If i were the man, what just transpired is all the proof i need to know the true heart of my wife towards me. she didn't just take the gun, she PULLED the trigger to take my life. If she could do that then she NEVER loved me and maybe has secretly wished me dead.
A divorce is inevitable simple and short. I can NEVER trust her and one person will be packing out that night. No trust equals NO LOVE..
There is nothing like bringing peace either... what is there was a rogue bullet in the barrell of that gun?

Keenysbojan:
Robbers enter a house, asks for
all the money and valuables. After
they collect what they can, they
give the man of the house a gun
with instructions to shoot his
wife or else he will be made to
shot himself.

The man gets the
gun, points it at his wife and
hesitates. He is thinking of what
he has gone through in life with
his wife and how she has
suffered and sacrificed for him.

He hands back the gun and says,
“I am sorry I can’t do this. The
boss of the robbers grabs the
gun from him and passes it on to
the wife with the same
instruction.

The wife gets the
gun and without any single
hesitation points to her
husband’s head and pulls the
trigger. But at last, the gun had
no bullets in it.

The robbers get
back their gun and walk out of
the house laughing.

QUESTIONS FOR DISCUSSION
1. If you were the man in that
house how would you react
towards your
wife?
2. If you were the wife, what
explanation can you give to your
husband!
3. If you were invited to bring
peace between this couples,
what advice
would you give?
Drop your Comments & this
should really be an interesting
topic to discuss as counsellors.

I was just told that banks in Nigeria are not selling TPAs to travellers with one way tickets. Is this true please?

She's from Sierra Leone not Nigeria. She posted this on her FB yesterday
"I am very proud of myself to know that i finally opened up because I have been silent for too long. I didn't speak out for peace making or sympathy sake but rather to reassure women who are still going through torture and inhuman treatment to stand for their rights. I was lucky to have survived it but the question is will others be lucky as I was? It is true this is my personal life but i want to use my story to stop domestic violence in Sierra Leone and it neighbouring countries if I have to. I am not ashame of those pictures and i will never be because my silence will endanger other women's life including my daughters instead of saving their life's. Do u know how many women out there whose life could change because i told my story from it natural face and careless about what people with shallow mind will say about me. My story will go down to history shelves and be told to My children's children because i have the heart to say no to Domestic violence. I have chosen to be on this part of life because i am a survivor.....so help me God.
# And for the records I will appreciate if people could separate my corporate life from my personal life #@ don't confuse the two."

Her husband has gone off the radar and i wonder why? If she was at fault or if he was defending himself from her attacks like MANY of you here have been so quick to suggest, WHY HAS HE NOT COME FORWARD? WHY IS HE PUNKING OUT?

If you care to follow this story, look her up on FB.. she updates daily. Florence Sabo Campbell... AND YES! SHE WAS PREGNANT WITH THEIR 3RD WHEN HE DECIDED TO TURN HER INTO A MEXICAN PINATA.

Awkuzu
Laughter is called "ochi" or "amu'a'mu"

emmanuel596:
Another lie hitting fp

it's not a lie. The referee was an off duty police officer and he referees in his off duty times. According to the report, some players including the one he pulled the gun on, were slapping him around and punching him cos they felt he blew a biased whistle or something like that.

He ran off the field to his car and grabbed his service revolver and came back to the field to point and kill

People take this sport too damn serious joor! why slap the official around cos you felt he was wrong in his decision? Brazil and Nigeria have one thing in common....

Where is the privacy in this country? Why was that child's name and her mother's name published? I can't believe that even the name of her school was mentioned. Whats the point of putting up her picture there and then blacking out her eyes? medicine after death!! mschewwwww!!!!!!!!!! Her full name is already available to the public!

How do they intend to protect this child after what she's been through by now publicly naming her?? That is NOT how rape cases involving minors are handled. Nigeria needs to change it's privacy laws for crying out loud!

