JasonScolari:
Not at all. Why do you ask?

Assuming I was the person, that would be my reply�

jozee8:

Assuming I was the person, that would be my reply�

Lol.

Go ahead and divorce your current husband and live to regret it for life!

The truth is that you do not love your ex but he was better in some aspects than your current abroad based husband. I guess your ex is a porn star in bed and you are addicted to sex too. (I hope I'm wrong on that)

But don't forget this same ex was already hiding his phone from you and his family was against your union.

If you will listen to sound counsel; forget your ex and destroy everything that connect or remind you of him.

Sit with your husband and work out modalities for the two of you to grow in loving each other! God bless you as you make the right decision.

prechbills1:



I used to think that things like this only happen in nollywood movies.. imagine the disgrace, was she dragged like a goat to the alter?

this story is fake though, anybody who believes this crap is living in fantasy.

This one I believe ....I know of a fair few men who return home looking for wives and 99% of those have not worked out
Visas end up being cancelled a lot of bitterness and resentment as a result. One doctor who was set on marrying a “none corrupted” wife from his home town he was introduced to one arranged for her to come to England she then made contact with her “ex” who was in America and while he was at work she flew to the US yes he had her visa cancelled, demanded the cost of the very elaborate wedding from the women’s family but that was punishing people who had nothing to do with their wayward daughter.
I fear for my brothers to be honest.

MissRaine69:


This one I believe ....I know of a fair few men who return home looking for wives and 99% of those have not worked out
Visas end up being cancelled a lot of bitterness and resentment as a result. One doctor who was set on marrying a “none corrupted” wife from his home town he was introduced to one arranged for her to come to England she then made contact with her “ex” who was in America and while he was at work she flew to the US yes he had her visa cancelled, demanded the cost of the very elaborate wedding from the women’s family but that was punishing people who had nothing to do with their wayward daughter.
I fear for my brothers to be honest.

wait, can't they marry black women over there?

lalasticlala:
A Nairalander who seriously needs advice sent in this mail. Please read and advise her. Thanks


"I Am still in love with my ex but I am married to a stranger


I wish to seek advice from nairalanders. I will accept insults. I just got married 2 months ago.

Let me start by saying I dated my ex for 4 years. We loved ourselves but you know as the year went by, my ex started showing some attitudes like hiding his phone when sleeping. Also his parents came up that we can't marry, simply becauss I am not same state with him.

While all this played out, this friend of mine connected me to a guy whom came back from abroad to marry. I saw the guy but didn't like him but before we met. I already informed my parents about this guy from abroad who likes me a lot. Without seeking for my approval. My parents got carried away and insisted that it's him they want, not my ex anymore. Out of fustration and pressure I married this new guy but I feel no love for him. My ex also wants me back and I want same because I love him.

I plan to divorce my husband because I can't stand that he Will be my husband for life. I don't love him.

Please advise me."

Mtchewwwww, nonsense, stupid fabricated story...

There's no way someone apart from me, myself and I will make me marry someone I don't love just because of money or whatever. At the end, I will be the one to stay with the man.
Madam, he's your huasband now. You choose him over your ex cos you heard he came from abroad and thought that someone who's from abroad will be loving and carring like your ex. Then you realises not all that glitter is DIAMIND. Now you want back what you rejected.
To my fellow singles on nairaland my advice to you is this; don't you ever allow anyone to manipulate and confuse you into marrying someone just because of their financial status or good looks, or marry just because someone told you that all your mates are married wit kids. I tell you, you will come to nairaland with a storing more boring than this one. And I, Misscongeniality will not comment, but will just relax and read comments.

Oloshos just full everywhere... Baba God abeg help us ooo

greatcrown:
Go ahead and divorce your current husband and live to regret it for life!

The truth is that you do not love your ex but he was better in some aspects than your current abroad based husband. I guess your ex is a porn star in bed and you are addicted to sex too. (I hope I'm wrong on that)

But don't forget this same ex was already hiding his phone from you and his family was against your union.

If you will listen to sound counsel; forget your ex and destroy everything that connect or remind you of him.

Sit with your husband and work out modalities for the two of you to grow in loving each other! God bless you as you make the right decision.

You even try give her good advice. Her village people the decide to disgrace, and your advice is her only way out.

you are a foolish girl.
no advice

adedayoa2:
The solution now is for you to forget about your ex, make your marriage work. You didn't end the relationship before jumping into another one, too risky my dear.

It's always important to end a relationship before starting another as you mentioned. Most people don't and it's bad. Even when you want to go into a relationship with someone , make sure he/she has ended their previous relationship.

