eni4real:
Your psychology is flawed!!
I am not the OP

I would have believed you but one thing; you're emotional!!!

Fearlez:
I would have believed you but one thing; you're emotional!!!

But you are emotionless??
Is that the new thing that the psychology textbook teach you now??

Be Original!!

Don't allow white people to scam you with their mumbo jumbo

obentenyson:
your head dey there jare. All this privacy invasion nonsense that some people are shouting is thrash... The girl using her boss phone to do something private is wrong in the first place. If some took your phone without your knowledge n log in to fb. Then u pickup the phone n use it to log in to fb n u noticed that there is something different it is normal for one to want to look in to the inbox of the person who used your phone. For all we know the person maybe planning something against you. If it was her phone that the boas took n then check her fb then he has gone past his boundaries

I think they may not have read through the whole length of the post.

Dobson43:





There is something really you should understand.
You don't invade people privacy without invitation. If you want to be helpful. Get the contact of the lady and go help. Even better set up a foundation for such endeavor.

that's true

BlueAir:
Leave the wayward girl be. It's herself she's doing not you or your business.keep using her for sales.you can sack her when she's turning ur shop to brothel or hookup centre

and when she commits abortion and die in your house.... Congratulations

eni4real:
But you are emotionless??
Is that the new thing that the psychology textbook teach you now??

Be Original!!

Don't allow white people to scam you with their mumbo jumbo

I get your point OP. Sorry for heartbreak. Don't pry into someone's inbox again. You'll only see your worst nightmare waiting.

maasoap:







What is this world turning to? Almost all of you are saying the op have feeling for the girl and that it's none of his business! Very soon, this girl will have another abortion and claims that she is sick and you guys don't seem to see connection how it affects him or his business! Terrible!
What if this girl has this abortion and doesn't survive it or get her womb damaged just because the op followed your advices by leaving this girl alone instead of telling her what he saw and give her fatherly advice?
None of you even suggested that he should inform her parents about what he saw! This girl is 21, barely an adult. And you want her to be destroyed just like that! In your terrible minds, you are doing her favour, you love her. Shame on all of you

OritaIbadan: please, don't listen to all these trash they're yapping above. Most of them, men and women are perverts with dirty minds, that's why they are insinuating rubbish. Talk to the girl. If you employed her through her parents or guardian, talk to them about what you saw. She is still young, you might be saving a life. Do your part and leave the rest.

I don't even know where to start from to address you. But take note that reading someone's messages is a violation of privacy and it can be sued for though maybe not here. I'm an employer of labor and a management consultant so this is not a jambite or Malian talking pls. I don't know why Nigerians adoot this big brother attitude even where they are not invited. Does the OP know how many times his own daughter has aborted? His younger sister? And even you that's typing do you know the REAL MOTIVATIONS of the OP? And you again do you know how many abortions you might pay for in the future? Yes tell me those church yen yen yen, you haven't seen anything yet. We have caught pastors aborting who never imagined they'd share street with someone who does. Learning to mind your business never goes wrong.

She is 21 years! That means she has full adult rights for the past 3yrs now.
DON'T BE FOOLED! SHE IS NOT A MINOR! YOU ARE NOT HER FATHER FIGURE!

You have no right to sack her because this has no relationship with your business!

Solutions: u must find a private time to tell her you noticed or heard some things about her. Don't Tell her how. and she shouldn't deny cos u r not judging her. But u r concerned for her safety!

Buy her a strong vibrator because trust me no amount of talking to will quench her sex lust now!

Fearlez:
I get your point OP. Sorry for heartbreak. Don't pry into someone's inbox again. You'll only see your worst nightmare waiting.

OP

OritaIbadan:

Alright just thinking as a father is it the best

Don't mind these hypocrites telling you mind ya business. Anybody could have snooped into messages on that phone.

In fact, many life's discoveries were accidental and many trial and errors. So, it may be God opening your eyes to her misdeeds to correct her.

And you said the phone was your phone? So she could use the company's phone and be careless to log out and not think anyone could find out her dark lifestyle?

Oga, it's your phone and if she's fearless enough to use it for such communication, you're free to see her messages through her carelessness.

Moreover, her deceitful life was exposed, and you self have learnt more lessons about life. A seemingly godly person may not be godly in real life.

It's not a time to judge her, it's a time to advise her and speak to her as a younger sister showing her the consequences of her bad ways. In that, guilt will be removed from your conscience if anything bad happens to her later.

Michelle55:
The earlier we learn to mind our business, the better it would be for us all..
Op, simply turn a blind eye like nothing happened, you don't have any right to snoop around her like that.. You are only her boss not her parents

I don't know why many of you are like this. So OP doesn't have the right to snoop around her, but she has right to use the company's phone to communicate to different lovers? Eh?

Abi OP doesn't have the right to know what is done on his own company's phone again even if it will lead to his ruin?

If she's bold enough to use the company's phone, a matured married man should be bold too to know what goes on in his domain.

This is the most stupid and senseless post i have seen here on NL... Wetin concern u with her personal life?? Mtcheeew... Oga go and climb high tension jor... Rubbish

OritaIbadan:
I
employed this 21years old lady last year as a sales rep. At resumption to work she appeard so decent and godly always With her Bible and Sunday school manual. I was really impressed by her spiritual and respectful nature. This made me treat her different from others. I buy her things and sometimes gives her money and always discuss her good life style with my wife. But what amazed me was that my wife was so indifferent about her each time I discuss her my wife will quickly change the topic. I thought, well woman with their naughty behavior towards other women.

