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Re: Young Men Should Drop This Attitude. by PrimadonnaO(f): 9:23am On May 23, 2018 |
zicoraads: . Yes, those are some of the primary, but not exclusive duties of a wife, Mr Zicoraads. The husband can do these things, too, but as a supportive role. I don't know any home where the wife cooks for one week, and the husband the whole of the other week...and that because it's not his primary duty. In the same vein, a man shouldn't expect his woman to split bills with him 50-50 all the time. Even the so-called feminists won't agree to this. They'd always expect the man to do more. I can't tell anyone what they should want...what principles to adopt or how to live their lives. But I think the narrative is getting mixed up and it's causing a whole lot of confusion. In my opinion, men should be more concerned about finding a woman who won't be a financial burden...a woman who can sustain herself and still support him. ***Allow me give you a scenario of what I think makes sense. I have a cousin who's married... They've got three kids. She pays the fees of the ast kid while the husband pays for the oldest ones. He pays the rent, he provides money for feeding. But of course, she augments the feeding money when she wants to do more than the money can carry. She fuels her car, when they need to celebrate the children's birthdays, she contributes to it, too. When cooking has runs out, she doesn't have to wait for her husband before she refills. They have a joint account, even for the kids. He's doing more quite alright, but she's significantly contributing, too. They are happy and don't quite alright, becasue they found what works for them and everyone is respecting their place. It's different strikes for different folks, though. In another home I know of, the wife only pays the fees for the kids when it's being delayed. But the husband must refund her the money later. They are fine like that. At least she takes pressure off him and the kids are saved from any embarrassment. There are yet many homes still where the wife does the bulk. I grew up in such a home. If it is a temporary arrangement, it's fine. That's why a financially independent woman is needed. She'll step in and hold the home. 1 Like |
Re: Young Men Should Drop This Attitude. by jay4rhyme: 9:27am On May 23, 2018 |
ok |
Re: Young Men Should Drop This Attitude. by Revolva(m): 9:30am On May 23, 2018 |
Re: Young Men Should Drop This Attitude. by Nobody: 9:33am On May 23, 2018 |
nahzyla: The greed in this post just stinks. Look no man is buying you roses or jewelry (or a 40k phone) just so your penniless parasitic asș can 'fall in love'. This. Even these little skinny girls with absolutely nothing to offer another human being, they want to be wooed with phones, weave and jewelry. Madness. 1 Like |
Re: Young Men Should Drop This Attitude. by Aladeintl: 9:36am On May 23, 2018 |
My Question 1. I think OP is a Christian, Please any bible verse that say all the responsibilities of your gf become yours? 2. Before you go after her, is somebody not shouldering her responsibilities before? 3. Doesn't she has a family that should take care of her? Is she orphan? 4. Ain't she a human being also that she should be waiting for one man to be her provider? Please answer those question 'cos I knew relationship is not a business transcation. LIKE for ladies who buy their stuff themselves SHARE for those waiting for one man to start living. 2 Likes |
Re: Young Men Should Drop This Attitude. by MarieSucre(f): 9:57am On May 23, 2018 |
Olifiz: It's our culture for a guy has to prove he can take care of a woman. |
Re: Young Men Should Drop This Attitude. by donqx: 9:59am On May 23, 2018 |
hmmm |
Re: Young Men Should Drop This Attitude. by Nobody: 10:01am On May 23, 2018 |
ubunja:This is truth. |
Re: Young Men Should Drop This Attitude. by Nobody: 10:03am On May 23, 2018 |
MarieSucre:It was also culture that twins be left to die in the evil forests. Parasites, recieve sense. |
Re: Young Men Should Drop This Attitude. by MarieSucre(f): 10:06am On May 23, 2018 |
ModelX: If they are still killing twins in your community, then you need to come out of the stone age. |
Re: Young Men Should Drop This Attitude. by MarieSucre(f): 10:07am On May 23, 2018 |
Hanseel1: Lol, that is simply not true. |
Re: Young Men Should Drop This Attitude. by MarieSucre(f): 10:08am On May 23, 2018 |
Ghnaija:"you're getting to know her" but you're already sleeping with her and asking her come over and cook for you and your boys. What kind of deceptive thing is that? |
Re: Young Men Should Drop This Attitude. by MarieSucre(f): 10:10am On May 23, 2018 |
ubunja: He is an idiot because he gave his gf a car? What is with you broke men and hating on other men. This is why you need to read the post you're on and before commenting at all. If you're a man when who can only afford keke rides don't walk up to or toast a girl who has indicated she'd rather ride in a jeep. The thing is you saw the signs but decided to come up here and be crying about gold-diggers thinking you'll get sympathy. Date your level, the end. 4 Likes |
