I’m making this post because I don’t want to be judged and I can’t turn my on people in my real life because they may not understand. Well I’ve been married for 2 plus years I’m 27 with a son. I’m going to get personal so embrace yourself.
Myself and my husband have a good relationship, almost too good because I literally see him like my brother. This is to the point where our romantic/lover side of our relationship is kinda dead. I see him naked, it’s like looking at my brother naked. I don’t feel turned on, or excited. We talk and gist like friends, but romantically things are flat. Our sex life is mediocre I guess. He doesn’t do oralll sexxx and he ejaculates very fast. I’m talking 10 seconds, and it’s every single time despite taking different preventative measures. I know that I’m extremely clean as I’m very observant of myself and he also tells me all the time. Yet orall sexxx is disgusting to him and “dehumanising”. There’s no passion when we kiss, its forced most times.
Lately I’ve been finding myself fantasising about being touched by a man , almost every night . A man that will give me orall sexx a man that will turn me on and blow me away. I don’t want to be judged here, but this is genuinely how I’ve been feeling. I don’t want to put pressure on my husband as he has other things to worry about. A man that will kiss me in all the right places and make me feel like a woman. Sometimes I believe I’m being delusional, or unrealistic. I’m trying to get rid of these thoughts, but I really don’t know how. I have never cheated on my husband and I don’t think I have the guts to do it. I really just want to know how married people cope when that spark is gone. When you begin to look at your spouse like a brother or sister, and romantically the vibes are not there.
Let me also say that I’ve addressed this to him many times, but he stands he’s not willing to compromise.
Help!
Mods, I need this on front page as I need help for people to see this.
it either you have been watching too much of porn movie or you are reading stuffs bout sex which you should not be doing. Let tell you if you are not careful you are bout to loss your marriage
A 26-year-old woman identified as Clara Jacob, has drowned in a hotel swimming pool in Jalingo, Taraba State, Reports.
An eyewitness who Notified On Facebook, Said that Clara and her friends were swimming at the hotel swimming pool on Saturday, October 30, when they noticed she was missing.
"We were at the pool this evening swimming when we noticed that she was struggling in the deep end of the pool. We immediately called the pool manager that someone was drowning but he said he does not know how to swim. We were just there trying frantically to get someone who could help to no avail. She was in the water for over thirty minutes before her lifeless body was eventually dragged out," the witness narrated.
The elder brother to the late Clara, Mr Jacob Joseph, who confirmed the sad incident to , said that the body has been taken to the Federal Medical Centre, Jalingo to be deposited at the morgue.
The terribly shaken Joseph said he was surprised that a hotel maintains a swimming pool with a pool manager that cannot swim, who watched as a young woman died helplessly.
MRDEE01: Forgive her for the rape? Was it her fault that she was raped?
yes it was her fault why leaving your work to attend one stupid party by that time. I am convinced it wasn't just a party she was going to a club. Dirty olosho looking for sympathy
Mystoree: So I had some issues with my girlfriend and we were kind of not talking for 2 weeks, during that time, a lot happened in her life.
We settled and while we were telling each other about what happened during our time apart, she began to cry and opened up to me that she was raped. I will ordinarily not believe that lie if she was a virgin but she wasn't, I met her as one and I was her first, so there will be no point in her even revealing it to me if she wasn't as it was a one time thing and I will hardly notice. At that point, i felt like my world just stopped for some seconds, o felt dizzy and found somewhere to sit trying to process what I just heard. Funny thing was that on the night of that incident, I was feeling weird about her and called her to find out how she was, it was around 9:30 pm and she was a student of a higher institution on the mainland while I stay on the island. After I called her, she picked up and told me she was going to call me back as she was trying to get a bike to take her to where she was going to, and immediately she ended the call, a man put a knife behind her and threatened to kill her if she doesn't give him what he wants, she offered her phone and all but this man was just after sex, according to her, the area was quiet and there was almost nobody on the streets, he pulled her to a shop corner and forced his way. I was devastated and confused, this is the only lady I have ever seen myself marrying amongst all the ladies I have met, she checks all the boxes, she said it didn't last up to 5 minutes and she cried all through but the man didn't care. He was a fat elderly man with a pot belly, wearing a nose mask in the night so she could not even see his face.
