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serah88:
Never in my lifetime will I agree to be friends with my immediate ex. The thought of it could make me throw up given the way I was treated. Sometimes, I even feel like laying curse on him.

Mehn..dis is serious!!

I’ve never understood the idea that you can’t be friends with
an ex. I mean, to some extent I get it, especially given the
circumstances. Perhaps if you end on bad terms, perhaps if
there’s underlying anger, it’d be tough to be friends. But
over time, after growing apart, it’s definitely possible to care
about someone you used to love on a friendship-level.
Personally, I don’t know how you couldn’t. You used to love
this person. Aren’t they worth enough to still be a part of
your life?

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Being friends with your ex is hard at first. You have to let go
of a lot of things, emotionally detach yourself in many ways,
and truly devote yourself to the idea of friendship—of caring
for someone with honesty, and no selfish desires or strings
attached.

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To be friends with an ex, you have to first acknowledge
whether or not you have the ability to. If you’re hoping to
get back together in the near future, if you’re hoping to fall
back in love, then you’re not truly wanting to be friends.
You’re looking for a relationship.
Then you have to be honest. This means that when you
spend time with that person, you aren’t sugar-coating
yourself, or your reaction to them because you have feelings
for them. You talk to them truthfully, as you would any
friend. And you learn to love them in a different way, as a
person rather than a lover.

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Then you open yourself up. You allow yourself to truly be
friends with this person. To not only laugh at the same jokes
and go to the same places with your group of friends, but
genuinely give a sh*t about their life. You ask them about
the potential dates they’re talking to, about the crap going
on with their family, about their biggest fears. You trust
them with things that are important to you, and you keep
things exactly as they are—a friendship, a strong bond.
Then you define boundaries. You don’t call that person for
every little thing that’s going wrong. You definitely don’t call
them when you fight with a current boyfriend or girlfriend.
You let them into your life, but you give them space, too.
You don’t dip back into the past unless talking about it
serves some purpose for your current relationships. You
don’t reminisce in an unhealthy, missing-you type of way.
And you stick to your values—you don’t kiss, you don’t
cuddle, you don’t flirt because that would not be a
friendship.

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Ultimately, you love. You love this person innocently and
platonically. You love this person because they hold a huge
chunk of you in their palms. They know the past you, the
you-you underneath the layers and walls that may have built
over time. And you know them. So you care about one
another, you keep one another in your lives, and you talk
about the hard stuff—love, breakups, new relationships—
building one another up and caring about each other’s
wellbeing because even though that person plays a different
role in your life, they matter. And in a healthy, not-ruining-
your-current-relationships type of way, they always will.

1. Realization
All of a sudden, it hits you like nothing you’ve ever felt
before — Oh, shit, you really like them. This is often
someone you’ve known for a long time, even a friend, a
coworker, or the dreaded SO-of-a-friend, and all of a sudden
you can’t get them out of your head. It’s like they’re a totally
different person, and every interaction you’ve ever had
needs to be reconsidered, like there must have been some
kind of hidden meaning in it. You try to get them out of your
head, but there they are every morning, haunting you and
making you happy in equal measure.

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2. Weighing the possibilities
Maybe you should say something. Should you say
something? How would you even go about it? Would the two
of you just get drunk together and suddenly something
would happen? Even if you could get enough liquid courage
in you to make a move, how would it really play out? You
have whole conversations with yourself in the shower, trying
to plan out the perfect way to let them know that you’re
totally in love with them… but everything you come up with
sounds crazy.
When the time comes, as if there was any doubt, you
chicken out totally. In the moment where a slightly drunk
kiss would have made sense, you didn’t do it. When the two
of you were alone and you could have said something, you
restrained yourself. You erred on the side of caution, and
now you are back where you started — in total silence.

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3. Obsession
You think about them night and day. You have stalked every
possible place online where they have written something or
posted a picture of themselves. You are beyond the point of
just a crush, you want them, and you want them all the
more because you know for a fact now that you can’t have
them (either because you’re not brave enough, or because
they’re not into you).

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4. Denial
So you pretend that you don’t like them at all! Haha, of
course I never liked you! How could you be so silly? You
actually go over lists in your head of all the reasons why it’s
not a good idea to like them, and how you could never like
them in practice because they’re totally wrong for you. With
all the time you spend trying to talk yourself out of liking
them, you actually end up wanting them more, only because
you know that if they really weren’t important to you, you
wouldn’t ever have to think about it.

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5. Simmering
You accept that you like them, but there’s nothing you can
do. You just exist in your perpetual state of wanting, and you
get used to it. It’s like a muscle ache that won’t quite go
away, and something feels a little bit off at all times but you
know what it is, so you just accept it. There is a voice at the
back of your head about how much you like them, but it gets
easier and easier to ignore so you can go about your day.

