Can we conclude from the responses so far that the only individual that has an advantage in this communal living is the man?
Hafees can you shed some light on the advantages of your happy polygamous upbringing that'll make me wish I had 3 Co mothers growing up.

http://giamarrospeaks..com/2007/11/memoirs-of-v-spot-iii.html

like this issue well well o!

+osisi:




Polygamy is about man's insatiable appetite to sleep with several women,"Christians" and Muslims may practice it the difference however is that one religion allows it,the other doesn't.

so er. . .  solomon and abraham, what are they?er - muslims  and those -   Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, the Latter-day Church of Christ and the Apostolic United Brethren? are they reading a different bible?

i just hit up wikipedia-

this is funny

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polygamy

excerpts


Benefits of polygamy

Philip Kilbride, an American anthropologist, in his book, Plural Marriage for our Time, proposes polygamy as a solution to some of the ills of the American society at large. He argues that plural marriage may serve as a potential alternative for divorce in many cases in order to obviate the damaging impact of divorce on many children. He maintains that many divorces are caused by the rampant extramarital affairs in the American society. According to Kilbride, ending an extramarital affair in a polygamous marriage, rather than in a divorce, is better for the children, "Children would be better served if family augmentation rather than only separation and dissolution were seen as options." Moreover, he suggests that other groups will also benefit from plural marriage such as: elderly women who face a chronic shortage of men


Christianity

Saint Augustine saw a conflict with Old Testament polygamy. He writes in The Good of Marriage (chapter 15) that, although it "was lawful among the ancient fathers: whether it be lawful now also, I would not hastily pronounce. For there is not now necessity of begetting children, as there then was, when, even when wives bear children, it was allowed, in order to a more numerous posterity, to marry other wives in addition, which now is certainly not lawful." He refrained from judging the patriarchs, but did not deduce from their practice the ongoing acceptability of polygamy. In chapter 7, he wrote, "Now indeed in our time, and[b] in keeping with Roman custom[/b], it is no longer allowed to take another wife, so as to have more than one wife living." [emphasis added]

However, the Roman Catholic Church has subsequently taught on more fundamental grounds that "polygamy is not in accord with the moral law. [Conjugal] communion is radically contradicted by polygamy; this, in fact, directly negates the plan of God which was revealed from the beginning, because it is contrary to the equal personal dignity of men and women who in matrimony give themselves with a love that is total and therefore unique and exclusive." (Catholic Cathechism, para. 2387, Vatican website). This is also the normal position among Protestant Churches, and it can therefore be said that the mainstream Christian position is to reject polygamy in principle.

Periodically, Christian reform movements that have aimed at rebuilding Christian doctrine based on the Bible alone (sola scriptura) have at least temporarily accepted polygamy as a Biblical practice. For example, during the Protestant Reformation, in a document referred to simply as "Der Beichtrat" ( or "The Confessional Advice" ),[19] Martin Luther granted the Landgrave Philip of Hesse, who, for many years, had been living "constantly in a state of adultery and fornication,"[20] a dispensation to take a second wife. The double marriage was to be done in secret however, to avoid public scandal.[21] Some fifteen years earlier, in a letter to the Saxon Chancellor Gregor Brück, Luther stated that he could not "forbid a person to marry several wives, for it does not contradict Scripture." "Ego sane fateor, me non posse prohibere, si quis plures velit uxores ducere, nec repugnat sacris literis."[22]

"On February 14, 1650, the parliament at Nürnberg decreed that, because so many men were killed during the Thirty Years’ War, the churches for the following ten years could not admit any man under the age of 60 into a monastery. Priests and ministers not bound by any monastery were allowed to marry. Lastly,[b] the decree stated that every man was allowed to marry up to ten women. The men were admonished to behave honorably, provide for their wives properly, and prevent animosity among them."[23][24][25][26][27][/b]

The modern trend towards frequent divorce and remarriage is sometimes referred to by conservative Christians as 'serial polygamy'.[citation needed] In contrast, sociologists and anthropologists refer to this as 'serial monogamy', since it is a series of monogamous (i.e. not polygamous) relationships.[28]

In Sub-Saharan Africa, there has often been a tension between the Christian churches' insistence on monogamy and traditional polygamy. In some instances in recent times there have been moves for accommodation; in others churches have resisted such moves strongly. African Independent Churches have sometimes referred to those parts of the Old Testament which describe polygamy in defending the practice.

