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WHAT'S UR ADVICE FOR HIM ??
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The grief and guilt nearly strangled my heart.

The day before our anniversary (she was almost eight
months pregnant with our first child) is when I killed her.

It was about 10:30 PM on March 7 when we pulled onto the
highway on the way to celebrate our one-year wedding
anniversary. Looking over at her dark hair, porcelain face
and her very pregnant belly, I said: “I’m glad you’re with
me.”


“You are?” she asked in her sweet way that shows the pure
pleasure of surprise.

“Yeah, of course I am.” I said with a huge smile.
“You deserve a kiss for that.” And she leaned across the
Car and kissed me on the cheek.

“I love you,” I said.

“I love you,” she said.

Those were the last words we’d say to each other.

Just 45 minutes later, with my pregnant wife sleeping
soundly next to me, I fell asleep while driving.
I woke up just before the collision. The panic was like that
feeling you get in a nightmare.

This can't be happening!

I slammed on the breaks and jerked the wheel with all my
might, but it was too late.
When I woke in the hospital, there was a stranger standing
by my bed.

“Where’s my wife?” I asked. His face contorted, looking for
the right words to say in an impossible conversation. No
answer.

“Where’s my wife?” I demanded. Still, without the words, all
he could give was a silent stare.

Finally, the panic now coming back to me as I started to
remember, “WHERE’S DEBBIE?”

Now, with the only words he could find, “They only
brought back one body from the accident.”

Drugged up from my own injuries and overwhelmed by the
shock, I passed out.

When I woke up in the hospital again, there were about 40
people in the hospital room, but the only two I saw were her
mom and dad.

I could hear their thoughts echoing in my mind ...

HOW COULD YOU BE SO RECKLESS?!

How could you let this happen?!

How could you …?!!

At that moment I wanted to become someone else so I
could strangle myself to death.

I wanted to be a trained fighter so I could beat myself to a
bloody pulp, until the former me begged for forgiveness. I
wanted to be anyone else so I could join her parents in their
grief and anger at this reckless asshole who let their
daughter die while he was driving.

In the few months that followed, I worked hard to self-destructively
accomplish all three.

The way my wife and I ended up together was as terrific
as the end was tragic ...due to my mistake or as some other part of says it's not my fault..

Now my in-laws or anyone don't know the truth of what happened that night..I stil hate myself for letting nature's call(sleep) cause the untimely death of their daughter..
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IS IT ADVISABLE TO CONFESS HOW IT HAPPENED TO THEM(in-laws)..??
I REALLY WANT TO..maybe it could actually start my healing process too..I'm a broken man.

Tenkobos:
Do you think you're in 2go dating room?

I tire bro..what a dumb question?

newsphase:
7yrs+ before marriage.... either you are an undecisive man or an irresponsible one.... or maybe she was your friend for most of the 7yrs.... my relationship durations are my choice and I would never choose to make a woman go 7yrs with me without giving her the ring...

I thought u were taught comprehension skills in school..
U saw I stated dat I started it as my first date at age 15...which means the relationship ended when I was 22+..
1. Wud u advice ur son to marry at 23 coz he dated a girl (dat grew up 2geda wit him) for 7yrs+ ? ..
2. Do u knw my age as of today?
3. Do u knw who actually called-off the relationship then and why it ended?
4. Do u knw if one/ both of us is/are happily married as at now?






RECIEVE SENSE !!!

newsphase:
7yrs+??

Uhun..!! Are u plagued with short-lived relationships?

U said "LIST"....f**ktard !!

The yeye sch had berra confess what dey av against dat person rather than hide under the "carryover" umbrella or risk their integrity being tainted

Nd who da heck r u for me to Dignify u with such thought on my mind?

Mehn..d dexterity with which the OP narrated these tinz requires some distinctive level of perversion...lolz
More groundnut oil to ur ampit...

Berlyn:
[size=15pt]i'm unclad [/size]

*whispers*
Like..rite now?