I was so angry at her because first of all, I warned her several times not to move in the night in that area as it is very dangerous, we were once robbed on the same street around 8pm, so I wonder what went into her mind moving by almost 10pm. She said she was on night shift where she works and then her friend called her to join them for a party, so she took permission and wanted leaving and that was when it happened. Now the thing is, those friends of hers are very bad influence on her and I told her a long time ago, she said she doesn't follow them but just hangs around with them in school, little did I know that she went to the bar alongside them and their boyfriends a number of time without my knowledge. She showed me pictures of their outings and a stab on the hand from the rapist. I'm so angry, she has been crying and begging, I asked her to stop the job and she agreed,i have thought of getting a girl and some guys to disguise and go to the same area late night to see if the devil will push the bastard to try his lick again cos I swear, I will make sure I put a stick through his anus through to his mouth,revenge is all that is on my mind cos I love this girl so much
I have read rape stories but I never thought it would come so close to me, I have been put in countless situations where a girl changes her mind on letting me into her and I respected that, I wonder why this would happen to me, I don't know what to do, any advice is welcome.
Modified - for those claiming she lied, she came along with the doctors report and tests receipt.
so wat do you expect us to do now. Oga go and deal with your issue wat nonsense are you even saying. That your gal na up coming olosho
presidency: IN GLASGOW, AMERICAN BILLIONAIRE, JEFF BEZOS, HAILS PRESIDENT BUHARI’S CLIMATE CHANGE ACTIONS
American billionaire and founder of Amazon, Jeff Bezos, on Monday in Glasgow, Scotland commended President Muhammadu Buhari's leadership role in restoring degraded lands in the country, describing the commitment to restore 4 million hectares as exemplary.
Bezos joined President Buhari, French President Emmanuel Macron, Prince Charles and the Mauritanian President Mohamed Ould Ghazouani at a COP 26 side event entitled “Accelerating land restoration in Africa, the case of the Great Green Wall (GGW) initiative.”.
Heaping praises on the Nigerian leader at the event co-hosted by the French President, his Mauritanian counterpart and the Prince of Wales, the Amazon founder said:
‘‘We are fortunate to have President Buhari of Nigeria with us today.
‘‘Nigeria plays a critical role in the restoration movement and has pledged to restore 4 million hectares of degraded lands.
‘‘This kind of ambition coming from Africa’s largest economy underscores just how vital this issue is.’’
The Bezos Earth Fund has a 10 billion dollar fund to allocate money to projects fighting climate change.
Nigeria is due to assume the leadership of Conference of Heads of State and Government of the Pan African Agency of the Great Green Wall.
President Buhari had used the occasion of his address to appeal to fellow leaders to continue to make concerted efforts at land restoration.
‘‘I am optimistic that Africa’s ambition of restoring over 100million hectares of degraded landscape for productive agriculture is achievable,’’ he said.
President Buhari also pledged Nigeria’s unalloyed commitment to expanding the achievements of the GGW programme in Africa from the enviable status attained under the leadership of President Mohamed Ould Ghazouani of Mauritania.
‘‘Together we commit to the transformative process of restoring the African degraded landscape and ultimately the continent’s environment,’’ he said.
Garba Shehu Senior Special Assistant to the President (Media & Publicity) November 1, 2021
i strongly suspect this man hailing. He has a motive. Fear american
jerrybakermillz: None....I dey do like i no sabi dem sef,make who no dey feed me come use me catche cruise
mine was just last weekend after tottenham be man u match I walk up to cr7 in the tunnel for him to give me his jersey but he said no that, that is the only one he have��
still buhari don't see anything wrong with his brothers threaten to attack the he claim to be governed. Pple will see vote for this devilish party (APC)
XXXXTENTACION: His Village people have finally suceeded.... selling Aba made clothes in the U.K... who go buy am na white man go buy aba made clothes...
don't be stupid they will buy. Watch and see how he will grow so big in uk and even opening same the in the state
After making millions of dollars from it. They are now bringing it back. Anyways nothing our people go make out of this. Las las they will still sell it to the white
This one, my husband hattes it. My Dad used to complain seriously about it too.
If I like a cloth/dress/trouser, any wear at all, I'd wear that clothe till everyone around me begins to beg me to stop wearing it and they will start begging me to wear something else.