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6. Defeat
You let it go, because you know that there is nothing that
should really keep you involved anymore. And it’s not just
that you wake up one day and say “I don’t want this person
anymore,” it just slowly slips away from you bit by bit and
you start to wake up without thinking of them first thing in
the morning anymore. Your whole body lets you forget, bit
by bit.

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7. Occasional Remembrance
Months can go by — years, even — and everything will seem
like it’s okay again. And then all of a sudden something will
come up that makes you remember them in a way you
haven’t allowed yourself to in forever. You will remember
exactly what it felt like to dream about them, the details of
the night where you almost kissed them over your drinks, the
endless way you would talk about them to your few trusted
friends. And it’s not an entirely unpleasant feeling, it’s just
one of pure nostalgia. It aches to remember them, mostly
because there is so little of them to remember.

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mhisbliss:
i wasn't aware of that and i dont check pms btw

I dislike it more than u do..infact..I've never sent a pm on nairaland..coz of the stress involved in gettin to open a mailbox to check em'..
Nd I dnt expect u to drop ur contact openly(if u will)..if I get to ask..which is why I chose the pm..
So whatcha say??

HRich:
When will they take Selfie with Jesus or even Satan himself?

U fink if one or both of dem shows up in person..instagram and twitter no go full?

mhisbliss:
have access to my mailbox? How do you mean

Am sure u knw that PM on NL requires u to access ur mailbox and accept b4 I can send u personal msgs here which arrives by email..dats why I ask if u stil av access to the mailbox u used in reg. For NL so I can send u a PM asap..

Makin her return the fone won't do nufin..for all u knw..d next tin he buys her might be undies..
Bro..leave d fone with her, ask her the reasons for dis..if she gvs u unsatisfactory ansas as expected..juz bone like say nothin apun..
Then..tap her calls and spoof her chat msgs..easypeezie..
The ansas r gonna arrive on a platter in a very short while.
(Thank God for technology)

P.S: Don't ask me how to do dat..I dnt break homes biko..

mhisbliss:
lol you really know them, the guy knows mathematics, he writes and read, but he has a mental problem

Mathematics is the main culprit in most of these cases..
Bae..chey I fit pm u mk we get along or u dnt av access to ur mailbox(as i see ppl here use it a lot)

TrapQueen77:
I love P0rn ...those interracial ones and a homemade I don't like this professional ones and biitches still smiling even they been rammed by a massive meat... It turns me off. I lose my concentration

Oh lawd !!...lmao..trapqueen has killed me..
As in u even used the word CONCENTRATION to show that it's serious bizness wen u watch it..nice tho..

TrapQueen77:
and who told u?

If u check my phone it's almost 98% p0rns sha and I have a wide range collections of dickies

So now u can change the title of ur thread

Correct...now I've met one..no biggies
The thread title need no changes..coz u admitted to it, which means it doesn't apply to u..
Itz for the ones who don't admit and why dat is.

It’s nearly impossible to find a woman who admits to
watching pornography. Personally I’ve never met one. Have
you ever wondered why they don’t admit it even though you
and I know very well that most of them do?.

Most men admit to watching porn on a regular basis, but
there are some of them like me who deny it coz I actually dnt fancy it much, so I rarely watch it(TAKE IT OR LEAVE IT)
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#1 It’s still considered taboo.
While watching porn may be excitin to some, when it comes to just how “wrong” this seems, there are still people who consider this extremely
taboo and more wrong for women to watch it than for men.
So, ladies don’t tell anyone. No girl wants to be viewed as
someone who engages in something that’s considered
taboo. They don’t want the label that is associated with
watching porn.
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#2 They’re embarrassed.
This stems from watching porn being considered taboo. It’s not something that women are
“supposed” to be doing(in a traditional sense). So dey get
embarrassed for people to know that dey do watch it, Moreso because viewing porn kind of goes
hand in hand with masturbation and being a pervert,
particularly if dey go into the specifics of what kind of porn
Dey watch. Many people still think that the type of porn you
watch is the type of sex that you crave. Mba! That’s not always true.
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#3 It’s considered unladylike.
Society’s stereotype of women being only a certain way – erm..u knw that dogmatic perception of “proper”
has hindered a woman’s freedom of expression. They feel that if dey dare step outside of that ladylike image, people will view dem as slutty, impure and undesirable.
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#4 They fear the judgment.
Ehn..“Oh my gosh! She watches porn?
She must be promiscuous. Ew!”
Believe it or not, this is the
reaction from a lot of girls who find out that other girls
watch porn. But really, they probably watch it too!
Not only are dey fearful of judgement from other girls, but
what about the men? If they find out U like to watch two
strangers grinding their genitals together, most of their
minds immediately start thinkin rogue
– a thought no girl wants any guy to be thinking of them.