Sorry, didn't know the right room to post this! Admins, please redirect. If you ask me though, i'd say the Emir didn't pen this write up! But someone who wants to fight his cause

HRH MUHAMMADU SANUSI II's RESPONSE TO HIS MARRIAGE WITH 18 YEARS OLD PRINCESS IS QUITE GRATIFYING:
READ:

" I am sure NC members all have their views and have kept quiet out of (appropriate) deference to our right to make our individual choice.
Obviously, I do not need to explain anything to anyone in a purely personal matter but a few points are worthy of note:
1. The lady in question is 18 and therefore legally of age to marry under all laws and certainly under Muslim law.
2. She is proceeding for her undergraduate education in the UK in January. She had an A in computer science in her O levels and plans to get a degree in computer science.
3. each and everyone of my wives is a university graduate and some have worked and then stopped and in each case the choice was purely theirs.
4. It is a tradition in Kano that emirs and princes in choosing wives consider issues beyond the individual. The family is in every sense a social unit. My predecessor was married to princesses from Ilorin, Katsina and Somoto.
5. The relationship between the late Lamido of Adamawa Aliyu Musdafa the father of the current Lamido is well known. Lamido Aliyu was the first Emir turbaned after Emir Sanusi I and they remained close until Sanusi's death.
6. My own relationship with the current Lamido dates back to 1981 when he was Ciroma and commissioner for works. By the way the Lamido and I are not illiterates we know what we are doing and he does have a PhD in Engineering.
7. My own mother was married in Adamawa and
lived there for more than two decades and I have eight younger brothers and sisters from there.
8. it is therefore natural that if I choose to marry from another kingdom Adamawa would be the first choice for me and I am extremely happy to strengthen these long historical bonds.
9. The young lady in question gave her free consent and even after the contract the wedding will not happen for a few years. By then she may be 21. If she freely consents to this I do not know on what moral grounds anyone has a grouse. She is an adult, she gave her consent, her education is not being in anyway interrupted.
10. The real issue is that people do not accept cultural difference. And you can see it in the approach to these issues. I am supposed to be urbane and western educated. Yes but i am not European. I am a northern Nigerian Fulani Muslim brought up in a setting exactly like the one my children are being brought up in.

If you read this and it improves your understanding of this issue that is fine. If it does not just remember it is not your life, it is not your daughter and you are not my wife therefore it is not your business.

I obviously cannot stoop to the level of responding publicly to these kinds of articles. I have always been an advocate of girls marrying after maturing. I personally like the minimum age of 18 even though i understand those who say 16 is fine and indeed this is the law in most so called @advanced@ countries. Is this something that I expect a European or western trained or feminist mind to appreciate or endorse? Not at all. But has any american been bothered about my views on men marrying men or women marrying women which frankly I find primitive and bestial? No and my views do not matter. These are cultural issues.

Even in Nigeria I have heard all this stuff as in Pius article about "north" and northerners. Again it is a failure to respect difference. There are parts if this country where parents expect their daughters to live with their boyfriends for years and actually get pregnant before they marry. It has become culture. We do not have that in the north and if your daughter gets pregnant before marriage she brings nothing but shame to the name. But we do not issue condemnations. We agree that this is how they choose to live. And i can give many other examples.

When people use the term libido they do themselves injustice. First of all it shows how they view women and marriage. Women are nothing but the object of sexual desire. Marriage is nothing but sexual gratification. Well I am sorry but in my tradition it is not. Beauty and attraction rank third after religion and lineage in the choice of a wife. They see an 18 year old young lady. I see a princess of noble birth whose mother is also a princess, and who has been brought up in a good Muslim home. This is the kind of woman that is prepared for hiving birth to princes and bringing them up for the role expected of them in society.

