperaments, my phone never ring except it's my dh calling, I don't have any friends but I'm nice and cool to everyone around me but no closeness, I am not easily bored because I'm the best company for myself, lol, I think and meditate a lot and I hear spiritual voices clearly most times both good and bad, I entertain myself with reading, I read and enjoy most write up except sports, lol, I love movies and soaps on TV, telemundo anyone? Zeeworld nko, it's bae I also love parties once in a while on special occasions, I love to sit and observe beautiful colorful renditions, and I love music, Jazz to be precise, Kenny G is my favorite I have since come to realise that as an introvert you are not meant to be seeking people out but you are to be sought out, your very rare discoveries and findings while in solitude will eventually make you a sort of celebrity and people will flock to you even if just within your family, if not the world, your own is to concentrate on being yourself and you will find fulfillment , great men of God, great inventors, great scientists, designers, celebrities are mainly introverts all over the world, introverts rock

vannessa7:
I'm an introvert and I'm comfortable in my skin, I used to think something was wrong with me when I was younger but all that changed when I came across Tim Lahaye book, spirit controlled temperaments , and many other write ups on temperaments, my phone never ring except it's my dh calling, I don't have any friends but I'm nice and cool to everyone around me but no closeness, I am not easily bored because I'm the best company for myself, lol, I think and meditate a lot and I hear spiritual voices clearly most times both good and bad, I entertain myself with reading, I read and enjoy most write up except sports, lol, I love movies and soaps on TV, telemundo anyone? Zeeworld nko, it's bae I also love parties once in a while on special occasions, I love to sit and observe beautiful colorful renditions, and I love music, Jazz to be precise, Kenny G is my favorite. I have since come to realise that as an introvert you are not meant to be seeking people out but you are to be sought out, your very rare discoveries and findings while in solitude will eventually make you a sort of celebrity and people will flock to you even if just within your family, if not the world, your own is to concentrate on being yourself and you will find fulfillment , great men of God, great inventors, great scientists, designers, celebrities are mainly introverts all over the world, introverts rock

Now, that in bold is what I'd call a "million dollar advice to introverts." While I understand some introverts naturally long for occasional company and all, I marvel at how some introverts desire to change their personality to what the world wants them to be. This makes me wonder if they're really introverts or just extroverts with some few introversion characteristics.

Locust

Pynkylypz:
Locust

present aunty!

locust:

present aunty!

What is bothering you? I mean the issues

Pynkylypz:
What is bothering you? I mean the issues

My battery's low now, honestly.

Am an introvert, shy, antisocial..... the problem I have is that am battling depression and anxiety which won't let me live the life I wanna.... just fed up with the way I see life....am just loosing my mind I think

chigirlangel:
Am an introvert, shy, antisocial..... the problem I have is that am battling depression and anxiety which won't let me live the life I wanna.... just fed up with the way I see life....am just loosing my mind I think

The major battle you face is the mind. Read books that can help your mind and go out of your way to make friends with people that can help or better still read pages on this thread and you will get the necessary help.

locust:

My battery's low now, honestly.

Okay dear

chigirlangel:
Am an introvert, shy, antisocial..... the problem I have is that am battling depression and anxiety which won't let me live the life I wanna.... just fed up with the way I see life....am just loosing my mind I think

You are not losing your mind. What you need is a guy that will take care of you emotionally and make you feel like a 'woman'

chigirlangel:
Am an introvert, shy, antisocial..... the problem I have is that am battling depression and anxiety which won't let me live the life I wanna.... just fed up with the way I see life....am just loosing my mind I think

I must confess, those things you combined up there are not things that should go together. But let's look at them one by one and consider things you can do about them.

Introversion: Honestly, this is who you probably are and there might be very little or nothing to do about it. Whether you're highly introverted or not, introversion doesn't affect your mind in any negative way, if anything, it makes it sound and deep. So enjoy your me time and make the most of it. Do indulge yourself once in a while and focus more on the activities that interest you - hobbies and passions. Also, and more importantly, DO NOT LIVE YOUR LIFE JEALOUS of extroverts by wishing you can have their social life - that may be the beginning of problems. Accept yourself the way you are and understand variety is the spice of life. When you do this, you'll find out there is nothing wrong with you.

Shyness and Anxiety: I don't know how old you are but I know you're definitely not a teenager and most likely in your mid-late twenties. So in essence, you should have overcome shyness. Don't mistaken shyness for introversion please. To overcome shyness, you just have to overcome the fears associated with social gatherings and you can only start by ACCEPTING YOUR SHYNESS. Yes, that's the first step. You cannot 'solve' a 'problem' you do not see as a problem.

