chinedumo: i take this to mean that you don't mind dating this Archaic guy

Emmymi: @poster. Does he count his money over n over again when he withdraws from ATM machine. Lol

Lord_Reed:
Oh please spare us the west-is-too-superior-to-copy talk Mr I-live-in-the-UK. How many times have you gone to your roots to endure "traditional" medicine? Please culture is meant to evolve; if anyone says that the old ways are better he/she should not be on NL or use any modern gadget in fact return to stone age mode of living and let us who want to think forward proceed.

freecocoa:

OP this your post is too hilarious.

Anyways if the reason why you are still with him as you stated is "only"because he is very handsome and has a good heart, then i say break up with him already, i don't see why you should stay with someone you don't love, its more harm than good to you both.

freecocoa:

OP this your post is too hilarious.

Anyways if the reason why you are still with him as you stated is "only"because he is very handsome and has a good heart, then i say break up with him already, i don't see why you should stay with someone you don't love, its more harm than good to you both.

Acidosis: Your man is a product of re-incarnation He is 92 claiming 29. Dump him fast. You won't wanna end your career in His village, would you?
Besides, it appears there is no love between you 2, ..but familiarity
NOW, Offence Number 2
..for registering a new nairaland i.d It shows you've been on this platform b4 now..

pweeryambre: We are in the 3rd year of our relationship. And i knew he grew up from the village and was trained by his grandmother(very old woman) although he has been displaying some annoying local champion attitude from the begining, i over looked it and thot that it would change with time, but recently its getting so annoying dat its begining to embarasse me u wont even believ he is a graduate.he is just 29.
He wil not take proper medication to cure his sickness. he wil go down to village to hav one native doctor beat out wat dey call pin from his body. Atimes ordinary malaria wil last a whole month in his body as a result. Always chewin garlik and all sorts of local herb which leaves his mouth smellin funny all d time.
Dosent beliv in romance anymore , our sex life has bcome so rigid, he just want to f**k without any form of 4play. Says romance is for d white man.
He prefers d company of very old piple or very small boys dat just left sec skul and says his mates dosent know wat dey r doing,,, dis is coming from sombody dat belives C ronaldo uses charm to play football
. He Dresses funny atimes. And his views on life generally is archaic.the other day we visited a married couple friends of ours and dey served us springles potatotoe snack and he just flong the thin away saying dat its food for pigeons dat dey shuld boil yam for him to eat wit red oil,which dey did. Althou we laughed at it. I was just embarassed. I dont even want to talk abt how he spent overr 950k buyin ordinary 2nd hand audi 80 car, just because he belives dat an old model car is better than new model. even though he complaind bitterly of bein broke.
now he says he wants to park and go and live in the village dat i shuld join him. I m thinking of dumping him cos dis is not wat i want in a man, but d only thin is dat he is too handsome.and he has a good heart.

shymexx:

Reply without showing your inferiority complex... And where did I assert that; "west-is-too-superior-to-copy?" FYI, if you read my posts, you would know that I believe African culture(s) can stand toe-to-toe with Western culture(s)... I just don't rate people who believe everyone has to be quintessentially "western/modern" - and anything short of that is "archaic." I bet you're one the types who probably believe Africans never achieved anything in the past, if I could judge by this assertion: "if anyone says that the old ways are better he/she should not be on NL or use any modern gadget in fact return to stone age mode of living?"

The OP never asserted that the guy in question has a problem with 'modern gadget', and if anything, the opposite is the case - because she alluded to the fact that the guy bought a car... The problem here is that the guy does his thing in a more traditional way, and I don't see anything wrong with that - if that's what he believes in... That's who he is, and there's no point trying to ridicule, or change him... If at all he's going to 'change', he would change with time - and there's no point trying to force him to leave his comfort zone, for something that's alien to him...

The most important thing is that, he's happy the way he's - why force him to change and make him unhappy, just to suit your 'modernist' ideology If she's not comfortable with the guy, she should just leave him alone...

pearl~hapi:
God knows I don't mind•i love to see people change for good as a result of my counsel•i would soooooo change he's mindset and stick to him like forever

bknight: *I fall from an iroko laffing, decided to go home and still fell frm okada. Got home and still rolled off d bed*

Hilarious   

Op love transcends all human manners. Be patient wit him, he will recover his senses soon enuf and outgrow these behaviors 

shymexx:

Reply without showing your inferiority complex... And where did I assert that; "west-is-too-superior-to-copy?" FYI, if you read my posts, you would know that I believe African culture(s) can stand toe-to-toe with Western culture(s)... I just don't rate people who believe everyone has to be quintessentially "western/modern" - and anything short of that is "archaic." I bet you're one the types who probably believe Africans never achieved anything in the past, if I could judge by this assertion: "if anyone says that the old ways are better he/she should not be on NL or use any modern gadget in fact return to stone age mode of living?"