The society has a very judgmental attitude towards women.
Their actions are scrutinized and they are asked to keep a
watch on what they Do/say. In such circumstances, if they act honest and do not hide the fact that they watch porn, then they will be surely judged.
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#5 Privacy.
Some women may not even care about what
society thinks(just as no one should). For them, it’s more
about their own privacy.
What women do behind closed doors can stay behind closed
doors if they so choose. They may just keep it to themselves
because it’s like their own little guilty pleasure *literally*.
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#6 To keep their downstairs a mystery.
If a lady tells a guy that she watches porn, he immediately asks me if she masturbates nd also asks what kinda videos she likes best and many more questions that are just damn personal.
If a woman responds honestly to men’s questions about her
porn habits, this gives the men an inside look into a world
that she'd rather keep private. Women like to keep their privates and what they do with their privates a secret from men. Men are more intrigued with a woman if they have to use their imagination.
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#7 Because other women don’t admit to it.
Didn’t your Mamma ever ask you, “Well, if your friends jumped off a bridge, would you, too?”
This is basically the same thing.
Peer pressure, that is.
Nobody likes to feel like they’re really different. So if one
woman says she doesn’t watch porn because “that’s gross,”
or “it’s a guy thing,” then chances are, neither will the other.

This leads to a never-ending chain reaction of girls just
hiding the truth about them viewing other people having sex
on screen.
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#8 Umm… Do I even know you?
If I don’t know you that well, there’s no way I’m going to admit to something that risqué. I don’t even see men walking up to strangers and telling them who their favorite porn star is. She Admitting it to some friends is one thing, but openly telling a guy about it in a casual conversation may seem like a poor/cheap attempt at seduction. Kpoof! WRONG FUSE !!
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#9 They just don’t want you to know.
Sometimes, there’s really no reason in particular. U knw, Watching strangers getting
down and dirty for someone else’s viewing pleasure just isn’t something that other people need to know you do. And
that’s perfectly fine! Everyone has secrets, and some women
prefer to keep this as one of theirs.
Each woman has her own reason for keeping quiet
about her porn watching ways. So if a woman tells you
she doesn’t watch it, just accept that answer, and don’t
question her further.. #ThatIsDCode
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Cc: KingCheezyPuff, mhissbliss, sinaj
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Ladies! Deny(as we expect u to) or admit(if u dare).

mhisbliss:
he's funny likeable and he takes his bath, and he remembers people who somehow do things for him

Oh..I call those ones the normal lunatics..lolz
Most of dem got mad from too much books or trauma of deportation..

mhisbliss:
same? Theres one crazy guy called nigga raw, he knows me and i give him money anytime i see him, so most lunatics arent violent

Hian..fine geh like u dey gv lunatic moni...
God go kash u d day he asks for ur number...lolz

If I hear say dis thread no Make Fp

mhisbliss:
lol you're kidding ryt? You'll even abandon your flesh if you meet one of those

Haha...lolz...I doubt..I'll even take a 2nd look to figure out the creepy oddities mehn..(Tho at real armslength oo)..

Lemme let u in somtin u may deem strange bou me..do u knw I dnt run away from lunatics wheneva I pass by dem..?
I juz kip calm nd pass by like he/she is normal..

mhisbliss:
the human with a dog face aint scary? Tell me you will stand to take a second look when you meet such creature

Uhun...no biggies init..
Buh I'll stand to take a 3rd look if I meet such nice and sexy-bodied creature as U...*winks*

Hmmmn...MEN undoubtly rule the world... WOMEN, however, control the MEN

mhisbliss:
I figured some out though, some i cant explain and some is scary like pic 14

Lolz..really?
Aint nothin scary innit to me tho...

Dat reminds me..I miss seein real Horror movies...
I juz so love the adrenaline pump and action

blackbartee:
Okay, seen....

So where are the mind bending photos

Prof. Bruce Lee..oya tel me u were able to figure out all d pix I uploaded... Say yes and I throw a questn at u

Blood is very important to all of us, but most of us know
very little about it. Most of us probably don’t even know
what type we are. Due to its importance in the bodies of
both humans and animals, it is no wonder why it is so
intricately made up. Below are some interesting facts that
you probably didn’t know about one of the most important
things in your life.

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#1.Its weight.