Then next is to find what your biggest cause of shyness is. It might be an incident that has happened over 20 years ago - how someone made fun of your body or your own perception of something wrong with you as compared to others. Once you find it, then use Autosuggestion to kill the idea. Tell yourself repeatedly how that 'issue' does not matter. Know that there are always people out there not as smart, beautiful, graceful or wonderful as you. So that is one reason to not be too hard on yourself.

Next, RULE IN YOUR MIND. You'd be amazed how much power rests in that vastness of our minds. Some battles won in the physical were not won because of higher firepower, they were won because they first got won in the mind. So, think deeply about your shyness and things that trigger it and kill them in your mind. Once they're dead there, they become dead everywhere else. Identify your strengths and key into them, then your weaknesses begin to die a natural death.

TAKE CHARGE. Yes, take charge by practicing to be better at things that trigger your shyness/anxiety. Learn new things. Read up on current affairs. Speak smartly. Find some work and make some money so you can buy what you want and which you can afford. NEVER compare yourself to others. You are made unique in your own way and God didn't make any mistake making you you. If nobody likes you the way you are, like yourself. If you don't love yourself, who will?

Depression: This is by far the biggest concern of all you have up there. And it can be so devastating and make even the greatest of men reduced to nothing - hopeless and purposeless.
You see, the biggest fight against depression starts from the mind. In fact, trick the mind. Go out and have some fun. Even when your mind says you should not be having fun, have the fun anyway. When you do this, the mind gets reconditioned and begins to get used to a new you.

Travel and see places. Make good friends and dump toxic ones. Exercise very well...very very well, and regularly. Even if it is 10mins a day, do it religiously. Eat good food, healthy foods and DO NOT drink alcohol to cure depression. GET VERY VERY BUSY with life. Bury yourself in work and activities. In fact, if there is nothing to do, watch a movie, read a book, take an evening stroll. Just always do something. And sleep well... Hit that minimum of 6hrs night sleep but never more than 8hrs. Nap in the afternoon if you can too.

Challenge yourself to always do more and re-prioritize your life values and purpose. It is in the discovery of the self that you can begin to appreciate the world around you. And finally, think about what you want your life to look like five years from now, then write it down. Now ask yourself sincerely what you need to do to get to that place in five years. Then get to work immediately and start doing them. No one owes you your happiness, you owe yourself so GO GET IT!

...

Slayer2:


You are not losing your mind. What you need is a guy that will take care of you emotionally and make you feel like a 'woman'

Lol.

Guy I no wan laugh abeg, I get small headache

Most of you advising people on how to cope with this winsh called introversion, haven't gotten any better.

But don't worry as I am on the creation of a drug that would help us cope with introversion and possibly cure it. I'm just worried if the necessary authorities would endorse it since it would come with some side effects

locust:


Lol.

Guy I no wan laugh abeg, I get small headache

LOL bro. Na the truth be that o.

locust:
Most of you advising people on how to cope with this winsh called introversion, haven't gotten any better.

But don't worry as I am on the creation of a drug that would help us cope with introversion and possibly cure it. I'm just worried if the necessary authorities would endorse it since it would come with some side effects

locust:
Most of you advising people on how to cope with this winsh called introversion, haven't gotten any better.

But don't worry as I am on the creation of a drug that would help us cope with introversion and possibly cure it. I'm just worried if the necessary authorities would endorse it since it would come with some side effects

locust:
Most of you advising people on how to cope with this winsh called introversion, haven't gotten any better.

But don't worry as I am on the creation of a drug that would help us cope with introversion and possibly cure it. I'm just worried if the necessary authorities would endorse it since it would come with some side effects

Hehe,this your drug no be for here o.
On a serious note,you can get better if you work towards it,I am a living testimony

Akposb:

The major battle you face is the mind. Read books that can help your mind and go out of your way to make friends with people that can help or better still read pages on this thread and you will get the necessary help.

Thank you

DonOms:


I must confess, those things you combined up there are not things that should go together. But let's look at them one by one and consider things you can do about them.