OP..u talk as if she'll come asking for ur permission to begin a date in d 1st place...
The ansa is "at the age the child feels comfortable enuf to Wanna date"...
Mine was 15...nd I dated her for 7yrs+...
These are spontaneous tinz in d life of a child..it's not mathematics

I dnt see anything wrong in making a mistake twice.. I'm fully in support of ur resolution TO LEARN THE HARD WAY...!!

TrapQueen77:
did I left u speechless?

*leave

Erm..I'm curious...whr did u meet this gurl?.. AT A PARTY ??

As far as the exam doesn't really involve calculations...forgerrit... If dem like mk dem put me for Kogi..mk my next man dey Benue...SMOOTH SAIL

habeemurfty:
Try nd find out wht is really goin on from their neighbours, I dont tink d excuses ur fiancee give are genuine. But I will not advise u to marry d lady, cos she nd d moda will av control over ur life.

Sinx u're of d opinion dat d OP shud nt marry the yeye gurl..
Biko..wat is the investigation for?
Need I tel u aw many ppl CURIOSITY has killed??

Jamean:
Well, there's nothing to finish 'cause there's actually nothing left. That's the worse you can reduce a man to.

Lolz..bae..u juz only defined ur own definition of FINISH..
Who knws..!!...dey might av more sinister plans in mind to actually FINISH him..
Wickedness is an infinite term..

Pascalin90:
I would suggest you have a one-on-one chat with the man,that is,if truly you love the girl and wish to marry her. The man may be guilty of the accusations because there is no smoke without fire they say. But looking at it from a critical point of view, why hasn't your fiancee told you about this all along? She too needs to be investigated to avoid stories that touch.

Dis needless time u fink he shud spend investigating..
If he spends it seekin God in prayers and lookin very well dis time for anoda woman..he'll definitely see somtin better..

harsysky:
[b]Dear Op,
My comment may not actually make sense to anyone, but I don't care. I'm writing directly to you Op because you've come here for a solution. I've also read a lot of people's comments, especially the " run for your life!"

I would have easily said you should run, but come to think of it, "No one is perfect".
You ain't, Op, no matter how sympathetic and sensitive you may think you are. That girl of yours may have undergone series of assaults or brain-wiring that most or some of us have also undergone, Only that hers might have gotten into her so , so much. It may not be her fault actually. Be rest assured she can come of it and love like never before.

I like you a lot Op. Your sense of care and observation, I respect so much. You never can tell if you would have acted more than your wife-to-be if you were in her shoes. Leaving her and not picking her calls means one thing to me. You wana be those kind of people who know how to deal with a problem but leave it because they respect people's say more than theirs.
Talk to your girl. Atleast, there is something you've seen in her that has attracted you to her. Assuming you didn't see her Dad, you wouldn't be here complaining, right? Don't think the next person you will meet will be that saint. You could save that family. The head of that family might have done something anyone could even kill him for ,but I believe they still feed him atleast. It means there is still 1% love for the old man. They can still love him to the fullest but need to be convinced that one does not pay evil with evil otherwise evil will be in circulation.

I can never forget the advice my aunt gave me one precious day. I was having a problem with my Dad. I was thinking he never loved me. Then , the auto-correct advice came and it goes thus: " the only man who hates you is one who shuts you out all round. Does your Dad shut you out?". " No" I replied
"Then he loves you more than anything" she concluded

I believed her whole-heartedly. she is now my mentor.
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*chews kola*
*gulps dry gin*...
Erm...bros...so wen ur unmarried sista tells u one day she went to her fiance's ause nd saw him beating his mom mercilessly..which appears to be a routine from wat he told her; dat his mum did dis and dat in d past..
U wud repeat dis same epistle baa?

freecocoa:
OP, while I don't support anyone being maltreated, you can't rule out everything your woman said because believe me you, I know a family like that back in the uni.

The man used to maltreat his wife and kids when he had some change, when things changed, the woman didn't forgive him, ergo did things to show him she was bitter at him, blah blah blah.