It embarrasses my husband a little because he thinks it would seem like I have just that cloth. And me, I don't care if people think that's the only cloth I have. If I like it and I feel comfortable in it, that's all that matters.
I have this easy dress that I bought in June. I've been wearing it. I can wear it Monday, wash it on Tuesday to be ready for me to wear again on Wednesday.� The thing annoys my husband ehn I'm scared he might hide or burn the cloth because each time he sees me wearing it, his facial expression changes to "this clothe again?".
There was this day I was wearing that dress for the third time in a week. My husband decided we weren't going out together if I'm going to be wearing that same dress. I reluctantly changed it.�
I can wear the dress to Church, beach, party, ANYWHERE at all. The dress fits into any event. What prompted this post is that I've just finished having my bath and I'm with the dress right here on my bed ready to wear it again.☺ This Mbaise man might scream or tear it today. But I like it.
I think people should be allowed to wear and repeat any clothes they like. It doesn't hurt anyone.�
My Dad had that trait too. But he had a way. If he buys blue of a shirt and he likes it, he would go buy three other colours of same shirt. That way, he is wearing same type of shirt he likes but different colours that makes him appear different. That's what I'm learning to do now.
I gave a tailor some fabrics to sew for me. I liked the style. It was Ankara. I bought 3 other Ankara of different styles/patterns and colours and asked my tailor to sew exactly same style for me with the three Ankara fabrics. My tailor was shocked. But I warned her not to alter the style at all. �
My husband bought me two different dresses. He observed that I like them and he knows me that I'd start wearing them everyday. So, he went to but 2 of them again in different colours. At least, I won't disgrace him too much.
If you are close to me and you see me everyday for 30/31 days of the month, you'd definitely find me repeating clothes. And, no, I have more than 50 dresses at every point in time. But out of all my clothes, I'd select only 4 or 5 that I like and repeat them till everyone around me starts begging me to stop.
Is there any other adult like me? Please don't tell me I'm the only adult with this yeye habit.
I know many children have this habit that's why I call it a CHILDISH trait.
madam thank God you have discover your problem. Deal with it if am yor husband if I have warn you several time and you keep on continuing with such embarrassing act I will just keep quiet and I will make sure I will never give you a dim to buy dress anymore unless you buy it with your own money
damilola4162: Whitemoney, winner of the just-concluded six edition of Big Brother Naija reality show, has reportedly been hospitalized 9 days after being announced as winner, Newspremises has learned.
A video of him laying on a hospital bed, taking a drip has been circulating the internet, but the reason for being admitted is still vague.
The video was shared on his verified Instagram page on Tuesday, October 12, with the caption: "Good morning, break in transmission. We will be back shortly".
Lamanii22: This is one bad thing I discovered recently about myself, I yell at him when I am trying to prove a point, no insults but my voice is always high.... Then I feel bad about it afterwards....
I guess you started dating guys at a very early age. That is where the fundamental problem start from. You better fine a way to stop yelling at your parent cos you might take that habit to your own matrimonial home
sorosoke101: For me I hate washing dishes with passion and why is because I had 3 sisters they mostly do the washing but ever they are not around its am always hiding from this Godforsaken chore
eaten together with my family. I just love doing my own thing alone
officialwdhtv: This guy poisoned his friends Coca-Cola while he went to pee. A good Samaritan observed it and told the lucky guy to not drink from it. The guy was then asked to drink from the same drink he had poisoned, he refused and he is begging for forgiveness.
the only thing I don't like bout this story is the fact that the guy that poison his friend drink his face is still normal he should the face should have been disfigure
maureensylvia: If you have spoken with me before on call, you will know that my kids can disturb ehhh.
So my kids were disturbing me as usual, I had to look for a way to keep them quiet for awhile.
I wanted to sleep for some mins, I told my son, Dubem to draw me while I'm sleeping... *#concentration drawing* I slept for 30 mins without disturbance Check out what he drew, saying it's me
Is the shifted waist and height for me What's your favorite part
Newsmic: Popular Nollywood actor, Yul Edochie took to his Instagram handle to celebrate his daughter, Danielle who recently graduated from secondary school as he shared photos of her first day at the university, IgbereTV reports.
why can't yul just let this girl be and let her live her life to discover her real self the father is gradually marketing her for prostitution without know thinking he's doing the right thing. I just hope he won't regret this
Elistho: So, I was scrolling through my Facebook newsfeed when I came in contact with this post below by a friend. I thought it's wise to share it here.
