mitchyy: Breakups can be a very difficult experience. You’re crying, confused, and your heart feels like it’s in a million pieces. It’s not called heartbreak for nothing. But learn to let it go. The world has something better in store for you. But while you’re waiting here are 9 things you shouldn't do after a breakup.

Ready to hear them? Cool, let's go

#1. Don't Stalk him/her
You're way too smart to stalk him or her physically after your breakup. Of course you are...BUT...on social media? That's tempting. Facebook, Twitter, BBM(blackberry messenger), instagram, his/her blog. Never! Do you really want to torture yourself with each new female friend he adds and see cute little comments from babes/guys you know were interested in him/her in the past? You don't need to know where he or she's going or who he or she's going with. It hurts. Move on.

#2. Don't Stay friends
There is no way you can remain friends with an ex if you still have feelings for him. You can eventually be friends but not immediately after a breakup. Haba! Give yourself some time. Remaining friends only gives him/her permission to treat you like crap while he/she borrows money from you, has occasional sex with you when he can’t find anyone else, and sometimes lean on you for emotional support when he has a bad day! Accept the truth. He’s not going to change his mind and realize breaking up with you was a bad idea. He’s just going to use you until he finds someone to take your place. So please, DO NOT stay friends with him for now!

#3. Do not Isolate yourself
You're way too fabulous and amazing to be shut-in. Do not stay cooped inside your room all day with the blinds shut. You'll do yourself more harm than good. Get out! Go to the beach on its busiest days. (We have so many in Nigeria, especially in lagos). Attend events, not those emotional stage plays. Take some risks! Meet with some of your crazy energetic friends at the club. Wear red lipstick and some killer stillettos and work it because you can.

#4. Don't waste energy on revenge
Revenge is utter crap. Don't get even. Get over it.

#5. Do not tell "your story" to everyone
Almost everyone falls victim to this. Hold back. Don't tell everybody how you've been wronged. Boooooooooring! Save it. The longer you hold on to "your story" and keep soliciting sympathy, the longer it will take you to move forward...and we don't want your friends to dump you, too. (That doesn't mean you shouldn't talk to someone about it. The emphasis here is telling 'EVERYONE').

#6. Don't be "on the hunt"
Don't jump on the relationship bandwagon too soon. Contrary to the general belief, the best way to get over a guy/lady is not to date another one immediately. Take your time. Enjoy your new Freedom.

#7. Do not listen to 'Adele - Someone like you' on repeat
I guess that's self-explanatory.

#8. Don’t think your Facebook page is going to convince him to come back
I have a friend who made up a boyfriend just to make her ex jealous. She changed her status, her photos, she changed her BBM display picture and Facebook profile picture to her and a hot dude hugging tightly. But what did the ex think? When i asked him, i discovered he didn't even notice. So, yes, in most cases, it doesn't work.

#9. Do not turn to alcohol
Drowning our sorrows in bottles of beer can sometimes seem pretty appealing. The chances are, you’ll get drunk and then make one or more of the other mistakes on this list.

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MR MICKMEN:
ya love is foolish,in my opinion

passionate88: u don dey wan form like one kim k ba?..

Adeks: Did i see some guys saying they 'cried'? i won't shed no tears 4 no girl meehn. though it hurts o, but to cry? no be me tufia

Topeedo: THIS ARTICLE IS MOST LIKELY WRITTEN BY A WOMAN JOR...NA UNA SABI

Gabriel_sylar: I have had 15 brkups and am still standing strong...no alchol,no sex,no sh...it.....in a world of 3.5billion milk shakes who cares

ßløøð:
Relax jor! Na guys like you dey cry pass!!!

ßløøð:
Relax jor! Na guys like you dey cry pass!!!

R2bees: yawn!!!! Wait o, adele-some one like u, LWKMD

horlajide: No. 7 made me crack up tho!

@ OP just in case you're contemplating another thread on "9 things you MUST do after a breakup" state No. 7 like this
7 - Make sure Taylors Swift's Never Getting back together is on repeat!!!!!

deelicious:

Very bad advice...Hating only affects the hater. The person being hated is most times blissfully oblivious so don't pollute urself with such.
Move on, u'll be fine.

Andyblaze: Perceive not passive

iykmora: The simple remedy for any break-up is simple. Just listen to Whitney's
♫ ♪ 'I will always love you' ♪♫
and you will feel so much better walahi

Buchiano(m):
Lovely article,dis is goin to help me out cos I am experiencing one @ d moment.

timi amoo: Adele's some1 lik u z really emotional..nt too gud for pipu hu re heart broken..

sweetcheecks:


1. IGNORE HIM/HER

2. DON'T GIVE A DA*MN ( IF YOU DO FAKE IT AS IF U DON'T)

3. GYM, GYM, GYM

4. CHANGE WARDROBE

5. GO OUT HAVE FUN

6. FLIRT, FLIRT, FLIRT BUT DO NOT START A NEW RELATSHP YET ( ITS TOO EARLY)

7. CRY ONLY WHEN YOU ARE ALONE IN BED ( IF YOU NEED TO)

8. DO NOT GO OUT OF YOUR WAY TO AVOID HIM/ HER ( JUST ACT INDIFFERENT IF YOU SEE HIM/ HER, NOT HAPPY, NOT ANGRY)

9. LOVE AGAIN ( BUT HE WILL NEVER STOP WANTING YOU BACK)

XOXO

deelicious:

Hi FIVE girl!!!!!

On a serious note though,getting to this stage wasn't easy at all,I cant thank God enough for seeing me through the break-up of an engagement/relationship which we had for years. But now I'm having the time of my life, socially, professionally and in every way. My self-confidence now is amazing and generally just a happy child. Word of advice (for the serious ones and not the jokers who jump in and out of casual relationships), dont let bitterness rule you, find solace in God..the process might seem slow but trust him, he'll do a complete job from the inside out. Move on from the blame game. Accept your part in contributing to what happened and LEARN from it so u can be better for the next person. Accept that everything happens for a reason and whatever doesnt kill u makes u stronger and better like refined GOLD...

Will post more if anything else comes up. Take care of yourselves.