It's not news that some men are worse than the mythical devil when they have money, so you need to be sure before taking any decision, it's hard to know that your father maltreated your mum and still be nice to him.

I dint quite get the point of dis ur comment-cum-advice sef..
What does he need to be sure of exactly?..
If d OP finds out the man expectedly maltreated his fiancee and her mom b4...so wat dey did in return is an indicator for a gud wife shey?..
So when he bcums SURE of the probable...WHAT NEXT??

obiak4:
Pinky are you poundering what am poundering?

Erm..I fink so brain

repogirl:
That family put the dysfunction in dysfunctional. OP, run faster than your legs can take you...... your instinct is on point.

Correct..!!
Peju...I bliv u juz like ur 'dave and barbie' story jaree..

brightguru:
What if its a test? The man is actually their house boy

God punish that useless test...is dat a test of virtue on their part..??
So if ur sis goes to her fiance's ause and see him beatin a woman who he reveals to be his mom..
You'll reason it as a test too uh?....shioor

harsysky:
[b]Dear Op,
My comment may not actually make sense to anyone, but I don't care. I'm writing directly to you Op because you've come here for a solution. I've also read a lot of people's comments, especially the " run for your life!"

I would have easily said you should run, but come to think of it, "No one is perfect".
You ain't, Op, no matter how sympathetic and sensitive you may think you are. That girl of yours may have undergone series of assaults or brain-wiring that most or some of us have also undergone, Only that hers might have gotten into her so , so much. It may not be her fault actually. Be rest assured she can come of it and love like never before.

I like you a lot Op. Your sense of care and observation, I respect so much. You never can tell if you would have acted more than your wife-to-be if you were in her shoes. Leaving her and not picking her calls means one thing to me. You wana be those kind of people who know how to deal with a problem but leave it because they respect people's say more than theirs.
Talk to your girl. Atleast, there is something you've seen in her that has attracted you to her. Assuming you didn't see her Dad, you wouldn't be here complaining, right? Don't think the next person you will meet will be that saint. You could save that family. The head of that family might have done something anyone could even kill him for ,but I believe they still feed him atleast. It means there is still 1% love for the old man. They can still love him to the fullest but need to be convinced that one does not pay evil with evil otherwise evil will be in circulation.

I can never forget the advice my aunt gave me one precious day. I was having a problem with my Dad. I was thinking he never loved me. Then , the auto-correct advice came and it goes thus: " the only man who hates you is one who shuts you out all round. Does your Dad shut you out?". " No" I replied
"Then he loves you more than anything" she concluded

I believed her whole-heartedly. she is now my mentor.
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Hmm..why do I av dis strange feelin u r the OP's fiancee in questn...

Jamean:
Hmmm!
This story brings back a lot of memories.
Oh! Life!

But as much as it takes the grace of God to forgive, if they won't forgive him genuinely for the past they should let him go.

Exactly my point mehn..but the wickedness in dem won't let him go unless dey av finished him..

Babzilla:
What are you pple saying?
the man is is only reapibg the fruits of his bullshit
Its a simple case of payback.
Pls if she is caring go ahead and marry her

Hmmn..."Subjecting ur bio-fada to servitude' is ur own definition of "carin" in a woman....#strange

Afta forgivin him..If dey cudnt bear to contain the hurt the fada must av done to dem..they shud rather let him go..
But Makin sure he stayed around nd suffer payback is WICKEDNESS !!...
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One tin I'm certain of in OP's story..the wife's family is Yoruba...

Masquerades

mizzbouqui:
Some of those d*cks are scary mehn

Haha..the scarier the sweeter..

Nonsense..not until dis man rapes Ambode...dem no go take am serious...such tot-provokin info

druxy:
and why do I have this feeling you are a psychic ..lol

Lolz..Intuition dnt fail atimes..
on the oda hand..I'm quite aware of the record breakin-numba of 9jans dat nigga scoped with his "change" concept.

But u can lend the church moni..lolz

OP..why do I av dis strange feeling ur Mom voted for Buhari??

Hmmmn...I really wish weed were expensive