Collins0609:
My mom is dead,as in real dead.i remember blaming her for some things;i wish she is alive today causing me a lot of trouble;been my burden.i wil give her everything only to make her happy and more troublesome.u own her,she didnt kill u when u are a child and spent a lot to c u grow as u are now.i remember my mum carrying me and running all d way to d hospital when am sick.i love my mum.i only wish she is alive today.u dont know what u have unless u lose it.u mom prayers is what keeping spiritual and evil minded person to get to u.u life,ur choice.
Over an out

IamD18:

How you

Ezkid:
Well as an African I believe it's disrespectful and rude to diss or called out my mom for her unhealthy attitudes but I think its high time I make it public so people who has witnessed or experience such can give to me a valuable advice.

My mom was once a successful hair dresser and she was the breadwinner of our family until she became born again, she abruptly stopped plating hair for her customers based on what she tagged "unbiblical" She basically affirmed that she'll never touch attachments and synthetic hair again in her life and ever since then things hasn't been going smoothly again.

My Dad now has got a Rick Ross fatlike woman as a second wife and I think the whole situations has taken its toll on my mom's mental health, she's literally cut herself off from the outside world and everything always mean something extra terrestrial to her.

My Mom would see a gecko on the wall and believe it was sent from hell to drag her to the underground, We always packed from one apartment to the other thanks to her intolerance toward other people. Omg! She'll always find faults with her co tenants, everybody is either a witch or a spy from the underworld.

There's one thing she did that convinced me she's struggling from mental instability, we packed out from one house to a flat like apartment, do u believe my mom went back there and packed the huge rocks we used to make fire? She tagged them as her property which can never be left behind, she'll play with u today only to become unresponsive when u greet her tomorrow, she stopped her work almost 20 years ago and ever since then has become a liability on my dad and a burden on us the children, it disgusts me to feed her with my hard earned money when she's hale and healthy, she's the reason my dad was unable to send me to the university because the burden is too much on him.

What I find ridiculous about her is her mindset, her mind was wired to believe we owed her a living when in reality it's the opposite, when my dad is unable to send money she'll become so tensed and angry, its so annoying how she find it difficult to realize she is the PROBLEM of the family.

Pls I need good advice on what kind of help we the children can seek on her behalf cos its obvious she needs help. Thanks all.

Collins0609:
My mom is dead,as in real dead.i remember blaming her for some things;i wish she is alive today causing me a lot of trouble;been my burden.i wil give her everything only to make her happy and more troublesome.u own her,she didnt kill u when u are a child and spent a lot to c u grow as u are now.i remember my mum carrying me and running all d way to d hospital when am sick.i love my mum.i only wish she is alive today.u dont know what u have unless u lose it.u mom prayers is what keeping spiritual and evil minded person to get to u.u life,ur choice.
Over an out

Earthbound:
The disdain you feel towards your mother is unnatural. The church your mom became born again into is the root of all your problems

Thegeneralqueen:
Fine sir kedu maka orlu kwanu

Ezkid:
Its not really like I feel disdain towards her but she the architect of her problem and the PROBLEM is affecting the whole family but she failed to realize she herself is the PROBLEM!

VULCAN:
So the mum bears no responsibility for her actions. Typical African mentality you have-Never accepting responsibility for ones affairs

Collins0609:
My mom is dead,as in real dead.i remember blaming her for some things;i wish she is alive today causing me a lot of trouble;been my burden.i wil give her everything only to make her happy and more troublesome.u own her,she didnt kill u when u are a child and spent a lot to c u grow as u are now.i remember my mum carrying me and running all d way to d hospital when am sick.i love my mum.i only wish she is alive today.u dont know what u have unless u lose it.u mom prayers is what keeping spiritual and evil minded person to get to u.u life,ur choice.
Over an out

MrFly:
Whats d name of d church she attends?

OneCorner:

no mind ur mama... she no get sense

IamD18:

Oru, by this time?
I'm good, how went your day?

victorian:









Abi?

I pity the mother for giving birth to such ungrateful son.
Better to have female children than such a son!
He's talking about not been able to bag a degree in the university. When there are so many graduates out there without jobs, trekking with torn shirts and battered shoes.
He should go and see his mates who didn't go to university, how well off they are and enjoying life. Cos why? They think out the box and outside the norms of the society.

Any man who dispise his mother will suffer in life. It's not curse but what God has ordained already from above.

That's why he's suffering. So much hate in his heart towards his mum.

Na their he go dey ,no going forward no going backward. He should keep hating her. He is doing himself.

Thegeneralqueen:
I know you're back that's why I asked

Ordimma e ma ortu monday ce ya di oru erbenine

MrFly:
Whats d name of d church she attends?

IamD18:

Which kyn Chinese igbo you de type

U de burst my head

victorian:









Not every woman can work till 80years or 100years old.

Every woman body mechanism is different. So let her be and appreciate her presence until God calls her.

Do u know there are some young wives who do not wish to work. Have seen young married women who prefer to stay at home, breed kids, cook and simply attend to home duties, than go out there and hustle. Women of 26, 30,35,40, etc. They are everywhere world wide.
They just want to be housewife and there is nothing there husband can do about it, than to manage the situation.

So it's good, u all have left her to do her own thing.

My landlady she's 50years old, her husband is late. She doesn't work. All she does is collect rents from houses the late husband has built down. Then her grown up children, who lives abroad and also in Lagos. Pays her ticket fee to go spend vacations with them in UK, for like 3months before coming back to Nigeria. She has maids, she has some shops her daughters are handling for her.