"Women v. HEAVY Makeup. . *Good Evening all and welcome to Part 1 of this program, we've kicked off and I wouldn't hesitate to thank you all, you deserve the accolades. Keep engaging, give your opinions, and don't relegate yourself from learning and putting what you read into practice though, I will try to make this post brief, for those that don't like reading long posts. �*
So, I will say God created our female folks to be extremely and exquisitely beautiful, like who doesn't like a good thing? Probably, none I think.
Low self-esteem is bad and one can downgrade oneself due to alleged stereotypes and discrimination, this topic I'm writing on has and will always remain a controversial one in our contemporary society.
So, I ask again, what will make a beautiful female dress up, upon all the prettiness and the assets, will still go-ahead to use HEAVY poster color ("Abi na crayon" on her face that it becomes obvious and throw people like me into oblivion regarding the reason for the act.
You might say it isn't wrong or it adds to one's exquisiteness, or probably with the cliche "guys like it that way" wait, who are you deceiving? � And who's giving the impression, like " where did you get the Inspirations from? I wonder...
It is said "numbers don't lie" if it does, check the scoreboard", to my knowledge, most guys despise "HEAVY Makeup, and that's what most Ladies don't know" ask 10 guys out on the issue and get back to me if you doubt.
*Let me share a little experience*
So, I went for my matriculation ceremony, met my acquaintances, Colleagues cum friends, no big deal. Guess what? � Two Colleagues first passed me by, paused, and said "hello", I swear this man couldn't recognize who was talking, I just pretended I knew who was behind the poster color stuff and moved �.
Along the line, I met with a guyman friend, we discussed as we cruised around on leg, we met another female colleague posing for a picture, she waved this time, the guy was quick enough to recognize who's behind the mask, I just stared hard and harder, pondering on "who's that?" At a point, I asked the guy who was waving and smiling, he answered "our Colleague".
"Wahala dey o�" I was like "which our colleague again that I can't recognize, the girl heard it clearly and laughed, till now, I still don't know who was that, I've exonerated myself abeg �.
Makeup isn't bad, it didn't start today quite alright. For Muslims, I don't know the utmost portion in the Quran that talks about that. Someone can help later in the comment section.
For Christians, in Exodus Chapter 32 vs 1, down. Let me emphasize verse 2, "And Aaron said unto them, Break off the golden earrings, which are in the ears of your wives, of your sons, and of your daughters, and bring them unto me."
We can now see via the aforementioned verse that ornaments and probably makeup didn't start today, and no one objects to that, it's a renowned phenomenon.
Personally, I like someone looking good, I mean good �, makeup isn't the Palaver, the issue is posing with poster color and long nails and be looking like the devil's reincarnate. You're beautiful, can't you do the needful artifice on your facials without deception? Oh yes, possessing a face that's not your own is public deceit and deception, let my lawyers charge you to court �. Where's a counsel there? Your attention is needed here.
Solemnly, you're made in the image of God, read Genesis 1 v. 26, sister does God possess two faces on different days? "E weak me."
Personally and from my perspective, do makeup, but make it light and not heavy, if you insist, fix the shortest of all nails, I'll admire you that way and others too will.
I can recommend a way if you want, you can try straightening the brows, then you use lip gloss or stick that isn't other than the usual One's, you plait a fine hair, viz. attachment whatsoever, and use shiny hair oil on it, you can also use face powder, trust me they'll admire you die, not poster colors. Haaa, when did I become a makeup artist? �
Concluding, You're beautiful for who you're, don't let low self-esteem or peer pressure drag you to what we can't fathom, You're a Christian and should dress like one.
What you can't wear to a job interview or wear to sit before your pastor, albeit some church denominations have compromised this, however, don't wear it.
Hitherto, you're beautiful and we know �.
Do makeup, I'm not saying don't take care of yourself because you want to be a hypocrite assistant Jesus.�
. Please, all I'm saying, am I right or wrong? � Please just place your suggestions on the comment box, let's discuss, I can't wait to hear views and attacks �� Don't worry, I'm coming for the males as well.