Marriage is both social and political. Expanding the links of Kano which have already been established by my predecessors through intermarriage with Katsina, sokoto, Ilorin, Katagum, Ningi, Bauchi etc to Adamawa is an important and significant step and this is obvious to anyone with a sense of how royal families work and Ibn Khaldun's sociological concept of Asabiyyah. When the emir of Kano marries it has to be something beyond what he personally desires to what is appropriate for that position and the expectations of the people he represents. You don't just pick up any girl on the street. And by the way for those who shout libido sex is cheap and available everywhere in all shapes and sizes and all colours if that is what they want. And all ages too. Marriage is a very different proposition. The mother of your children has to be something other than, or at least much more than a mere object of sexual fantasy. But if you do not know that you need to buy yourself a brain.

I have daughters. And they know they can only marry from certain backgrounds. I always prefer family. When my daughter wanted to marry Mouftah baba Ahmed's son and she asked me, knowing my views on family, i told her Mouftah is family. And this is not about me and Mouftah or me an Hakeem or Nafiu. No. It goes back to Baba Ahmed and Emirs Sanusi and Bayero. And the same rule applies to my sons. And it applied to me as well.

It is I am sure very strange that I should even bother to comment on this. But it would be hypocritical for me to just keep quiet so long as these things are being posted and commented upon explicitly or in a snide manner.
There was no secrecy in the marriage Fatiha. The date was fixed and it was to be done in the central mosque after Friday prayers. The day before we had a tragedy in Saudi Arabia and decided the Fatiha must be very low key as a mark of respect for the dead. All traditional rulers in Adamawa were there, as were governors and commissioners, members of my own emirate council and Adamawa people. There is nothing here to hide or be apologetic about.

The emirs of Adamawa have shown love to my parents and grandparents and it is a sign of my appreciation of their love that i marry their daughter. This is the highest statement of friendship and loyalty on both sides.

Again if you understand this this is fine. If you do not buy yourself a brain, A la Pius.

In any event this is my one and final and only comment on this. And I am making it out of respect for NC members.

Take the job... you can continue your education on a part time or full time basis with NOUN (National open university of Nigeria) Their certificates are accepted internationally.
A lot of young people who graduated from Universities 5 years ago are still crying for jobs...You have been given an opportunity, take it and be thankful!

Kingtim:
Yes. Me too.

Thank you. This is the second time in less than a week FB is crashing

Can anyone in Nigeria confirm please if they are having issues logging into FB right now??

whirlwind7:
What the hell...?

At least two of those guys are not dead when the pictures were taken, as seen in the first two photos.
People around there didn't call for ambulances, but stand around to take pics, and watch the victims bleed to death!

They finally get loaded into a pick up van like pieces of trash after they're dead. Such a pity.

What happened to humanity, for goodness sake?!

Actually those two don't seem to be dead yet but throwing them in that unsanitary truck like garbage or butchered meat, will surely kill them! Especially the one that had his guts hanging out! I see they tied, most likely, a filthy piece of cloth over the gut!
The way Nigerians treat people that have been seriously injured is one reason many of them don't make it out of their accidents alive!

The Nigerian/Igbo Community Choir of St. Cyprian have been picked as one of the performers for the Pope next week! Despite all the negative things being said and published about Nigeria, i am very pleased at this honor! I hope they make Nigeria and the Igbo community proud

http://www.worldmeeting2015.org/tickets/festival-of-families/

Jackeeh:
Nigerian law = JOKE.
5 n 14years imprisonment = JOKE
Denrele is proof!

LMAO!!! you are funny

Nigerian and Ghana news media were so quick to tag her as a NIGERIAN based on her name! I am yet to see one news article here in the States that has so much as tagged her as African. NONE!!

My co worker has no Nigerian family or linkage to Africa but she went and named her 3 wk old baby Amara! hmmmm..... 20 years from now, if Amara goes and kills her boyfriend, Nigerians will immediately tag her Igbo or Nigerian!

Point here: because it smells like a rose doesn't mean it is a rose! Quit all these tribal tagging please!

