NoLotty7:
Hello nairalanders,after four years of training two of your children in the unversity at the same time you discover one day that both of them don't attend classes not to talk more of bringing certificate back home.however,during their first year,they always bring all admission's scripts and slips.you gave them their school fees,feeding allowances,buy clothes and many other items for their comforts throughout the four years.

Less l forget, if any of them is having party celebration e .g birthday,street is full with different busty ladies and flashy guys called themselves as course mates.

Note:they are male and female.second and third in the family of 5 children. If you are one of the parents or the guardians, what will do to them. I heard it one day in a bus. Let us hear you.

Na to take them go psychiatric hospital go check their brain. After that, na to do midnight prayer for dem.

On the other hand, had they told you that they were tired of school, would you have accepted it? They prolly had to keep collecting in order to keep the scam undetected.

leksmedia:
I will blame the parents. This is the height of bad parenting, So your child is studying in a University for 4 years and you don't think its important to visit the child at School. You didnt care to ask for their result, or receipt for every payment, even after seeing receipt, you should even verify.

here are things every responsible parent should do
1. Visit your in school at least 4 times a year
2. Pay surprise visits on weekends
3. Have their time table so you can easily predict where they are having lectures and pay them a visit during lecture (though I wont advise you go in to look for them, It can be embarassing)
4. Have people that can help you monitor them , be careful you are not putting them in wrong hands
5. Have someone old and responsible like a fatherly or motherly figure they can be accountable to, this has its own disadvantage too, you just
6. Call them often especially at night, you can easily track whether they are in or out
7. Be friendly with your children, give them some flexibility to express themselves

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Bro, am a student and i know some student all your Formula won't work with.

Add salt to dere lives

Yes, it seems like it but then they may be fighting their personal demons and were prolly too chicken to come out to me. I will like to give it one more try to satisfy myself that at least I fought for them.

ednut1:
tell me more, a child that deceives his parents for 4 years does not deserve anoda opportunity na

It's not their fault. Many children just can't cope with the bad standard of the Nigerian education system . Lots of people who I heard had failed here go abroad to do well spectacularly. many put in efforts and work harder than most but still fail because their capacity isn't suited for this environment.

your best option is to sit them down and talk, ask why they think they didn't do well and what they think would be the next thing to do. My suggestion, find ways to send the ones still interested in schooling abroad. Trust me a lot of brilliant individuals are been wasted here. Not everyone has the ability to memorize like they do in most University here.

MrOjay1:





Those children are the real MVP


They recognised on time that education was no longer the key but just a key.


They should be commended for their bravery,for they are following the footsteps of Mark Zuckerberg.


Education is no big deal.


Fvck education!


Go and hustle for the money then come back and buy all the degrees you want.

I don't totally agree but you have a point here

Ruggedfitness:


My father only visited once, but he made sure he put in place someone from the army to watch my movements, he also made sure I made friends with a lecturer and give him the lecturers number so that he can communicate with him anything he wants.

So, bro that is what I call watching over a child, so I blame the parents

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NoLotty7:
Hello nairalanders,after four years of training two of your children in the unversity at the same time you discover one day that both of them don't attend classes not to talk more of bringing certificate back home.however,during their first year,they always bring all admission's scripts and slips.you gave them their school fees,feeding allowances,buy clothes and many other items for their comforts throughout the four years.

Less l forget, if any of them is having party celebration e .g birthday,street is full with different busty ladies and flashy guys called themselves as course mates.

Note:they are male and female.second and third in the family of 5 children. If you are one of the parents or the guardians, what will do to them. I heard it one day in a bus. Let us hear you.

Na to go learn trade. No need to shout or flog because the money is gone. Just send them to learn trade and start life from there that is all

bigpicture001:
....ur quick to blame my guy...for u,hw mny times did ur parents visit u in skl tru your 4 years in skl..y didn't u become a brat.y did u graduate with cert.lemme tell u,they are adult. that's what they prefer,uv done yours as parents. even dou it's painful to parents. they shld b left to face d consequences. nonsense children

Best comment i've read so far on this thread
Highest the parents can do is just to give that child a second chance...

Slap

Na to give them extra one year to decide how they wish to serve their country after which they are to leave my house for good. We aren't gonna be fighting o, they just need to start supporting themselves ni, a feat I have prepared them for for 5years! Awon omooshi.


BTW, that one year latitude is like grace for them to restrategize. I no come Lagos come count brifge!

Eyah, it's a common practice in the higher instituting, we call them NFA- No Future Ambition, what you need to do is to keep praying for them to change, you can't disown them nor abandon your responsibilities to them.

bujebudanu1:
As good parents.u can't leave them to wander about cos u both feel the pains and embarrassment.the best is to keep pushing them.open business for whoever wants it.if name Yankee them wan go.send them there. Dey eye go open one day

If u leave them.they will sell or house.ur car.ur properties wen they need money

them no behave for na naija na Yankee u wan send them go

abdeiz:


Abroad for what ke?? The problem with those kids is too much pampering, they know they would always get the support of their parents especially financial support. so that gives them impetus to play around.

Starve them of money providing with only the bare minimum and see how quickly they change.

What nonsense Spoilt brats.

You think that would solve the problem?

Use them as burnt offering or send them go Libya. I swear dem go learn.
Truth is they're now bone in the neck. Call them on a family meeting.
Tell them you want to settle dem as school no come work out. Ask them what they would want to do outside school...cos school is now outta the picture. When they've decided, go ahead and tell them that you're selling their inheritance to establish them and the remaining properties are for other three. Watch their reactions and take it up from there.
If you don't do anything to establish your kids, hmmm... That a pending tsunami.

