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Re: Is My Decision Right Or Wrong by Belafonte(m): 1:54pm On Mar 11, 2020 |
SmileDance: It is easy for her not to feel jealous if she trusts her husband’s judgement and respects his decisions. There is no reason for her feel her own child has been treated shabbily, both children have no basis for comparison. |
Re: Is My Decision Right Or Wrong by Belafonte(m): 1:57pm On Mar 11, 2020 |
fuzzywuzzy: You’re not even the wife and you’re ready to burst an artery. How is the OP treated his first daughter better than the 2 year old? If this topic furthers your opinion on the selfishness of men, God help whoever marries you. 5 Likes |
Re: Is My Decision Right Or Wrong by Nobody: 2:31pm On Mar 11, 2020 |
hasyak: This would be my post if I could detail things as well as you! 1 Like |
Re: Is My Decision Right Or Wrong by TheArchangel(f): 7:43pm On Mar 11, 2020 |
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Re: Is My Decision Right Or Wrong by ImaIma1(f): 9:46pm On Mar 11, 2020 |
RisenPhoenix: Your summation would have been valid if the OP had discussed with his wife first. Then we would have known if it would have taken weeks, months to reach a consensus. But he didn't. Besides, it's about putting her in the know 4 Likes |
Re: Is My Decision Right Or Wrong by ImaIma1(f): 12:00am On Mar 12, 2020 |
Belafonte: But she has a point. If a woman had come here with a story about how she upgraded her daughter that she had before in one way or the other, leaving the kids from her present husband out, would the guy take it? Even if it is for supposed good intentions. And won't the guys on this forum be blaming and back lashing her for not letting her husband know? It's common in this forum. 7 Likes |
Re: Is My Decision Right Or Wrong by DontBullshitMe: 2:35am On Mar 12, 2020 |
RisenPhoenix:Do you trade stocks? Lool |
Re: Is My Decision Right Or Wrong by Belafonte(m): 8:38am On Mar 12, 2020 |
ImaIma1: This is not true. Men have been lambasted when they have clearly erred or been unreasonable. The man with the wife found with mycoten cream readily comes to mind. There is no reason a 2 year old should even be in school talk less of increasing his tuition fees by a whopping 50k because of mere jealousy. If he really needs that change of institution, the wife should have made that request before his step sister’s school was changed. Moreover, the OP has assured her her son’s school will be changed when he graduates. What more does she want? So, when he starts buying her sanitary pad, he must buy for her son? Is that not madness? He doesn’t need it and she’s doing this for purely selfish reasons. This is how parents cause strife between siblings. 6 Likes |
Re: Is My Decision Right Or Wrong by frozen70(f): 4:43pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
Mrperfecto: In as much as your son is still in KG he can be closer home because your daughter who is nine years will soon enter secondary school and your son will be left alone there Where I will blame you is if you don't buy for three of them anytime you are buying for all Tell your wife to take it easy over the matter of your first daughter because you can as well still keep in touch with her mother and she won't do anything She should be concerned about uniting the children and stop looking for faults 1 Like |
Re: Is My Decision Right Or Wrong by frozen70(f): 4:44pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
EliteDude: That alone won't even stop him from marrying her if she is not comfortable with his daughter If she Can't cope she can as well leave and her mother will come in |
Re: Is My Decision Right Or Wrong by EliteDude(m): 4:48pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
frozen70: Why do petty and non essential issues hamper marriages? |
Re: Is My Decision Right Or Wrong by frozen70(f): 4:50pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
EliteDude: That's why us called marriage, where women feels that they should be given fair hearing and consideration |
Re: Is My Decision Right Or Wrong by EliteDude(m): 4:53pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
frozen70: I dont understand, can you rephrase that? |
Re: Is My Decision Right Or Wrong by frozen70(f): 4:58pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
EliteDude: Don't worry, whw you get married you will experience better and get the logic well |
Re: Is My Decision Right Or Wrong by EliteDude(m): 5:10pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
frozen70: Wow! Ok then, you seem to speak from experience ! |
Re: Is My Decision Right Or Wrong by Microwhy: 7:37pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