Secular

David Friedman and Steve Sailer have argued that polygamy tends to benefit most women and disadvantage most men. Friedman uses this viewpoint to argue in favor of legalizing polygamy, while Sailer uses it to argue against legalizing it. The idea is firstly that many women would prefer half or one third of someone especially appealing to being the single spouse of someone that doesn't provide as much economic utility to them. Secondly, that the remaining women have a better market for finding a spouse themselves. Say that 20% of women are married to 10% of men, that leaves 90% of men to compete over the remaining 80% of women.

The Libertarian Party supports complete decriminalization of polygamy as part of a general belief that the government should not regulate marriages.

Individualist feminism and advocates such as Wendy McElroy also support the freedom for adults to voluntarily enter polygamous marriages.

The American Civil Liberties Union of Utah is opposed to Utah's law against bigamy.[54]

Those who advocate a Federal Marriage Amendment to prohibit same-sex marriage generally word their proposed laws to also prohibit polygamy.


maybe it desn't even benefit the man-

Scientific studies

Tim Clutton-Brock and Kavita Isvaran at the University of Cambridge in England, compared about 20 monogamous and polygynous vertebrate species, found the more polygynous a species was, the more likely their males were to age faster and die earlier than females.[56]

Serial Monogamy
The phrase serial monogamy has been used to describe the lifestyle of persons who have repeatedly married and divorced multiple partners.

Within Western culture, serial monogamy is considered more fundamental than "full" monogamy.[6] [7] Relatively few people consciously enter a long-term relationship wanting it to eventually end so as to begin another.

Serial monogamy has always been closely linked to divorce practices. Whenever procedures for obtaining divorce have been simple and easy, serial monogamy has been found.[8] As divorce has continued to become more accessible, more individuals have availed themselves of it, and many go on to remarry.[9]

by oyb
so er. . .  solomon and abraham, what are they?er - muslims   and those -   Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, the Latter-day Church of Christ and the Apostolic United Brethren? are they reading a different bible?

Of course none of the people or group you mentioned above are christians. Have you forgotten that christians are followers of christ? Did Abraham or solomon follow christ and His teachings? The latter day saints(mormons)too have their own holy book known as the mormon bible and will answer to anything but christian , do more research abeg before coming here with your wikipedia argument.

By Oyb
@ hot funmi,
are you sure you live in nigeria? or are you ust naive? was stella obasanjo low profile? or marwa's wife? or abiola's wives? 


women with low self esteem are those who choose to become second wive? hahahahaha

lwomen who choose to become second wives have a lot in common with a lot of women  on nairaland - who keep talking about how a man must b paid( actually, they call it hardworking) before they can marry him. they don't want any stress, they simply want an easy life.

Is that all you can remember? polygamous wives of rich government looters? I hope you know that low profile or low self esteem does not only apply to the poor but it attacks the rich also. Because stella Obasanjo was sorrounded by wealth and power does not make her secure with a high self esteem especially for somebody that died trying to look like a 20 yr old.

If you remember two years ago, Obasanjo tried to replace Stella with oyenka onwenu but she turned his ugly behind down because she has respect for herself anda very  high self esteem. Doesn't that surprise you that a single mother that had such an opportunity but turned it down when some of the so called rich women will jump at it? 

First of all, there is no indication that those polygamous women were high profile when they were married and even if they were, they still fall into the category of the high and mighty that loves to meddle with mud. Because Abiola married a PHD holder{that she got after marrying him} and marwa married a notice me lady does not mean those women are high profile.

Again, no woman that knows her salt will agree to polygamy. 90% of the second and third wives already had a comma in their lives and instead of taking the hard way to achieve success, they decided to take the easy way out  which is marrying a man to take care of thier problems. So, lets not be deluded about this.

@ hot funmi, you are the one that needs to do research. you have come here with nothing more than prejudices, urban legends and beer parlour arguments.

you try to come off a a concerned social critic, but your colours are clear - fledgling islam /northener basher.


maybe if you read the news more instead of gossiping about your okada rider neighbours( where do you live?)

one of the advantages of poly be say the man go dey chop different food and also different uhm, u understand?

so if u marry like five wives u go dey gbaladun. shikena.