Also, share for others to learn, Thank You.CAPITAL YEs
chinasaekpere: Hello guys, this is a very strong decision I want to make, I need your help to make this decision or not to. I am thinking of cutting my parents off because they have caused me enormous financial setback as a result of the bad decisions my father made. Firstly, I will like to give you a background of the story.
I come from a family of 4 and I am the first child of my parents. My dad is a retired federal government worker, he worked for many eyes as a school cert holder (so obviously, he didn’t hold very top position until he retired, probably the max in reached was level 8 or 9). He trained me through the university and he retired during my NYSC, at this point one of my brothers was in the university (he never graduated because he was nonchalant), my 3rd brother was a jambite and the last born was in primary school. The Jambite graduated this year and the last born is now a jambite.
In 2013, my dad retired and received gratuity worth several millions. My mom tried persuading him to build a house in the village because we are Igbos but Based in ogun state but my dad refused and insisted that he was going to develop his land in ogun state by building a 4 flats building (up stairs) then start business with the remaining money in Ogun state (apparently, he got the revelation from church to do that), he never completed the house. My dad is very religious until date, so out of the money he paid tithe, bought instruments for church and made some donations. Immediately I finished serving, I got a job with a pharmaceutical company as a medical sales representative. I was receiving a salary of 80k with commission. Things started great. I served some money I joined my dad in some of his fish farm business, I was in Enugu while he was doing the farm business in ogun state. When it was time to harvest the fish, I was told stories about theft, I spent 700k on the business but was able to recover 200k because I had to help him offset some debt.
To cut the long story short, my dad started having serious financial issues, couldn’t pay school fees of my last born in school, had several debts just about 2years after collecting millions as gratuity due to his wrong choice of investment. Ofcourse the financial burden transcended to me, until a point that my dad got into trouble from another debt, he spent church harvest savings that he was suppose to remit. I was paying my brothers school fees worth 150k per term, i had to take money from company’s account to help him offset the debt hoping that he would pay up and I will pay some before company finds out. The whole financial burden was so huge for a starter like me, owing to the fact that I lost all my savings to the fish farming business and I also had to pay house rents in Enugu and pay other bills. I accumulated a debt of 1.2million with the company and then is started paying it by bit until the company found out that there was a deficit of 400k. I was arrested and was in the cell for days. To get out of the cell, I had to sign a legal agreement for a payment plan of paying 30k monthly to offset the debt. Luckily for me, I got a 60k job 1month after, my dad couldn’t pay my last siblings school fees, I took him to Enugu and started Paying his bills. I was also paying 30k from my salary every month until I paid all the lost the job again during the heat of the recession. I managed to pay up that debt. Since 2018, I haven’t really done any serious job, I started driving Uber in 2019, saved up some money, my mom needed money for business last year, i borrowed her, she couldn’t complete the payment. The car I was using to do the Uber got bad again. I had to look for a remote job now in Lagos, I saved up money and learnt how to do footwear, i Am saving some money to pay my house and shop rent and get machines. Last two month my dad called that he needed money for my brother’s school fees so he can complete his SSCE exams. He promised to payback mid last month, now I have not seen the money and my that was my house rent I borrowed him. My house rent expired in August. I called him, and ofcourse, he is playing the emotional game. Now, they are in serious financial mess and they seem not to want stop dragging me into it and it’s not as if I am doing great myself. I am not, I’m struggling to make something after mortgaging a lot of time paying several debts. It is overwhelming.
The point is, I am 31years old, I’m looking forward to making my own family and it seem if I am not careful, they will drag me back from this objective. Anytime I try to organize myself, they come up with their monetary problems and it hinders my growth. My plan was to get a shop and equip it before the end of first quarter 2022 from the saving I made from my current 80k salary and now they have collected my house rent in form of a loan. That’s a drawback again.
I have to make my own family, I need to shed some burden to be able to do that. I also want to be a parent and I never want to depend on my kids in my old age. Should I cut them off? If no, what do you advice that I do?
You shouldn't even be having such thought. just take everything that happen as a sacrifice tor being his son. Keep woorking hard God will bless you more than you can imagine
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on her face that it becomes obvious and throw people like me into oblivion regarding the reason for the act.