madridguy:
Asia love is real love. Naija love is mostly stomach infrastructure, you see a wife hidden her husband property immediately the news of the husband is brought to her. You begin to imagine someone that supposed to be crying will be calling her friends and family to come quick before the arrival of her late husband's family.

So this boy get sense like this? I thought bmc's are........never mind

pocohantas:


Sadly, what she said is the truth, though I can't confirm the percentage. She didn't say they are not happy, she said they don't love their husbands. I won't even argue if she says lots of Nigerian wives are not happy

Some women marry the most capable man that can be a good father at least (being a good husband is another story, being both doesn't come easy). Men just hook up with the one that's willing to submit and care for the home.

In the long run, the woman finds happiness in her kids.
The man finds it in every other external factor.

every external factor like what ?

speak of yourself abeg

Safiaa:
Lool.

But seriously I’ve noticed that most good looking guys, that’s all they have to them. Well the ones I know anyways, why is that so? You fit into that category, is that all you have?

lol i am not a womanizer. A man don't need to be goodlooking for him to womanize. All he needs is money. Check out most men who womanize in Nigeria and tell me how many are goodlooking. Obasanjo is a womanizer,oshiomole is also a womanizer,tinubu has been alleged to be one. Wich of dem fine ? Dese are even politicians dat we know . Oshiomole dat ladies crush on all d time...is it cos of looks or what?.

What do you make of a woman that calls her “fiancé” stupid, senseless and a fool. Tells him he irritates and disgust her. When they marry, what will become of the marriage?

Its funny comparing the thoughts of both men and women.
A woman said something, and probably dont be surprised most women feel the same.
The men countered it, and believe they can decide to choose how women feel.
Love is beautiful with the right person sha

Miggs:
Even the non-Nigerians that get married for "love",don't many of their relationships eventually hit the rocks?

if many married women in naija are gettin d same benefits dat women in the west get when they divorce their husbands..trust me ..many ladies in Nigeria will be divorcin their husbands one by one.

if 60% of women do not love their husbands, then the fallacy that women will only sleep with guys that they love is pure lies.

lefulefu:
i just hope he ain't one of those young guys wearing those oversize trousers with oversized sandals and wearing those polo shirts tucked into the trousers with the inscription, ' Adieu Mama Iyabo . RIP' . Some ppl will be wearing funeral polo shirts to work. God help us.

Lmao, you are hilarious.

Wait! She said 60% not 100%
So it’s fair enough

izzou:
So she actually had an encounter with all the married women in this world and she came out with the theory that 60% aren't happy in their marriages?

Wonderful

just thesame way buhari say 60% of nigeria youth are lazy. did buhari see all nigeria youths??
them dey sell common sense for oshodi under bridge. go grab ur copy

PrecisionFx:



There are women who will love u unconditionally. It's safe for u to say u haven't met one, Not that they don't exist.

There are women who are in a relationship because of attraction n nothing more. They can stay 3 years wit u even though u don't have anything. Poverty has really structured a lot of women in our society to take finances as the singular reason to stay in or leave a relationship or marriage.

you still don't get it sir. a love based on look is conditional, a love not based on look is based on some form of condition or another even if the person doing the loving can't really put his/her finger on what makes him/her love the other so much and in such a situation once the unknown "condition" leaves the love leaves or another condition replaces that condition. this unconditional love of a thing makes sense only on the surface but deep thoughts show its simply empty words

jFrankNorfleet:


you still don't get it sir. a love based on look is conditional, a love not based on look is based on some form of condition or another even if the person doing the loving can't really put his/her finger on what makes him/her love the other so much and in such a situation once the unknown "condition" leaves the love leaves or another condition replaces that condition. this unconditional love of a thing makes sense only on the surface but deep thoughts show its simply empty words

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I tried to make sense of ur post but i couldn't.

Humans luv each other with no conditions or strings attached. I have experienced it a few times n many other humans on earth have done so as well. It us a fact that has been here for millenias so there's no point of arguing.

We are still in good statistics with a 40% love marriage rate, elsewhere as in India, it's 99% of arranged marriages and 1% of love marriages; but it works well.

Safiaa:
Lool.

But seriously I’ve noticed that most good looking guys, that’s all they have to them. Well the ones I know anyways, why is that so? You fit into that category, is that all you have?

You are shaking a table ! Be careful

PrecisionFx:




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I tried to make sense of ur post but i couldn't.

Humans luv each other with no conditions or strings attached. I have experienced it a few times n many other humans on earth have done so as well. It us a fact that has been here for millenias so there's no point of arguing.

Let me elucidate then

Humans appear to love each other no conditions attached most times because they can't put their finger on the condition that made them love such a person so it appears unconditional and the only way they'll realise its conditional is if that thing they can't put their finger on gets eliminated. have you ever liked/loved something and one day you're on your bed asking yourself why you loved this thing so much but you can't give a coherent answer? "I just love her, everything about her, its unconditional" is just the person not really knowing the condition, sometimes the condition might actually be looks or wealth or something else but the person doesn't "know" and can't say it so it appears "unconditional" and believe me the person saying that might actually mean it! he isn't lying

Delivar:

What is love?