MissRaine69:


This one I believe ....I know of a fair few men who return home looking for wives and 99% of those have not worked out
Visas end up being cancelled a lot of bitterness and resentment as a result. One doctor who was set on marrying a “none corrupted” wife from his home town he was introduced to one arranged for her to come to England she then made contact with her “ex” who was in America and while he was at work she flew to the US yes he had her visa cancelled, demanded the cost of the very elaborate wedding from the women’s family but that was punishing people who had nothing to do with their wayward daughter.
I fear for my brothers to be honest.

Is this a true story?

jozee8:

Bros abeg na question i want ask oo,
Are you the EX?

I didn't want to ask but now that you have asked the question let me answer on his behalf.
Yes he is.

Madame you are too harsh in making your decisions.Unlock your heart for the abroad guy and pray with it.This is your faith in life.

Love is not important in marriage like tolerance and compatibility. Go back to your ex and discover his own flaws after actual marriage. Boyfriend and Husband are wide apart.

You spoke my mind, Jason. So all I can add is KPOM!


O pari

JasonScolari:
You're confused. I believe the stranger did not put a rope round your neck and dragged you like a goat to the altar... You can't stand up for yourself and take decisions yourself without the interference of your parents who only see you as a sacrificial lamb to cancel poverty?


You played yourself girl (according to my friend, Thegeneralqueen)


I am sorry, you can't eat your cake and have it So remain where you are. I wish you well.

Abagworo:
Love is not important in marriage like tolerance and compatibility. Go back to your ex and discover his own flaws after actual marriage. Boyfriend and Husband are wide apart.

Sounds like you have seen it all

Continue wifey you enjoyed the money now the money is sawa you one press abandon....no oh stay there...

JasonScolari:
You're confused. I believe the stranger did not put a rope round your neck and dragged you like a goat to the altar... You can't stand up for yourself and take decisions yourself without the interference of your parents who only see you as a sacrificial lamb to cancel poverty?


You played yourself girl (according to my friend, Thegeneralqueen)

I am sorry, you can't eat your cake and have it So remain where you are. I wish you well.

It is pure greed that is causing her pain. Remain there and pray to God to make it work.

You had better stay where you are and learn to love your hubby...

To be sincere with you, Dnt divorce Him. God has a purpose of bringing the two of u together. Learn to love him.make d marriage work. accomodate his inadequacies if any. Pls Dnt divorce him .God frowns at divorce. God bless your home

JasonScolari:
You're confused. I believe the stranger did not put a rope round your neck and dragged you like a goat to the altar... You can't stand up for yourself and take decisions yourself without the interference of your parents who only see you as a sacrificial lamb to cancel poverty?


You played yourself girl (according to my friend, Thegeneralqueen)


I am sorry, you can't eat your cake and have it So remain where you are. I wish you well.

You just said the truth she should remain where she is and with time I believe she will grow to love him.

cchiagom:


You just said the truth she should remain where she is and with time I believe she will grow to love him.

Lol, we do hope she takes the advice.

olafresh:
I guess the op

Someone can't solve her problem herself, carried it to the internet. Imagine if that was the husband.

My dear i don't know what you are going through but from what you said your husband is not a woman beater and he doesn't treat you bad. Love grows when it is given a chance, why don't you let your husband love you and you love him too. What if you divorce him and this your ex also disappoint you because he won't marry you since his parents do not like you. When a man's parents especially his mother say no to you then pick up your shoes and run. Don't make a mistake and regret later ok. Look into it very well.

lalasticlala:
A Nairalander who seriously needs advice sent in this mail. Please read and advise her. Thanks


"I Am still in love with my ex but I am married to a stranger


I wish to seek advice from nairalanders. I will accept insults. I just got married 2 months ago.

Let me start by saying I dated my ex for 4 years. We loved ourselves but you know as the year went by, my ex started showing some attitudes like hiding his phone when sleeping. Also his parents came up that we can't marry, simply becauss I am not same state with him.

While all this played out, this friend of mine connected me to a guy whom came back from abroad to marry. I saw the guy but didn't like him but before we met. I already informed my parents about this guy from abroad who likes me a lot. Without seeking for my approval. My parents got carried away and insisted that it's him they want, not my ex anymore. Out of fustration and pressure I married this new guy but I feel no love for him. My ex also wants me back and I want same because I love him.

I plan to divorce my husband because I can't stand that he Will be my husband for life. I don't love him.

Please advise me."

Please sir, help me move my complain thread to front page, i'm loosing my mind. Plz, I need advice.



https://www.nairaland.com/4451093/please-im-pregnant-confused-father

JasonScolari:
Many thanks bro.

welcome bro

How old are you? 19?