Introversion: Honestly, this is who you probably are and there might be very little or nothing to do about it. Whether you're highly introverted or not, introversion doesn't affect your mind in any negative way, if anything, it makes it sound and deep. So enjoy your me time and make the most of it. Do indulge yourself once in a while and focus more on the activities that interest you - hobbies and passions. Also, and more importantly, DO NOT LIVE YOUR LIFE JEALOUS of extroverts by wishing you can have their social life - that may be the beginning of problems. Accept yourself the way you are and understand variety is the spice of life. When you do this, you'll find out there is nothing wrong with you.

Shyness and Anxiety: I don't know how old you are but I know you're definitely not a teenager and most likely in your mid-late twenties. So in essence, you should have overcome shyness. Don't mistaken shyness for introversion please. To overcome shyness, you just have to overcome the fears associated with social gatherings and you can only start by ACCEPTING YOUR SHYNESS. Yes, that's the first step. You cannot 'solve' a 'problem' you do not see as a problem.

Then next is to find what your biggest cause of shyness is. It might be an incident that has happened over 20 years ago - how someone made fun of your body or your own perception of something wrong with you as compared to others. Once you find it, then use Autosuggestion to kill the idea. Tell yourself repeatedly how that 'issue' does not matter. Know that there are always people out there not as smart, beautiful, graceful or wonderful as you. So that is one reason to not be too hard on yourself.

Next, RULE IN YOUR MIND. You'd be amazed how much power rests in that vastness of our minds. Some battles won in the physical were not won because of higher firepower, they were won because they first got won in the mind. So, think deeply about your shyness and things that trigger it and kill them in your mind. Once they're dead there, they become dead everywhere else. Identify your strengths and key into them, then your weaknesses begin to die a natural death.

TAKE CHARGE. Yes, take charge by practicing to be better at things that trigger your shyness/anxiety. Learn new things. Read up on current affairs. Speak smartly. Find some work and make some money so you can buy what you want and which you can afford. NEVER compare yourself to others. You are made unique in your own way and God didn't make any mistake making you you. If nobody likes you the way you are, like yourself. If you don't love yourself, who will?

Depression: This is by far the biggest concern of all you have up there. And it can be so devastating and make even the greatest of men reduced to nothing - hopeless and purposeless.
You see, the biggest fight against depression starts from the mind. In fact, trick the mind. Go out and have some fun. Even when your mind says you should not be having fun, have the fun anyway. When you do this, the mind gets reconditioned and begins to get used to a new you.

Travel and see places. Make good friends and dump toxic ones. Exercise very well...very very well, and regularly. Even if it is 10mins a day, do it religiously. Eat good food, healthy foods and DO NOT drink alcohol to cure depression. GET VERY VERY BUSY with life. Bury yourself in work and activities. In fact, if there is nothing to do, watch a movie, read a book, take an evening stroll. Just always do something. And sleep well... Hit that minimum of 6hrs night sleep but never more than 8hrs. Nap in the afternoon if you can too.

Challenge yourself to always do more and re-prioritize your life values and purpose. It is in the discovery of the self that you can begin to appreciate the world around you. And finally, think about what you want your life to look like five years from now, then write it down. Now ask yourself sincerely what you need to do to get to that place in five years. Then get to work immediately and start doing them. No one owes you your happiness, you owe yourself so GO GET IT!

Thank you very much for this...I really appreciate, God bless you

Slayer2:


You are not losing your mind. What you need is a guy that will take care of you emotionally and make you feel like a 'woman'

really... am sure you've 'a guy' for me right

chigirlangel:




really... am sure you've 'a guy' for me right

I get for you sha. put up your dp first

Windflower:

Hehe,this your drug no be for here o.
On a serious note,you can get better if you work towards it,I am a living testimony

I've tried working towards it, I ain't doing shìt again. This drug is the last energy i'm putting into it. Of the many side effects it would come with, i'm particularly worried about increased sex drive.

nice thread
I dint even know what Introvert meant until someone called me one *covers face*

I'm not shy. I love going out (alone). I enjoy peace. I like everywhere quiet. I don't like too many people around me. I have a few friends that got tired of calling because I don't pick up. I prefer a text. I'll miss your call-intentionally and call u back. And if I pick up and u are talking for more that a Minute, I hang up and put my phone on airplane.

I make friends as fast as I lose them (lack of communication)

I talk to people only when I feel like or if the need arises. I only go to parties for the rice my fam knows. I like to start a conversation and end it at my own will. My smile disappears as fast as it forms (I've been caught on video tons of times ) my social media is very active but real life, I'm just a "pls I want to be alone" person.

And I can promise you that I'll be with you next week Saturday so we can hang out. And you will not see me till two years after
I'm just that!