Don't change any school bro.. Tell her to try doing nasty thing to your boy (her son) and see if you love your children so much or not. Let her learn to love your girl unconditionall if she want peace to reign in the house.. please don't give in on this matter. Don't make her let you choose between your daughter and her wishes. They are all your blood, it's she that is not your blood and she can walk away anytime. So warn her never to let such thing ever come up again. You're their father and you love them more than anything in the world. Please.man-up bro. God forbid! If anything should happen to you, she might decided to go and leave you with the children she claim she's fighting for now. |
Re: Is My Decision Right Or Wrong by Water9430(m): 6:35am On Mar 15, 2020 |
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Re: Is My Decision Right Or Wrong by Omar09(m): 6:46am On Mar 15, 2020 |
Mrperfecto: This is very good. Don't mind others saying otherwise, because the moment you give in to her tantrums, that is the beginning of more tantrums. Don't worry she will quiet down once she sees that your stance is firm! And she will rarely bring up tantrum to get what she wants. She will device other means. Still you have to stand strong. |
Re: Is My Decision Right Or Wrong by MZrapper(f): 6:55am On Mar 15, 2020 |
freecocoahubby:And you just had to insult another man's wife?? What sort of animals do we have on this forum sef? Would you die if you didn't label her wife foully? Grow up sissy. |
Re: Is My Decision Right Or Wrong by MZrapper(f): 6:56am On Mar 15, 2020 |
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Re: Is My Decision Right Or Wrong by Amya(f): 7:33am On Mar 15, 2020 |
Belafonte: Like I seriously can't believe what some women are writing on here. How in the world can a woman feel jealous that a 9 year old (almost in secondary school) and her two year old kindergartener isn't in the same school. And I see many women siding with her. Isn't he just 2 years old? or am I mistaken? And the guy even promised to change his school when he gets to primary 1 and this woman is still acting out. Wow. Did she feel the need to change his school before then or she's putting her 2 year old in competition with a 9 year old? And people keep justifying the nonsense? That woman isn't a nice woman if something like this is distressing her. If both kids were in the same age range, I'd have accused the man of favouritism, but they aren't even close in age. See what's disturbing this woman. We we women we have wahala sha... 2 Likes |
Re: Is My Decision Right Or Wrong by Belafonte(m): 8:50am On Mar 15, 2020 |
Amya: It’s just amazing to see people suspend logic to score points for their gender. If they really wanted this woman to be happy in her home, they would give her advice that sees her act fair and reasonably. But in the interest of peace, I advise the husband to enroll the 2 year old in Harvard, there’s no way his wife won’t be convinced of his love for her then. 1 Like |
Re: Is My Decision Right Or Wrong by Keemsleek005(m): 1:26pm On Mar 15, 2020 |
Ibeze: God bless you |
Re: Is My Decision Right Or Wrong by Resurgent2016: 1:43pm On Mar 15, 2020 |
Mrperfecto: For the sake of the welfare your daughter, do what your wife says. Jealousy/envy can bring out the worst in women character |
Re: Is My Decision Right Or Wrong by Misscongenialit: 8:00pm On Mar 15, 2020 |
Mrperfecto: My friend, you need wisdom having to live with a woman and a child thatd not hers, dnt get me wrong its not difficult but its not that east, the best way to look at this is put urself in her shoes. Where i fault you is taking the decision to change school wothout carrying her along, afterall its this same wife that has been catering for her? Or have u been the one cooking, feeding, and doing home chores for her, No? Then suddenly u take a decision without informing her who has been takinģ care . It simply means shes just a caretaker, whereas she has put herself in a motherly position. You did wrong there and if u allow this to linger it will be disastrous for all of u. . What you can do , u need to keep aside ur ego now its not needed! Find a good time , lovingly call your wife and sit her down. Let her know u have no intentions to hurt her feeling and u re sorry if ur actions hurt her. Ask her to forgive u and going forward you will carry her along. So long as she remains under ur roof she is her child and she should be carried along justblike for other kids. Pls not that carrying her along does not reduce ur position as a man but it shows that u value what she does even for a child that's not her Pls go amf make peace with your wife, u need it to live long |
Re: Is My Decision Right Or Wrong by Anguldi(m): 12:44pm On Feb 24 |
dominique:Thanks for this, Same op topic at FP |
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