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Re: My Aunty's Husband Wants To Marry Me. He Says He's In Love by Amya(f): 12:17pm On Jul 27, 2012
Nautillus:

WOW!!!! Amya... i got to hand it to you...you have a thick skin(no porn intended)...and from your diction...you sound rather educated. BUT not justified...you gat a job..you are kinda fulfilled...why else would you keep contact with a family members EX...??..it doesn't sit well...in any way you try to look at the scenario.

just walk away from all this and let it go.

please. you sound rather smart...i'm sure you will do the right thing.EXCEPT that you are just yanking everyone's chain.

i never knew their marriage had problems. That's why when he came unto me like that, it shocked and traumatised me. I would never have anything to do with him even if i have a gun to my head.
Re: My Aunty's Husband Wants To Marry Me. He Says He's In Love by Gospelgirl(f): 12:17pm On Jul 27, 2012
@ Poster you sound like someone who is looking for a means to justify her wrongdoings. How are we even. So sure that you and the guy in question had not slept with each other either once or twice during one of his numerous visits to Nigeria?

Calling your aunty a bitch really shows how much you love and care for her.please try as much as possible to rake in all the dollars that you can get frm him, as the fast Lagos babe that you are,I personally dnt think its necessary for you to bring your aunty into this as you will only be adding salt to her injury(which am sure God will take care because of her innocence), but be rest assured that you will also be paid back in your coin. People like you end up being thrown out of your marriage by a common housemaid.
Re: My Aunty's Husband Wants To Marry Me. He Says He's In Love by adorebee(f): 12:19pm On Jul 27, 2012
Amya:

Seriously? Well, what are we classless mumus gonna do about it?

Well my Aunt's life is not in trouble, shƺ's a B.tch in her own right and he's a d.ck in his. Ideally suited or what? If there marriage is in trouble, how the hell is that my fault? If he on his own decides to send money for mƺ, I should decline abi? Abegi.
From the̶̲̥̅̊ tone of your write above ,your mind is already made,So I wonder why you brought to nairaland,since obviously u dnt need our suggestion.NO matter how nuch you try to exonerate yourself from this matter,within you,I mean,deep inside you,you enncourage this your inlaw through your flirty body language.you said it all--- >"He calls me sexy baby"and you encouraged it?hmmmmmmmm!!!!I guess he doesn't call you that infront of the̶̲̥̅̊ family bt only when you guys re chatting*SMH*
Re: My Aunty's Husband Wants To Marry Me. He Says He's In Love by Quelme: 12:39pm On Jul 27, 2012
See them 9ja gals..! Hungry wolves nd golddiggers i suspect d poster had a hand in d now bad relationshp btw d aunt nd d bastard of a man. Ur family shud b d priority here nt a few dollars nd sum toy... Y even entertainin d bastard in d first place? Silly girl n i suppose u were d1 givin him d greenlite?.. Trust me u dnt wana liv wit a dead man's corpse on u chest cz wat goes arnd comes arnd
Re: My Aunty's Husband Wants To Marry Me. He Says He's In Love by safeLove(f): 12:41pm On Jul 27, 2012
BUT,what reasonable married man would call his wife's grown up niece 'sexy'? To prove what point? To drive what message home?
Whatever might have happened between the man and his wife,he had no business tell her. Some men go to the extent of painting their wife's black and badmouthing their marriages just to get some a$$.
A man who sleeps with his housegirl can sleep with the old woman who comes to clean the gutter every saturday. He can even decend to sleeping with his own daughter one day when madam is out of town. To me such men are free to take the next available wheelbarrow to the hottest part of hell.

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Re: My Aunty's Husband Wants To Marry Me. He Says He's In Love by sucezTP(f): 12:51pm On Jul 27, 2012
If this is not intentional, then! One thing must have lead to the other during your course of discussion.
Meanwhile, your sister's husband was busy concentrating on you instead of your sister so, how do you expect their marriage to last in the first place..
Re: My Aunty's Husband Wants To Marry Me. He Says He's In Love by chegson: 1:18pm On Jul 27, 2012
If you truely love your Aunt, you ought to have called her and ask her the state of her marrital affairs as at now.
If she comfirms that the man was actually planning to send her out of her matrimonal home and bring the relationship
to an end, then you need to let her know everything that has been going on between yourself and her husband.
You will also need to bring the whole matter before members of the family. I do not belief the idea of collecting Dollar
from the man secretly will be in your own best interest.
Re: My Aunty's Husband Wants To Marry Me. He Says He's In Love by dollyptosh(m): 1:26pm On Jul 27, 2012
deshclones:

The fat girl dey sleep..she worked night shift nah..let her get some rest..beer parlour work aint easy man.
lol...hmmm ok o.
Re: My Aunty's Husband Wants To Marry Me. He Says He's In Love by Nobody: 1:32pm On Jul 27, 2012
'In otherwords,should you sell your sister out,right?'
Re: My Aunty's Husband Wants To Marry Me. He Says He's In Love by sweetcocoa(f): 1:42pm On Jul 27, 2012
Choi Amya them don finish you here o.

if to say you know you for no start this thread o,but come to think of it,Amya you sure say no be Seun dey send you start threads? Your threads are always controversial.cheesy

Make una pity the girl abeg.undecided

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Re: My Aunty's Husband Wants To Marry Me. He Says He's In Love by yam: 1:49pm On Jul 27, 2012
Amya: First off, let me start by saying this is a 100% true. If any one knows me on Nl, they'd know I don't make up stories.

My Dad's youngest sister is 39. she just got married last year to an AA guy she met on an online dating site. They got married here in Nigeria, so she has to be in Nigeria for 2 years before gets her green card to join him.

The guy has been to Nigeria a couple of times, but I haven't met him. He sent me a friend request on facebook, and earlier in the year, he asked my Aunty to give him my bb pin. We started chatting innocently. I call him uncle, and he calls me 'my sexy niece' he always try to chat me up every other day. After a while the communication stopped. We didn't chat for 2 months, but I could care less.

Yesterday, he went on full toasting mode. Telling me his marriage between by Aunty and him is over, and how he's always been in love with me and want's to marry me. I was trying to see reasons with him (more out of respect than anything else) why the liaison would never work, because his wife in question is my Aunt! Plus I have a bf I love.

He went on to say "Bleep tradition! Bleep family!!! I want you to be here in new york city with before the end of the year. We'll get married here and bla bla bla" It was shocking and traumatising.

I'll never be foolish enough to fall for that crap. But I may just teach him a few lessons never to mess with a naija girl (by chopping him mugu)

I really don't know whether or not to tell my Aunt about this and make it a family issue.


1,i am not insulting you the fact is dat you wont for along tyme get married
2.if you get married there will be issues which will make u want to divorce
3,u are just a grade B of wat ur aunty is and dat is y he could offer u marriage or are u d only niece
Re: My Aunty's Husband Wants To Marry Me. He Says He's In Love by AmakaG29(f): 1:55pm On Jul 27, 2012
It would make sense to me to tell your mother first and show her the evidence (a mother will usually believe and help her own child), use your mother to help you tell your aunt, and you and your aunt can get revenge together however you see fit. I'm not opposed to running his pockets and stringing him along as long as the aunt is in on it.
Re: My Aunty's Husband Wants To Marry Me. He Says He's In Love by chievo: 1:59pm On Jul 27, 2012
Abeg_gi:

Despite your attempts to paint youself innocent and the victim in this matter, it is obvious to anyone astute enough, that

-you were an enabler
-you absolutely earlier on knew what he was up to, and you entertained it
- you are partly to blame for this mess.

If you must teach anyone a lesson, please start with yourself.
my dear,d girl neva did anytin wrg by chatn wt her Uncle in NY,she neva did anytin wrg by acceptn hs friend request on facebk neither was she d 1 dat gav out her bb pin numba,so i dont get where ur going,ur jst bin chuvnistic

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Re: My Aunty's Husband Wants To Marry Me. He Says He's In Love by Cuddlemii: 2:05pm On Jul 27, 2012
Amya: And for calling my Aunt a b.tch, I have reason to believe that shƺ sees other men when he's not around. I never told him or anybody. Plus the kind of friends shƺ hangs out with are of questionable character. Portharcourt girls! shƺ didn't go to school. . . . Don't have a job, just hang around the net all day looking for men? Her best friend has been married to 4 white men in the space of two years!

I'm well educated and I work. How much lousy change can the stupid Akata drop sef. Both of them should carry their wahala and go sef. I ain't telling nobody!

Amya, you keep contradicting yourself with your comments. You have given the pieces to all the missing puzzle already!
What is your business with if your aunty is a b.tch or not? She found herself a husband, go find yours,simple!