Since when did polygamy stop a man from being promiscuous?

stop all this foolish conclusions.

Please my dear women dont let the devil decieve you by saying
guys are polygamous by nature.
God created one man for one wife
Eve for Adam
He didnt take other parts outta Adam to form Evette, Yvette, Shevette for Adam

Please dont be deceived

Notin Wonderful about Polygamy

hmmm. . .

one wonders why God didn't strike down abraham and solomon

one also wonders why God made man promiscuous.

(polygamy exists or has existed in some form in virtually every society, muslim , christian, chinese, hindu, etc )


the devil has nothing to do with it.or was it the devil they worshipped in the old testamant? nigerians should stop the ridiculous practice of blaming the devil for their failings.

hmmm. . .

one wonders why God didn't strike down abraham and solomon

one also wonders why God made man promiscuous.

(polygamy exists or has existed in some form in virtually every society, muslim , christian, chinese, hindu, etc )


the devil has nothing to do with it.or was it the devil they worshipped in the old testamant? nigerians should stop the ridiculous practice of blaming the devil for their failings.[font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font]

So you agree now that polygamy is a virus and a social vice eating Nigeria up? irrespective of who practices it, it's not only ungody but unethical. There is no prejudice against Islam here, they were mentioned because they champion the crusade because its a part of their religion or should that be denied? You can paint it either way on christians but God vehemently said in the bible that not all those that call me father are for me. This implies that christians who supoort and practice polygamy may be calling God father but God isnot happy with them. The truth may be bitter to swallow but it must be said. The sooner your likes and other Nigerian polygamists learn to love and respect women in Nigeria, the better our pathway towards achieving glory in that country. Hold on to your multiple marriages under one roof and let me see how you'll break the poverty barrier unless you are planning to loot more funds from your state. I hope it'll not be a western state. Go back to north where you belong.

Since when did polygamy stop a man from being promiscuous?

stop all this foolish conclusions.

Please my dear women don't let the devil decieve you by saying
guys are polygamous by nature.
God created one man for one wife
Eve for Adam
He didnt take other parts out of Adam to form Evette, Yvette, Shevette for Adam

Please don't be deceived

Notin Wonderful about Polygamy

Ask them my sister. Thank you for the hilarious insight.

er. . . i seem to remeber you were the one who referred to your fellow women as 'commodities'. perhaps you should go back to the era of the  slave trade where you belong.

the sooner your likes (quasi hypocritical feminists) get your acts in order and stop looking for the easy life, the sooner polygamy may become a thing of the past.

i hope you aren't into serial mongamy. (with a name like hotfunmi, you sound more like a nightclub crawler than a social crusader)

as to being polygamy being' ungodly and unethical' are you implying  that Abraham and Solomon( the wisest of men) had those characteristics.


for your information,  i am in a monogamous marriage. i dated (solely) my wife for 5 years( a long distance relationship lagos- kogi, lagos -  abuja lagos  - kano)  before we got married.i work in a private company, not in government . your quick pigeon holing of me comments reflect the level of intellect you attach to your thinking, and explains the inane comments you've been posting.


go back to the slum where you reside with your maiguard and okada rider neighbours.( and keep spying on them and reporting back here)

as to loving and respecting women, you must first learn to respect yourselves. i will reiterarte a bitter truth - the second wives start out as girlfriends. why are so many of you so into ' big girl /oppressing ' that you prefer to stick with sugar daddies?

you women are the one's who often choose to be stupid. you know a guy is randy and can't keep it in his pants, but because of 'love', or desperation or whatever , you marry him anyway. the moment he hits the $ he marries a new wife, or trades you in for a nubile, upscale model( my favorite quote is from will smith -success doesn't change people, it only amplifies what is already there. polygamists and serial monogamists have always been like that, and on some level, the women in their lives have always known, but have chosen to ignore it.

stop this pathetic blaming of men for something you have equal culpability in.


the real reason why there are problems in the world is because of people like you, cunning and inveterate liars and manipulators who have no qualms with strecthing, bruising and twisting the truth until it reflects their agenda.


and for your information, you tribalist in crusader's clothing - i reside in lagos!

Oyb

Oh your bible states that God made Man promiscous

As if you dont know with the fall

All forms of sin crept into the world.

