A Nairalander who seriously needs advice sent in this mail. Please read and advise her. Thanks


"I Am still in love with my ex but I am married to a stranger


I wish to seek advice from nairalanders. I will accept insults. I just got married 2 months ago.

Let me start by saying I dated my ex for 4 years. We loved ourselves but you know as the year went by, my ex started showing some attitudes like hiding his phone when sleeping. Also his parents came up that we can't marry, simply becauss I am not same state with him.

While all this played out, this friend of mine connected me to a guy whom came back from abroad to marry. I saw the guy but didn't like him but before we met. I already informed my parents about this guy from abroad who likes me a lot. Without seeking for my approval. My parents got carried away and insisted that it's him they want, not my ex anymore. Out of fustration and pressure I married this new guy but I feel no love for him. My ex also wants me back and I want same because I love him.

I plan to divorce my husband because I can't stand that he Will be my husband for life. I don't love him.

Please advise me."

You're confused. I believe the stranger did not put a rope round your neck and dragged you like a goat to the altar... You can't stand up for yourself and take decisions yourself without the interference of your parents who only see you as a sacrificial lamb to cancel poverty?


You played yourself girl (according to my friend, Thegeneralqueen)


I am sorry, you can't eat your cake and have it So remain where you are. I wish you well.

I pity you.

This is what you get when the apex of a woman's success is pegged at her marital status ; getting terribly misled at all front.

From what I gathered, you were pressured to marry your present husband by your parents? You are a disgrace to adulthood. I wonder if you'd have agreed to walk into a burning fire if you were ordered by your parents. Deed is done, file for a divorce and get off that sham/charade disguised as a marriage.

I DO NOT advise you go back to your ex because both of you are clearly immature.

Why rush yourself into marriage in the first place?
You wanted obodo oyinbo things?
You better try to make your marriage work.You just got married two months ago so why not give the marriage a try.You could grow together as time goes by.

As for your ex,I think you are just fooling yourself.You said he used to hide his phone,if you ever get back together,i hope he won't have to hide you one day.

ok, what you expect to see in the new guy is what you used to experience with your ex.. you cannot expect your new guy to be like your ex. people are different. if you understand that you're done with your ex and you have a new life. forget everything and move on with your new life.. you will get to fall in love with your husband.

I will advice you to build ur marriage get to know ur husband more better tell him things let him know u n try to forget about ur ex.


a life time promise you made 2 months ago u want to break it. what make u think the 1 u will make with ur ex will last up to a week.


What make u think ur ex will want to marry you even if he do want to marry you what makes you think his family will give you their blessings.

To slap you dey hungry me, if ur Ex love you una for break up?

Olosho wants to eat her cake and have it.....



Wat FVCKERY

Am coming

You left it so late dear.

Introduction day came and done, you didn't run away, you allowed the merriment cloud your heart.

The wedding day came followed by probably a court thingy, the clergy man read out some words to you, and you recited with him and at the end of that covenant said "Yes I do" to all the terms, a day before then you never followed your heart you followed your parent.

Now some months after, you want to break the heart of the poor man,in the name of now listening and following your heart.

I will be straight with you and hit the nail on the head, you are a cheat and what kept the feeling in your head is simply because you are still entertaining your ex,cut all ties with him and ask your hubby for a two weeks vacation, just both of you, try to live in the moment with him and be open to his sincere love, share beautiful moments together, get to know him more, just forget about the fake feeling and feel real with him.

Sometimes love don't just develop fully, in some relationship it grows and when well nurtured it blossom.

Please allow yours to blossom with your partner and please desist from your parent excuse and stop the blame displacement. they wanted it and you succumb not because they forced you but because you wanted it as well, if not you would have stood your ground and confront their decision, if you can't then so where is the strength to face them with a divorce descion coming from.

I pray you understand my little advice use it and you will be good.

But first of all cut all tiles with your ex...block him on WhatsApp, on Facebook, unfollow him on twitter on Instagram, on snap chat, block his number with true caller, if he calls with another number tell him you are married and be a good wife to your husband,

But above all the Yoruba says and I translate, you can force the donkey/horse to the stream but your can't force it do drink from the stream.

God is with you.

Okay

I know Nwamaikpe has something to say...

Lemme comment my Reserve...

Nwamaikpe over to you

Hmmmm

how old are you?

Oboy go sidon for doty....dis one no be case like dis

Confusion Language

U chop wetin belle full u na


mechionu dia.

To use u do money ritual just de hungry me

In the first place madam who force to marry, shebi you carry your leg enter the marriage....? They just use abroad scam you abi?? better begin see your husband as your husband oh.....

This is strong

It's a pity you don't know what you want like Nina of BBN

lalasticlala:
A Nairalander who seriously needs advice sent in this mail. Please read and advise her. Thanks


"I Am still in love with my ex but I am married to a stranger


I wish to seek advice from nairalanders. I will accept insults. I just got married 2 months ago.

Let me start by saying I dated my ex for 4 years. We loved ourselves but you know as the year went by, my ex started showing some attitudes like hiding his phone when sleeping. Also his parents came up that we can't marry, simply becauss I am not same state with him.

While all this played out, this friend of mine connected me to a guy whom came back from abroad to marry. I saw the guy but didn't like him but before we met. I already informed my parents about this guy from abroad who likes me a lot. Without seeking for my approval. My parents got carried away and insisted that it's him they want, not my ex anymore. Out of fustration and pressure I married this new guy but I feel no love for him. My ex also wants me back and I want same because I love him.

I plan to divorce my husband because I can't stand that he Will be my husband for life. I don't love him.

Please advise me."

Can You Imagine the nonsense?
If not for his money why did You tell your parents about him?
Coming here to blame your parents...

Better remain in that marriage, nt like your husband did something wrong self.
All these oloshoes that end up in someone's house

Later now ur husband go dey train pikin wen no be him own.....


NA FREE PUSSY UR EX NEED, BETTER WISE UP
EX wen dey hide phone from you nai go come marry YoU after collecting LEGIT kpanshing for 2months ba

Africa Magic no good oooo

So Nancy you brought this issue down to Nairaland

Go ahead with the divorce if that's what you really want.

Next time don't act like a baby. Put your foot down and make decisions based on what you want.

Brb

Ok

Nairalanders ehh. Una no fit advice person again?

And you think your Ex will celebrate his new package when you finally divorce your husband? Only an insane man will do that. You better start building your love for this niggar from foundation before you spoil show for yourself