You should never have had bbm chat with your uncle(ur aunt's hubby) from the very beginning, what does your aunty's husband want to entertain you with in a chat? Its easy to know a man with intentions based on the chat frequency and tone, you were carried away enjoying the attention and LED HIM ON. If you simply did not like it, trust me you would have insulted him or ignored him or said things like, "i am busy so I didn't see your message, uncle i have things to do, take care, uncle my aunty loves you bla bla bla". He would have gotten the message and backed off!

There is something called discipline and integrity, if a man smells that in you, he won't offer you trash! For example, if you chat with a guy, he either ask you to phuck him or date him based on how you present yourself. Why did you even bring this to nl? There are some things you don't need advise for because all you needed do was to have done the right thing even if its to delete his contact, that would have been my first step.

Based on previous threads you have created, I think you need to outline your goals in a relationship and set standards for yourself. Else men would use you! The chopping his money part was very degrading and has given an impression. Only God knows what you have been feeding that man with about your aunt if you can mess her up on a public forum filled with strangers. Do the right thing!

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Re: My Aunty's Husband Wants To Marry Me. He Says He's In Love by Pakavy(m): 2:13pm On Jul 27, 2012
Idowuogbo: Amya, set him up. U b lasgidi finest na! Do ya ting!
i only hope d predator doesnt turn d prey o!if na lasgidi vs newyorker?!
Re: My Aunty's Husband Wants To Marry Me. He Says He's In Love by omega25red(m): 2:20pm On Jul 27, 2012
Amaka G29: It would make sense to me to tell your mother first and show her the evidence (a mother will usually believe and help her own child), use your mother to help you tell your aunt, and you and your aunt can get revenge together however you see fit. I'm not opposed to running his pockets and stringing him along as long as the aunt is in on it.
hmm i dont like you running his pocket idea. why not just cut him off completly and move on with your life. This guy has been to their home, he knows what everyone looks like. Running his pockets can only fuel something that everyone will regret eventually. i'm sure you know how the home boys get down, shoot first ask questions later.
Re: My Aunty's Husband Wants To Marry Me. He Says He's In Love by Isaleeko2: 2:23pm On Jul 27, 2012
Amya: First off, let me start by saying this is a 100% true. If any one knows me on Nl, they'd know I don't make up stories.

My Dad's youngest sister is 39. she just got married last year to an AA guy she met on an online dating site. They got married here in Nigeria, so she has to be in Nigeria for 2 years before gets her green card to join him.

The guy has been to Nigeria a couple of times, but I haven't met him. He sent me a friend request on facebook, and earlier in the year, he asked my Aunty to give him my bb pin. We started chatting innocently. I call him uncle, and he calls me 'my sexy niece' he always try to chat me up every other day. After a while the communication stopped. We didn't chat for 2 months, but I could care less.

Yesterday, he went on full toasting mode. Telling me his marriage between by Aunty and him is over, and how he's always been in love with me and want's to marry me. I was trying to see reasons with him (more out of respect than anything else) why the liaison would never work, because his wife in question is my Aunt! Plus I have a bf I love.

He went on to say "Bleep tradition! Bleep family!!! I want you to be here in new york city with before the end of the year. We'll get married here and bla bla bla" It was shocking and traumatising.

I'll never be foolish enough to fall for that crap. But I may just teach him a few lessons never to mess with a naija girl (by chopping him mugu)

I really don't know whether or not to tell my Aunt about this and make it a family issue.

Amya, this is just to inform you that we are not fools on Nairaland. I hardly ever post but I have to post on this your useless thread. I see a link between this post and a thread you started. Let me refresh your mind...

https://www.nairaland.com/809222/fastest-way-reel-guy

I find it difficult to believe that it is not this your aunty's husband you were trying to reel in since November last year. Now you have finally reeled him in and you are looking for tips on how to fleece him while playing the victim.

Well done, ma.

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Re: My Aunty's Husband Wants To Marry Me. He Says He's In Love by pendo89(f): 2:32pm On Jul 27, 2012
If you see a bad habit begin to develop, try to nip it in the bud