The bible also didnt say polygamy is a sin

When you marry a wife, whats wrong with that

But polygamy leads to sin, confusion, lots of unneeded emotions

Look at Abraham, David and Solomon very well

Thats why in the New testament you would see nothing about it.


So i say again, Nothing Wonderful about polygamy

going by the new testament jesus died a bachelor.

since so many of you are big on interpretation and inference, maybe christains aren't even supposed to get married in the first place. ( so many of you hold jesus up as your role model, why don't you then emulate him to the fullest? 

a lot of things lead to sin, confusion and lots of unneeded emotions. you are on the net now. it can lead you to porn, gambling, fraud - quick! shut down the system ! the internet is responsible for all the poverty in nigeria!

Oyb

you are funny though.

Marriage is a spiritual thing and cant be compared to anyother.
Do you even know what marriage is all about?
You may be married dosnt mean you know the purpose

and one saying that will always ring through is this

"If the purpose of a thing isnt known
Abuse is inevitable"

Jesus had no need to get married
He is God
He didnt die
He lives!

I know so many things lead to sin
isnt it best you use your common sense and discretion
there are things you can avoid with ur eyes open or shut

There are also things we cant avoid, that comes str8 to us.
The prayer is Lord lead us not into temptation
The bible didnt say we would not see temptations

just dont get into it!

Mr Man get your facts and faith right!

we are going off topic, 

er . . . madam marriage counselor,

please do tell,

what is the purpose of marriage, and how is it a 'spiritaul ' thing?

since you seem to know all about it.( amazing how these gals who don't have boyfriends , much less husbands know more about marriage than the married ones.oh well, teens_ sorry tweens know everything. the rest of us are just old farts who don't know nothing. not that I'm that old- my tweendom ends this year )

please oh, no copy & paste form the late bimbo odukoya

Gamine:

Since when did polygamy stop a man from being promiscuous?

stop all this foolish conclusions.

Please my dear women don't let the devil decieve you by saying
guys are polygamous by nature.
God created one man for one wife
Eve for Adam
He didnt take other parts out of Adam to form Evette, Yvette, Shevette for Adam

Please don't be deceived

Notin Wonderful about Polygamy

word!

atimes the heat we feel frm a flame is not enouf proof, we wanna put our fingers to be sure that fire burns!

to the wanna-be polygamists, best wishes!

na true say some girls for here go still become 2nd/3rd wives?

make una continue dey talk oyinbo for here. Na too much oyinbo dey make una become easy prey. Make una go learn how to submit to loving husbands before time run out for una.

Oyb

lol

Its very possible for me to be a marriage counselor
cos yes i do know more about it than many married people

i know alot about financial management more than some Financial managers sef
but im an engineer
Big deal!

hotfunmi:

Of course none of the people or group you mentioned above are christians. Have you forgotten that christians are followers of christ? Did Abraham or solomon follow christ and His teachings? The latter day saints(mormons)too have their own holy book known as the mormon bible and will answer to anything but christian , do more research abeg before coming here with your wikipedia argument.

My dear,it funny how Muslim apologists would grasp at anything.
The Bible never instituted polygamy.
God created one woman for Adam named eve.
I've dealt with this in another thread and would just talk on the points.

1. It was not until the seventh generation of Adam to a man named Lamech that the Bible talked of a man marrying 2 wives.

2.Gen 2 :24 God himself says Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

3.Christ during his teaching in Mark 10 :7
Mar 10:7  For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife;


Mar 10:8 And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh.


Mar 10:9  What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

4. Apostle Paul during his ministry said in Eph 5 :23

Eph 5:23  For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.


Eph 5:24  Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so [let] the wives [be] to their own husbands in every thing.


 Eph 5:28  So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

Eph 5:31  For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

 Eph 5:33  Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife [see] that she reverence [her] husband.

This same passage talks about us,the Church being the bride not brides of Christ and that analogy is well shown in the bible.