Fast forward to June first this year her phone was stolen and I have a phone in office that I allow them access to incase their phone is off I can easily reach them through it. This faithful day, I tried to access my Facebook account using the office phone and found out that this same lady had used it but forget to logout. Well, I knew it was wrong to check her inbox but all the same I did.

After checking her inbox I couldn't sleep all night. I found out that she is having unprotected sex with 5 guys each guy per Sunday and she just did an abortion March this year the very day she told me that she was sick and can't make it to work and she wasn't sure who among the guys that impregnated her. I also found out that she had missed her period again and trying to hang it on one of the boys. The amazing thing is that non of these guys suspects her, they all believe she is a faithful girl friend.

I have thought of relieving her of her job, but my wife is asking me what should I give as reasons. But the truth is that I had never winessed such a wayward life before. If I pretend as though I know nothing she will eventually commit another abortion and continue with such life which is very dangerous at her age. What if she is my own daughter?

Please I want the mode to push this to the front page. I want to seek others opnion about it

Her die her die.na me give am Belle and abort?

jidxin:
and when she commits abortion and die in your house.... Congratulations

Been avoiding this topic since , just thought to see it now, just another aproko, yur wife sef fit get secrets why u no know , maybe God dey use this one tell u something .....hehe heh just saying

Ningen:
We all have a responsibility towards building a sane society. As her employer, don't turn a blind eye to her promiscuous lifestyle. She's just 21.

As such, sacking her wouldn't solve anything.
What she badly need right now is sex education.

Your wife can take that responsibility.

It's a step forward if she learns from a woman about the dangers of promiscuity & unprotected sex. Please do that for the sake of humanity.

its comments like this that makes me feel there are still some mature people on nairaland. thank you sir.

we have a responsibility to create a sane society. our people say that its not only the responsibility of a parent to train a child.
if we all knew this, the world will become better.
@OP, just orchestra a subtle approach to this issue, dont reprimand, rather advice, dont sack her rather help her.

i know how i feel when i see rot, and i know how i feel when someone turns a blind eye to my rot, only to gossip behind me.

Ariza:
You may counsel her if you so much care but the truth is you invaded her privacy by checking her inbox.Thats very unprofessional!


BTW are you sure you have no feelings for this girl? This one you can't sleep over her mata?

nl never disappoints

alway learn to mind your business

mindtricks:


I think it is a phone he bought and provided for the business.
She should not have logged into her facebook account with the phone.
Besides, anything you do/put on any social media platform is as good as being made public already.
Do not forget employers have a way to do background checks and can find out some of these things via other means.

yes other means not checking her Facebook, that’s very creepy . This is not okay. If it were to be a civilized country , she would sue he’s ass, it’s a company phone , he didn’t just glance , he went in deep and started clicking , that’s total bull

sharpwriter:


I don't know why many of you are like this. So OP doesn't have the right to snoop around her, but she has right to use the company's phone to communicate to different lovers? Eh?

Abi OP doesn't have the right to know what is done on his own company's phone again even if it will lead to his ruin?

If she's bold enough to use the company's phone, a matured married man should be bold too to know what goes on in his domain.

she wasn’t chatting with all her boyfriend with the phone , she just logged in , the irresponsible married cargo went digging

kalmebad:


Show me ur comment and I will the kind of person u are..some people without brain. Hope u wish that for ur unborn children, sisters and so
Certainly her life can't b my business....we r only interested she gets counsel, at d end of d day...d choice is hers.

Sillywag...I won't bother to reply to low life people like u here again.

busy body face ur own children . Interested my ass,, like u are ready to cater for her child. Face ur own kids, and stop poking into people’s business

Liliantalks:
she wasn’t chatting with all her boyfriend with the phone , she just logged in , the irresponsible married cargo went digging

Seems you are said abortionist?

Liliantalks:
busy body face ur own children . Interested my ass,, like u are ready to cater for her child. Face ur own kids, and stop poking into people’s business

No wonder no man agreed to date you.

Justbehave:
No wonder no man agreed to date you.

poking into people’s life is the reason u are broke , and frustrated to the extent u hv two account constituting nuisances everywhere . One female and one male . Psycho.

SpacehubTech:


Unapologetic lesbian sleeping with different men and attempted to have casual sex with you?

Please who is a lesbian again?

I am confused as you are. Maybe he doesn't know what*Lesbian* means or he just loved how the word sounds to his ears

be real careful if you want to shell her.

she was made for the streets and you thread on the streets with Caution.

with C

I say pass your data To her thread In C#

Grandmeister:

Enough of these mentions...there is no reasoning with your likes.

who’s reasoning with a fibre brain ? That’s sucide , I told you facts. Learn to mind ur business

Liliantalks:
poking into people’s life is the reason u are broke , and frustrated to the extent u hv two account constituting nuisances everywhere . One female and one male . Psycho.

Repent and stop receiving young girls.

Justbehave:
Repent and stop receiving young girls.

blah blah blah

Liliantalks:
blah blah blah

Give your life to christ

Liliantalks:
who’s reasoning with a fibre brain ? That’s sucide , I told you facts. Learn to mind ur business

I guess you meant that as an insult. Well the brain is made up of projection, association and commisural fibres..unless yours doesn't (which will explain your reasoning)..and it's suicide not sucide.

Grandmeister:

I guess you meant that as an insult. Well the brain is made up of projection, association and commisural fibres..unless yours doesn't (which will explain your reasoning)..and it's suicide not sucide.

urs is made of fibre . Since u don’t understand the connotative meaning , I guess I am 100% correct . Learn to mind ur business mr man .

There are lots of factors to take into consideration here.
Abortion
Risk of life
God has really save the boss for exposing the life style of his sales girl. We have so many things happening in this life and if it does, nobody will believe the boss
Just adviced her and let her go.

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