Re: Young Men Should Drop This Attitude. by MarieSucre(f): 10:12am On May 23, 2018 |
ModelX: In our African culture(not that I agree with it) you're supposed to take the majority of the financial burden of the relationship. |
Re: Young Men Should Drop This Attitude. by MarieSucre(f): 10:13am On May 23, 2018 |
Xisnin: Sex doll is not statement. There a videos of guys who are introverts with social anxiety disorders that have gotten sex dolls as their girlfriend because they cannot walk up to and toast a living, breathing female. There is no statement here, you they believe it is their gf, they wash it, clothe it and change its wig regularly. |
Re: Young Men Should Drop This Attitude. by Nobody: 10:16am On May 23, 2018 |
MarieSucre: And would you not similarly need to come out of the stone age if men as providers is still your reality? Quit posting or quoting if the logic eludes you. 1 Like |
Re: Young Men Should Drop This Attitude. by MarieSucre(f): 10:16am On May 23, 2018 |
zicoraads: Is she with you because of how good you look? This is a very silly comment no offence. If we count how many threads on nairaland are about how gf/wife has lost shape and they're no longer attracted to her versus that of bf/husband, we know who it really matters to. Is that your first criteria for approaching a girl? Keep living in denial. We know your type, you will all mellow in your 40's. |
Re: Young Men Should Drop This Attitude. by MarieSucre(f): 10:17am On May 23, 2018 |
ModelX: So you're saying Men should not be the providers? You want women to be? |
Re: Young Men Should Drop This Attitude. by ubunja(m): 10:18am On May 23, 2018 |
MarieSucre:and debate you level, the end. 1 Like |
Re: Young Men Should Drop This Attitude. by MarieSucre(f): 10:18am On May 23, 2018 |
Xisnin: Of course we know. Men are confused. I have seen it over and over. |
Re: Young Men Should Drop This Attitude. by MarieSucre(f): 10:20am On May 23, 2018 |
aimmoney9: Do you there are many steps before opening if leg se? Like for instance "toasting". If you do not toast her, she will not agree for you till the opening of leg part. If you do not give interest of relationship, she will take and open her leg. If you don't have sex, you will not die. But I guess it's easier for you to deceive yourself, but not for long. We know your kind. Una eye go clear. |
Re: Young Men Should Drop This Attitude. by MarieSucre(f): 10:21am On May 23, 2018 |
ubunja:I'm not the one looking for girls to force into my life budget. Goodluck being single. |
Re: Young Men Should Drop This Attitude. by MarieSucre(f): 10:22am On May 23, 2018 |
ModelX: Men buy women roses and jewelry, phone LA worth it to worth 600k lol. Stop spewing trash. Say I ModelIX is broke and cannot. Don't dragging everyman into your poverty. |
Re: Young Men Should Drop This Attitude. by Nobody: 10:22am On May 23, 2018 |
MarieSucre:If you still don't get it, I'm afraid you never will. Begone. |
Re: Young Men Should Drop This Attitude. by MarieSucre(f): 10:24am On May 23, 2018 |
ModelX:Then explain. Should the bill be split half-half? |
Re: Young Men Should Drop This Attitude. by MarieSucre(f): 10:26am On May 23, 2018 |
Aladeintl: What are your expectations from a relationship. Are you asking wifey duties from her but want to treat your finances towards her as that of a bf, then bros kolewerk. 1 Like |
Re: Young Men Should Drop This Attitude. by folake4u(f): 10:58am On May 23, 2018 |
JERRY1925: Bless you sire! Spoken like a true gentleman. |
Re: Young Men Should Drop This Attitude. by boyjo: 11:08am On May 23, 2018 |
Boland Don`t grow weary. Make sure you go back to HIM for refreshment.
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Re: Young Men Should Drop This Attitude. by Xisnin(m): 11:13am On May 23, 2018 |
MarieSucre:Will the same guys reject a female's advance? How can someone claim to be an introvert and still spill the the detail of their personal lives online? "Oh, I am introverted but see me with my sex dolls", how does that sound? You know only what they want you to believe. I haven't seen many newly wedded couple releasing their honeymoon intimate videos because they have nothing to prove. But the supposedly introverted sexdollians are all over the internet seeking for attention. If that is not a statement, what would you call it? |
Re: Young Men Should Drop This Attitude. by Aladeintl: 11:13am On May 23, 2018 |
MarieSucre:My submission is that as long as she is still my gf I am not under any obligation to be her provider (and i'm not expecting wifely duties from her) even if when we marry no law I must be responsible for her 24/7. She also must take responsibility for her life. |
Re: Young Men Should Drop This Attitude. by Rosay15(f): 11:15am On May 23, 2018 |
ideology:sorry am nt judging u am just saying my own point of view.. If I misterpret u am sorry for dat... You ve already said it all dat we don't belong to the same school of thought.. |
Re: Young Men Should Drop This Attitude. by MarieSucre(f): 11:16am On May 23, 2018 |
Aladeintl: Then you're not ready to get married. Goodluck being single till you're 80. |
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