All she does, is keep tabs of her rents and small businesses by the side, then sometimes organize birthday parties for herself.

What will u say about this one? Is she not a woman? Is she old? Just 50years. She doesn't work but enjoys life. While their is a 65years old lady cleaning our surroundings three times a week with other compounds on the street. This woman will work her heart out, after cleaning I will see her carrying bottles on her head, she's heading to the market to sell palm oil.

U can see the difference. Every woman with her own kadara, as Yoruba will say it.

So just accept your mum like that.

Ezkid:
Well as an African I believe it's disrespectful and rude to diss or called out my mom for her unhealthy attitudes but I think its high time I make it public so people who has witnessed or experience such can give to me a valuable advice.

My mom was once a successful hair dresser and she was the breadwinner of our family until she became born again, she abruptly stopped plating hair for her customers based on what she tagged "unbiblical" She basically affirmed that she'll never touch attachments and synthetic hair again in her life and ever since then things hasn't been going smoothly again.

My Dad now has got a Rick Ross fatlike woman as a second wife and I think the whole situations has taken its toll on my mom's mental health, she's literally cut herself off from the outside world and everything always mean something extra terrestrial to her.

My Mom would see a gecko on the wall and believe it was sent from hell to drag her to the underground, We always packed from one apartment to the other thanks to her intolerance toward other people. Omg! She'll always find faults with her co tenants, everybody is either a witch or a spy from the underworld.

There's one thing she did that convinced me she's struggling from mental instability, we packed out from one house to a flat like apartment, do u believe my mom went back there and packed the huge rocks we used to make fire? She tagged them as her property which can never be left behind, she'll play with u today only to become unresponsive when u greet her tomorrow, she stopped her work almost 20 years ago and ever since then has become a liability on my dad and a burden on us the children, it disgusts me to feed her with my hard earned money when she's hale and healthy, she's the reason my dad was unable to send me to the university because the burden is too much on him.

What I find ridiculous about her is her mindset, her mind was wired to believe we owed her a living when in reality it's the opposite, when my dad is unable to send money she'll become so tensed and angry, its so annoying how she find it difficult to realize she is the PROBLEM of the family.

Pls I need good advice on what kind of help we the children can seek on her behalf cos its obvious she needs help. Thanks all.

Evince:


U just lied. The summary of her statement is the fuckery of her new faith which has brainwashed her mum into believing that synthetics are sinful to wear on d hair. Those stupid pastors failed to let her realize that clothe is also an attachment.

What she is crying of has nothing to do with whether mother is valuable or not. I kid u not if ur mother is a nuisance, u will wish u never met her.

Mother or no mother, we are all human and hv emotions. besides she didn't curse her mum she is concerned with her recent attitude that's why she is shouting.

My dear open Bible and teach ur mother what those pastors lied to her about.
Engage her in conversation logically.
It will take time to speak sense back into her but with patience and good humor u will win her back from church

oloriT:
dunno why they leave hairdressing when they become born again.

seen a case like this.

being born again doesn't mean you shouldn't or can't do a job as long as the job is legal.

sorry to say but I feel your mum is being too religious coupled with what she is being taught in the church she attends. it's like acting like those Pharisees in the Bible

Ezkid:
I thought u said you're done commenting on my post? who's harbouring hatred among us now?? You carry my problem for head like agege gala, what a useless hoe! Go hug transformer or better still drink methylated spirit and die like a fowl if u re so pained about what I wrote up there. Smello

Thegeneralqueen:
I nor say you go laugh can speak it fluently but sucks at writing onye ara

kense88:
My friend your talking rubbish. Someone stopped working in her early 30 and you think is cool. That's how you promote laziness among your kind. You should be at your peak and very productive at your early 30 whether your a man or woman.
Op my advise to you, is to try and take her to hospital. She is your mum and she needs your support now.

Ajisebioyolaari:
@OP, your mum is suffering paranoia or bi-polar disorder. Now, I am very authoritative about this because while I read about your mum's behaviour, withdrawal symptoms and religious belief/fear about everything irrelevant, I saw my sister again.

When my sister started hers, it was really terrible. Better thank God that your mum is not violent. Imagine returning from work to meet all your clothes burnt because your sister thinks they are satanic. I used to be very angry with my sister, thinking she did all she was doing on purpose.....until I got a better understanding.

Not until we took her to a pyschiatric hospital and ensured she was placed on admission till she got better. Even then, she had to be on drugs for a long time and we ensured she took her drugs religiously. I later started feeling pity for her instead of anger. It's not your mum's fault. Something must have happened to her which she didnt share and she prolly sank into depression which has worsened her mental health. Please take care of your mum and God will reward you for it.

PS: You sound unnecessarily rude, there's no need for that. Opinions must always differ, learn to respect other people's view. Cheers!

funmike83:


Yes you are true, the mum must be suffering in silence which unfortunately the children that are to support her have been brain washed by their dad and the 2nd wife. 80% of women in psychiatric hospital today are there because of what men did to them. How can the Dad marry a second wife in a rented apartment and still sat it is because the mother is not working he is unable to send the kids to school but he has the money to marry a second wife. Please don't forget the fact that they must have dated for long before eventually bringing the woman in . only God knows wat they did to your mum. The op is actually not talking likely matured dude. If care is not taken , you will never get anytging good from your dad courtesy the new wife. Stand up and fight for your mother and please take care of her. I use to think my mum was mean toy Dad when I was young, until later when I got married , she later sat me down to tell all wat she faced. Please I am sure she has a lot to say.