Abdul3391:

them no behave for na naija na Yankee u wan send them go

Wen dem no see free money and free food chop .dem go behave very well

Ghostmode2two:

You think that would solve the problem?

Yes..it worked for me

How genuine is the admission in to the university? I know of someone that got a fake admission in one federal university. The girl discovered it was a fake admission in her final year which means no certificate for her even though her gp was 2.1 as of them. The girl had to start all over again in another state university. she is in final year now.

This type of children would be selling your properties daily and if you not careful they would sell you join inside your house one day, am talking out of experience

abdeiz:

Yes..it worked for me

ok

mechanics:
Eyah, it's a common practice in the higher instituting, we call them NFA- No Future Ambition, what you need to do is to keep praying for them to change, you can't disown them nor abandon your responsibilities to them.

they're plenty in federal univ'. free accommodation for them to survive for years on campus halls. #second chance is cool.

some factors -
1 - protest leaders (suspension ish)
2 - bad results in a course (carry over and not been able to pay on time)
3 - lecturers (victimisation of students)
4 - peer groups (smokers, stabbing classes, clubbing....)
5 - missing registers (attendances )
6 - group work / project
7 - poor grades
8 - lack of information (info about test/exams time) some people missed exams why reading in my school library before.
9 - no getting motivated (your folks)
10 - manipulation during admission processing.

NubiLove:

I am waiting for your next advert on vagina reduction. Those women who have sampled different sizes of cassavas that always complain of their partners small size should start taking medications for the reduction in size of their kpekus.

northvietnam:
Buhari why

what does buhari have to do with this now haba

[quote author=leksmedia post=63857303]I will blame the parents. This is the height of bad parenting, So your child is studying in a University for 4 years and you don't think its important to visit the child at School. You didnt care to ask for their result, or receipt for every payment, even after seeing receipt, you should even verify.

here are things every responsible parent should do
1. Visit your in school at least 4 times a year
2. Pay surprise visits on weekends
3. Have their time table so you can easily predict where they are having lectures and pay them a visit during lecture (though I wont advise you go in to look for them, It can be embarassing)
4. Have people that can help you monitor them , be careful you are not putting them in wrong hands
5. Have someone old and responsible like a fatherly or motherly figure they can be accountable to, this has its own disadvantage too, you just
6. Call them often especially at night, you can easily track whether they are in or out
7. Be friendly with your children, give them some flexibility to express themselves

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All these in the UNIVERSITY?
Anyways, even if parents tried, those kids would have still covered their tracks.

leksmedia:
I will blame the parents. This is the height of bad parenting, So your child is studying in a University for 4 years and you don't think its important to visit the child at School. You didnt care to ask for their result, or receipt for every payment, even after seeing receipt, you should even verify.

here are things every responsible parent should do
1. Visit your in school at least 4 times a year
2. Pay surprise visits on weekends
3. Have their time table so you can easily predict where they are having lectures and pay them a visit during lecture (though I wont advise you go in to look for them, It can be embarassing)
4. Have people that can help you monitor them , be careful you are not putting them in wrong hands
5. Have someone old and responsible like a fatherly or motherly figure they can be accountable to, this has its own disadvantage too, you just
6. Call them often especially at night, you can easily track whether they are in or out
7. Be friendly with your children, give them some flexibility to express themselves

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For university?
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The ones that came home with certificates what did they do with it.

bujebudanu1:

Wen dem no see free money and free food chop .dem go behave very well

u think so

leksmedia:
I will blame the parents. This is the height of bad parenting, So your child is studying in a University for 4 years and you don't think its important to visit the child at School. You didnt care to ask for their result, or receipt for every payment, even after seeing receipt, you should even verify.

here are things every responsible parent should do
1. Visit your in school at least 4 times a year
2. Pay surprise visits on weekends
3. Have their time table so you can easily predict where they are having lectures and pay them a visit during lecture (though I wont advise you go in to look for them, It can be embarassing)
4. Have people that can help you monitor them , be careful you are not putting them in wrong hands
5. Have someone old and responsible like a fatherly or motherly figure they can be accountable to, this has its own disadvantage too, you just
6. Call them often especially at night, you can easily track whether they are in or out
7. Be friendly with your children, give them some flexibility to express themselves

For your website design , ecommerce websites and blog design, visit www.leksmediaconcept.com or call 08173091370

so , u want my parent to come and check me for school 4times a yr, every weekend visit, ekiti-maiduguri , thats not a point bro

I would mind my business, amebo is nor good.

Ruggedfitness:


Parenting is all about taking responsibility of a child and when you are responsible for something, every fault that the thing has become your fault. That is what responsibility means. or are you saying that parents aren't responsible for their kids.

Also about feedback system, a true parent who is responsible for their kids will know how the child behaves normally and foresee possible anomalies if the child is sent to a school far away, so he will put someone there to watch over him. There was a guy in the army watching over me while I was in school and reporting to my father.

So don't tell me about feedback system.

lol....at 20 you still responsible for your child being responsible? guy go sit down

we choose our paths at last, either good or bad, we will always face the consequences

Abdul3391:

u think so

I have one elder bro like that.
Nigga was omo jaiyejaiye.e no gree go uni.my p man come send am jand.this nigga is responsible now