You have lied to yourself and made yourself believe that you truly love your wife! A lot of men who defend their wayward lifestyles are always quick to scream I LOVE MY WIFE, BUT THIS CHEATING IS IN MY GENES, I CAN'T HELP MYSELF! Puleasseeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!! Cheating is a disease, like taking cocaine and other hard drugs. But that habit, like drugs can be kicked if the DETERMINATION is there! If you know your wife is your missing rib and the center of your being, if you know she compliments you as a man, if you know she's the best wife and mother any man can ever ask for, if she still has ALL the qualities you ever wanted in a woman, then dude, you have absolutely no reason to go boinking any other woman! You are a selfish man and honestly, you ought to be ashamed of yourself for even starting this thread by proclaiming undying love for your wife and then add that you are a serial cheat!

I'm sorry if this is a bit harsh, but i truly have zero tolerance for cheating men! Tell me, when you are on top of another woman, do you see your wife's face? when you are kissing another woman, does an image of your beautiful wife cross your mind? when you place your lips on another woman's mammary glands, do you imagine they are your wife's?
Why bother get married in the first place if hopping from aisha to bisi to nkiru to Jezebel was what you truly wanted to do? I don't know if you are Christian or Muslim but i want to believe that when you got married you both SWORE on the HOLY BOOK to remain faithful to each other, hmmmmmmm, are you now mocking God and your vows? you know the Bible says there's a special place in HELL for men that cheat?

Bottom line, go home to your wife, look at her, remember why you love her, tell her your weakness, tell her you've cheated on her for probably the duration of your marriage and ask her to forgive you. Then make the f'ing effort to STOP all that mess! You don't know where the end will meet you, it better not be with a ho0ker.

Yesterday on TV, I watched a shocking news story that happened in Philadelphia. A man had been cheating on his wife and one day, this girlfriend went to her married lovers house and fired 3 shots at his wife and kids as she was bringing groceries out the car. Two bullets struck the woman in the stomach and one hit their infant daughter .....

MEN, CHEATING ON YOUR WIVES PUTS THEM, YOUR KIDS AND HOME IN MORTAL DANGER

I need to clarify something please! I will be based in PH for the duration of the writing project. An initial one on one meet is a MUST. Once all agreements have been hashed out and contract signed, Skype will be used for all future communication (if the ghost writer is not resident in PH)

This is a WRITING PROJECT. it might end up as a biography or a Non fiction book.

I can only respond to those who make it clear that they have had some kind of experience in writing stuff that has been PUBLISHED or a real ghost writer!

Chidismart:
Hi, I am a ghost writer with over 5 years experience writing for different clients. Please get in touch with me on blessing4quicksmart@gmail.com for more discussions.Thanks and best regards

Please check your email in an hour! thanks

Hello.

If you have any experience in ghost writing or know someone who does, please contact me by sending me an email through NL.

Thank you

Regardless of his ethnicity, why isn't anybody here asking the most important question? Why did the hospital not give him something to expel the said drugs like other Asian countries do when they catch drug peddlers who have swallowed these things? Even the Nigerian drug enforcement agents give apprehended drug pushers a form of laxative to help them expel the stuff! Why did the Ghanaian clinic put a man with a lot of drug pellets in his stomach, inside a room for observation and not immediately try to get those things out of him? What were they hoping for? that he will pass them naturally? I believe the protocol in these type of cases is that when peddlers are caught with pellets in their system, they are immediately given something to make them poop everything out!

The flight attendant said she observed him acting weird which means one of those things must have already started leaking...

Hello lovely ladies (and gents). So glad to see how far this thread has gone and how much support you ladies are giving to each other.

I just want to keep encouraging y'all! Don't give up on your dreams of becoming a mother, regardless of what any doctor might tell you!

Baby dust to everybody

Thanks Jide. I'm already here. Took Qatar. One way for 800 dollars!

Please, British Airways, AirFrance, Lufthansa, KLM and even Ethiopian airlines have way too expensive flights leaving Lagos for Atlanta by end of March!

