A South African lady with the username @awkward-ah on twitter, took to the platform to reveal the reason why she left her man.

According To The Lady:

She left her man because he always buys her what she needs.


Read What She Wrote Below:

I was engaged to a man who'd never let me pay for anything. Like got mad AF when I bought things.
I left hm because that may sound like a dream come true for some, but it's a nightmare to be in fr.
It's not generosity. It's control.

I knew that one-day he would tell me that I own nothing. That I owe him. That my son couldn't be comfortable in our home because he was using this man's things. I wasn't here for that life.

He started hinting that I worked too hard. I should quit and take care of his books. When I asked what my salary would be he laughed. Said I don't need a salary when there's "our money". Nah brah. Could never be me.

He bought me a new phone and sim card. It would be best if we were on the same network for free minutes he said. I saw that he just didn't want others to have my number and also he'd have access to my itemized bill.

Then he would hint that we should go to Mac. He knows a lady who can sort me out. He'd like me to wear makeup all the time. You know, the business was picking up and we had to appear a certain way.
I'm a jeans and T kinda girl. He met me as such.

Everytime I'd say no, he'd buy me things. I don't want to grow my hair, he got expensive flat irons. I don't like heels, he showed up with an Aldo box. . . It never stopped.

For some reason this man thought that by putting a ring on my finger he could now shape me into a mould of his own design.
I saw through it all. I'm really thankful that I did or who knows how my life would be today.

Source:
http://www.nairaplus.com/2018/04/south-african-lady-broke-up-with-her.html

The man seems to be a control freak, the lady is thoughtful thou sensing where all the actions will lead to. But trust some ladies the man buying everything is a show of love

Is oryt, at least u saw it coming, unlike some of dem wey even with Segun Arinze's eye's dem no go fit see am.

U get sense as u don see ahead what can happen if u stay in the relationship....but if Na some ladies eh dem no go see anything until the embracement starts...that's when dem go start to blame and shout to the social media that they are suffering...my guy beat me, my guy maltreated me.....that's what usually happens when u intend to reap where u did not sow....

You are lucky to have spotted the signs at an early stage of the relationship, and were smart enough not to brush these signs off as him being " too caring and considerate " like some women do. You dodged a bullet.

you're very wise. at least you dodged the last bullet.

You did the right thing.
Many won't agree to this. But he's gonna dominate you, seclude you from those and things you love and control your life...

She's indirectly a real and smart feminist, she's not just smart but hardworking, focused and knows what she wants for herself.
Not some broke feminist wannabes e-goats that will come to media to form poo and slam men but will worship men in reality whenever a man gives them money to eat.

Trust me, most ladies will stick to that relationship so long as the man spends and buys them everything, they have no atom of shame whenever they see awoof from a man, they will tolerate all sort and manner of bad treatment from such man so long as he continue spending on them.
They'll call it love and care.

This lady is a rare gem, she saw something coming and she played smart to avoid being controlled and insulted in the future by leaving the relationship.

If we get up to 5% of her type in Africa, their won't be problem in our society.

My respect to her.

Thats nice of her, i also dumb a frnd who was also acting this way thou she was senior just two yrs difference, she was always there for me thou we are just platonic frnds but it got to a point were i cant take it any longer

Awon control freak.

Wehdon anti, u made the right decision.

This kinda news is rare in Nigeria.

nonsense!! if i was a girl i would want a man like this. YOLO. no time to prove useless points. chow that moola. life is too short. plus the idiot girl is a single mother!! smh.
what is it with south african girls and being single mothers

ubunja:
nonsense!! if i was a girl i would want a man like this. YOLO. no time to prove useless points. chow that moola. life is too short. plus the idiot girl is a single mother!! smh.
what is it with south african girls and being single mothers

Hey .... That's an u true stereotype

The association of all Naija slay queens will never forgive you for this your stupidity

thank your stars you found out on time.
I cant deal,not with a control freak.