It didn't have to get this far.
Re: My Aunty's Husband Wants To Marry Me. He Says He's In Love by linearity: 2:40pm On Jul 27, 2012
You streaching the truth here or leaving out vital parts, firstly, US sponsor visa do not take 2yrs, it is done in abt 6mnts....and hw is it that he ll get u in NYC by the end of the mnts, which is abt 6 mnts but ur sister is waiting 2 yrs 4 this same visa?
Re: My Aunty's Husband Wants To Marry Me. He Says He's In Love by blackbeau1(f): 3:13pm On Jul 27, 2012
first things first,tell your aunty and then,bleed him dry.when you mess around with a cobra, you can't complain when you are bitten
Re: My Aunty's Husband Wants To Marry Me. He Says He's In Love by jpphilips(m): 3:21pm On Jul 27, 2012
blaise26.abj:
He is trying to destroy your family. it is either something happened between your aunt and this guy that made him want to use you as a vengeance tool or he is that unscrupulous. Either way he is a bastard. Pls don't play him. if you chop him dollar before you tell your family, they will have a shadow of doubt about your true intentions. Especially your Aunt. Report him immediately. He could send you some dollars and beat u to telling your family about it.

the dollars could be an evidence to drive home her point, nevertheless, 20kusd will turn out to be 200usd during the presentation
Re: My Aunty's Husband Wants To Marry Me. He Says He's In Love by Nobody: 3:38pm On Jul 27, 2012
jp philips:

the dollars could be an evidence to drive home her point, nevertheless, 20kusd will turn out to be 200usd during the presentation
20,000usd turn out to 200usd? That could just be a "slip of biro". grin
Re: My Aunty's Husband Wants To Marry Me. He Says He's In Love by Sike(m): 3:58pm On Jul 27, 2012
M M M: Amya

I need ur BB pin 2 undecided
Yeah... Way to Go!
Re: My Aunty's Husband Wants To Marry Me. He Says He's In Love by elledoe(f): 5:23pm On Jul 27, 2012
Amya:

Seriously? Well, what are we classless mumus gonna do about it?

Well my Aunt's life is not in trouble, shƺ's a B.tch in her own right and he's a d.ck in his. Ideally suited or what? If there marriage is in trouble, how the hell is that my fault? If he on his own decides to send money for mƺ, I should decline abi? Abegi.
u r nothing bur a cheap slot to kal ur Aunt's a bitch definately u r intersterd in him already..ur Aunty got married late and still wanna snatch his man..abeggy go search for ur magga elsewhere we ave millions of dating site
Re: My Aunty's Husband Wants To Marry Me. He Says He's In Love by admajorem: 6:19pm On Jul 27, 2012
If u have had respect for your sister's marriage, u wouldnt have gone into any secret discussion with her husband. In our dear African culture, we have respect 4 d sanctity of marriage. Imagin if its with ur husband. First, cut off chating with him. Rather, communicate frequently with ur aunty. Try and mediate if u can, ie if u sense danger.
Re: My Aunty's Husband Wants To Marry Me. He Says He's In Love by Balyz: 6:48pm On Jul 27, 2012
Wi3ter:

Another classless mumu. Your aunty's life is in serious trouble and you are here thinking about cashing in ? why are Nigeria women like this for f*cksakes ?
7spot on. Thats the reason why im presently dating a Chadian girl right now. I hope to marry her by june next year
Re: My Aunty's Husband Wants To Marry Me. He Says He's In Love by ikooko(m): 11:19pm On Jul 27, 2012
Dondav: I've got 2 word for you @OP.... RUN (I'm sorry, I forgot the other word)
The other word is FASTER.
Re: My Aunty's Husband Wants To Marry Me. He Says He's In Love by Odunnu: 7:22am On Jul 28, 2012
Amya:

i never knew their marriage had problems. That's why when he came unto me like that, [b]it shocked and traumatised me. [/b]I would never have anything to do with him even if i have a gun to my head.
Yeah right!
Re: My Aunty's Husband Wants To Marry Me. He Says He's In Love by Malubi(m): 7:52am On Jul 28, 2012
Good girl, good advice. Seriously looking 4 the girl of your type 4 serious relationship. Check your email. Thanks.
Beync: u need to talk with ur aunty to know the state of their marriage. even if the di*ck head will be set up, it will be between u and ur aunty to keep her at the safe conner
Beync: u need to talk with ur aunty to know the state of their marriage. even if the di*ck head will be set up, it will be between u and ur aunty to keep her at the safe conner
Beync: u need to talk with ur aunty to know the state of their marriage. even if the di*ck head will be set up, it will be between u and ur aunty to keep her at the safe conner
Re: My Aunty's Husband Wants To Marry Me. He Says He's In Love by Amya(f): 8:06am On Jul 28, 2012
Odunnu:
Yeah right!

It did.


Anyways told him yesterday to sort it out with my aunty and that I wouldn't want to be entangled in their mess. And that it would be advisable if he never contacts me again. He heeded I guess. But I still ain't telling her.

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