4. Lastly,  

1Ti 3:2   A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, temperate, sober-minded, of good behavior, hospitable, able to teach;
1Ti 3:3   not given to wine, not violent, not greedy for money,[fn2] but gentle, not quarrelsome, not covetous;
1Ti 3:4   one who rules his own house well, having his children in submission with all reverence
1Ti 3:5   (for if a man does not know how to rule his own house, how will he take care of the church of God?);
1Ti 3:6   not a novice, lest being puffed up with pride he fall into the same condemnation as the devil.
1Ti 3:7   Moreover he must have a good testimony among those who are outside, lest he fall into reproach and the snare of the devil.
1Ti 3:8   Likewise deacons must be reverent, not double-tongued, not given to much wine, not greedy for money,
1Ti 3:9   holding the mystery of the faith with a pure conscience.
1Ti 3:10   But let these also first be tested; then let them serve as deacons, being found blameless.
1Ti 3:11   Likewise, their wives must be reverent, not slanderers, temperate, faithful in all things.
1Ti 3:12   Let deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well.

I know many will say well I'm not a Bishop or deacon but does that mean a Christian is allowed to be covetous and of a lying tongue since those qualities are also qualities exclusively for bishops?

Now the mormon sect you parrot,I'll like to know oif their leaders marry one wife?
no sir

Oyb read a Bible not some wiki wiki write up,any "Christian sect" can say anything they desire,we don't behead
Solomon in addition to 300 wives had 700 concubines,what say ye?,a man can now marry all the women in his local government area and add the other 2 LGa's as concubines?

It's always Muslims and some randy "christians" that say that Christianity ok's multiple wives.
We know better.

hmmm. . .

one wonders why God didn't strike down abraham and solomon

one also wonders why God made man promiscuous.

(polygamy exists or has existed in some form in virtually every society, muslim , christian, chinese, hindu, etc )


the devil has nothing to do with it.or was it the devil they worshipped in the old testamant? nigerians should stop the ridiculous practice of blaming the devil for their failings.

@oyb

The same reason he didn't strike down Mohammed when he slept with a 9 year old and captured slaves.
God is long suffering and kind,a concept hard for you to grasp.

Promiscuity is now God's doing?

You are sounding more ridiculous by the minute.
we might as well open our prisons and unshackle everyone from child molesters to murderers
afterall God made them that way.

I'm still waiting to hear your advantages of polygamy

oyb:

going by the new testament jesus died a bachelor.

since so many of you are big on interpretation and inference, maybe christains aren't even supposed to get married in the first place. ( so many of you hold jesus up as your role model, why don't you then emulate him to the fullest?

a lot of things lead to sin, confusion and lots of unneeded emotions. you are on the net now. it can lead you to porn, gambling, fraud - quick! shut down the system ! the internet is responsible for all the poverty in nigeria!

and how many wives and maidens did the Koranic Jesus have?
You see how you make no sense.
Christ himself even taught on marriage.
He was not called to marry.
Please stick to the topic and tell us the wonders of polygamy.
We are all ears

oyb:

hmmm. . .

one wonders why God didn't strike down Abraham and Solomon

one also wonders why God made man promiscuous.

(polygamy exists or has existed in some form in virtually every society, Muslim , Christian, Chinese, Hindu, etc )


the devil has nothing to do with it.or was it the devil they worshipped in the old testament? Nigerians should stop the ridiculous practice of blaming the devil for their failings.

+osisi:



@oyb

The same reason he didn't strike down Muhammad when he slept with a 9 year old and captured slaves.
God is long suffering and kind,a concept hard for you to grasp.
Promiscuity is now God's doing?

You are sounding more ridiculous by the minute.
we might as well open our prisons and unshackle everyone from child molesters to murderers
afterall God made them that way.

I'm still waiting to hear your advantages of polygamy

Adjusting ma seat!   I think this is the place to be while having lunch!  Thank God no work today!

The first real +osisi and oyb concert of the year!  I have been waiting patiently.  Thanks for not disappointing me guys.

Come one come all!

Let the show begin!

@osisi and the likes.
Are you even Christian? I have to ask this because your language is otherwise. WHy are you so eager to put down every prophet that had more than  one wife as having done wrong.
Did Jesus ever speak ill of any of the prophets before him? If you are not sure, please go back to the bible and read very well.

Also if you want to attack Islam, go to the right thread, you are not really interested in answering the question or having anyone answer it.

And again, if your dad was a polygamist muslim and you had a rough time for it, please do not blame Islam. Cos really, I do not know what your issues are.,,,seriously

ok, murder and rape is common in all societies - chinese, indian, african, european and all. . .so we should therefore accept it?

you'll have to come up with something better than that my friend!