The OP never asserted that the guy in question has a problem with 'modern gadget', and if anything, the opposite is the case - because she alluded to the fact that the guy bought a car... The problem here is that the guy does his thing in a more traditional way, and I don't see anything wrong with that - if that's what he believes in... That's who he is, and there's no point trying to ridicule, or change him... If at all he's going to 'change', he would change with time - and there's no point trying to force him to leave his comfort zone, for something that's alien to him...

The most important thing is that, he's happy the way he's - why force him to change and make him unhappy, just to suit your 'modernist' ideology If she's not comfortable with the guy, she should just leave him alone...

Leobreezy: My friend say the truth and stop being quixotic. If dis guy approached u with his malodourous mouth and comical attire, would u bat an eyelid?? I hate people who speak sententiously.

Lord_Reed:
What inferiority complex? Oh I guess you are one of those who think any opposition to you reveals inferiority complex. Newsflash your reverse psychology is outdated try something else.

As far as I am concerned any culture that refuses to spar up to the realities of this age is worth throwing in the dustin, the march of progress goes on irrespective of whether you are western or eastern. It is those who take what exists and shape it to their environment that come out on top, ask the Chinese and other Asians. So go ahead and make modern a derogatory word it will not halt the tide of advancement.

As for loverboy he is free to be anything he wishes, I am not opposed to him choosing to go to the village its his life but so also is the OP free to make a choice. If she wants to go with him or not will not make a difference to you or I, only to both of them.

pearl~hapi:
never a solution¤my bestfrnds bf used to be atypical of that dude the young lady just narrated but today they have the best love life any gal would ever wish for¤when I asked how she did it,simple she replied!I made him the kind of man I needed in him,she went further to state how she taught him a lot of things and even when he frowned at them all she would simply tell him I love u and that's why am here for you.she got him nice outfits and took time to explain how he should use them,atimes she purposely prepared what ops bf termed a white man food in d guys house and taught him how to use cutleries and why he needed such meals,my gf is the most loyal person av ever come across so even when the guy was gonna scream and shout and hate she still smilled and made him calm down.my dear op make ur bf the kind of man u want him to[my gfs bf was even worse]but today its all a story.correct him in love,be a mother and a friend and a sjister and I bet he would change•just don't frown wen he displays those he's archaic behaviour and use every opportunity to teach him,eg when he did what he did during your visit to your marid friend did you sit him down when u got home and explain why he shudnt av done what he did?or why he shud av just simply said thank you and maybe eat a little from the meal even if he didn't like it?did u take time to tell him that such things would make people loose respect for him?my dear if my friend of just about 21 years of age could make the best out of a man am sure you can do better•cheers

saintneo2:
this guy is really 92years old not 29 years old; he must be the avatar the last air bender.

Leobreezy: Don't be a hypocrite, k? Would u marry someone like this? Don't prevaricate my question.

saintneo2: this guy is really 92years old not 29 years old; he must be the avatar the last air bender. case.[/color][/b]

pearl~hapi:
wats ur own?I said yes I can date him and all I wud simply do is make him change•is that something to pretend about?I didn't say it to mpress anybody naaaaa I said it cos yes I can so take it or leave it

shymexx:

Alluding to my background, by saying; "Mr-I-live-in-the-uk" - shows your inferiority complex because I never mentioned that on the thread... This isn't about 'reverse psychology', it's about you playing to the gallery... Saying a lot without actually saying anything..

The "Chinese and other Asians" evolved but they're still grounded in their ancient cultures and belief systems - but the same can't be said about most Nigerians... I can also argue that the guy in question evolved, by alluding to the fact that he's educated, and he loves 'modern' gadgets(his car) - but he's just grounded in his culture, or does his thing in a more traditional way.

If she truly loves him for who he's - they should be able to find a common ground... But since she's more interested in ridiculing the guy, she might as well leave him and not make him unhappy by trying to change him...

Leobreezy: U can take a lion to d city, but u can't take d jungle out of it. Do u really think a 29yr old guy, brought up from infancy in d village, can change and become 21st century?? Like i said, don't be quixotic.

shymexx:

I don't know if I can/could - but one thing I will/would never do is lead people on, or ridicule them for staying true to their roots... She has been with him for 3 years - then suddenly woke up one morning and discovered that ol'boy is too 'archaic' GTFOH!! She probably slept on the wrong side of her bed yesterday night..

Leobreezy: U can take a lion to d city, but u can't take d jungle out of it. Do u really think a 29yr old guy, brought up from infancy in d village, can change and become 21st century?? Like i said, don't be quixotic.