About 7% of your overall body weight comes from blood.
Also, there are approximately ten pints of blood in every
body of an average adult. So when you donate a pint of
blood, you are giving away roughly 10% of your overall
blood supply.

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#2.Causes noses to run.

When your nose runs it is due to your blood’s attempt to
keep your nose warm. This attempt creates a need for the
blood vessels in your nose to dilate, which in turn causes
them to create more mucus.

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#3.It is sold and bought.

When you donate blood, that blood is actually being sold
around the country. This industry is a multi-billion dollar
industry; one that is tapped into every couple of seconds for
someone in need.

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#4. Mosquitos love it.

Mosquitos prefer type O blood to the rest, but aren’t picky in
a pinch and only the female mosquitos drink it. It would take
over a million of them simultaneously sucking in order to
drain a human of all their blood.

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#5.It can fill a train.

Over the course of your lifetime, your heart will pump
enough blood to fill two hundred entire train cars full of
blood. This is equivalent to approximately one and a half
million barrels of blood that is produced from one person.

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#6.Red blood cells flow smoothly.

Red blood cells are created differently than the other cells of
the body. They contain no nuclei and are therefore able to
travel through the body easily. They circulate for around 120
days before they die off and are replaced by the bone
marrow in the body.

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#7.The bigger you are…the slower your blood.

Larger animals have slower heart rates than smaller
animals. This means that the blood in their body takes
longer to circulate around. For example, a blue whale’s
heart only beats 5 times per minute while humans beat
closer to 75 per minute.

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#8.Not all blood is red.

Some animals, like crabs have blue blood. Others have been
found to have green, clear or yellow blood. This is mainly
due to the elements that the animals use to make the blood.
However, there are a very small number of animals that
have this trait, most blood is red.

Yoruba dudes are actually smart species..they fink on the fast lane...the only issue is their "shortcut to success" mentality....
This is one major reason dey hardly trust each oda...

ramdris:
He should simply tell us if the accusations against him are true or not....

Haha...hilarious..
Itz like waitin for a blind man to tel u the color ur shirt

toposi4naija:
okay bro....am noht 'bae'

Choi..no vex...my phone..lolz

# 7-Microwave oven.

Percy Spencer when he was in navy he experimented with
some microwave emitters. He realized soon that the chocolate
in his pocket had started to melt thereby inventing ovens.

#5-Super glue

Harry Coover jr. conducted a research on types of glues for
producing clear plastic gun sights. Later on he noticed that
the materials he was experimenting with had great adhesive
quality thereby ending up in producing glue.
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#6- Tea bags

Thomas Sullivan an American tea entrepreneur once
decided not to send his customers tea in a traditional way
but instead packed in silk bags. Accidentally the clients
assumed that they have to dip the bag to make tea thereby
inventing tea bags.

#4-Popsicles.
Popsicles were actually created by Frank Epperson when he was an 11 year old. He decided to make his own version of the soda with powder and water. By mistake he kept his mixture in his balcony and when he woke up next day he found it to take the form of a Popsicle.

toposi4naija:
I don't want to believe coca-cola's story....I heard it was a woman that was selling a drink in a small sachet....then a rich man bought it......according to the tales I heard

Bro..I advice u to bliv this one..
I always knew who discovered/invented coca-cola...only got to knw of recent that he actually discovered it by accident

#3- Potato chips
A New York based restaurants chef was once working in his kitchen when a customer came over and complained that his French fries were very thick. Saratoga Spring specialized in French fries only. After receiving the complaint the chef George Crum made much thinner fries which still couldn’t satisfy the customer. Out of anger George cut up potatoes in paper thin slices and sent him which he liked.

#2- Cornflakes
The Kellogg brothers always wanted to invent some dietary food which would be healthy as well as enjoyed by their patients. Accidentally one night Will Kellogg left a boiled pot of corn to harden all through the night. Next morning when they woke up they found out their accidental invention of cornflakes.

Maximum inventions have been made by scientists and
researchers who had some idea in their brains which
cooked up to create some extraordinary inventions.
Amazingly in many cases things were invented by accident
and unbelievingly now we cannot even think our life without
it. Everyone on this list may not be a scientist but they had
enough luck to invent the product.
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#1- Coca –Cola

A pharmacist towards the end of the 19th century named
John Pemberton invented a medicine with cocaine in it
which healed your headache in no time. Even when the
cocaine was removed from the list of ingredients the
customers found it to be very delicious and therefore it was
made available to the people in the form of a beverage what
we know in short as Coke.

fortune1968:
Anyone who believe this story will believe anything .

I tel u bro..pure credulity..more on the side of the MOD who moved dis to fp..
He/she obviously dint read it to comprehension at all