Does anybody know of a cheaper airline? Please no mention of AirAsia oh or any Asian plane, i take God beg una!

VisaOfficer:

I think that the sooner the I-130 is filed the better. That's because I-130s are generally processed very quickly (there's no waiting period for IR1 visas), so depending on when the Texas wedding is, the IR1 interview might be scheduled long before they would want to travel with the B1/B2.

If they didn't already have a B1/B2, the problem would be that with an outstanding I-130, it's doubtful that they'd be approved for a new B1/B2. (Obviously the person is an intending immigrant.) But since the person already has the non-immigrant visa, as long as it won't expire before the wedding, they'll be fine.

Thank you so much! Can this be filed at the Embassy in either Lagos or Abuja? Also, won't the B1/B2 holder be denied entry based on the fact that there is a pending or approved I-130 already? What are the chances that this would make them send him back to Nigeria to complete the process?

VisaOfficer:

Frankly I'm not sure how adjustment of status works when someone's already in the United States. I know that I personally would prefer it if he used his B1/B2 visa for its intended purpose, but I don't know how flexible USCIS would be.

I do know that you can't file for a K3 unless you already have an approved I-130.

Thnk you! So would you advise that the I-130 be filed now before the wedding trip next year? I guess this would be filed not the embassy but the nebraska office? How long would that normally take before a response is received and does this mean that if the 130 is approved before the trip next year, the k3 can now be filed while in the US?

Hi VO. My question is this, what is the best filing option for a US Citizen married to a non citizen for the last 2 years and both of them are resident in Nigeria? They had no plans of returning to the US until 2016 but things have changed. He was issued a BI/B2 visa so they could attend a wedding in Texas next year and she wants to complete his paperwork while they are both there. Is this feasible? Can she file a K3 there? Will it be accepted? is it mandatory to file a K3 in Nigeria? can it be done in another country with a US Embassy other than Nigeria? OR can she just do an AOS?

Thanks for taking time to answer this!

Now i feel bad putting this post up! If i knew it was going to enter into a full blown war of words between adults, I'd have taken a chill pill and stayed off NL. The topic is very much derailed and over. the first 3 and a half pages tackled the issue at hand and the remaining 4 pages were......All i can say is WOW!!!
For those who gave meaningful responses, thank you.

wonlasewonimi: OP, can you be a second wife? not necessarily living in the same house with the first wife.

no! never!! sharing is not something i'm keen on.

I have another question regarding the Edo tradition please. In a case where a lady dated a guy and had 2 or 3 kids for him without any form of marriage rites performed on her and then few years later they go their separate ways, under Edo tradition, who gets to keep the kids? the father or the mother? Is she allowed to prevent him from seeing them even though he is a paying father i.e school fees, health insurance, feeding and clothing. Both man and woman are Edo but woman is claiming full rights on the children and refusing him access.

KoloOyinbo: Thanks Radoillo II your point is very valid and well identified!

In fact this is all off topic! I merely wanted to know what the traditions were!!!!

It was Pagan who brought up the subject of age but seemed already to be anti even before he knew there was an age gap. It does seem the colour of my skin is the issue for some of them.

This girl and I have been together for some time now. She does not exploit me for money etc.

By the way, in most cultures, it is rude to comment on the private business of others despite what our own personal thoughts may be.

Anyway I would appreciate any ON TOPIC information about the traditions.

If you know any of your fiancee's folks, talk to them and find out what their tradition requires. They are in a better position to tell you what you need to do. Best of Luck!

dayleke: ^^^ @ pslm23
U no add money for the boys or is it girls?
Na so e be for Naija now....
Welcome to "Our World"

hhahahahaha.. it's a boy oh! and of course he is getting so much money from me but all i ask for in return is a little honesty! he has just sunk his boat as far as i'm concerned. School fees and other fees will be paid BUT his allowance will be cut in half for trying to deceive me! Tough love folks, that's what i practice!