iice:

No.

pepperoni:

@iice He says he wants to come back because i seem to be better than the other Girl and that he thot wrong. Actually he isn't based in nigeria anymur, he went to US and met sum girl, he initially used his pix wiv her as his profile picture but he has since taken it off and gone back to putting a solo picture. Basically he's pleading wiv my family members to forgive him.

omega25red:

pepperoni

i took a look at your profile pic and yes you are cute but trust me there are lots of very cute girls here in the states. If he met a chic already and dumped you he will surly meet another and another and another. Some girls here only need applebees to lay on their backs lol.
He seems dumb as zhit too because other guys cheating on their chics in Nigeria do it on the low they dont put their new girls pic on FB (i guess i give him props for his honesty)

Spyker:

Yes and No, it all depends on how and why you broke up.

pepperoni:

@deniyor. So i should not accept him back right?

dare2think:

"Never leave someone who will never leave you"

Some quote I encountered a while ago. But in your case, he left you and got involved with another person. Long distance can affect people's mind sometimes and their priorities shift, but if he is coming back to 9ger to stay, test out his commitments. Pls be sure he is coming to stay ,else he just wants  someone he can service easily before going back.( Most guys in diaspora do that when visiting 9ger)

The disadvantage is the fact that he has left you once, thereby de-valuing your union. This means he has a very high probability of doing it again compared to someone 'new' because if you get back with him and the going gets tough (which is inevitable in all relationships), what would he do?

Some men learn from their mistakes and adjust. Only you know this person and only you can truthfully ascertain if he has the capabilty of repeating a mistake.

The ball is in your court.

M M M:

Nope.

deniyor:

It's your call. When it comes to love and feelings, people usually do the irrational and stuupid thing. I said it wouldn't be ideal to take him back. From my own experience, people hardly change really. I took a lady back once, but she left again eventually shattering my heart to pieces then. The thing is we always want to believe the best in the people we love. My advice is don't take him back but it's your call.

tblacker:

OP
don't be carried away with whatever wealth he might have amassed when he comes back and obviously some new swags.Having said that,i would ask that you don't write him off totally,someone you see everyday can leave you for another person let alone a dude that lives across the sea.

Test his motives and see how genuine they are.Let him know that the legs are close for now and the keys to them is wedding(if you see yourself spending the rest of your life with him).

I guess he was just carried away with the new environment plus you girls do play your insecurities out like there is no tomorrow when your man is away from you. You are definitely part of the problem if you can be sincere with yourself and look inward.

As for whether he would do it again,I doubt if he would stand that chance if you truthfully close them legs.But trust me,don't push him away.I feel you still have a thing for him that you have to come online and seek for some encouragement.Unless-of-course you have someone better now and you guys are seriously considering settling down together. My little piece.

TheCongo:

@OP, how old are you if you don't mind me asking? And how old is your ex?

pepperoni:

@congo. Is dat a criteria u'ld use to respond? Well ime in my early twenties, less than 25, a graduate and working already, he is in his late twenties, less than 30 tho' ?! So --------??

pepperoni:


@spyker Why YES? and Why NO? in your opinion, we broke up because he travelled out and was beginning to act funny, we wer always having series of quarrels after sumtym he called and said it was over dat he had gotten sum1 else. shikena

Mynd_44:

Everyone who replied her disappointed me. The only reason the OP plans to go back to him is because he said he wants her to join him where he is

F/marshal360:

What i understand is that you dont meet his/her standard, he/she is just pretending to have luv you and will do anything when he/she sees who meets his/her standard at any time,whybcos he/she dont need going any where else if you do.so if you still want to be interim pending the time he/she will see better person you can go back.

Spyker:

Yes if the reason for the breakup can be overcome by present situation. He traveled out and was acting funny, did he promise you marriage? If No, why then are you acting like you guys are engaged. If I were him, the only way I could get a girl off my back is to tell her I was involved with another (which might be the case) but does it stop him from loving you? I don't think so.

No, if he cheated on you before the break up, I always say that once a cheater, always a cheater. If he is serious about you, accept him back with certain conditions like "no s.ex., make preparations for you to join in or even do a small family introduction where native law and custom marriage rites would be done. If he is for real, he will certainly agree which I doubt he would.