My guy, epp me ask am oh

lefulefu:
i just hope he ain't one of those young guys wearing those oversize trousers with oversized sandals and wearing those polo shirts tucked into the trousers with the inscription, ' Adieu Mama Iyabo . RIP' . Some ppl will be wearing funeral polo shirts to work. God help us.

I swear, I have seen people wearing Funeral clothes to work

Asowari:
There business !but why marry someone u don't love

Ask women..they are ones doing that kinda shit....

Ones they hit 30years old.....the desperation is on a principality level

lefulefu:
She's so right cos if they really love their husbands then why is it many married ladies go back having secret affairs with their ex. If truth be told most ladies would have preferred marrying their ex but for the reason their ex has not gotten the plum job he so desires or hasn't gotten that big flat cos of the lack of buoyancy in his akant made such ladies to dump the ex for the current husband whose well established financially. That's just the stark truth. Its very few ladies who get married to the men they truly love and desire.. And they are the lucky few.

see u av said it all....LOVE ALONE DOESN'T KEEP MARRIAGE... i
f love alone can keep marriage then they would av stay wit there so called ex...real love takes time to grow....60% is rubbish n totally lies...

She's actually right. In the end, a lot of ladies lower their standards and just about settle with anyone who comes their way. Sometimes, it may be that that one whom they really love doesn't want to settle down at that point. Or some chase financial stability.

Safiaa:
marrying for financial stability, security aging is not stupid and more practical than marrying for love. I’m so sorry, love is just an illusion that you’re only supposed to have for your kids/family. Most older people will tell you this, because life teaches you things.

This is one of the most realistic comment here... You're definitely correct on the practicability of marrying for financial stability and security...
The only unfortunate aspect is the fact that nigerian ladies have reached that stage where ending up with a man who can offer you those two, even without true love or attraction is considered as striking gold.
I would've loved to say it's a really wrong perspective to have about marriage, but getting a love-filled marriage with a Nigerian man who can offer you those is essentially like looking for a needle in a haystack.

pocohantas:


Sadly, what she said is the truth, though I can't confirm the percentage. She didn't say they are not happy, she said they don't love their husbands. I won't even argue if she says lots of Nigerian wives are not happy

Some women marry the most capable man that can be a good father at least (being a good husband is another story, being both doesn't come easy). Men just hook up with the one that's willing to submit and care for the home.

In the long run, the woman finds happiness in her kids.
The man finds it in every other external factor.

Amaka is that you? How's abuja?

She is not far from the truth. Checking most marriages, you'll see that the kind of husband a lady married is different from the guy she was dating as a boyfriend. Most ladies settle down for anything once they cannot find their boyfriend-like husband, just to have a place to call home. I concur with her.

amzee:
She's right

very right.

Mariinee:
How the heck did you arrive at this conclusion?

Yes they are by statistics. Most men do it to impress the ladies.

lefulefu:
how so? What's wrong in looking good for ur wife. It sucks when u see a young man with a huge pot looking stomach and dragging it on the floor all in d name of potbelly. A young man for dat matter oo. some will wear torn or oversized clothes with uncombed hair and if wifey talk dey will tell her to shut up.biko look good for ur wife so she will be proud to flaunt u as her husband.what's the good of ur wife looking fwesh and sweet and u looking like a native doctor beside her. Ain't cool mehn. When a man takes care of himself that doesn't mean he's a womaniser.... Though its kinder gayish if a man is too obsessed with his mirrors sha.

Looking neat and cool isn't a bad thing, but paying too much attention to impress others, nahhh.

Asowari:
There business !but why marry someone u don't love

Convenience bro.. Especially the financial aspect that's why an independent working lady is always a better option.... At least i know she's not in the union for what she can get materially as she can get it herself if she wants to easily & u both need to be best of friends ....Speaking for myself tho

eyinjuege:
Its funny comparing the thoughts of both men and women.
A woman said something, and probably dont be surprised most women feel the same.
The men countered it, and believe they can decide to choose how women feel.
Love is beautiful with the right person sha

indeed ,that's an understatement .Over 98% of them don't .And we know .

donstan18:
Fact is; Unconditional LOVE doesn't exist in African marriages, so i'll say most partners don't love themselves.

Marriage in Africa is an everlasting supposed romantic transaction between two partners, not an institution of LOVE.

The love a woman needs from a man is his fatherly concerns and financial care to the family.
If she isn’t get those things from her man, she won't be happy.

While the man needs loyalty, respect and home builder from a woman.
If he isn't getting those things from her woman, he won't be happy.

And those wants are not suppose to be called LOVE, but give-to-get transactions and commitment.

LOVE is a deceptive scam in a relationship/marriage.

Just have to quote u.

you are the worst of them all...tufiakwa!