Some animals such as penguins even practice monogamy, one mate for life, and you're coming here to say that it is right?

So God 'made' man promiscuous now huh?

In case you don't know (thank goodness my seniors like millie mama are here ) women can be just as promiscuous as men, if not more. It is simply the shackles of a male dominated society that has led them to be restricted as such, with practices such as cutting off the clitoris used to reduce sexual urge.

We might as well cut off parts of men's jimmys if that will make them monogamous

7 generations from Adam no polygamy

Adam was not 'polygamous' in the real sense, Hagar was his maidservant, not his 'wife'

Jacob's polygamy was his uncle's trickery - giving him Leah first, then Rachel

Solo boy was abnormal to say the least.

God tolerating our sins and not striking us dead the minute we do wrong does not mean he accepts it, He is patient and slow to anger.

Blatant:

na true say some girls for here go still become 2nd/3rd wives?

make una continue dey talk oyinbo for here. Na too much oyinbo dey make una become easy prey. Make una go learn how to submit to loving husbands before time run out for una.

Of course!  When they are already 5th-10th girlfriends.  Spiritually or otherwise. What other kind of submission do you want than in the context of polygamy?   You have already submitted your soul to be shared with like 8 other women. That is the ultimate submission.  May God forbid bad thing!

oyb:

we are going off topic,  

er . . . madam marriage counselor,

please do tell,

what is the purpose of marriage, and how is it a 'spiritaul ' thing?

since you seem to know all about it[b].( amazing how these gals who don't have boyfriends , much less husbands know more about marriage than the married ones.[/b]oh well, teens_ sorry tweens know everything. the rest of us are just old farts who don't know nothing. not that I'm that old- my tweendom ends this year )
please oh, no copy & paste form the late bimbo odukoya

Now this is the one that never fails to surprise me.  When topics about marriage come up.  Toddlers will come out on Nairaland and begin to give advice of things they have not yet experienced.


It never ceases to crack me up!

ayinba1:

@osisi and the likes.
Are you even Christian? I have to ask this because your language is otherwise. WHy are you so eager to put down every prophet that had more than one wife as having done wrong.
Did Jesus ever speak ill of any of the prophets before him? If you are not sure, please go back to the bible and read very well.

Also if you want to attack Islam, go to the right thread, you are not really interested in answering the question or having anyone answer it.

And again, if your dad was a polygamist muslim and you had a rough time for it, please do not blame Islam. Cos really, I do not know what your issues are.,,,seriously

Get thee behind me satan

almond,sincerely what would you do if Nnamdi came back with two 18 year old wives with size D cups .
welcome them with open arms?

+osisi:

Get thee behind me satan

he he he he he he!

+osisi:

almond,sincerely what would you do if Nnamdi came back with two 18 year old wives with size D cups .
welcome them with open arms?

My dear sister, you know my views on polygamy.  How old is his daughter?   I8 year olds ke?   That will definitely be the ultimate insult. I hate the thing with a passion.  The good news is that I was 18 when we met and he has been with an "18" year old--with "C" cup though---turned "" cup over the years! I don't think he will go lower than that--but who knows? Men who marry old cargos are the ones who go about looking for young girls to molest. The reason I say NAIRALANDERS---get married early ooooooooooooooooooooooooooooh!


It has absolutely no merits.  Women including myself have no control over such things.  You may not like it but a man who ventures out of his matrimonial home, even without getting married to the girls or woman is a polygamist. Including people who keep more that one relationship as girlfriends and boyfriends!  They are just practicing for the "future" of a polygamous life. In short, if anyone keeps anything more than one dog at home is a polygamist!

You never know what you can do until you find yourself in that situation.  We can only say what we "will" do for the moment.  It may not be that easy to just leave your matrimonial home.  I may not leave but I doubt if I will have any sexual relationship with the guy.  But to just leave my marriage like that?  I don't think I could.  The spirit will definitely move me--but I do not know which direction yet.

Let me just say we shall be under the same roof if at all, but in separate bedrooms.  Don't ask me how I plan to satisfy myself---for you know the answer to that question!---The possiblities are endless! Divorce is most likely though!

I am too much of a feminist to allow any man that kind of privilege in my home or control in my life-- to teach my daughter rubbish on how to "devalue" women.  Yes, many women will have to remain single. No favors from men if you are a 2nd to 50th wife!  Get your own or stay single!!!!

Good thing I had the first pick!

@osisi
SICKO

ok, murder and rape is common in all societies - chinese, indian, african, european and all. . .so we should therefore accept it?

you'll have to come up with something better than that my friend!

Some animals such as penguins even practice monogamy, one mate for life, and you're coming here to say that it is right?

So God 'made' man promiscuous now huh?

In case you don't know (thank goodness my seniors like millie mama are here  ) women can be just as promiscuous as men, if not more. It is simply the shackles of a male dominated society that has led them to be restricted as such, with practices such as cutting off the clitoris used to reduce sexual urge.

We might as well cut off parts of men's jimmys if that will make them monogamous 

7 generations from Adam no polygamy

Adam was not 'polygamous' in the real sense, Hagar was his maidservant, not his 'wife'

Jacob's polygamy was his uncle's trickery - giving him Leah first, then Rachel

Solo boy was abnormal to say the least.

God tolerating our sins and not striking us dead the minute we do wrong does not mean he accepts it, He is patient and slow to anger. 

5 star response by debosky.

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er. . . i seem to remeber you were the one who referred to your fellow women as 'commodities'. perhaps you should go back to the era of the  slave trade where you belong.!

Where did I refer to women as commodities? or did I say that men like you take women as commodities as you've been doing here all these while?

the sooner your likes (quasi hypocritical feminists) get your acts in order and stop looking for the easy life, the sooner polygamy may become a thing of the past.

i hope you aren't into serial mongamy. (with a name like hotfunmi, you sound more like a nightclub crawler than a social crusader)

You are now throwing tantrums. Are you that frustrated on your bid to pass polygamy to the faint hearted? What has my log in name got to do with my opinion? FYI: i am funmilayo that is as hot as ever, hotter than any woman in your HAREM and you can't have it, so get lost. It's like you prey women that crawl the night clubs? no wonder you've been hitting on Italian Nigerians, university undergrads etc. Sugar daddying is out of fashion abeg.

as to being polygamy being' ungodly and unethical' are you implying  that Abraham and Solomon( the wisest of men) had those characteristics.!

You are jumping into christianity from the window. There is something called the new covenant and old covenant.

for your information,  i am in a monogamous marriage. i dated (solely) my wife for 5 years( a long distance relationship lagos- kogi, lagos -  abuja lagos  - kano)  before we got married.i work in a private company, not in government . your quick pigeon holing of me comments reflect the level of intellect you attach to your thinking, and explains the inane comments you've been posting.)

Why not try polygamy? why are you still with one woman? is it money? we can start a polygamy foundation for you like kanu  nwanko heart foundation that do raise money for heart patients.

go back to the slum where you reside with your maiguard and okada rider neighbours.( and keep spying on them and reporting back here) .!

At least they have a job and work hard everyday to earn a living. i love them and hold them to high esteem than the so called govt officials that steal theirs. Next?

as to loving and respecting women, you must first learn to respect yourselves. i will reiterarte a bitter truth - the second wives start out as girlfriends. why are so many of you so into ' big girl /oppressing ' that you prefer to stick with sugar daddies?.!

Isn't women a compound word? children should be the utmost factor here because they are victims of the mayhem brought by polygamy.

you women are the one's who often choose to be stupid. you know a guy is randy and can't keep it in his pants, but because of 'love', or desperation or whatever , you marry him anyway. the moment he hits the $ he marries a new wife, or trades you in for a nubile, upscale model( my favorite quote is from will smith -success doesn't change people, it only amplifies what is already there. polygamists and serial monogamists have always been like that, and on some level, the women in their lives have always known, but have chosen to ignore it. ?.!

Since you want to try that angle, I hope you know that men over the years have lost their lives or their dignity  because of their quest to see beyond  the "stupid" womans undies? Samson in the bible,  Bill Clinton, Abacha, Abiola and most  recently Obasanjo whom shamefacedly slept with his own sons wife etc. Who is more stupid now?

and for your information, you tribalist in crusader's clothing - i reside in lagos!

Whatever rocks your boat.

maybe if you read the news more instead of gossiping about your okada rider neighbours( where do you live?)!

Where I live? so you can stalk me? I guess you sleep everynight dreaming on how to get me in your bed. Dream on,mallam.


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